How do you have conversations with girls at bars? I really don't ever know what to say. I have a quiet personality and kinda shy so it's really hard for me to just start talking to a female. Like a girl sits next to me at a bar and I want to say something, what should you say in this situation? If I feel nervous and scared, will she tell I was?
Being a guy sucks :^(
>pick up lines at a bar georgecostanza.jpeg
Just talk to them about anything, its not how a conversation starts but how its carried and how she feels you out, which u can escalate and piping her
Focus on being friends with her at first then escalate. My favorite approach is if the girl order a colorful crazy-ass drink you have no idea about, walk up to them and as what the hell kind of a drink it is. After she answers ask how she found a drink like that. Then tell her a favorite mixed drink of yours (Manhattans all day err day. Old timey and good shit). Then talk about booze b/c who doesnt want to?
Alright, if you really want to be able to talk to girls at the bar you NEED to absolutely have a nofucksgiven attitude or it will NOT work. You'll get ridiculed by the slightest insecurity you have about yourself.
First off, make sure you're dressed semi-ok. Nothing over the top or you'll look autistic and get laughed at immediately. Second, when approaching them, do so with intent. If you see a girl you want to talk to, just confront her with her friends and say, "Hey," looking directly at her. Her friends, depending on how attractive you are, will size you up immediately so you need to break the ice. No canned lines (pick up lines are the worst unless they're original and actually funny as hell).
If you're more of a surveyor, sit back and watch to see if any make eye contact with you a couple of times first. After this, just go up, introduce yourself, and strike up a conversation. I usually hate mundane details like work and stuff, so I'll say, "Look, I hate the whole what do you do type stuff," then dive into something interesting. (Don't talk about fucking video games or anything like that.)
I'm mobile and don't feel like typing this all out. Just ask me any questions if you have any.
>focus on being her friend first
I forgot about this in my post, but this. All day this. You set the boundaries of the conversation. Get to know her like you would some guy friend initially.
>Hey, what the hell kind of drink is that?
>How did you find a drink like that?
>cool i like manhattans
>*looks at phone*
What do i do now asshole?
I cant do this
>what's your name?
>what are you doing after this?
>you from around here?
>do these look like autism shoes? My buddy says they do, but I don't know what that means
Bruh. You can say anything.
>tfw qt German girl approached me once
>talk for a bit, she reveals her nationalism power level (borderline nazi sympathiser)
>I'm a commie
>later she says "he's taking me home I have to go... I mean hehehe he's driving me home"
Stupidest shit ever.
Exactly. Don't interrogate them, but make the questions playfully about them. Sprinkle in a small amount about yourself while doing so. Find things that you both relate to and the conversation becomes insanely smooth; just don't get carried away and start talking their fucking ear off. You want to show them how much you value what they're saying. Also, asking them to do a small favor for you, like, "Slide that to me please," etc. facilitates trust.
No, man. I'm a guy, you just didn't properly escalate after you concluded that you'd want to fuck them. I screen women before I sleep with them; I don't get attached.
Also, you're acting like those things haven't happened to me either. I just didn't quit when they did. Ask yourself, do you REALLY care about them? Or are you just trying to fugg? If you don't care / trying to fugg, then you shouldn't be so hung up about whatever they do.
Ask her a question, nigger. Girls love to talk about themselves. Come up with a list of backup questions/things to say to start coversations, and pick them up when it goes quiet.
Just be a person who isn't so shit at social situations, OP.
Be confident but yourself. Be interested in her but not creepily. Be relaxed but not bored.
Just do everything properly that comes to some people naturally.