Who here has given up on trying to get a gf?
I honestly think i wasn't made for this plus women want someone funny & happy, and i'm just the opposite.
people like me are destined to be lonely
I'm 29. Gave up the love of my life at 25. I'm content to spend the next 20, 30 years of my life without any contact with women at all, since I once had the ideal chance to do everything right, but decided against it for it being too constraining.
Bipolar bux NEET here. I have. After my qtpi Indian gf left me. I gave up accepting she would be the best I could ever get. I've only fucked lo qual fatties since. Since nothing compared to her amazing pussy I've given up on women.
If they approach me it's fine but I won't go out of my way for pussy.
3D women yeah of course I have given up on them but 2D women... boy'o'boy that's where it's at!
What the fuck is wrong with her face?
am i the only one who has given up on getting gf but still not delusion on 2D/waifu thing? I get that my life will be miserable but i cannot get overlook that waifu is just mere illusion.
>went to a gig last night
>behind some guys
>one guy who was really drunk turns around and points at my face and laughs
>im a guy
I'm so down right now, I keep thinking to myself why was he laughing, he whispered something in my ear but I couldn't hear what he said, do I have the face of a cave troll?
I'm a 19 year old University student and I realized that I'm almost definitelly never going to fuck anyone or get a girlfriend, on account of being a spic manlet with curly hair, so I decided that I have one last thing that I need to do (Get /fit/ and /fa/) and then I'll give up if after a year of being consistently both I don't get a gf/lay.
I try to imagine myself in a relationship, and I don't see anyway in which I don't get tired of constantly having to deal with another person within a week. I desire affection still and sometimes I feel lonely, but I think being single is ultimately much better for me.
Im 29. Around age 10 I figured something was wrong with me when girls wouldn't talk to me. Not even to play tag or some shit,
Around 12 I confirmed it when I realized all my friends were guys, outcasts playing D&D and collecting cards and talking about Starcraft and it lore. Also that was also the time I discovered anime and fell in love with puma girls from tank police. From that point on I never got interested in girls, just things that brought me happiness at the time.
Do I regret it?
HE FUCKING NO!!!! Hahaha get ducking rekt roasties. Get rekt govt! You not getting a future taxpayer outta my testicles!!
in my case it's just that i dont know how to act around a woman when there's the slightest chance in my mind something could happen
if i convince myself it's a dead end from the beginning then all is well.
>mfw people hint at trying to hook me up
>Walking home with my tall, Half English/Spanish friend
>Two girls invited us out, but they only did it because they met both of us at the same time and needed to invite us both
>Drunk guy walks past us
>Looks at us
>"...DEFINITELLY better looking"
Best of luck wasting one more year. You might as well give up now. It honestly doesn't get better if the odds are already stacked against you. Speaking from first hand experience here so take it for what you will.
First of all nice dub dubs, second I already know I look ugly and unnatractive and I have a shit personality, but maybe I might be able to make myself a 6.5/10 If I try really really hard. At least I'll have peace of mind and know it's pointless afterwards.
Nothing. 2dfags just love fucking babies.
i have problem with intimacy. I'm afraind to open up and stuff and i fear rejections. I could get laid many times but i pussy out every time. Fuck man like i had girls grope me in clubs and stuff. Why the fuck am i even sharing this. Fuck im drunk boys. Fuck everything. I ruined my life cause i never took a risk. Always playing it safe.
Maybe I could mimic their behavior well enough, but it wouldn't be me. I don't want to wear a mask during every waking moment of my life, it sounds miserable.
Even if we go ahead and pretend "love" does exist, that's only if she likes the real you, and not the image you generate. It's meaningless otherwise.
The only other payoffs are sex (which you can get through prostitution) and babies (which you can get through surrogates). It's just not worth it for me.
>argue with robots about relationship
>i say relationships aren't fair because woman are not expected to contribute anything
>he says im wrong and he had a relationship with a woman who was the primary contributer
>he gets offended and say he won't furthur replay
i don't know whats more sad, a beta virgin who gave up or a beta virgin who still believes in true love
I already felt extremely insecure as we sat in that restaurant and I struggled with speaking Spanish with these three fucking fluent Native Speakers, sitting next to my 6"3 friend with a chiseled jaw, but the drunkard actually confirming my beliefs, in his embriagated honesty, is the most painful part.
I don't think I'm absolutely awful looking, but I am for most women's standards. What hurts the most is that most of my family is good looking and they keep telling me to get a gf/hinting at stuff related to it, like my grandfather telling me "It's good you went to the dentist, you don't wanna gross out any girls you're tonguing"
19 years old and I'm throwing in the towel. I could probably with a lot of effort get a 3/10 girl at best but I've been exposed to so many hot and cute girls that I feel desensitized. What is the point in getting a gf at all when you'll never get that one girl that's cute and has the personality to match?
People are encouraged to rush intimacy now instead of allowing it to develop over time. I remember going to parties and seeing people who just met, all hugs and kisses by the end of the night. I just thought about how everybody loved Ted Bundy and kept to myself.
I might as well give up. I've only got my eyes on one right now. But she's way out of my league. Every time I see her I think, "Damn she's beautiful". That's not ask that draws me to her though. She's really mild mannered and I think that's the cutest thing.
The three I've had in my life have all turned out to be dead end selfish bitches. My last ex actually got knocked up recently and I feel absolutely nothing about it. I dunno why. I'm not even surprised.
It's not being alone that bothers me. It's just the fact that I'll probably never have "that" girl. I've found what I believe to be "that" girl, but she really only knows I exist.
Never give up anon. Here, I recorded a motivational speech for you. Things will get better, I promise :3
I thought going to okcupid or pof was an....idea that could allow me to find one. But I just find any dating site to bring out the worst possible in women.
The whole idea of online dating is a bad idea anyway because it's nowhere near the same as meeting someone in person. I pity anyone that actually wants to find one on them.
Both sad and frustrating.
I'm not trying to change your mind, but most waifufags don't honestly believe it's more than an illusion, whatever that may mean. It's just nice being able to love and admire someone without having to worry about getting hurt. It's very simple and doesn't require any delusion.
I've given up on online dating. Maybe I'll stumble into a tinder matchup that will work out but OKCuipid and sites like it are pure cancer
my fat fucking cousin (who is female) goes on a new date every week off OKC and she always fucking complains about them. If she's actually successful in getting dates and still hates the process then I'm not going to even bother trying to find one through that shit medium
If you're a male who isn't a fucking model then you're screwed in dating websites. I'm going to try to meet women offline but that's even more daunting for me...
I've argued to myself it's not worth the trouble to get interested as there's too many layers behind it: first off, her having any interest in me, we having any mutual interests (this worries me most, as I don't literally care about most of the stuff that goes around and I am blunt about it), her being actually single and so fucking on.
I've decided not to give any initial fucks and just wait for signs from them . Not like those are going to happen (who am I kidding, actually happened once but didn't lead anywhere for reasons mentioned above) because the only 2 reasons I leave my dorm is to attend classes and buy groceries.
I've had a few occasions as a younger kid when I almost got laid, but I always avoided it, even though I always think about getting laid. I tell myself it's because I'm insecure in my abilities or it's because I want to find a girl I like, but maybe I have intimacy issues or something.
Waiting for signs from her is the wrong way, anon. That's how I've done 2/3 of my relationships and it sucks. It's way more emotional strain then necessary. I find that girls won't even know you're into them unless you're upfront about it.
That said, don't just jump in either. That's been my worst mistake. Take the time you need to get to know her and acquire the right info. Start something when you're ready. I wish I could have been that smart. I might actually be in a desirable position right now.
IMO women shouldn't even be given the option for online dating, or at least be given the options they have now. There's absolutely no reason a woman on any dating site can't get or find a romantic interest offline. The fact that women are still able to pick and choose who they want to talk to makes them look worse as a species.
Think about it. Think about all the shit they post about themselves on their profile. All the shit about their interests, hobbies and what not. Think about how attractive the average woman is. Are you telling me they can't take all that information and initiate a conversation offline? That they can't find someone in their area and go search for one themselves?
Women don't care for relationships to be intimate and look for love, otherwise they'd easily find one. They want to meet that 10/10 that makes their panties wet so she can get some attention from everyone else that "this" is the person she's with
Not worth the trouble as I said. I'd much rather study my STEM or play my video games than search for a needle in haystack. And how do you assume I am into any them? I may become attracted to them physically but that means literally nothing when nothing connects us. I wish I had the ability to look into their soul and see what they're like inside first and let them be physically blank boxes for all I care.
I have never in my 23 years of life met a female irl whom I could get interested in beyond body.
Sure. I made my peace a long time ago. Any notion that I could be with someone was taken away in high school. Ugly, fat, virgin loser was my role, and still is (I'm 28). I can honestly say that I'm really happy with my life though.
Hey man you've got your prerogatives. If you're happy without a significant other then more power to you, but I don't understand why you came to this thread if you never tried to find someone to begin with.
I was actually gonna post the same topic the other day and got busy.
I'm with you op. I've accepted it. It's gonna be what it is I suppose.
What I'm needing help on is killing the urge for emotional contact. Having love. Wanting to be touched and hugged.
I can get an escort or jack of for the physical part. But how do I kill my want for love?
Unfortunately this probably will never go away. I'm right there with you bro. As a stupid kid what I thought I wanted was love, but it turned out I was more satisfied with sex. Now I'm just wishing I could have someone to talk to and share my feelings with.
I don't have many friends, so a significant other would fill the void I think. While I do desire friendship, I'm content with the friends I do have because they're pretty awesome.
I desire love more because it's just a different kind of bond. There's nothing like getting a hug or a kiss from the right person. The desire won't go away for chumps like us because we pretty much have everything else we could possibly want.
Because at some point I may have thought I would've taken the chances given the circumstances. Now I have rationalized that it's not worth it. At least not through conventional means.
man you're seriously making me want to tear up. You nailed it. Fucking nailed it.
All I fucking want is someone that I'm super close too. someone to talk to every day. Just to hug kiss and hold. And someone i can squeeze at night when I lay down.
I had all that at one time and lost it. Now every day that goes by seems less and less likely that I will ever find it again.
What can you do though? I've spent an unhealthy amount of time here, and thoughts on suicide.
I just want the fucking urge to go away. Try to convince myself I am strong and dont need the touch of someone else. But it's hard to bury that desire.
I just want to be dead inside.
I just had a date with a girl last thursday. The fourth date ive gone on in my 25 years on this earth.
If she doesn't agree to a second date then I'm just gonna give up completely. All hope will be lost.
I'm 28 years old and I've already given up and destined to dying alone. Greentext.
>only ever had 1 gf in 2008 (REEEEEE)
>only ever had sex with her
>break up after 4 months
>single since then
>sign up to OKC a couple of months ago
>want to maybe see if I can give it a real try and find someone
>I want to enter the dating game when almost all women want to leave it and settle down
>women only date across and up social dominance hierarchies
>no women would ever want me because I have no worth as a provider
>no social status
If I have nothing to offer a relationship, then I have no worth. If I have no worth then why bother trying? But I would still like a partner. Someone to share & experience life with. Is that too much to ask? Just to love and be loved?
Guess so...guess so...
>be 23 hkv
>never had any sort of social conversation with a girl
>realize everyone my age already has had a number of "serious" relationships and are looking to find that final one
>realize they they all enjoy doing normal shit like traveling and going out to meet new people and whatever else
>realize that as a 3/10 I'm pretty much hopeless regardless of all other factors
Even if by some miracle someone found me attractive, I'm just too socially retarded and inexperienced.
I'm too far behind to catch up and there's literally a 100% chance that I die alone.
I'd be retarded if I hadn't given up yet.
I've given up.
25 years old. So far in life, gone through 26 rejections, 9 of which have been seriously painful, and 3 of which were girlfriends.
The most recent one was 6 weeks ago. We were together for 2 years. She was perfect in EVERY. SINGLE. REGARD. IMAGINABLE.
But. One day she's all lovey dove saying she loves me. The next day, she breaks it off, cuts all IRL contact and blocks me online/phone. It's the worst pain I've ever experienced. 42 days of misery so far.
It hurts to live. I can't focus or concentrate on anything anymore. What do?
Just gotta greet every day with a glimmer of hope. There's always a chance she'll come your way, even if it's less than 1 percent. Love will find a way.
People just don't like me. My feelings emulate whatever situation I'm in, and I'm always really honest about them. People don't like that for some reason. I can't help it. At least I can say I'm not a bullshitter.
What I think is probably the best course of action is to: present yourself well, be charming, and be interesting. Even if it doesn't net you Mrs. Right, you can at least be satisfied with the fact that you're well presented, charming, and interesting.
The dating scene is just really hard for men. That's why I want to give up. I'm having no success at all and it's tiring and draining.
Women aren't just worth it. When you come right down to it relationships are a really terrible investment, you're dumping money and time into some broad and hoping it appeases her enough to continue to see you and perhaps if the stars are aligned and she doesn't get a "headache" have unsatisfying missionary sex.
>tfw never had this happen to me
>tfw people trow these opportunists away
Nah, I choose not to believe the fantasies of a happy future anymore.
I have things to offer women now, but still can't get one. Mine boils down to my height (5'6). I have a house. 2 vehicles and a decent job. No kids or drug habits and a pretty good guy I think. But if you're not tall enough, you may as well forget about getting a gf.
Theres something seriously wrong with that.
Also getting tired of family and friends deluding you into thinking that magical girl is just around the corner.
I'm not like other robots that think all women are bad. On the contrary, there are lots of good women out there but they're all fucking taken.
Thats whats painful about it. If I really believed all women were shit, I wouldnt feel like I was missing out. But I know there are good ones, but they are with Chad or even just tall guys.
If you are over 5'10" you really dont have an excuse.
If real life was WOW, you'd all be still on the opening screen standing there, occasionally getting bitten by a dog.
Don't you have any fight in you whatsoever? Attractive girls are being fucked all over the place by guys offering anything, money, free rent, etc they are all winning, and you are losing.
You've accepted your cage. You've got Stockholm Syndrome. You can't try get out at least
If real life was WoW, my character would have been bugged granting me no abilities to learn or use, my xp bar would fill at 1/50th the rate of everyone else, the in-game language would be halfway made up of an indecipherable alien language, and pressing half my keys would result in me getting my account instantly suspended.
You have to understand something. What is it that we have that these women want, and can't get anywhere else?
Looks? Status? Money?
Chew on that one for a while then get back to us.
I'm not trying to convince you to buy into a fantasy. I'm saying that, mathematically, there is always a chance.
At least you have shit to offer. All I got is the fact that I'm 5'11'' which honestly doesn't mean as much as you think it would anymore. I know a manlet who net himself a nutcase, but a hot nutcase. Difference is he's pretty built. I feel that if I was fit, I could probably get somewhere.
The other portion is that I'm picky. Not so much in the physical department because apparently the girl I've set my eyes on isn't really considered attractive by some of my peers. But I want someone that isn't fucking crazy and doesn't go out and party and get into trouble and shit. At least in Oklahoma, you're pretty hard pressed for someone like that.
I just look at other girls and then look at myself, and I think... man they deserve someone better than me, someone 6'4, /fit/, good looking, smart and rich. Not someone who is 5'9, average looks, 115 lbs, okay intellect and dirt poor.
I gave up. I will be alone forever and i'm okay with it. I didn't even make friends during my 5 years of college. (5 because I attempted suicide during my second one which messed things up)
Relationships seem like a net loss to me. I have to pay all that money and lose time to be with someone. It's much more stress. I have to deal with all her problems. Right now I'm happy in my life. A woman could only take away from it rather than add.
Its clear from your attitude that you have already lost, being fit and fa isnt going to help you if you believe those things will get you a gf
Im 6'3, fit, top of my class in electrical engineering and im on my university basketball and soccer teams. I know i wont get a gf because im completely neutotic and paranoid due to a shitty childhood. Even if i manipulated a woman into wanting me, which would be easier for me than most, it would just be empty and make me feel worse. Im fucked in the head and no one will ever love me for who i am. Ive tried counseling and ive tried medication. Its hard to accept that and when you do accept it it makes you hateful towards everyone
I mean, when you accept that everything is ultimately pointless and without purpose, which in this age is what a rational person would conclude, you realize that you should just do what makes you happy. When nothing makes you happy, when you cant enjoy anything, i mean what in the fuck do you do then? I asked myself that at 16, and i came to the conclusion that i can either kill myself or try to win the normie game. So I went for the latter because im a pussy
I never truly tried to get one.
I tried once in high school with a girl, I told her that I liked her but she rejected me politely.
And later in college I got infatuated for another girl, and when she asked me to share my feelings for her I couldn't and chickened out. She got a bf a few months afterwards, and that hurt me. I haven't tried anything since.
Mating is like being a predator in the jungle, finding your target and attacking it. And I'm not a hunter. I don't know how to hunt nor I want to suffer trying to learn how aka getting rejected over and over again. Also I am picky, few ladies get me really interested. And I am an ugly manlet and a kissless virgin. I should not even bother trying.
I am too old for this. I am 26 years old. At this age women start thinking about marriage and I didn't even had my first kiss. Fuck.
What part of that is hard for you to believe? Im still a virgin who is afraid of intimacy, which is probably even more pathetic than it would be coming from someone unsuccessful. I come off as intense and generally just make people uncomfortable because of how confident i am in myself. I dont ever feel awkwardness or embarassment for example, which seems to be a normal part of human life. Im just obsessed with winning at everything. Obviously being a virgin means i failed miserably with women