>I don't like [ingrained aspect of my personality] >"just

>i can't do anything about my behavior or feelings
>but somehow i can complain about it

>>25843219
Well, yeah.

You can't do anything about height but you can complain about it.

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>if you are unhappy with your life just change something in it bro!

Don't they understand; nothing works

>>25843970
Haha lol bro I did it, all you need is god tier facial aesthetics, lots of money, and a little hard work ;)

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>>25843121
>not just ungraining it

>>25843121
>It's the universe that should change

>>25844209
>change the unchangeable you fucking neckbeard loser!

>>25844286
Change your fedora

>>25844319
I don't own one tho

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>>25843121
Well I dont like the fucking fast ginger of infinite attacks and stuns, how do I change that?

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>>25844404
just ban her desu ne

>>25844404
the answer to this question is literally git gud

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>There are plenty of girls out there for you anon
>They all say this

I just wish they'd say you're an utterly average manlet and nobody would ever want to be with you.

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Just fucking change it retard.

>tfw i will never be stupid enough to forfeit responsibility over my own life

>people tell me for 23 years that I'm dirt and treat me like dirt
>I'm expected to just be able to change my entire way of thinking

MAYBE YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE TREATED ME LIKE DIRT AND I WOULDN'T BE SO FUCKED UP

>>25844851
Maybe the first thing you should change is the ease with which other people influence you, faggot.

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>>25844404

>Not just eating her

senpai pls

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>>25844804
I think I'd honestly prefer being actually retarded.

At least I wouldn't have to be aware of the pity it takes to pretend to have a conversation with me.

>>25844881
It's about 23 years too late for that one.

How can people say with a straight face that other people's opinions don't matter?

"Just don't care what others think". The fuck? What others think defines your entire life.

Honestly, it really pisses me off when people complain about themselves like they're complaining about a third person they have no control over.

>>25844909
They only matter insomuch as you allow them to matter. Your values and consciousness are firmly under your control.

Stop being a faggot.

>>25844909
The trick seems to be to realize that others think highly of you when you don't care much what others think. So if you care what other people think try looking like you don't care what they think.

>>25845031
>They only matter insomuch as you allow them to matter.
Nepotism is the only thing that matters in life. It's all about who you know, and how much they like you.

I'm not fucking Henry David Thoreau. I can't live in the woods and be self-reliant. I like companionship, I like intimacy. I like other people. They don't like me.

>>25843121
It's not hard, you weak-minded faggot.

>>25843121
>You just think too much anon!

All of you people who claim to be unable to change your ways deserve to stay this way.

Just kill yourself and rid the world of your worthlessness.

>>25845151
>I did it, you can do it! JUST FIX IT
>LE SHIA LABEOUF JUST DO IT

>>25845106
Obviously companionship and intimacy are going to feel good as we are social creatures. However, true happiness is always going to come from within. If you're not happy with yourself, then you're the only one who can fix it.

As for what matters in life, I would say that personally I think the things most important to me would be my own happiness, and my capability for rational thought. The latter of which is a large source of the former.

>>25845233
Then sit and wallow in self-pity, you pathetic fuck.

Free will is a myth and changing your personality is impossible, you can only change the situations you place yourself in which can alter how it is expressed.

>>25845300
Every single time.

>Just fix it loser
>But how?
>FINE YOU OBVIOUSLY DON'T WANNA FIX IT JUST BE MISERABLE

>>25845332
Figure it out yourself, faggot. I'm not here to solve your problems.

If you think I can help you, then you can help yourself. I'm no different.

>>25845433
>I'm not here to solve your problems.
Then why waste the time replying?

>>25845332
Go read The Wisdom of Life and then read about the Roman Stoics desu.

>>25845476
You really are a piece of shit that deserves to be miserable.

Millennium thread?
https://youtu.be/pXRviuL6vMY

>>25845521
Okay, thank you for the feedback.

>>25845521
What is with these angry faggots coming in here just to shit on this and then make laughable attempts at justifying it.

Like fucking kill yourself dude holy shit, if you're not a normie than you are worse than normies.

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>Just go for a run
>Just get some sunlight
>Just read books

>>25846730
but they're not wrong

>lose weight
>absorb vitamin d and happiness from sun-rays
>educate yourself and expand your vocabulary

>>25843121
Hitler was fucking autist but he trained himself to be the greatest public speaker of all time. You can change.

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>>25847148
>happiness from sun-rays

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>>25847204
>he hasn't enjoyed a lazy catnap half naked in the warm sunlight with a nice cool breeze keeping him /comfy/
fuckin fag I bet yuo like 2 suk dick

>>25847245
I haven't been comfy in years

>>25844909
>there are people who actually think like this
Your own opinions are all that matters. If you don't have enough self respect to hold yourself to high standards, to do things which would inherently make others like you because they are admirable, then that's just you being a faggot.
I lift, I dress well, and my personality makes about half of people hate me. But I do that shit for me, not for them.

>>25847283
But I don't want to be alone.

>>25847312
You won't be alone if you aren't insufferable. If your natural state is to be insufferable, then that just means you're a faggot. Change for your own satisfaction, and your self will become likable.

>>25847347
I don't believe this. I'm ugly. If you're ugly and doing your own thing, people just ignore you. If you're attractive and doing your own thing, THAT'S when you become alluring.

Looks and confidence work hand in hand, and I have neither.

>>25847312
I'm gonna let you in on a little secret anon. Something that is never taught and is really hushed up big time all over the world.

People only have authority because other people believe they do.
The Pope would be reduced to a schizophrenic lunatic in a funny hat if nobody in the world believed he was The Pope, The President would just be a jerkoff in a suit if nobody in the government respected the position of The President, and movie stars the world over would be merely pretty hobos if nobody believed that they were talented or beautiful or otherwise deserving of some merit.

You have the same authority to give authority that EVERYONE else in the world has. You merely believe that others are better than you, thus authorizing them to act better than you.

We're all just people man. Nothing to be afraid of, short of mean people burning your house down or killing you. Take it easy.

>>25847393
>>25847451 here
Say it with me anon:

I'M UGLY AND I'M PROUD
I'M UGLY AND I'M PROUD

I ' M
U G L Y
A N D
I ' M
P R O U D

>>25847451
>We're all just people man.
I hate when people say this. People rape, kill, bully, or just ruin people's lives if they really wanted to. Humans are fucked up

>>25847260
>I haven't been comfy in years

That's deep

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>>25847574
Why should I take pride in it?

Being ugly and confident does nothing. I'll still be alone.

>>25848234
you shouldn't take pride in it, that's normie advice

attractive people always win out over ugly people, that's just a fact of life. anyone who dates you will be settling and probably cheating on the side :)

>>25847875
>People rape, kill, bully, or just ruin people's lives if they really wanted to.
Of course people are fucked up. People wouldn't be people otherwise. Reality isn't some fantasy utopia where everything is perfect and everyone is a saint.

i'm getting pretty sick of normie advice on /r9k/

they always have the endpoint down, but when you ask how to get there, they lash out at you and get mad

>you have to self-actualize bro!
>well, how?
>JEEZ BRO YOU GOTTA FIGURE THAT OUT I WAS JUST TRYING TO HELP IF YOU'RE GONNA GIVE UP SO EASILY WHY AM I EVEN BOTHERING?

>>25849387
because thats the part that takes work and initiative on your own faggot, jfc

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>>25843121
There aren't many options.
>work on changing that aspect of your personality
>do nothing about it and find someone who won't care about that aspect

>>25849543
whose is thise fugly biatch ?!??

>>25849441
>>25849543
>work on changing your personality
WHAT DOES THAT M E A N

WHAT DOES THAT ENTAIL

I CAN'T JUST SNAP MY FINGERS AND BE DIFFERENT OR THINK DIFFERENTLY

>>25846730
Exercise and vitamin D are short-cuts to happiness. There's no abstract layer of fulfillment, or actualisation, or productivity, or any other psychological phenomenon. If you exercise enough, it makes you happy. If you get vitamin D, it improves your mood.

Might not always work for the truly depressed but it's worth a try, seriously.

Why do normalfaggots expect robots of all people to do things alone, when even they had help and support?

For confidence, might I suggest getting a superiority complex and artificially inflating it until you have a massive ego. If you truly think yourself above all others, their opinions won't be able to affect you.

>>25849685
Fuckin this. Anons please how do you solve this shit?

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>>25849689
this, tanning booth rules in winter times when there's no sun.

immediate mood increases for several days, can recommend this 100%.

but don't go too often, once per week on the weakest tanning bed will most likely be enough for most white users of 4chan I guess.

>>25849834
My skin is fucked up and hideous enough, I don't need some artificial light to char me up like a ham.

>>25849873
fucked up in what way?

>>25849910
Rosacea + acne scars

>>25843295
his point is that there is no point in complaining about it

>>25849815
Also, "going outside", "exercising", etc. do not work fix electrochemical imbalances caused by physical disorders, such as ADHD, or chemical depression. Specifically dopamine, which, when your body cannot regulate it well, you loose motivation and whatnot.

In these cases, stimulants are the best solution.

>>25849918
damn, dunno if it still helps you, but zinc was always bretty gud when it came to a betterment of my skin quality.

>>25849933
but meditation can. it really helps with nearly everything in life.

Still bretty hard to keep doing it regularly, even if you know about the real benefits

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>>25843121
>surely someone else can fix me so that i dont have to do squat
let me just brush you with this magic finger and fix all your problems
swish and flick

>>25851720
what's the point of saying "you need to just fix yourself" if you can't tell the person how

it's meaningless "advice" and it's a waste of everyone's time

you are the person you are waiting for

>Offer direct advice from personal experience
>LOL it werkd fer me bro itl week 4 U too
Fuck off. Normie shitcunt.

>Offer general advice based on how most people begin the self-improvement process
Empty fucking platitudes, did you read that straight off a motivational poster? You just don't fucking get it normies this shit DOESNT WORK FOR ME.

>Offer no advice regarding improving life quality but rather on the introspection process, thinking about what could be troubling and what could need work as a base point in life
>lol just fix it bro
>No actual advice
Why bother posting here at all? Fucking patronising normies, 'It werkd for me bro LOL'

>>25843121
>>25843295
dumb people like you shouldn't have access to internet connection

>>25849685
You literally can. Humans have the gift of rationality. Whenever you have thoughts that you'd like to correct, use your brain. Break it down with logic and tell yourself to fuck off. Humans are also creatures of habit and you will improve your mentality by doing this. Every time you worry about something out of your control, tell it to fuck off, every time you take something for granted, imagine not having it. Think about things in depth, their history or components.

Don't look for shortcuts for too long. There rarely are any.

"Fixing yourself" might take a year.
It might very well take more.
Take your time, just don't waste it on looking for shortcuts every time you want to fix it.

>>25843121
You got more images of wind? :3