it's a fucking meme to identify as an introvert now.
this fucking normie in my class started telling me how he was such an introvert the other day and i laughed at him. the dude never shuts up, talks to literally everyone in the class non-stop and has tried to fuck every cute girl in the class more than once. if you're an introvert i'm donald fucking trump and i'm going to make america great again.
I'm afraid to talk with out people and can't hold conversations. Call it what you will. It's still a living hell, and for you to call it "being an asshole" (even if it's just bait) is fucking stupid. Go kill yourself you pathetic piece of mediocre shit
>>26145609 Yes, it's real. But you'll probably see a variety of extroverted types on this board since "normies" frequent it. I dont think it needs to be explained but you certainly cant call youself an introvert if you have to "recharge" after an hour or two of talking. It makes no sense.
What I meant by excuse to be an asshole is was that after a long day of socializing with people I reach a breaking point where I can't fucking take any more and will do everything I can to get away from everyone. Every little thing will set me off and basically act like an asshole since I am "drained" and need to "recharge". I wondering if these concepts are just constructs used to justify assholish behavior. My family/bf seem to think so.
If anything, people confuse the term. Having social anxiety with a desire to be extroverted is the most commonly misplaced interpretation for it.
Speaking on my own behalf, I know how to interact with people, but, its draining. I'd rather be in a nice comfortable quiet setting away from others. Not because I'm scared or don't know how to entertain company, but, because I get no true satisfaction or gain from it.
You, the faggots who actually believe that, stop. Stop talking about this shit, you know nothing beyond what you read on clickbait websites. Second post and there's already a faggot spouting that idiotic shit >>26145733
It's obviously real, but plenty of people claim to be introverted and aren't, it's like the glamorisation of fake nerd culture. Also, a lot of people identify as introverted but are just slightly less extroverted than usual.
Special snowflakes who make images like that need to fuck off. Personally I don't 'need time to myself' because that's all the time I have, being around other people at all is tortuous.
>>26145677 This I also can't say anything about being depressed or anxious around people even though I am far worse off than most because normals have dragged it through the mud and it would only make me look like some sort of special snowflake faggot instead of someone looking for genuine help
>>26145609 I need time alone and peace and quiet or i get really frustrated and a headache. It pisses me off when to no end when I'm in alone time mode and people hover and try to speak to me with more than yes or no questions. I think this mostly stems from being stuck with annoying roommates for the past 5 years that don't know how to shut the fuck up. Literally be in the middle of reading or playing vidya/watching a movie with headphones on and they feel the need to chime in. I have fucking headphones in, I don't need to hear a monologue about how wet your last fart was or how cool that scene I just watched was. I fucking know it was cool, why are you watching a silent movie you fucktard?
I'm an introvert. I do not like interaction, I get very irritable when I have to spend more than a few hours around anyone. There have been times in my life when I've been extremely popular (usually when using a lot of drugs), I can easily carry a conversing. Eventually all my friendships fade because when people ask me to go out I say no. The ones who stick around realize I'm like this but occasionally come over to watch a film or something because they genuinely enjoy my company. I spend most of my free time playing music or videogames.
>>26145609 introvert and extrovert is just how you problem solve in life
Crisis occurred that needs a solution?
introverts tend to want quite time alone or with a select few to think on the issue and try and find a solution that way
extroverts want to contact as many people they think could have advice or help and may just need another ear to vent the issue too
Really bad work day and you want to forget about it?
introverts tend to want to do a private activity that is something special for them
extroverts tend to want to do their favorite social events with friends or a crowd
That's all this shit is, it's not some permanent fixture of their being. introverts can be social as fuck extroverts could be shy as fuck What it really comes down to is 1 fucking basic question, Which do you enjoy more: thinking private with thoughts or talking about thoughts?
>>26146978 So much this. Most of my time is spent in my head, formulating how I should feel about certain things and what political/social stances I feel I should take. I think the worst question you could probably ask me (and I get it asked surprisingly often) is ,"what are you thinking right now?"
>>26146883 The issue arises that it's special snowflake bs. "extroversion" types being the cool type is from a snap back where our culture push "introversion" types a couple decades, now we are just snapping back to "introversion" and Im sure when that gens kids are all grown up they will rebel back to "extroversion"
The biggest difference is how you better stimulate your mind.. by being around others or by being by yourself. You can be a social introvert, but you can only "refresh" your mind by having alone time. And you can be an asocial extrovert, but being alone would make you depressed.
>>26147115 >The biggest difference is how you better stimulate your mind.. by being around others or by being by yourself. You just said what I said I gave two examples of how they deal with it and they both boil down to that. My question at the end even had privately with the intros cause that's a key part
>There are many who are a mix of both though. Once again I stated that it's not a fix state of being
Is it really not a fixed state though? I dont think I've ever identified with the description of an extrovert. Not as a kid, not as teenager and not as an adult. Perhaps this isn't the case for most people though.
>>26147273 >Is it really not a fixed state though? Well you got >>26147138 here and there have been many studies where they discovered you could get people to change social habits and like it to a pretty big degree.
>>26147295 Pretty much all of youth culture and up can be summarized as "I'm not like other ____" So when ever a big trend occurs a good chunk of people will go counter culture for the novelty of it until they are the majority and then it changes again. People don't relies that everything is just one big circle and nothing is new in terms of human culture.
>>26147369 There are a lot of girls that like the idea the guy is only going to social events for her sake and doesn't have to fear him being out without her There are a lot of girls that like the idea of a guy that isn't needing to be out and active with other people all the time.
>>26147433 Idk maybe it's just because I'm an introvert and no girls are or would ever be into me or maybe it's just because I'm sad and depressed but most girls I've seen get bored with guys that like spending time by themselves
>>26147342 It tends to be two factors: Exclusivity- much like how the "normie" bar keeps getting lower to make the reject club smaller many people want to be able to say their specialness and/or be able to excuse challenges and mistakes is on them being a minority rather than the factor of them just being no more noteworthy than anyone else and their failings are on them and nothing for what counter culture they subscribe to and Novelty- it isn't "common" ground, it isn't something "everybody" does. They think it adds a spice to things when they can say or feel "I'm not like other ____"
>>26147513 Fair enough I have seen girl staking a liking to introverts but they still want them to run the show and with introverts it becomes a lot faster/clearer to see if they will take initiative or not because it's just the two of them. One introvert I knew had an easy time with the ladies because he knew how to host a night for two in s private setting while I knew another that crash and burn a lot because once they got back to his place and he just makeout with them and then go warm his computer up with a "whatever you wanna do" attitude.
>>26147589 Also I feel like introverts will never be the type of people that take any sort of initiative when it comes to relationships. Girls will never take any initiative either, so introverts end up being left alone.
>>26147698 couple bullet points: -They take initiative they just usually don't play around like extroverts (ie she's not my type but I'll flirt with her anyway) - initiative approach is usually the same as a extroverts
I think you anons are getting introvert mix up with anxiety or depression.
>Get invited to a social event for the first time in about 6 months >I have to say no because they gave me literally 5 minutes notice and I'm not mentally prepared >Now I'm sitting here feeling like an asshole and knowing they probably won't remember to invite me again
>professor walks in >"alright class, we're going to split up into groups >introverts to the left >extroverts to the right >few people on the extrovert side >over 70% of the class (size of full class is 30 people) >"spend this time to get to know each other!" >fucking everyone in the introvert side starts talking to each other, spitting normie memes, "have you seen meme wars?" >the entire time im wishing I was at home playing vidya or shitposting
I get annoyed when people talk to me. I can talk up a conversation just fine but if someone starts talking to me, I'll get the feeling like they're taunting me and that I need to get the hell out of there.
You won't meet actual introverts in real life though, because a) They're probably alone right now if they can help it. and b) If they can't help it and are forced to be around others for some reason, they won't want to talk to anyone, including you.
>>26148717 >b) If they can't help it and are forced to be around others for some reason, they won't want to talk to anyone, including you.
It's really hard to talk to introverted girls. Because not only will they not initiate a conversation (no girl will though), but even if you do, she will probably not wanna talk either way and would rather keep reading that book or keep doing whatever she was doing.
takes me six months to recharge after each social occasion during that six months I take mental notes of every thing I said. Every joke that worked and didn't and develop a formula as to be as socially efficient as possible.
Reminds me. There was an article I read recently (I think it was here) explaining that there are actually introverted narcissists. I think (I hope) I'm just introverted, but that might be the kind of thing that OP is referring to.
ding ding. It's a very popular thing nowadays to label yourself as something and base your entire personality around it rather than trying to be a genuine person. Just be "gay" or a "gamer", it's much easier.
>they won't want to talk to anyone That's not how this all works anons. Introverts are usually good listeners so it's a mater of talking about something they find interesting. However some might have a lot they want to say but they just don't spill it to any random person, so you have to find the right opening question or just put them in the right mood.
Introverts can like certain social settings. They can like being around people, they are just not going to take center stage
I think you anons think 'not talking wanting to be around people, not wanting to socialize=introvert' and that really isn't the case
Robots may or may not be introverts. Robots do at least present signs of mental illness that make it difficult to determine anything. Robots are depressed and anxious. We are very self-conscious and concerned with everything dealing with people.
Most introverts lead normal lives around others. They have jobs and friends and gf/bf/tgf. They don't sit in their rooms all day while other adults their age are out in the world.
>>26146035 NTG, but that is actually what introversion is.
When I was i school before giving up on life, I would be physically exhausted after class. I would fall asleep at 6pm.
Socializing is not hated by introverted people. They do it.
>>26152111 1.everyone wants to some degree respect for privacy this is not an exclusive thing 2.Nobody wants to be embarrassed in public regardless of vertness 3-4.why are we treating them like autistic people that can't cope with life? 5. shouldn't interrupt anybody 6. Most people like advance notice even extroverts 7. no seriously are we dealing with introverts or autistic people? 8-9. fuck this hug boxs shit extroverts would want this too, no retarded takes being criticized or learning new shit with dozens of eyes watching them well. 10-12. enable them? what? I didn't realizes people control that shit. Why would anyone push that shit? Is this some letter to mom? Who the fuck wrote this?
>>26153441 Most things don't have any real meaning anymore. Nerd is guy with glasses eben fake ones who watches batman movies and like 'big bang theory". It is very nerdy to like movies and tv shows that are seen by tens of millions of people. Defs.
Girls like hot "nerds" because they like hot guys. They just want to like a different kind of guy because that makes them special snowflake.
>>26153672 Guys are honest about only caring about looks. Girls lie. I want personality. I want guy into nerdy things. No, you don't. You don't give a fuck as long as he is good looking and has money. He doesn't even need a big dick because all women are sluts who cheat.
I am introverted and it isn't really like I am depressed because I am alone, it is more like when I spend time with people a lot that I do not specifically choose to spend time with(friends, family, etc. would be people I choose) I get depressed. I do feel lonely from time to time, but pretty much only because I feel the need to have a romantic connection to someone. Not liking to spend time with people makes that hard to happen though.
>>26146035 i cannot relax as long there is another person that hears or see me, its impossible for me to let my guard down to act normal or drop my mask. therefor i get exhausted and prefer to be alone.
>>26153741 >Guys are honest about only caring about looks. You haven't been around a lot of guys then, we are just as bad. Most humans just want a hot piece of meat to be able to say "I fuck that" >all women are sluts who cheat. see above
>>26145809 I'm kind of like this. I have horrible anxiety out the ass, but I can usually bare it long enough to keep from making a complete ass of myself. Being an introvert doesn't mean you're an asshole. Hating people makes you one, which I do. So I guess I'm an asshole.
>>26145609 I became an introvert because of a variety of factors that include but it's not limited to: >friends being assholes >drug use >ashamed of my family, gf, and me
Nevertheless I've learned in the past couple of years to really be myself and that's what I value the most. While I find uncomfortable to be even in the same metro wagon with a Stacy or.some cool dudes, I'm proud to say that in my reclusiveness I'm the king of them all...
>>26154327 I have great friends and whenever I spend time with them I'm having a lot of fun
but after 3-4 days with them I just get sick of it and want to be alone for a while, jerk off and play vidya, can't help it it's just what makes me happy, coming home to an empty apartment and having some quality alone-time
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