I've been wondering, how do you feel about people who can't change on their own and need another person to be their motivation or motivator?
Could you be in a relationship with someone like that?
This is the kind of person I've become, I would appreciate the discussion or at the very least to know that there are other out there like me, people who can't live for themselves.
I love and hate you so much, arcanine.
Well, I'm even worse, I actively don't want to change, and even if I apparently did, it would be just a lie I'd tell others,lying also to myself to feel as a better person,whe deep down i'd stay the same.
I was in therapy and on meds during my teens but they didn't seem to help in the end, I still needed someone there.
friends were enough but I switched high schools sophomore year, that's when I slowly started to drift into seclusion, now I'm fat NEET shut-in who doesn't see the point in trying anymore.
I do get a feeling of loneliness when I don't talk to or hang out with people for a while. Probably some sort of "withdrawal" from spending over a year in an online raidcall community where I spoke to people every day.
yea i know that shitty feel
>skype with best friend every day
>she gets a bf
>eventually stops talking to me
>trouble sleeping since we'd always joke around and fall asleep to each others voice
>don't use it an excuse to not try.
It's a little too late for that, I've been using it as an excuse for years, may have even convinced myself it's necessary rather than something I can put aside while I work on my future and myself.
>you gotta learn to be alone
does it really have to be this way?
>no plans for the future
>loner, I feel no need to make friends and I actively try to get my would-be friends to hate me
>no need for relationship (the only girl I loved loved me too,flirted a lot,but I ignored herbecause I wanted to stay "free")
Yeaj, and those are just the general details.
I had some people that considered me as a friend but I only consider them as acquaitances. Currently there's one "friend", who talks to me and asks me questions about movies, but I only "use" him because once a week he plays street soccer so I can play too to vent out.
Literally my least favorite trait in a person honestly. Had a gf who was a decent 17 year old, but couldn't grow up in an emotional sense.
She was an ok person, but she never tried to learn how to be a better partner, be a better friend, or just in general treat people well. Granted she was going through some stuff for some 2 years, but after 2 years I figured it would probably never happen.
Anyway, yeah, fuck apathy desu senpai. You're probably an ok guy OP, but I think its a really bad personality trait.