Is it wrong to deny sex to my boyfriend because of sex triggering unpleasant memories, but at the same time not wanting him to have sex with other women?
My boyfriend has a low sex drive so it works out, but I still extremely jealous when other women start getting flirty with him knowing that one day he might cave into his primal desires if a woman were to open her legs for him. My boyfriend has always been supportive and understanding of why I won't have sex with him or anyone.
Do you like cuddling/ kissing?
Does it ever escalate into exciting stuff?
Also, you are depriving him of the thing that holds relationships together, he WILL leave your worthless self behind if you don't step up
Not even once. You bitches are too high maintenance for any sane man to deal with. If you have problems see a damn therapist instead of making someone else miserable like you.
Oh, to answer your question, yes it is wrong.
I don't mind kissing or cuddling, but I don't like groping or making out. Once it gets sexual or I feel his erection I become very uneasy. I really hate being touched from behind or having someone's arm wrap around me while walking out in public.
You're just doing the same to your current parnet right now.
You're going to damage him emotionally for neglecting him. And he is probably hiding his low sex drive to make you feel ok.
At least go to a therapy, it's like you dont even trust him but you're making him suffer for something somebody else did.
What am I doing the same to my partner? Same as what?
I'm not trying to purposely make him feel neglected. I tell him that he should feel bad for wanting sex and if I'm too much for him he can break up with me.
I don't want to go through therapy because I don't there being an official record out there that the government can see that I'm mentally unstable. I don't want to be denied a job because an employer finding out that I went through therapy to help me cope with some traumatic. I don't want a red flag letting people know that I'm mentally unstable and unreliable when it comes to work. Therapy is also very expensive from what I hear.
Yeah, you're beyond salvation.
If you truly loved him you would go to therapy, but you're a selfish cunt that doesn't want its life to improve.
Get the fuck out of here.
Only for a short term while you work on your issues.
There is nothing wrong with wanting intimacy in a relationship at some point, it is not entitlement, if there is no chance of this there is nothing stopping you ending the relationship. If your boyfriend doesn't want much intimacy, well, that's fine too.
However if he expects the relationship to develop to that point and you lead him on so he does boyfriend things for you, that is wrong, it is basically a lie. It is not wrong in the sense it should be illegal but it is wrong in the sense that life is short and you are wasting his time, time that could be spent finding happiness with someone else.