What does it actually feel like to be in ur 30's?
10 more years, till i hit 30 but, does the gap between 20, and 30 feel like the gap between 10 and 20?
Cause i really really really will try my best to cherish my time if it does
>does the gap between 20, and 30 feel like the gap between 10 and 20?
not really. at least until you meet some 20 year olds, then you realize how childish and stupid they still are and you feel A LOT older all of the sudden.
No between 20-30 you start to enter the adult stage of life at its worst edition. You have to get a job, build a fucking solid basis for your career and decide where/how you will live your life.
Shit is stressful and takes a lot of work, so you don't notice the time flying.
Especially @ 25 you won't know if you did everything correctly, and any kind of failure makes you doubt your successes (if you got any) so far. It literally feels like climbing a mountain of shit, but you can only still see shit above. I guess it gets better once you stabilize.
I feel like your 20s are realizing you're never going to achieve your wildest dreams, you're going to die, you're going to be disappointed. Also, you're just starting to work, and you're unhappy with your repetitive job, and start to get more and more cynical.
Your 30s are about how you've settled down with a girl, and there's no going back. You can't get out of your career, and you can't get out of this marriage. Probably some kids too, so you're locked down. Your life is essentially over, and you just gotta repeat until retirement. You're no longer as creative as you one were. Your body is starting to deteriorate.
True hair begins to fall, body starts to slowly get weaker and you feel more often tired.
I was wondering whether I am getting depressed or have cancer, because all these fucking celebs in youtube and FITNESS MODELS seem like they have ultra high energy levels at their 30s and 40s and sometimes I get tired by just going to work and coming back.
Should I do another full body check up or are they on cocaine?
Once you've finished your education and get into the workforce with your first regular job, that's when time starts to fly by.
If you're not at uni, you'll lose most of your "friends" in the first years of your 20's, cause everyone is now going their own way.
Meeting same-aged people becomes rare since you don't attend any class anymore. The people you see now every day are at least 10+ years older than you. Days just became fucking dull and the people you work with are boring af.
Seems I'll hit 35 this year. Would say I have more memories from 10-20, I did so many different things back then, probably gained more life experiences during that period. 20-30 swooshed by way faster, I've had absolutely no variation in life since I was 20 though, I've been working roughly 5500 days in a row now, bit of anime and internet before sleep. I think the first 2 decades I felt a bit more "alive", things were a lot more exciting, but there was also a lot of woes. The past years have been extremely transcient and I'm at peace with most of everything. Body is getting a bit more fragile, and I don't think I'd be able to outrun my 25 year old self, but maybe I could have a slight edge in strength. Overall people age very differently I suspect.
>Once you've finished your education and get into the workforce with your first regular job, that's when time starts to fly by.
nnnnnnnot true. not at all. I used to be a NEET from 19-21 and time started flying when I hit 20. now I'm 22 with a job and there's no difference YET.
>Meeting same-aged people becomes rare since you don't attend any class anymore. The people you see now every day are at least 10+ years older than you. Days just became fucking dull and the people you work with are boring af.
>you you you, you here, you there
speak for yourself you fucking piece of faggot shit wow
Turning 25 is the worst.
30 wasn't so bad.
If you have your health and live on the Internet, it's not like your life will change all that much.
To elaborate: 25 is the brick wall where you start to see aging cut into you a little.
It's then when you're thrown out of Eden and realize you are not an exception. You will decay. You will die.
It's the worst paradigm shift in the world.
Just think: every year from 0 to 25, you have been getting bigger, stronger, more capable, more vital.
And every year after 25... you become slower, wrinklier, greyer. You can mitigate it, but death is working against you.
0-25: Life is working for you.
25+: Death is working against you.
It's like God's blessing has suddenly been revoked, and you're on borrowed time.
In your 20s, people's expectations are still low, so you can do whatever you want and not have to worry about impressing anyone. In your 30s there's an expectation that you're established and you already know how shit works, so if you fuck up or get drunk and act the fool, or whatever, people are less forgiving.
Source: I'm 37
>Once you stabilize
Yes, believe in the dream.
It's funny how this just hits. I'll be 26 next month and this whole year has just been... real.
I see my skin starting to sag, grey hairs beginning to emerge, aches and health issues I'd only heard of being stuff I actually have to deal with ("Oh, so THAT'S what a hemorrhoid is! ...Goddammit.") What I eat will legitimately decide how the day turns out. If I have pizza for lunch then the mental and physical fog will disallow any real work to get done for the rest of the day. Working out isn't about getting shredded, it's about slowing loss. I drink alone after work (not every night) not because I'm bored, but because there's this weighty nagging feeling that doesn't go away unless I'm a few deep and listening to songs I loved at 16 on YouTube.
Worse, my problems from 18-24 seem so meaningless. My most recent issue was "oh shit, everyone expects me to actually marry this girl." I broke up with her instead and now I can legitimately question how my life is going to turn out because of it. The job I picked up "until I decide what I really want to do" is my actual job now, and a poor choice at that.
I suppose I could still change things, and I'm trying to, but it's harder and harder to pivot to something you're not already doing year by year. Being 26 will just make it even more difficult.
I dread 30.
I got huge from lifting at 27, just took lifting. I'm in med school so im around hypercompetitive normies that are younger. Don't get laid bc my nose is crooked and stopped working out so im fat (am28)
Shit kind of sucks, but at least women are starting to look thicker and hotter. Too bad cant pull any
31 here, feel exactly the same as I felt in my 20s. This sums it up pretty well:
>If you have your health and live on the Internet, it's not like your life will change all that much.
>Just think: every year from 0 to 25, you have been getting bigger, stronger, more capable, more vital.
Actually it's 0 to 18.
On topic, I'm 30 and I'm beginning to feel okay with myself and figure out what I wanna do, not my parents. It feels good, man.
>wagey's lives end faster, even if they live more years, because they still only perceive it as a short time
Nope, it's circa ~25.
Your brain also finishes developing completely at ~25, and your growth plates fuse at ~25.
>never had a gf
>no prospects for a change of this state in near future
I feel like every year I go by without a gf, the possibility of not being alone drifts further away from me. By now most girls have at least some dating experience, while I don't even know how to talk to a girl.
I'm 25 and this almost made me cry
The sad thing is my 18-24 years where mostly spent inside, depressed, without friends. I never did the yolo have fun stuff.
And now I have even less to look forward to.
how do I deal with being this old older robots? :(
>And every year after 25... you become slower, wrinklier, greyer. You can mitigate it, but death is working against you.
>tfw you've been doing sports since you were 18
>tfw in shape and not feeling any of it except wrinkles and grey hair maybe
I'm okay with that but I just realize I don't enjoy my life and never did. I don't know how to change it. I literally have nothing to look back to in my life and nothing to look forward too. I have no motivation, no passion, and have made zero friends during my college years so what does that say about my future?
I have a useful accounting degree I just completed but I realize it's not my passion and not something I wanted to do. But I feel it's too late. I don't even know WHAT else I want to do.
I have a stable gf but I feel like she relies on me too much and I'm begining to lose sense of myself as she becomes increasingly codependent on me. I don't want to carry her through life or be her provider.
At the same time, I don't know what ELSE i would be doing with my life instead of this degree and this girl. And when I look back on my 20s I didn't do anything fun that I can fondly remmeber. I'm just increasingly wasting my time.
On top of this due to graduating I need to look for a job, suck up, and pretend to care about this field I have less than zero interest in.
Part of me wonders if it would have been better to get an art degree onof something and pursue my real passion.
This thread is the most frightening thing I read today.
I'm 22, and I feel like a fucking 15-year-old. Even though I'm technically following the path to adolescence (had some jobs, doing college) I cannot help but to feel like a little kid put in charge of maintaining his life. It's embarassing.
And this is where you come saying that 25 is the peak of one's self-development. Like, what the fuck? Am I gonna shift directly from childhood to decay?
Fuck this life. I didn't ask for this.
>Look at self in mirror
>Say same average white dude I've always seen
>Look at any picture of self at 19, 20, 21...
>see what I've lost
crows feet around the eyes when smiling or squinting, forehead lines deepening, somehow jowlier, and an overall lack of vitality in skin.
Grey hairs are creeping in, I can see them peppered throughout my hair. Also grew out my facial hair over vacation and saw areas of white.
Even worse, this whole "I play sports I'm young forever" is just bullshit. Yeah, you'll be better, but there's no miracle cure for your tiring organs.
Just pretend you're younger and pick up where you left off.
Late bloomers exist, but they are uncommon, so expect an uphill battle.
Read "Never Too Late to Be Great."
Committing to something is the hardest. I still want to explore music, drawing, voice acting, animation--pretty much the gamut of the arts--and I haven't made any progress with any of them because I don't want to commit to "just one."
Apparently only focused effort brings results. You have to train at one thing 2 hours a day. If your focus is scattered, you don't gain any real skill.
So, pick one thing. Train at it with conscious effort 2 hours+ a day.
People do it. There are 70 and 80 year olds who have become competent landscape artists.
You just need to find the time and the discipline.
t-thanks for the disenchantment, Satan. I'm turning 25 this year.
My two cents:
You got an accounting degree and that's a really good thing. You should definitely have not majored in art or something without market value. You know you're not even passionate about that, for one thing.
No one goes into accounting because they're passionate about it. They go into accounting because it's well-paid, the hours are generally okay (obviously there are peak times), it's very stable, and your career progression is solid. My dad was an accountant and makes about 1 mil a month. Granted he's been at it for 40 years, but still.
Some people think you need to do your passion full-time to be happy. Most of the world does what they can do full-time, and fills in the rest of their time with their passion. The lawyer who writes novels. The doctor who plays violin. The teacher who wifeswaps and does BDSM shit. The accountant who doesn't know what he wants to do, so he tries painting, tennis, weightlifting, volunteering, etc. until he finds something he can do that makes him forget Excel even exists.
On the GF - you're at the point in life where relationships hit a point where it's marriage or break up. Knowing you "should" marry her but don't want to and keep the relationship going for reasons is stressful. You have to figure out what the next step for you all is.
Don't even think about the past. Literally. There's nothing good to come from it, and if you're at the point where you're upset about "wasted time" then you've already mined all the valuable lessons you could have learned. You dug out the gold and now you hit bedrock. Just live in the present and think about what sort of future endeavor you'd like to try.
Your life doesn't have to be an incredible adventure of Instagram highlights and ageless beauty. Those lives don't exist. The best life you can live is one where you're financially stable, have someone you can depend on, and have found something to do in the downtime that makes time move a bit faster.
Thank you anon your words helped and put things into perspective
Lately all these issues have my racking my brain and caused complete inaction on my part. I haven't applied anywhere because I have zero job experience and I'm frankly scared. I have a mindset of an adult but the life experience of someone probably 22.
I've been having incredible anxiety about just generally not knowing what the fuck to do with my life or where to go, everything seemed hopeless.
>turning 30 in 4 1/2 years
>never had a gf
>i don't want kids
>finding a gf that doesn't have kids gets harder and harder with each passing year
>The job I picked up "until I decide what I really want to do" is my actual job now, and a poor choice at that.
My god this sounds depressing. Currently I'm also working in a shitty place "until I find a real job in the field I've got a degree after 4 years of vocational school".
>does the gap between 20, and 30 feel like the gap between 10 and 20?
The gap between 10 and 20 is very significant, but the gap between 20 and 30 is like ... wtf ... that was TEN years ago!? It feels like it was last month or so. And why is it that I get older why hot qts always remain the same age? And why is that women showing interest in me? She must be like 27 or so!? She is too old for me!
I have an older brother who married his high-school sweetheart and already has 3 children.
That's the way to got.
You have only two choices: marry young and immediately get children or become weird and pathetic. Most people in the West become weird and pathetic tho. so...
don't try to be something you're not
lose it too an ugly girl so you understand the basics
browse /pol/ so you learn that don't give a fuck attitude that ladies love. (r9k is more of a bitter "leave me to die here" attitude)
also, depressed people are always funnier, try to be a witty charming, not a gross kinda humor.)
keep in mind that i don't know anything about women and am a virgin. But these might work, i just gotta try em out, right guys?