It's really hard to measure. I mean sure, you have positive memories, which is something the former doesn't have, but it's hard to determine whether they outshine all the horrible memories too. One could say that love is like a drug, and withdrawals are definitely worse than just not doing the drug in the first place.
>>25910338 As someone who has lost, I'd say its better to have never had.
Before I knew those feelings of being in a relationship, it didn't hurt me at all for not knowing them. It was something I could never relate to and it didn't phase me because I had no reference at all.
Losing them lets you know the pain of not having someone. There are nice memories, but I'd say the painful gap outweighs the happy memories.
In every relationship I've had the love has faded very quickly. "Loss" was never hard. After going through this a few times I can't find the determination to find love again. You have to come to these conclusions yourself though. We don't all feel things the same. Some of us aren't meant to love.
I dunno, 50/50. I think it depends on how emotionally resilient you are. It hurts so much to lose love. But, I feel like more of a human being having felt what it's like. Hope I get to experience that feeling again one day.
>>25911101 Noone can also take away from you the eternal pain. Nothing can help you. It will never be better. You will spend every moment when you're not distracted by something wishing you could forget.
>>25911161 You might be right from evolutionary perspective, but in reality it's really not. You can masturbate any time you want, you can even have sex any time you want if you have at least some money. You can fuck drunk girls at parties and what not. It's shallow pleasure that feels good for a few moments, but it will never fulfill you. You could just as well just get drunk, do drugs or play video games. Love is something else entirely and can exist without sex (although most people just choose to fuck because why not right?). Love fulfills you, makes you happy, not just for a few minutes, but potentially for ever. It helps your depression, it makes you a better person, it fixes you. The thought that someone actually cares about you, and you have someone to care about. The fact that you will never be alone in your life, that you will never have to deal with things alone. This is the most important part, not sticking your dick into a hole.
this is a good question without a definite answer. i think even before i had gfs i was lonely. but after having had love and being someone who values romantic love very highly(it literally is one of the best feelings, better than heroin) it is very painful to not have it and to have what could be the most compatible girl ive ever known out of my life never to return.
but then again having been in a relationship and had love makes socializing easier with both sexes. you feel awkward and left out if you have never had relationships you cant talk about it with others. having been in relationships also make the next relationship a little easier to find and maintain, although i have terrible fucking luck no matter what.
if i had never had any gfs i think overall i would be more depressed now probably, but it would be a more generalized pain where as right now anything that triggers memories of my ex(which is pretty often) is a more acute pain.
>>25911600 It probably depends on your friends/group of people you are in contact with. I am the only one out of our group of 4 autistic friends who has had a gf and been in love. So I never felt pressured to have a relationship since it was normal for me that I didn't have one. I think I was happier before, I never really thought about real girlfriend, I just had waifus and was pretty happy that way. It only went to shit after that.
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