Does she like me or what? Need help here.
>talk everyday, sometimes on phone
>tell her we should meet up
>going to stay at hers over the weekend
>but it's not until easter holidays
>she lives 4 hours away by train
>after couple weeks we're talking about what we want to do at hers
>ask her this
Exactly this. Being such a bitch to her is going to wear thin fast. Just say to her straight up that it's a date, she's into you and that will only make you appear more manly/confident etc.
Dude, she wants to go out as more than just friends. (I.e. she wants to go on a date with you). Your questions made her think that it is YOU who doesn't want it to be more than just friends.
Anon you have a solid chance. Now it's all in development, could turn for both good and worse, depends on how you play it, I ussually find a "perferred behavior" which makes both sides feel good. It's all in how you adapt.
Godsperm- speed anon.
Be more confident, try flirting more, she definitely is open to it, hence why she says "if friends is all you want to be right now" she respects your feelings but she likes you :o lucky dude, I hope she turns out to be awesome, some of the guys around here need that
Opportunities like this do not come often, if you do fail it isn't your fault but you still have to try. FOR THE GOOD OF THE HORDE. you hear me dude? For the good of the horde! WE ALL SALUTE YOU COMRADE, BEST OF LUCK.
Another fellow /britizen/ here.
Just a tip that meeting up will be entirely different to talking to her online. I mean ENTIRELY different. So, if you're socially retarded - which you probably are - you better start praying to God that she's young enough to be inexperienced in the dating world.
Also, your level of online humour won't shine through the same either. This is why online-to-offline relationships can be risky, ESPECIALLY as a social retardee. Offline-to-online relationships are solid though, for obvious reasons.
Either way, go for it. Only way to get experience and hopefully become a man eventually, given a few years.
We've met in person before, she knows what I'm like. It's a weird complicated situation but webasically met at work, she was doing a 2 week placement, then had to go, I was ridiculously busy and didn't have the time to actually ask her out then but I think we instantly took a liking to each other and weve been in contact since.
That's alright then.
You need to shift the paradigm on your understanding on girls, however. A female giving a male attention out of her own will is either sexual attraction or the "friendzone", depending on how well you initially displayed (and continue to do so) your attraction towards her.
It's not a question of "Is she interested in me?". Girls never chase guys (excluding those with rare chad-like attributes). It's a case of "I'm interested in her, time for ME to chase HER" (and thus show your attraction to her).
To start with you need to be in "stage one", as in you need to have some sort of sex appeal - as minimal as it may be - in some form or another (confidence, face, height/body, dress-sense, ability to communicate well, leadership, humour, fun personality, etc). If you have one of these attributes, she's open to finding you sexually attractive.
Then you set the intention. Once an intention has being derived by her, you either go to "stage two" (the relationship zone) through successfully displaying your intimate needs towards her, or you bust (friendzone) through being too beta.