How do you make every moment of your life *not* about her? For me, it's impossible. I've lived my whole life for her for the last ten years. There's just her, or nothing.
it's better to have her some of the time than to have her none of the time, remember, there is no other person in the world like her, as long as she acknowledges you sometimes you've got it good
i know that feel OP.
for over 10 years she has been my life, we been in contact, we lost it, on and off over all this time.
recently i decided to end all contact with her, its been 3 months now, and i can tell you without a doubt that i will die thinking of her, and i will never, ever feel what i felt for her again.
but i had to do it, i had to stop.
to want something you cant have is not a show of determination, a strong will, or proof of having a dreamers soul.
no, to want something you cant have is a sign of mental illness.
its a show of narrow-mindedness, obsession and ultimately idiocy.
i cannot undo the last 10 years, we drifted apart and we are now different people. the fact that i know i will not ever get over her is not a reason to keep myself from burning all the bridges, so i did it. And at least im calm now. which is an improvement.
Become selfish. Only care about yourself. For in the end, after everything, you are the only thing you have. Only trust and confide in yourself.
From now on, focus on doing everything for yourself and only for yourself. You are the only thing that matters. No one else.
You will overcome this, but only if you focus on yourself and on what you want. Become selfish. Only when you do not need anyone else to feel content and happy, then you can start caring about others. However, for now, you are the only thing that matters. Do not forget.