Fembots, have you ever been in an abusive relationships?
How long did it go on for?
Why did you let him abuse you?
Do you feel you can spot the warning signs of abuse easier now?
>Fembots, have you ever been in an abusive relationships?
Emotionally abusive yeah.
>How long did it go on for?
About half a year
>Why did you let him abuse you?
I found out too late that he was just using me for sex
>Do you feel you can spot the warning signs of abuse easier now?
Yes. Don't date guys who care more about their muscles than you.
Yes, about 3 years. If I didn't let him, I'd be homeless. He stopped a few years ago. I am still with him, I am just very careful not to make him angry. I know the warning signs and all.
Wasn't pussy abuse either, worst thing that happened to me was a severe concussion from him slamming my head on the floor. He'd force me into restraint positions like pic related for hours at a time. It was extremely painful.
No, he doesn't have children. He did cheat on me once early on, and he started being abusive during the time he was cheating on me. The other girl was aware of me, but was very young and didn't know any better. I don't hold the blame on her and she contacted me personally about a year ago out of the blue to see if I was alright. Nice girl. Glad she ended up in a better situation.
this shit right here is why roasties can't be robots.
I like having a roof over my head, anon. Women's shelters can only promise a roof for about 6-8 months, then I'd be homeless. It's also not so bad when he's not hurting me, and I haven't suffered an injury in years, thankfully. I know there's always the possibility of it happening again, but things aren't so bad now, as is. This kind of thinking is hard to understand from the POV of someone who hasn't experienced it.
the thing about "warning signs" is that some people really do present themselves well. Their friends and family members are sometimes shocked to find out they're abusers. Sometimes there are no "warning signs" because the abuser is careful to make the victim look "crazy" by causing them to have seemingly over-the-top emotional reactions to things. Except the reactions aren't over-the-top because the victim has been conditioned to live in fear and they know that subtle cues may be cause for concern.
She threw him away becuase he throw something mabey if the whore didnt always run to her momy like a bitch i people wouldent dream of slitting that sluts thote and cumming down her neck..with love
to all whores bwahaha
>i was emotionally abused
>because he used me as a cumrag
>so no emotions involved
>i dated a chad btw
Really not sure why I've never been in one desu....
How would you feel if I
ripped your dick off and shoved it up your own ass?
>women would rather get beaten to within an inch of their lives frequently than get a job
And people take this gender seriously
I work, but it's not enough to survive on. All family is dead.
I do have brain damage at this point, cut me a little slack.
I can't drive and don't leave the house. I am isolated from other people. I do work, but last year I only earned 12k.
27. Was 23 or so when the abuse started 2 years into the relationship. Was very isolated at the time, so there wasn't anyone to turn to. I went to the police a few times, but they weren't a huge amount of help, and could not promise me that I would be kept safe if I pressed charges, so I chose not to.
it does, but that's not why i asked. i've read about rape victims consciously reenacting the rape and even purposefully inserting themselves into danger in hopes of being raped. it's like coping mechanism, but a bit deeper than that. i'm wondering if anything similar happens to people subjected to domestic abuse.
I can vomit almost on command without sticking anything into my throat or mouth, but I need like 10-15 seconds for it. If you have a good control over your abdominal muscles you can sort of squeeze your stomach and make the contents jump up.
I swear I'm not bulimic.
It sounds mean, but if I ever found out a girl I was interested in was once in an abusive relationship, I would avoid her.
If she stayed with a guy who slapped her around, she probably had or has developed a twisted view of masculinity. She probably wouldn't see me as a "real man" for my non-violence and would inevitably dump or cheat on me.
That's on top of being overly passive and easily manipulated, thus increasing the chances on me being cheated on, or her taking advantage of me for my beta bux.
I'm pretty sure a lot of guys would agree, so don't get mad, roasties.
I'm not one of those. I have had PTSD episodes where I'm basically catatonic, and was once beaten during one of those. Wasn't able to move, much less defend myself, and some of my organs were bruised pretty badly that time. He doesn't believe PTSD is real. Now if I feel one coming on (derealization happens first, usually), I get in the shower and turn on the water and lie down until it passes. This seems to work best for everyone.
I have consciously modified my behavior to avoid danger, and it seems to work fairly well, like I said. I was never beaten for no reason, it was always because I did something wrong, usually something like neglected a chore or overlooked something I should have paid attention to. Thankfully, hypervigiliance develops over time as a response to things like this, and I am very careful now. The only negative is my resting heart rate is about 120 as a result of constant stress, which is considered very high.
I was never beaten for no reason,
>Yes you were. Abuse men abuse because they can and they use even 'cooked my eggies wrong' as an excuse. Read 'Why does he do that', it's a book written by a man that spent 20+ years working with abusive men. When you're done there: 'The gift of fear'.
it was always because I did something wrong
>Nothing you could ever do will make him stop treating you the way he is. It is a matter of time until he next feels like pounding you into the ground. When, not if.
I have read all the literature, thank you for trying to help, but I have resigned myself to this life. I am not terribly unhappy, despite what you'd expect, just stressed. I know someday, he might kill me.
>I have resigned myself to this life. I am not terribly unhappy, despite what you'd expect, just stressed. I know someday, he might kill me.
you're a fucking idiot and don't deserve anyone's pity or help. it would be a waste a time and resources. if he does kill you,nothing will be lost.
I kind of understand this anon's reaction. Part of me feels angry with abused women.
Like you feel the same way when you see a man getting abused or some kid getting bullied.
Part of you feels sorry for them, but another part fills you with disgust, because of their spinelessness.
I understand this reaction, and like I said, it's a very difficult thing to empathize with.
I was homeless before, will not risk it again. What you are describing is very frightening, something I fear more than death. And like i said before, if i leave, the police will not promise my safety. He has said before if I leave, he will find a way to kill me, and I am sure it is true.
BTW, guys, he woke up. Sorry.
would you ever cheat on him? out of spite? have you eve done anything out of spite? have you ever thought about killing him in his sleep? and most importantly, do you have any fetishes? i wonder what kind of stuff someone under constant emotional distress is into.
>BTW, guys, he woke up. Sorry.
>yfw this "fembot" is most likely being slapped around right now
ayo HOL UP. This is as retarded as cyber bullying is. EVERY woman does ''emotional abuse'' with their passive aggressive shit and victimizing themselves.
>Have you ever been in an abusive relationships?
>How long did it go on for?
>Why did you let him abuse you?
To victimize myself.
>Do you feel you can spot the warning signs of abuse easier now?
I realized ever since I met him that he was that kind of guy and I pushed all of his buttons.
this is abuse
this is not
You realize the entire police, the media, and the entire justice system is set up to default to your side, right? You could probably find some feminist to move in with by the end of today. Will you?
>gf says something stupid
>tell her she's an idiot
>''omg ur abusing me''
now I just ignore her when she's acting autistic
You probably had it coming. You saw the signs and chose to ignore because of dem tingles or you fooled yourself into believing you could "change him".
I have no sympathy for mistreated whores.
Do you robots think a man could be able to hit a woman in a lovingly way?
Like if you (the woman) has masochistic tendencies but want a man who loves her and doesn't hit her to ABUSE her, as in he doesn't do it due to uncontrollable anger and rage, but because they just both happen to feel good from it. (The idea of a man without self-discipline makes me drier than the Sahara desert, also I don't want to be frightened in a relationship)
Please see >>25963351
Though as you always can read, at least in my mind hitting someone doesn't always have to be abuse, like I said in my original post. But that's semantics I guess.
They can't resist the power of Chad, even when he's beating them.
He's pooping, I can post again for a bit, might leave suddenly.
This is the one thing anyone's said to me that actually made me feel a little.
I wouldn't ever cheat, I don't have it in me. Thought about killing him many times, though not lately. Sometimes when I drop things when making his meals, I don't rinse them off first and just serve them to him. I used to be more into rough sex and stuff before this, but now not so much.
I am sexually submissive (like most women) but the sex we have is very vanilla. I have been abused on one or two occasion for not performing sexually, either because I was frightened or depressed. Usually grabs my hair and forces me into uncomfortable positions. I rarely have bruising aside from my arms. No spanking, I am not a child.
I am safe.
He doesn't have friends outside of me and does not leave the house. Times when he is asleep or in the bathroom are the only times I am alone.
No, I won't. This is all I know at this point, and I am fearful of change. I don't want to give up the only thing I feel I can count on, as shaky as that is.
I try not to provoke him.
Sorry, it happens, not going to risk him seeing this.
It must be kind of a curse be try to be independent as a woman.
I can envision a man setting out on his own like a nomad, doing odd jobs for cash to eat, and scraping by on his own willpower, but with a woman, it seems more likely she'd be limited in the jobs she could do, due to less strength or people not taking her seriously, and would be preyed upon more.
>How long did it go on for?
One month while I looked for another place to live. But once I found it, I was out and cut off all contact
>Why did you let him abuse you?
I didn't want to antagonize him even more, figured get yelled at and dragged around was n't as bad as getting punched or kicked
>Do you feel you can spot the warning signs of abuse easier now?
Seeing how people express their anger is a very good tell.
I don't understand how anyone can stay in an abusive relationship. They aren't going to get better and they're just bringing all this misery onto themselves.
>tfw I've been in several abusive relationships
but I was the one doing the abusing tfw got therapy, medication and have been in a healthy relationship for two years now but I still feel like I am a horrible, terrible person for everything I've done
I kind of think he might have abused me but I don't know. I met my bf in a game and we're still long distance, but six months ago when I visited him for the first time and I was asleep in bed (his matress on the floor) he started stomping on me and broke some ribs. I woke up, he said he was just walking over the bed and accidentally stood on me because I was covered by the blanket but I distinctly remember at least five deliberate stomps and like he was jumping on me. The nurse at the hospital told me she didn't think it was likely that someone his size could have broken a rib by just stepping on me. Everything went back to perfectly normal after that. I stayed with him two more nights, we cried when I had to leave and we still talk everyday. I get scared though thinking about meeting up again. I know it probably wasn't an accident but I also don't like myself enough to even care.
I feel like a fucking idiot because we're mostly purely online but also I just don't want to be alone and I don't want to put the effort into starting another relationship. I'm mostly just kind of pissed off at myself for not getting it right the first time. I don't want to open up to another person, I don't want to cuddle with anyone else and tell anyone else I love them. I do like him still and we still have a lot of fun together anyway. Everything is kind of fine at the moment but I don't get that feeling of safety with him that I used to have.
Maybe not physical but currently in an emotionally abusive relationship. We're supposed to be and still are bf and gf but his ex lives with us and they openly cheat and act like it's fine and expect me to accept it.
Been going on for over two years. I knew pretty early on the relationship was over, but I go along with it because he works and pays for everything which is important for me as a full time student. I'd like to think I am able to better notice relationship problems now.
>I'd like to think I am able to better notice relationship problems now.
oh really? then tell me why you haven't left yet. sure it takes a while with getting a job and studying at the same time but you should just fucking leave.
Because I'd rather tough it out for the remainder till I graduate, than possibly fuck everything up by having to move out and find a job and a new place to live and everything.
It's lazier but safer.
I once had a guy slap me during an argument.
I'm anti-feminism and believe that men should be able to hit women in self defense of course, but when you hit your partner because of a disagreement it's not acceptable.
I punched him in the face immediately after (later found out I broke his nose) and then I shoved him out of my apartment.
Mailed all of his gaming things and clothing to his Mother's house and never spoke to him again despite him constantly contacting me and coming to my place.
Stop being weak cunts.
No, I have an abusive family member though, and my friend said my boyfriend was "abusive" but that's because she's an sjw and thinks threatening to hurt themselves and joking about rape is abuse
Also, as an addendum to this post I'd like to add that if you're in an abusive relationship that you have to stay in because you've let the guy pay for everything/support you, then you're a worthless whore anyway and deserve this.
Stand on your own two feet, don't combine finances with the people you're with, pay your own fucking rent, have an actual job (idc if you're in school, get your shit together), have your own savings.
You can't sit and complain about your situation when you're the one who put yourself there by being a lazy female with absolutely no responsibility or independence.
Like just please, whiteknights, keep in mind that every bitch in this thread is in the position they're in because they left home and instead of gaining independence they latched onto a man thinking they could leech off of him.
>tfw Stacy would rather be with abusive Chad than me
>wanting that disgusting slut Stacy
go away failed normie
I have an abusive relationship with my weeb GF. I routinely call her a whore and she takes. She stays with me because she has really low self-esteem and knows that she's used goods. She doesn't fight back when I call her a whore because she knows its true.
You wont believe this story.
Her previous "BF" was this 30 something guy she met on Minecraft who lived in Colorado who claimed to once be a navy SEAL and owned a pot grow op in CO. She actually visited this guy in CO and he visited her at her moms place where he actually proposed to her. He had a 5 year old kid apparently from a previous marriage but she didn't care because in her 20 year old mind she liked kids. Her dad fucking hated this guy but she wanted to be with the *bad boys*.
One day this guys disappears off the face of the earth shortly after proposing to her. My GF really loses it and her family actually hires a PI to find out what happened to this man. Then another girl contacts my gf asking for the whereabouts of this guys and it turns out he was married to him and she was pregnant with his kid! Not only that he was apparently "engaged" to several other girls too. Double this up he wasn't a navy SEAL (only his father was who shared the same first name) and didn't even own the farm he lived on in Colorado.
Apparently he was one of these guys that like get women impregnated and just disappears or tries to get them to give him money (my gf was studying to be a electrical engineer and some of the other girls were like in med school ect).
Anyway she was pretty broken after that and her family was pissed as hell for getting dragged through that (like the who the fuck dates someone on MC?). I remind her of that shit when she says she should leave me. That wasn't the first guy she dated that was abusive too either.
i don't really know if my relationship was abusive, it certainly wasn't physical. he was a schizo and pretty depressed as well. constantly on drugs, but would get incredibly upset if i smoked weed ever. several times sent me pictures of his blood or cuts, even once a noose he had tied himself. would get i was good friends with his mom (she was my teacher in 7th grade) and would get incredibly upset with me if i tried to talk to her about him, since i was worried he would kill himself. he was my first boyfriend, kiss, and i eventually had sex with him, though i felt incredibly pressured to be sexual with him. i stayed with him for about a year, mostly because i thought if i tried to leave he would kill himself.
I'd agree and say women perpetrate 90% of emotional abuse in the world through their passive agressive attitude.I'd say it's how they our by nature to try and extract your resources as quickly as possible with out giving up much
>To victimize myself.
You really didn't have to get into a relationship to get that if your a grill.
Feminism basically teaches grills there worthless trash and should feel bad about themselves and always be scared
>Sometimes when I drop things when making his meals, I don't rinse them off first and just serve them to him.
typical verbal abuse, gas-lighting, standard physical abuse like slapping, more severe stuff like choking, all the way up to stabbing and slashing with knives, permanently scarring, etc. lots and lots and lots of abuse masked as sex play too. it's absolutely incredible what you can get away with doing in the bedroom.
then there's the unconventional bullshit of them having to endure edgy, whiny, pathetic bullshit when they least expected it or wanted it. keeping them up all night when they needed rest the next day, encouraging bad habits, basically just being a horrible influence and an awful person. I feel sick just typing this, it really is disgusting and no matter how much good I do now I'll probably always feel like human garbage because of how I behaved when I was younger.
also everyone ITT who is insisting that women just want Chad to beat them up obviously has no fucking idea what they're talking about. women can be far more vicious and domineering than men, and a massive amount of domestic violence and abuse that goes unreported from shame and social stigma can be directly attributed to women being the abuser. it's a serious problem and it's only perpetuated by jackasses insisting that women aren't capable of doing anything more than bending over and taking it from Chad.
mostly it was me abusing them badly, then outright denying that anything had happened, or spinning the event so it seemed like they were the one at fault. I think the worst/best one was when a boyfriend of mine said something that really irritated me (can't remember what it was, this was years ago) and I snapped and jumped on him, pinned him to the ground and started to strangle him. There were three other people in the room, and they all tried to pry me off of him, but I wouldn't let go. Eventually they got me off. He had no marks on his neck, and everyone was preoccupied at the time, so anytime someone brought the incident up I deflected it or insisted that I didn't do anything and he was the one that antagonized me. A couple weeks after even the guy that I strangled doubted if it happened or not and apologized to me.
There were also all the countless times that I tortured or abused someone sexually and convinced them that it was their idea, and that they were making me uncomfortable and pushing me to do more in the bedroom than I was comfortable with, which always made them shut down and go into full damage-control mode, apologizing and promising to do whatever I wanted the next time we had sex. as you could imagine, it would snowball.
Y'know, I hate girls like you. I really, truly despise your kind. Because this exact thing has happened to me. I had just gotten laid off almost 24 hours after finding out my sister had died in a DUI accident. So yeah, I was angry. I was beyond pissed. As soon as I got home, I picked up a blender and chucked across the room crying in rage. Gf of two years saw the break down, and what did she do? Dumped me. She didn't hold me and help me through, no, she thought I was a threat to her and fucking left me the next week. Fuck your kind. Guys have emotions too cunt, we can't always be doting over you and buying you shit.
That's amazing. Although it sounds like they were just pretty daft rather than you being good at it. I've had similar things done to me but I sort of knew what was going on, even though I could never "prove" it or come out on top of it, since girls like that are experts at manipulation.
yeah, it doesn't sound as impressive when I'm downplaying and summarizing everything. some of these guys were in the intelligence community, engineers, typically had a decent amount of self-awareness. they were just complete suckers when it came to interacting with women, or I was better at manipulating them than I thought. it didn't take a lot of conscious effort, at any rate. sometimes I'd catch myself fucking with them without even trying, just doing it because I liked it. I don't know. It's terrible.
It's not terrible. I think it's cool. And I don't think you really feel bad about it anyway, so I don't know why you would say that.
If you have any more stories I'd love to hear them, or if you could describe the guys further.
>I feel sick just typing this, it really is disgusting and no matter how much good I do now I'll probably always feel like human garbage because of how I behaved when I was younger.
Please tell me more about this guilt and how it came to be.
yeah. awfully cliche, I know. I had major emotional instability and other issues and the consistent feeling of power and control that it gave me was too appealing to pass up.
I do feel bad about it, if only because looking back on it reminds me of a very bad time in my life when my behavior was worse than a child throwing a tantrum.
>If you have any more stories I'd love to hear them, or if you could describe the guys further.
the first guy was a software developer, he worked mostly on video games (this was before the indie game craze so he was pretty marginalized and not taken seriously by his peers). he lived with his parents when I met him, and moved out by the time I left him. he was very soft-spoken and eager to please, so I easily talked him into doing anything that I wanted. I was still living with my parents at the time as well, so I mostly used him to get out of the house and away from them. he was a devout christian as well- I think the worst thing that I did to him was convinced him to break into a church after hours and have sex in a confessional booth. I wasn't even into exhibitionism or anything religious, it was way more about pushing him to do something he was completely against doing.
he was nearly in tears the entire time
I could type stories for days anon. in short, from the ages of 14-21 I was a complete and utter asshole to every single person that came into my life. I did a lot of very violent and fucked up things, and because I have a conscience it bothers me to no fucking end now that I am living a decent life.
>have you ever been in an abusive relationships?
i guess, thats what other people call it
>How long did it go on for?
a long time but the last two years were the worst
>Why did you let him abuse you?
low self esteem, a shitty belief in the concept of "the one" which made me inclined to stay w/ him because he was the first person i'd cared for, him telling me i would be alone forever if i left and that i couldn't do better and that i needed him, being told i was too ugly and fat etc
but mostly the fact that he spent a lot of money on me (i didnt ask for things, he would just buy them because that's what bpd people do) and would always guilt me about it when we were fighting. he would throw it in my face like "look at all i've done for you". honestly even being out of the relationship, almost every day or every other day i have a mini-guilt trip over it because it makes me feel like such a shitty person.
its not like i stayed for the stuff. i didn't need most of it, and most of it went unused. i didnt ask for him to buy me things or ever spend money. it was his way of making himself feel better. for ex, i once cried when he bought me a new wallet because i really did not want it and felt bad about him spending yet again more money on me. i knew every time he would throw it in my face that he had done "so much for me". when he cheated on me the second time he said the same thing, like "oh, look at all i've done for you" even though i never asked for anything but loyalty. i don't need shit and before him i was a minimalist with very few personal belongings anyway.
i guess tl;dr he's the one that fucked underaged girls and cheated on me multiple times but i'm the one that left feeling like a terrible person
>Do you feel you can spot the warning signs of abuse easier now?
maybe a little. if i see anything that reminds me of my ex i just cut that person out of my life on first chance. which meant being friendless/etc for a long time. perhaps its not the best way of doing things but i dont feel like taking chances.
you don't really see the warning signs until you're too far into the situation. it's akin to a frog in boiling water and you're raising the temperature slowly.
i mean, whatever. i made do with the fact that he broke me a long time ago. at least i don't fuck kids and spend my days begging little girls to show me their snatch, which is basically how i measure quality-of-life these days. in terms of that, i'm doing pretty good.
>but mostly the fact that he spent a lot of money on me (i didnt ask for things, he would just buy them because that's what bpd people do) and would always guilt me about it when we were fighting. he would throw it in my face like "look at all i've done for you
This is interesting, I hadn't heard this bit before. I guess it explains why my ex wanted to give me money all the time.
yeah I mean it is really hard to explain to people how it worked. but like. he spent A LOT of money on me. a lot of spontaneous gifts (that i don't even use/wear anymore because they trigger me), a lot of furniture (that makes my apartment unliveable desu because it gives me depression just being around all that stuff), etc.
a friend of mine really told me, like, he did all of that because he wanted me to be left haunted by all that stuff. he did a good job at that.
the worst part of it all is that i still feel like shit for leaving. i feel like a cruel person for leaving someone that "did so much for me" (his word, not mine). i still sorta get triggered when i remember. it is a very good abuse tactic, imo. i felt REALLY guilty a lot of the time.
i mean, he wasn't even happy w/ me, i wanted a monogamous faithful partner and he was busy chasing underaged skirts, you know? he just wanted to keep me around as a punching bag and thought he could do it with money. top kek because i always felt suffocated by all the shit anyway.
people giving me things/money really makes me feel awful now, and i feel really odd spending money on people because i don't want them to think the same things about me. yeah, bretty fucked up m8
>Does it make you want to kill yourself?
I'm not the suicidal type, but it does make me feel pretty awful.
I know, but getting paid to do it and being with people who want it takes most of the joy and power-trip out of it. It's like, why would you have sex with a hooker if you could have sex with someone who cares about you for free instead?
>the worst part of it all is that i still feel like shit for leaving. i feel like a cruel person for leaving someone that "did so much for me" (his word, not mine).
Yes I understand perfectly, my ex always made me feel like I was the one hurting her. Somehow. Fucking evil magic. I guess it's just that they have no conscience at all and normal humans do.
Why do they complain after the deeds when they literally went for the abusive chad for the very reason the chad was abusive in the first place?
>fucking evil magic
it's called borderline personality disorder
yeah imo to cheat on someone you have to be sociopathic and to fuck kids you gotta be sociopathic, so he was like sociopathic^2
>it's called borderline personality disorder
I know that. It still blows my mind how powerful they are, though. In my opinion, people with BPD can't be considered human. And I consider it my duty to hurt them as much as possible in hopes of driving them to suicide, thus doing the world a favor. They are evil demons that must be purged. Really, the way they behave is literally inhuman.
I still love her, though.
Yo 5 Head. Stupid ass forehead cunt.
Bitches take everything in stride because they're shit and tricks. It's nice breaking a worthless cumslut whore and hearing her scream as she cums.
It's funner than my pimping days.
>Implying there's anything wrong with him
God made you an assbaby Swami. It's just Darwinism to take the the worthless out.
>Mfw when he's doing gods work
yeah they genuinely are pretty soulless. it still boggles my mind how i ended up feeling like the bad guy compared to someone that was literally fucking girlchildren. i think what adds to it is the fact that EVERYONE in my life doesn't understand why i'm so hurt by this??? like i told my mom and she was like "uh.. okay, anyway... (offtopic conversation)".
when i'd found out it was probably the worst couple months of my life, and my mental illness only got worse after a while of dwelling on it. but no one else seems to as grossed out by it. like fucking 15 year olds when you are 28 is totally cool, especially when you're in a relationship? i hate this planet desu it only encourages borderlines
I just remember all of the stupid shit than teenage-me was pressured into doing (that i'm greatly ashamed of, even worse having it to explain it to people i care about) and all of the cheating and lying and being forced to believe i was fat/ugly/lazy/stupid. but yeah, i'm the bad guy. kek.
>I still love her, though.
I don't and you shouldn't either. I believe it isn't actually living being attached to a sociopath. You're basically just going through life as a shell. One day you'll live again though. You'll let go. :-)
You're sort of lucky in that he was an objectively terrible person, since he was a pedophile and stuff. I still have various doubts and regrets and guilt because I cannot condemn her completely.
Still better than your stanky ass. HE LEFT YOU CAUSE YOU HAVE A BIG ASS FOREHEAD.
And yet you come back. You frequent a site with mostly males that would ALL fuck a 15 year old without question. I wonder why your drawn here. Something to think about. Look into the depths of your soul. Why are you doing this?
>ita called bpd
Whether or not someone is a shitty person is up to them, not their disorder. Nothing in the diagnostic criteria for Bpd entails "being an abusive bf". If you also suffer from mental illness, I'd think you wouldn't be so closeminded about such things.
pedophilia doesnt make a person objectively evil. for example i think he was a pedophile and evil, but the majority of people i know - my mom, his mom, 90% of my friends, most of this board, most of the internet think it is perfectly natural for a 28 year old male to pursue women as young as 13, so i'm the bad guy.
but at the end of the day i give literally ZERO fucks about whether or not im the bad guy. i'll be the baddest motherfucker around if it means not having to be a pathetic cuck anymore.
i've been all over the internet and my options for casual online communities are very limited
far more pedophiles than this website, literally 99% of the userbase is pro-pedophilia activists
far more pedophiles than this website, literally half of the userbase are fucking little girls and the other half is pretending to, plus fuck trannies tbqh
i guess parts of the community that stemmed off from here are pretty anti, but cripplechan allowing pedos to spam their dumb cp on the website have turned it into a cp haven shithole
this is as good as it gets.
i mean there is the possibility that every man i meet for the rest of my life will want to fuck a teenage girl. even my best friend ever dated a 16 year old at 23. so i mean, i'm fucked in that regard. but unfortunately i'm a heterosexual woman so i just sorta gotta cope with it the best i can, you know?
Stop posting or I'll feel sorry for you.
>he wanted me to be left haunted by all that stuff
You're delusional. He kept buying you shit because he cared and wanted to make you happy in his own way. Nobody buys things just to "haunt" you, it's completely moronic and it defies logic.
These types of women make me sick. Maybe instead of being a little bitch with zero self respect you fucking make something of yourself, instead of just clinging to the nearest man with muscles on his body.
>spending more time at the gym than with you = abuse
what are you, 14?
Back again, went to sleep now he's up and outside shoveling.
Exactly, in my situation, I'd rather have the devil I know than risk having things be worse.
It's like you want me to get beaten.
Mine's been alright for the last few years after the "transition to adulthood" was more complete, plus he got off a medication that made him noticeably more aggressive.
>er the bed and accidentally stood on me because I was covered by the blanket but I distinctly remember at least five deliberate stomps and like he was jumping on me. The nurse at the hospital told me she didn't think it was likely that someone his size could have broken a rib by just stepping on me. Everything went back to perfectly normal after that. I stayed with him two more nights, we cried when I had to leave and we still talk everyday. I get scared though thinking about meeting up again. I know it probably wasn't an accident but I also don't like myself enough to even care.
I really think this is a huge risk. With the antisocial behaviors of guys on here, it is likely they'd subject me to worse abuse than I previously encountered, especially knowing that they're likely to get away with it. My fiance is not so far off from men on here, as is.
What do you think a concussion is?
I really don't like touching people and am an anxious person. I am not outgoing and I don't think I could handle sleeping with random men for a place to live, the idea fills me with fear.
It feels more significant than it sounds.
I didn't work when the abuse started, lost my job due to a temporary disability, so the financial dependence and guilt was also a big factor for me. I have my own job now, and earn a small income, but it's not enough to be on my own still, but I continue to work hard. I think once I have enough money, I'll be able to leave if things get bad again.
Mine did this, but he actually has avoidant personality disorder, dependant subtype. Most of the time he hurt me was because he was afraid I'd leave and he was physically preventing me from leaving the house for one reason or another.
Mine's out shoveling snow as a kindness to our elderly neighbors. Being abusive doesn't mean he's Satan, it just means that he has a lot of issues with anger. He's usually quite sweet.
Whoops, didn't mean to quote that section, should have read over my post before posting. Sorry about that. That story was weird and shitty.I don't know why you'd stay if the abuse started happening immediately after you started dating, even mine started like... 2 years in. That girl has to be very seriously mentally ill.
>post yfw you are a male and can buy those roastie whores and abuse them
I'm actually pretty sure most abusers are more like this guy: >>25973895
Just some angry robot. Chad has other things going on in his life. My abuser is very insecure and all he has is me. I very much doubt he would have done this.
I'm back now.
I'm okay, not as quick thinking as I used to be mentally, but still very functional.
By the time I realized it was all shit, I was stuck. Id moved to an expensive city with him, during a housing crisis no less. I was living on NEETbux, couldnt afford my own place. I had to search for 8 months to find the place im staying now.
I don't think I'm any good at recognizing abusive behaviors, not when theyre subtle at first. Thats why I get into these situations, this wasn't the first time. I have a vulnerability to me that damaged people like to take advantage of. That's I've decided to be single for a while and focus on school.
Yeah, sorry I just had to make a mandatory funny comment on the internet. I'm sorry that he broke you inside, you have the potential to be great human being. But he(and partially you) robbed yourself of that. Godspeed fem anon, I hope your life gets marginally better desu.
>How long did it go on for?
We dated for almost 4 years, but he only became abusive in the last year or so when we started living together.
>Why did you let him abuse you?
We met when I was 15 over r9k, he was 19. I hadn't had any long term relationships prior to that so it was hard to gauge whether it was abuse or not. He didn't physically abuse me, but I wasn't allowed a social life or friends once I started uni and he'd get drunk and break things, cry, yell at me if I tried.
I didn't have any friends in high school.
>Do you feel you can spot the warning signs of abuse easier now?
Yeah I guess. I think I'm more paranoid about it in general though so maybe not.
Like I said, it's not terrible. I live in relative comfort, for the most part. Arguments are horrible, but I try to diffuse them as much as possible and apologize often, no matter what the cause. As long as I can show him I'm willing to take the blame for anything, I don't typically get hurt.
I've never been afraid of death. I am afraid to get old. Maybe that's part of it.
Even though it isn't terrible could you see you whole life like this. 10, 15, 30 more years of abuse? Perpetual fear? You aren't afraid of death because you're jaded, it's because you really died long ago. You're only afraid of aging because you know the older you get the harder it will be for there to even be a possibility of escape. You seem to be living in a real world limbo, a mediocre plane of never ending torment. Each day the same as the last. An Orwellian hellscape, god, I'd rather be thrashing in the depths of hell. At least I'd feel something.
>He comes out of the bathroom
>Sees her on her phone, hastily typing out a reply
>Creeps behind her, you can hear the WWE announcers
>"Chad BF is slithering in! WATCH OUT, WATCH OUT!"
>Chad RKO's her, you can hear her rib snapping against the wood floor
>He simply snuggles back under the covers while she painstakingly punches 911
>"I accidentally fell and snapped 3 ribs, can you just send over an ambulance. NO POLICE please."
Thank you, I hope so too.
Sorry but you're retarded. Borderlines are infinitely powerful because they have no conscience and can sever attachments at the flick of a switch. If you do anything to cross them, you will be literally erased from their mind and their heart. They will not care, they will simply leave and never think of you again, whereas you, a normal person, will keep thinking of them for a long time afterwards. This is why they are always in charge and you can never beat them. They don't need you, but you need them. It's inhuman how easy it is for them to move on like that, in a matter of seconds or less.
Kinda yea. He's gone to anger management and I'm still with him though.
He used to have terrible anger problems with everyone not just me because he was going through a rough spot in life.
He's only hit me once. He punched me in the face because I was packing my bags and was going to leave. He locked me out of the house at night and I ended up punching through the glass door to get back in.
I kinda went crazy that night and he has never hurt me again and is working on his problems and things in his life have gotten better.
Yeah, I guess my roastie friend. I hope that its not worse than you make it out to be, good luck. I'm glad you found my other post funny.
I don't really want advice, and telling me I'm a worthless whore just reinforces the abuse by saying "you deserve nothing better". There's no reason to respond to a post like this.
Thanks, anon. And thanks for the laugh, I don't laugh nearly as much as I used to, so this is precious to me.
>I really think this is a huge risk. With the antisocial behaviors of guys on here, it is likely they'd subject me to worse abuse than I previously encountered, especially knowing that they're likely to get away with it. My fiance is not so far off from men on here, as is.
This is deeply, deeply insulting.
You're like a boiled frog, you don't know how bad you have it.
you don't "put up" with it. you feel too guilty/brainwashed into not leaving.
i was literally told the following:
>you are too ugly and once i go you will be alone for the rest of your life, you will never have real friends and find a guy who won't cheat on you, tl;dr you're worthless
how is one to leave that?
this thread made me feel 100x times better about being a khv. at least no guy will ever be able to do this to me
Just look how many men here have said they want to find a woman just to abuse her. At least my guy didn't go into the relationship with me with that desire, it's more something that ended up happening in a fit of rage.
If you don't believe a good number of people here would do the same or worse, you're as delusional as I am.
let me put it this way: i genuinely believed him, and to some extent still do
that im gonna be alone, die alone, never have anyone 'real' in my life, will be cucked for the rest of my life, that i'm too fat, ugly, lazy, stupid, etc
im not borderline you stupid fucking shit
i have zero actual bpd-like symptoms beyond fleas.
typical abuser calling randomass ppl bpd. just like my ex convinced me i was bpd after i got cheated on by him + a fuckingh 16 yo whore - i was the one who went to therapy for being "bpd" - and the therapist quickly shoved off and attempted to help me leave him
You've said before in other threads that you thought you were, a couple weeks ago, in fact. I've seen you mention it several times. Your extreme reaction only reinforces my point.
literally have been to like 4 therapists since then, none have pinpointed me as bpd and i haven't meme-diagnosed myself in ages.
YBF was touting around the fact that I was BPD sometime last month before I started talking about my /actual/ borderline ex.
anyway this is stupid and dumb, if you care to know, i suspect that i'm bipolar (because i do get out of my depressive nature every once in a while and have a productive day) but my 3rd therapist did tell me i had ptsd (i mean, no young woman should see herself being cucked with girls 10 years younger, you know?)
i dont know. i mean he genuinely convinced me that looks are the only thing that matters and that i was ugly and needed to lose weight.
i mean he told me he prefered me how i was when i was 13, not even kidding. like i'm not exaggerating. i had only gained maybe 2 kg but my hips had gotten broader. he wanted me to look like idk, some fucking anorexic camwhwores he was constantly obsessing over. anyway it pretty much convinced me because i worshipped his opinion and thought it was correct. it was hard to get out of that mindset
>currently in a relationship with someone who seems genuinely depressed by the thought of me becoming skelly
its bullshit and not all men buy into that whole /mustbedoubledigits/ meme, however i did not know that at the time so it was soooooo hard to leave because i thought oh god, who would cope with me being this fat/ugly?
as someone with bipolar and PTSD
I can say with 100% certainty that you do not have it
if you are given a diagnosis by 1/4 therapists it is not accurate, they are hearing different symptoms from you that you haven't told the others, or they are unfamiliar with modern definitions of the disorder. likely a combination of the three.
I have seen a lot of your posts and it is far more likely that you have a personality disorder, given the underlying dysfunction that surrounds your behavior. it is pervasive, it is recurring, there is no way to describe it other than being a part of your personality.
having lifts in your mood is not fucking bipolar disorder
having a negative experience does not fucking mean that you have PTSD.
you claim that you haven't self-diagnosed yourself yet you do just that in the same post
personality disorders are memes and my /r9k/ personality is like literallY SO far removed from my actual real person, its all i ever hear when i talk to people off this website
im only self diagnosing because u asked me to, famalam.
>I worshipped his opinion
Did he manage to convince you that his opinion was correct on literally every little thing and make you feel somewhat slow and dumber than him? Also, how did you actually get out of that mindset?
I had actually said something similar to my ex. I met her when she was 16, and I said to her when she was 17 that she looked absolutely adorable in one of her pictures, cuter than when I said it. I wasn't lying it was true.
I also prefer bigger girls. Wide hips, thick thighs, oh my fucking god hnnnnngggggg
it was different, he wasn't talking about a specific picture
yes to the first question
i haven't 100% gotten out of the mindset that i'm fat, ugly and cuckable but i stopped wanting to hear his bullshit after he cheated on me the very last time. i dont know what happened but something in me sort of just cracked and i said enough was enough, but it was a very angry ragefilled time.
>I was homeless before, will not risk it again. What you are describing is very frightening, something I fear more than death.
I laughed. Being homeless for women is easy-tier.
Tons of women-only shelters exist. Fuck, men would pay them just to be a live-in chef, even if they were shit.
Oh wait you're a troll.
I wasn't the person who asked you originally, I'm sure they gave up and left.
Personality disorders are not memes, they are rarer than tumblr would have you believe but they are not memes.
Women's shelters don't have the resources to house for more than a few months. I don't really want to prostitute myself, either, especially with the PTSD issues I have, and all the things you suggest open me up to being in even more danger, so I think it's you that's the troll.
I'm actually a really good cook, believe it or not.
Last time I was homeless, I ended up sleeping in parks in the cold, got frostbite on my ears, toes, fingertips. Not enjoyable. You can't rely on the kindness of strangers for anything other than maybe a small handout.
Also, like I said, I didn't have anything before this guy. Who do you think got me off the street?
>Women's shelters don't have the resources to house for more than a few months.
You're a battered woman, they'd pay for your treatment, along with vocational training.
You have to actively try to be a lazy piece of shit.
>I'm actually a really good cook, believe it or not.
How about putting that skill to use?
>and all the things you suggest open me up to being in even more danger
Yeah, living with the abusive fuckwit is certainly less dangerous than rooming with an ineffectual beta while you cook for him.
Oh wait, keep forgetting you're a troll.
>was kicked out of my military housing, given 15 minutes to pack then given a police escort
>illegal for me to go back and get the rest of my things or try to sleep there ever again
>panicked for about ten minutes, then got my shit together
>got on my laptop in a coffee shop, found an available room within four hours
>explained my situation (sort of) to the woman who had the room available, she let me crash for free that night and I signed papers to move in the very next day
>while I stayed there, made a major effort to find a better living situation, found one within a month
>didn't spend a single night in so much as a hostel
>just from using resources at EVERYONE'S disposal and taking advantage of people trusting my gender
You are garbage
and you deserve to be in your current situation
The posters in this thread are largely traps/trannies or trolls.
Don't take what they post seriously.
They're on every board and the mods usually ban them, but the mods here are just exceptionally retarded so they thrive on attention and outrage.
I own a desktop computer, no laptop, no smartphone, and live in a small, isolated community. Also, see this: >>25961463. Last time I tried to leave, he was released from jail the same day and ended up back at the house before I was even able to finish packing. I had visible injuries at that point. I have none now. I have no case against him, and would not receive police protection, especially considering I couldn't even count on them for my safety then. And I really just... don't have the energy to leave. Things haven't been bad in so long, maybe it'll just be okay forever. Maybe the bad stuff's just... over? I don't know. I've been in this relationship 6-7 years now, and only years 3-4 were bad. As long as I don't try to leave the house, he doesn't hurt me.