My gf is sleeping at a guys place right now after a party because shes pretty drunk and tired.
She texted me telling me this before her phone died.
I don't know where his place so I can't go pick her up.
I. Want. To. Die.
I don't usually fan these flames, but she IS getting fucked.
Everything I have ever known, every event I have attended, lends the wisdom to know this truth.
She doesn't care about you all that much and she's getting fucked hard.
damn dude i rly do feel for you
oh well time to move on plenty more fish in the sea as they say
seriously tho THIS IS NOT A MEME she is definitely cucking you as sad as that may be
in what world is what shes doing ok? none
You should either break up with her, or just never talk to her again. If your in a relationship on Facebook, just block her.
You can't date women who go and drink at other guy's houses and get drunk. You just can't. It's a deal breaker. It's innapropriate, rude, and creepy. Even if she isn't getting fucked (probably is), it's just not right.
Sorry anon, happens to the best of us.
>My gf is sleeping at a guys place right now after a party because shes pretty drunk and tired
break up with her
I wouldn't date some fun-seeking roastie who goes and gets drunk at parties without me.
These. I've lived long enough and around enough women to give you the bad news OP.
The real damning bit is the "phone died" part. She doesn't want to feel guilty or bothered when you text her and she can't answer.
You'd be surprised how women think. They think if they just graze the truth while remaining innocent, you'll be more prone to believe them. Yes, most are that stupid.
OP, I won't taunt you and I wouldn't assume it's 100% happening either, but I'd be fucking wary the next few times you see here. I hope you've got a good understanding of behavior and a good eye for details.
im literally hyperventilating idk what to do
Have you ever noticed how in all the stories of women cheating on men in this way, they text the BF that their phones about to die?
How many times does she usually text you that her phones going to die? Seriously just break up with her when she gets home tomorrow, it's not worth it.
Nothing to do. Maybe she didn't do anything.
Chill. Never freak out. Maybe she'll understand why it bothers you and apologize vehemently, maybe there's a small chance she'll go out of her way to show you she means it and you'll know she didn't cheat.
Fat chance though man.
I agree with this anon >>26009071
Her sleeping at a guys place drunk crossed the line. It's the definition of disloyalty.
At least she was honest though. Later when you discuss this with her do NOT make it sound like no big deal
thanks ill cry myself to sleep and hope for the best, i already took 9 percocets to cope with it
Dudes, there's a slight chance OP might be legit, but I've seen the exact same story..
>said she'll sleep over at a guy's place
>phone allegedly dying
>OP worried of cheating
First of all....I'm sorry m8. I hope you don't love her. If you do....sorry.
But, you aren't married to her and you don't have kids. So you win. Leave her now.
If she wants to white around and get cockspur trapped in her fanny that's her choice but she won't be able to have a caring good guy boyfriend like you.
Bitch has to learn that. You want a nice boyfriend then don't go whoring about. It's simple.
Leave her and be better for it. That Chad that fucked her will most likely kick her to the kerb and she will be alone and for once will have to th deal with the shot she has caused. Don't be her enabler anon. Don't let her win this.
Look, OP, if you ignore every other post in this thread, at least listen to me.
Your girlfriend obviously does not respect you if she would go out to a party without you, get drunk without you, and proceed to sleep at another man's place without you. I'm not even memeing or hating on women. This is something no woman who cared about her boyfriend would do.
You are honestly better off if you just dump her. Do not, DO NOT let her get away with this kind of behavior. Let her go. Don't even bother with the idea that you're "showing her you're not a doormat" or something. It's not about her anymore. It's about you. You do not deserve a girlfriend who does not respect you or your relationship.
Think of yourself. Please. You deserve better than this kind of woman.
Do you guys live together? Put all her stuff into bags and boxes and leave them outside your door
Change your apartment/house lock
Tell her it's over
Basically what >>26009554 said, she doesnt respect you or your relationship. Nothing to do with her actually cheating or not. (She probably is tho)
Never wait for a women w8, that just gives her time to plan and fuck you around some more.
Be aggressive, call her out on her bullshit antics and face the problem head on. Be unpredictable and rash. Get answers out of her. If you manage to piss her off by doing this then its no big loss and chances are she'll be reacting hostile because she doesn't want you to find out the truth. Manipulative people get shitty when you come close to revealing what they're hiding.
And if she's as great as you think she is, she shouldn't have any problem with you being concerned about your relationship with her. Tell her not to do it again without you being there in person and if she refuses she isn't worth your time and is prob cheating on you. Either way just go confront her tomorrow. You can't lose.
As a normie long-term-relationshipkek who browses /r/9k to get my jimmies laughing at autists, I agree with you 100%.
I cannot possibly imagine my girlfriend going out with friends (which she sometimes does, which is perfectly fine) and sleeping at a straight guy's house. It's also extremely unlikely that she'd crash at any friend's house. She'd want me to pick her up so she could come home and drunk cuddle me in our own bed.
It isn't even about cheating, as you said. It's about disrespecting OP and their relationship.
OP, she doesn't respect you enough to ask you to come pick her up so you can feel safe. This shit is BAD. NEWS. BEARS.
(Honestly this is even a worse sign to me than if she was definitely cheating... If she's cheating it'll be over soon, but if she just disrespects you she could disrespect you for the rest of your lives...)
You need to not reply to that slut's texts at all. When she eventually asks to see you, wait a few hours, then agree to meet. Tell her without emotion that you have decided to end the relationship because she has displayed a complete lack if respect for you and the relationship.
If you don't do this now you can expect more of the same behaviour and you will just take more and more until you hate yourself. I kniw it's not easy but rip off the bandaid now to save yourself pain in the future. Be strong OP.
Assume she's cheating on you and the relationship is over.
It's up to her to make the case to prove otherwise.
Ok sure possible
>there is no charger at a guys place
Not possible sorry. Unless she has some very old phone all modern one can be charged using the universal USB cable.
>even if her phone died she could borrow from someone else and call you
Lets be real if she wanted to get in touch with you she could do it.
Yeah this is the thing OP, embrace the rage and let it drive you, this is the most important thing that has ever happened in your life, but whatever you do DONT express it to her in any way. She is dead to you now and you could care less.
Of course that isn't true, she cheated on you and you are devastated, but you absolutely can not let her see that at all.
Tell her you think she cheated on you and you are breaking up with her, but make it clear that it is the fact that she disrespected you by doing that regardless of whether or not she actually did anything. Of course she did, of course it matters a lot, and of course she will deny it, but all she needs to hear is that you dont care if she cheated or not because its over regardless.
DO NOT get mad and lose your shit with her
DO NOT let it become an argument about whether she actually cheated or not
Been through similar stuff and learned hard lessons, god speed anon you are strong.
Do you really believe every woman is a fucking whore who cheats on you at the first possible chance given?
Fuckin cuck mindset.
And even if she cheats... You should be happy that you don't have to waste any more time with a dirty whore then and move on.
ITT: autistic insecure fucks with psychopathic control issues.
Gotta love how a relationship for you guys is either a twisted pedo fantasy of a waifu dream come true, or basically permanent anguish about avoiding "getting cucked", waiting to "be cucked", actually "being cucked" or raging at having "been cucked".
Why is your girlfriend partying without you ?
Lol. You just got cheated on. End the relationship as soon as she gets home. She knows you could pick her up carry her home and treat her to some tea and crumpets but she falls asleep at some guys house and doesnt tell you where she at. Worst part is that she tells you her phone died when its pretty Fucking obvious everybody in that house party has a phone charger.
Everybody has chargers these days.
Especially iPhone chargers.
Android chargers can literally be kind anywhere on usb
The Dualshock 4 controller for ps4 uses the cable most Android phones use.
He could just trust her, believe what she's saying is true.
After all, a successful relationship is about trust, is it not?
But when you experience similar things over and over again, you'd have to be a fool to ignore a pattern.
He would have to deal with the stress of trying to trust her while remembering all the times like this that came before where something seemed suspicious, and he was right
Also why would she test his trust like that?
A relationship where you have to worry about that kind of thing and deal with insecurity is just not worth it
Which is all relationships actually, none are really worth it
Why are robots even trying to be in a relationship if cheating/cucking is a fact that can't be avoided and they can't deal with it?
Either you live up to your nonsense or go on with your neet/wizard/kissless looser ways or admit you're full of shit, but I don't think there's a reasonable middleground between the two in the murky psychological waters you elect to waddle in.
You're projecting hard as fuck here anon. The OP literally described a situation where his gf is drunk and sleeping with another man. That's not a normal, acceptable thing to do. It may pain your whiteknight world view but I'm actually a normal person with friends and a happy life and I don't know anyone who would put up with this shit. Maybe because I hang out with regular people instead of World of Warcraft nerds from reddit, I guess.
> in the murky psychological waters you elect to waddle in
Also, you're not very good at sounding intellectual. Go read some more before you try again.
Not him but from my personal viewpoint I don't care, I'm in an open-relationship and these concerns seem alien to me.
I kinda concur that cheating might be a statistically relevant phenomenon but imho it's only because centuries of muh marriage + unattainable romantic ideals have fucked up people's expectations.
I strongly suspect that most people who "crazy" during a mid-life crisis only do so because they realize they're gonna die soon, that they conformed to some BS that doesn't make them happy all their lifes, inevitably cheat on their SO because they crave the experience and both parties feel pressure by societal norms and expectations to break up / divorce while they could just communicate, admit to each other and to themselves that, no, having sex with other people doesn't make you a monster and doesn't diminish in any way the love they feel for each other and get on with their life feeling a bit more happy.
It's a natural thing to want to have sex with multiple partners: love necessarily includes sex, but that doesn't mean that every occurrence of casual sex from you or your partner "robs" you of some kind of exclusive emotional attachement, that's not how any of it works unless you want it to.
So, to come back to the original point, how is not madness to continue to pursue a non-existing ideal of fidelity when, as you say, there exists a pattern of empirical evidence proving it's doomed?
If you're being honest you also all have to admit of your "KEK!" obsession is partly a reflection of your own thoughts as, however strongly you long for "purity", you know deep-down that you'd perfectly be able of cheating provided with the occasion and therefore logically suspect other of the same thing.
Anyway as >>26010845 pointed out, you got to relax about the whole thing and do the pragmatic thing: get out of the relationship if integrating casual sex and the hard data of cheating is too intellectualy taxing, change your point of view, live up to your "standards" and stay alone. Else you just sound like delusional assholes.
What kind of phone does she have with a one of a kind charger? You know someone at the house had an iPhone or a fucking USB charger that would fit every other type of phone made in the last 6 years.
She lied and doesn't want yiu texting her while he fucks her. He'll probably go in raw too. Cum right in that little snatch. Nothing you can do tonight bro. Just deal with it tonorrow.
Most people saying leave her now are talking from personal experience, the delusional autists are people like you. So much of it doesnt make sense unless she is cheating, it couldnt be much more obvious
>they could just communicate, admit to each other and to themselves that, no, having sex with other people doesn't make you a monster and doesn't diminish in any way the love they feel for each other and get on with their life feeling a bit more happy.
>It's a natural thing to want to have sex with multiple partners: love necessarily includes sex, but that doesn't mean that every occurrence of casual sex from you or your partner "robs" you of some kind of exclusive emotional attachement, that's not how any of it works unless you want it to.
Your philosophy is disgusting and unnatural to me and I believe it to possibly be the result of "progressive" brainwashing
hi and bad luck OP you've snagged a douse. All girls throw out tests usually to see if you're worthy. All women being unique they all have different methods of testing. You're unlucky because you have the slut test. This test you were supposed to go there pick her up be a good boyfriend instead you agreed(?) to let her stay at another males which signals to her you don't really care about her. Bad luck Op. Now even if she really didn't think about it she will fuck this guy. just to feel some value after receiving none from you. This has been an informative post from robotics incorporated, have a good day.