>>25900483 i recommend making troll accounts / cutegirl accounts. it's fun as long as you aren't malicious.
seeing things from the other side helps put things in perspective. these girls get like 100 messages within the first day. think about that.
also looking at guy profiles and stealing good descriptions is a good idea. some guys have extremely autistic profiles. don't be one of them. some guys legit seem like cool dudes to chat with / date. in a no homoway of course :^)
>>25900514 Ha, you should have responded with. Black guy here, >As good as my IQ tests >As good as swimming >As good as my career prospects >As bad as my sense for sarcasm >As good as an african invention >As good as an african economy >As good as an african philosopher/classical artist/artist in general/scientist/lawmaker >As negative as my sickle cell test >As negative as my HIV test >As good as my wit. To name a few.
>>25901195 reading the book mate: become the man women want by tucker max will also make things better. some of you will have no hope because you're just too damaged to recover and fix your life. but some of you are normie enough that if you get your shit together you will be able to escape the hellhole that is r9k
>>25901493 Cultivate social hobbies, make friends, leave your wank-cave of a bedroom to spend time in places where you like being, and generally try to live a fulfilling and interesting life.
Talking to a girl in real life is scary, messaging one online is not... why? This makes no sense.
You go through so much bullshit just to avoid this fear. You sacrifice all of the advantages you could have in real life and instead choose to reduce your entire personality (assuming you have one) down to photos and text, which only makes sense if you have no personality but you do have above-average looks (which most of us don't).
Your message will be just one of 50 that even the worst looking girl will receive in a given day, you could be the only guy to hit on a girl in real life for months. Which is going to make a bigger impression?
And you do all this bullshit... in order to try to arrange to meet girls in real life. So eventually you're going to have to talk to girls in real life. So why not just skip the hassle and talk to them in real life? If she's not single or she rejects you, then just move on, no big deal.
>>25902082 >all I ever got responses from were ugly fat chicks or trashy looking druggies
You just described 60% of a dating site's female userbase. The other 40% are single mothers with chad and tyrone's niglet crotchfruit dangling just out of shot in their deceptively-attractive profile picture.
Dating sites are the bottom of the barrel, you're not going to find any kind of quality women down there.
>>25900483 I suck at online dating. I'm only good at getting grils in person. Lol I swear no one ever replied to my messages. Once I bumped into someone who I sent a message to (of course she didn't reply) she was all over me that night.
I even got that "congrats you're hot" message from ok cupid a few days into creating the account.
>>25902231 There's fuckloads. The important thing is that you're actually interested in it. Try different things out and see if you like them.
Try some kind of sport, even something like fencing or archery if you're not keen on normie team sports.
Try to find a club for a hobby that you already have which is non-social. Even start with your shitty autistic faggot hobbies see if there's an anime club near you for example.
Even if your hobbies aren't normie-approved, it doesn't matter, you might feel more comfortable in those types of environments, and they might serve as gateways into other social opportunities and groups.
Maybe take classes, like a language course or woodworking or something. Even if you don't meet any friends on the course itself it might lead to some kind of club or group opportunity as mentioned above.
Even just leave your house and hang out in a cafe or something and read something that doesn't consist of whiny shitposts all day. Baby steps anon.
I quit again a few days ago. No fun trying to date as an obese male. I mean it's not that I didn't get anywhere. I actually had a few decent girls message me...but it always comes to nothing because the reality of being an ugly deformed guy is I have to try WAY harder than the average man to appear interesting. When girls are naturally drawn to beautiful, handsome men guys like me are still considered but ultimately need to prove themselves worthwhile.
I don't like to advertise myself. I don't initiate conversations anymore. It's really soul crushing to date as a fat man. Everything's uncomfortable. I'm better off just waiting until I'm a reasonable non-obese weight. I've lost 110lbs, still need to do another 90 before I look "normal".
It's ok I guess. I get responses pretty consistently but it never goes anywhere. I also severely hinder myself by only messaging asian girls, the most sought after girl on the site. But it's alright, a good response rate means I should do great in real life when I finally get the balls to try that.
I deleted tinder 5 minutes after downloading it cause my profile pic from facebook sucks and I cant take a more natural picture. I also realized that I couldnt bring a girl home. And I wouldnt even want to date randomly like that.
>>25902703 >What do I do next? Find a club that does that sport, call or email them and ask about lessons or how to start.
>>25902703 >How would I find an anime club near me >>25902804 >How do I find volunteer work? How do people find anything in this day and age?
You have the greatest information tool in the history of mankind, and more information available to you than all previous generations of humans combined, and you're posting on r9k asking to be spoonfed information.
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