At what point did you realize that it's not that you're shy, but instead that you're stupid and have nothing to talk about?
How did you handle it?
Pretty early. Now I make up conversations in my head where I sound better and smarter than I could in real life. I usually go through the same ones over and over because I can't come up with original material.
I have lots to talk about from literally just fucking about online all day
no matter what the topic of conversation is I will have a funny story about how I read a reddit thread about a couple who broke up over it or whatever
About the same time that I forgot I suffered from social anxiety disorder.
I have things to talk about when I'm around people I'm familiar with which is around 13 people.
Around everyone else I have an impossible time acting like myself and I can never come up with anything to say.
I think it's just being objective. How would you express that in a positive light?
>Lots of women like quiet guys too
When they're attractive, and you'll seldom find an attractive guy that women won't like.
If it's truly negative thinking, you can express it in a positive way.
I continually cling to hope that this is me, but it's so hard to judge. I've got no one IRL that I'm comfortable around. Even before Uni, I wasn't really comfortable around my family because I never shared anything with them in shame.
>using "stupid" as an insult against people who willfully recognize their stupidity
But for what purpose.
Women find a quiet man to be cool and mysterious. They generally finding whining, crying little bitch-baby manchildren who find Linkin Park lyrics to describe their life to be unattractive though.
I think I misinterpreted you then.
As for >>25844045, it's more specific than that. It's for stupidity rooted in social inability.
You have no problem communicating with people so this thread isn't for you.
>parents say "Just get out of your shell!"
>tfw there's only a ghost in the shell
I have lots to talk about. It's that I don't care what you have to talk about. Most people outside of college are fucking retarded, narrow minded, and have lost the majority of their knowledge. It makes them boring. I realize you can't stay up on your mental game forever but shit. There are some dumb people on this planet.
>people ask me to explain my degree
>look at me like I'm speaking a foreign language when I do
Electrical engineering is not difficult. Come on.
>"Just act like yourself, anon!"
>"No, no, you're not like that! Act like your real self!"
You probably don't realize how much approval-seeking behaviour you exhibit when you think you're trying to "be yourself".
Having low self-esteem can fuck up your attempts to interact with others in the most insideous ways.