your opinion on girls who self harm/have eating disorders?
I think it's attractive
I think you are a pathetic loser who thinks your insecurities make you just as undesirable as a girl with female mental problems.
protip: lots of men can deal with girls who cut themselves. only few women are willing to accept a socially anxious faggot.
attractive or not take it from me its not worth to date them seriously.
you rub off on each other and in the end you feel like youre taking care of a child. a child who has became so dependent on you for emotional support she might kill herself if you arent the bigger person/ emotionally strong constantly.
i'm hot guy and was acting friendly to girl who revealed she used to be into self-harm , at the first time we met outside of classes i told her we are going to be strictly friends and she always acts
>woe is me anon why don't fuck me
My fiancee used to be anorexic and it was annoying as fuck to deal with. She was constantly spaced out due to lack of nutrition and her body became repulsive. 1000x better now that she's recovered. It's easy to romanticize anorexia from a distance but it's honestly not worth the hassle.
holy fuck, Anyone who'd see this as desireable must take a long hard look into the mirror. Geez.
My crush (kind of beginning to date her now) used to cut in middle school and there are still some minor scars there. It doesn't bother me, it's not ideal, but she's still pretty much perfect.
holy fuck man what hte FUCK kek
glad she's better but jesus
As someone who was friends with and dated one (same girl) in high school I don't think I'd ever do it again. They are emotional wrecks all the time but even when you're dating them they don't seek fucking help like a rational human being would. You can't take them anywhere without feeling like an asshole and all in all unless you're just looking for a quick fuck and nothing more, they're not worth your time.
Right? All the pics glorifying anorexia don't show off the crater ass or the nastiness that is a pussy with no mean on it, just the pubic bone and skin. Just as bad if not worse than obesity.
I'm mentally ill too, I lift her up and she lifts me up, it's much healthier than any of the relationships I've had in the past with more "normal" girls where I was the only one with issues and became a burden. Equality in all things makes for a much better experience.
Do I find it attractive, no, it's clearly a sign that something is wrong in their head
I'd want to help them
But I'd stay away because
1. Potential damage to my emotional and mental health
2. Even if I did some how help them out, they'd then think they could do better and look for someone else
3. They wouldn't want me.
would never date again
maybe, i mean... you know
>the ride never ends
I find it attractive only because I know they'll understand my problems and there might be a chance that I can help then through what they're going through and then my life won't be completely meaningless... But I'll first need a gf for me to do ask those things
Is it really selfish for me to want to help people? That's like saying all therapists and doctors are selfish. I'm not even doing it for money, I'm doing it because I know what they're going through and it helps to have someone supporting you when you're going through a though time
Well I like emotional baggage in a girl. Gives me something to talk about, I get bored easy.
A friend I used to be close with, but we've drifted apart (she got a douchebag chad boyfriend) used to self harm. Very unstable. Much neurotic.
But yeah. It's attractive to me. Though I'm a freak so don't let me validate you.
Really you don't get how selflessness is an illusion?
Even a man who gives everything he has to charity, anonymously, still gains something from that (or he wouldn't have done it).
Whether it's alleviated guilt, an improved sense of self esteem, a victim complex, or anything else. It was still not completely selfless, only relatively.
Lots of guys like flat chests don't be stupid. A girl who thinks no one likes her because she's got a flat chest is wrong, it's probably more likely that she has a shit personality or is ugly.
(Sorry girls, but I have to rip your hope away so you don't make a fool of yourselves to strangers).
>if you actually like a flat chest
Man fembots are getting obnoxious now
You can go to /soc/ and find a flat chest thread pretty often, you know it's a viable body type unlike small penis or short male
You can still do good things but hopefully won't have a self image of a Jesus figure while doing it.
The act of helping can be identical, the only thing affected by the selflessness train of thoughts is the ego.
i find it attractive too. im not going to romanticize it or dress it up. i basically like the idea that they hate themselves and treat themselves like trash, thus they will allow me to treat them like trash as well. i want to degrade her like the subhuman filth that she is.
I remember when I first figured this out back when I was 14, I thought I had been the first but there had apparently been a philosopher in the 1800s who already had thought of it.
It's common sense from where we stand though, from what we know about the human condition.
I don't see why it's fucked up and disgusting. Surely people have the right to do what they want with their own bodies? I am not the person you replied to but I cut "RF" into my arm for a donator rank on a forums. And I haven't self harmed in a while. Stop seeing your body as a temple, fag.
The girl who just broke up with me had scars, and while she has apparently lost a fair bit of weight she was still very self-conscious of her body. I didn't mind any of that, I fell in love with her because of how kind she was and in my eyes she was beautiful.
I want her back so bad, she dumped me to work on her own problems on her own, but all the while she made it out like it was a good thing for me, that I'd be better off. She didn't want to hurt me and then when I couldn't give her space and didn't want to let her go I realized just how much I was hurting, all the while she's cold, numb. But even so I just can't believe that I'm better off without, though I'm certain she is, without me weighing her down.
I swear this board has gotten softer, recently. It all used to be "fuck girls they're all shallow" and now it's "I care about their personalities" and shit. You guys have gotten soft. Finally stopped lying to yourselves? kek
I've never been the sort to say that and I've been here for years. I won't deny I'm soft, and that I'd be so much better off if I didn't care, but I do. I had been alone to the point where I've become emotionally numb, and now I'm afraid to lose the emotions I have now that I have them.
>it feels weird knowing that people think its attractive that i used to hurt myself. kind of weird, kind of nice :-/
I don't know how to explain it, but it gets me off pretty good, i would rather have a gf who sued to self harm than one who didn't given the same looks/personality
It's not really something you want to deal with.
Fantasizing about it you can have all these great ideas about how you're going to be there for them and save them and help them get better but it doesn't work like that.
In reality what you get is a ton of irrational, melodramatic bullshit for nothing in return.
They're better off left alone until they get their shit in order.
That said scars aren't something to judge if they're old. Everybody's been through problems.
>lots of men can deal with girls who cut themselves
because they don't know any better. i don't think being in a relationship with someone who'd i'd be constantly concerned for her safety would be very fun
Your entire post is exactly why this board exists, women today are just looking to fit in and be perfect when we all know this is not possible, either accept your place on the ladder or kill yourself.
> talking to oneitis today
> actually feels good man, she's been really nice lately, talks ti me a lot
> notice a bunch if scars on her left wrist
> didn't get a chance to talk to her about it
What do?I don't want to make her feel bad but I want to help her. This is pretty much the only girl I talk to.
If they were recovered, yeah.
Speaking of, you can tell which girls have eating disorders, even if they're recovered, by looking at their hair line. Anorexic chicks all have that same big, receded hairline.
This thread again. Just shows how abysmally low male standards are and how retardedly inflated the sexual market is for women.
>body looks like absolute shit
>omg be my waif xDDD
fuck women, and fuck the betas (you idiots) that enable them.
Yeah ok reddit, just remember to finish the job you fucking faggot
It's a sign of low self esteem for some. Women are better people when they believe they are worthless, same can go for guys. Unfortunately most of the ones who self harm are mostly histrionic whores so it's hard to spot the one who genuinely don't like themselves.
everything on a woman is attractive apparently
>bitch is ugly
such a qt
>woman is retarded
>woman is drug abuser
i'd save her, that's kawaii
>woman is crazy
i love it
>woman is X
yeah i love that, it's my fetish
its good and bad depending on the girl. some I've met are awesome and are so dead inside that they'll do anything for me even though I'm an asshole.. some just simply bail on you after one mistake and think you hate them, just make them feel beautiful and lie and your in for the touchdown
>tfw anorexia makes you only feel attractive when everyone else thinks you're a gross spooky skeleton
>otherwise the suicidal thoughts set in
>they do anyway when I'm alone and repel all potential bfs
I literally can't win.