>>26060235 Up until a few months ago, i would've said that having a match is bologna. But i think i've met mine, as naive as it sounds, so anything is possible. I wouldn't give up, my man. Keep looking
I don't believe everybody has another person in the world that's perfectly compatible, but I certainly don't believe in predestination. There's people with physical or mental deformities that will keep them from ever truly finding a partner, but we're not all so unique that there's only one other unique person for us.
before I met mine, I never believed I could connect with someone and be completely comfortable and able to be myself in someone's company. I never felt a connection with anyone. then I met him, and it was reallllly coincidental too, so coincidental that I honestly don't believe it was a coincidence, and we just instantly connected on so many levels and it felt exactly right. so weird. and pasts are so similar it's scary
I live with my mom, and while i have a job and stuff, i usually just give all the money to my folks for bills and things: we struggle with money unless i give some every month. But anyways, yeah, i got a job, but no house or anything of value to give to a woman. But it seems like she loves me anyways, for whatever reason
>>26061041 >just lift breh No fuck you. I don't have interests outside of escapism. I don't have the drive to do any of that if the chance of succeeding is pretty much zero. It would just show me even more what a piece of shit I am.
There is no such thing as destiny or fate or soulmates. People who stay together forever have just been lucky enough to find someone they get along with really well and there's probably a million more other people like that special someone in the world they could have stayed with forever, that just happened to come across that one first.
>you have the power to change anything you don't like! But my brain is the problem. It doesn't think rationally. It's ruining my life. I have enough awareness to know it's abnormal but not enough power to do anything about it.
I think everybody has many people they'd be compatible with, but it can sometimes be very hard to find them. There are probably plenty of women that would be great for robots, but we don't meet them because we don't socialize in the right groups or at all, or maybe we meet girls that would be perfect personality matches but something else turns us or them off.
What can be even worse is when you meet somebody you really "click" with, and they're already in a relationship with somebody else. It's even worse when that "somebody else" is a good friend of yours. I've had this happen to me quite a few times, probably because my friends and I are similar kinds of people and so the women who match them naturally match me too, and I've had some dangerously close calls.
One of my best friends has a girlfriend that I have to go out of my way to avoid being alone with, because whenever we're alone in a room together we start flirting like crazy.
>>26062368 This really isn't actually true, though.
We may have a harder time, but guys who stay single forever are still a tiny minority. I hardly know anybody over 30 that's single, and those who are have had relationships and then broken up. Out of maybe 100 guys that I know well enough to know what their relationship status is, I only know two or three that have never dated, and only one for whom the reason isn't blatantly obvious. (That one guy is just a total social robot despite being decent looking, in OK shape, and having a good career. The other few are all fat unhygenic neckbeards.)
I don't know about perfect, but I feel like everyone has a few good to great matches out there but as a socially awkward inexperienced male you have a far smaller chance of getting them to notice you. I mean I've already found two girls that I get along with extremely well, both aren't completely repulsed by me physically, and one even had a crush on me. Problem is my my personality flaws and physical shortcomings (fat, balding, short, etc.) get in the way and ruin things. Just gonna keep working on myself to improve the odds. I'm 23 but I'm sure its not too late.
>>26060235 No that's just what people who have been together too long to remember what it's like to be single tell their children while their brains are on a prenatal parenting high. Equally no one's predestined to be alone.
Here's some Bukowski to tip fedoras at.
the flesh covers the bone and they put a mind in there and sometimes a soul, and the women break vases against the walls and the men drink too much and nobody finds the one but keep looking crawling in and out of beds. flesh covers the bone and the flesh searches for more than flesh.
there's no chance at all: we are all trapped by a singular fate.
nobody ever finds the one.
the city dumps fill the junkyards fill the madhouses fill the hospitals fill the graveyards fill
I like to believe in soulmates because it gets me out of bed in the morning knowing that "today could be the day", but I'm scared that my perfect soulmate could live on the other side of the world or speak a different language, etc etc
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