i finally confessed to a girl, she rejected me

>>25629109
Happened to me twice lad, don't worry about it.

>>25629122
no no just a girl i loved for a long time

>confessed
Well what did you expect? You're not in a fucking anime.

>>25629138
So? we have been there, you're case is nothing special.

>>25629109
good job, now do it 20 more times

you think I'm kidding but I'm dead fucking serious, do it minimum 20 more times and you'll see it stops hurting

>>25629109
>confess to girl
>says were just friends
>comes after me 6 months later wanting to date

I did the same thing a long time ago.
Still would drop any girl for her.

>havent talked to her in years
>She add's me on Facebook
>Every single photo is with her boyfriend she lives with

love for me is a foreign object

>>25629109
The point is you fucking did it, you told a girl how you feel. Do you know how many of us fucks can't even do that? As long as you try, that's what people care about.

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I'm not very experienced or anything, but imo, if you have to confess your feelings to a girl you're doing it wrong.
It means you have orbited her for a long time and have not created real attraction with her whatsoever.
She sees you as a friend at this point, so when you confess your feelings it's almost 100% guaranteed to fail.
Instead, try to generate attraction and sexual tension with her. Don't let her give you shit and pass her tests.
She's supposed to confess her feelings to YOU, or at least suggest it heavily.

>>25629533
i thought she was suggesting it heavily

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>>25629109
at least you can move on now, and you accomplished something not many could do

Girls never respond well to confessions of love

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Never confess your love for a girl OP, is the best way to kill any desire she has for you.

Try to be sexual with her, try to steal a kiss and feel her body, but never confess.

She will forgive you for trying to steal a kiss or being sexual with her, but she will never forgive you for confessing to her.

If only I could teach my teenager self such a simply thing.

>>25629656
Yeah but you never confess it anyway like >>25629805
said.
It instantly kills any mystery and attraction she might have for you. Just learn from this mistake and never do it again.
Instead of confessing your feelings, try to escalate your level of intimacy with her, and don't ever apologize for it.
It's not about being weird, pushy or rape-y, it's about escalating things gradually and turning her on.
A woman wants to feel desired, they want to please and they want to be happy.

Honestly dude, the fact you asked her out is great. Perhaps there were reasons she rejected you, it's not as simple as not liking you. Regardless, you made a big step that a lot of people never do.

>>25629198
20 times? you must be kidding. This is why girls don't date guys like you even if you pour your hearts out. Because my love my eternal and all that other bullshit means nothing, next week you'll just do the exact same speech for some other girl hoping your cheesy confession lands you a sympathy date. That's not love and girls can smell it a mile away.

>>25629109
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cj-lkfnny2I

Keep at it anon 1 yes will beat a quadrillion no

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>>25629109
It's good you did anyway. Otherwise you'd be torn apart by those feelings of "what if"

i remember i bought a girl in my class a chocolate bar for her birthday

i asked her out a few months later in school - got ripped by a load of people because she said no

guess she had too much of the chocolate bar because shes fat now lmao

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I said I like you to a girl that I don't even like out of pity, then immediately got rejected

OP, you went for it. Good job, better than most of us can say.

>guys saying to never confess
I can't speak for every girl, but I think it's very sweet to do so and realize it takes a lot of courage. I respect all men who put their feelings out there and risk so much.
And to be honest, a male friend trying to kiss or touch me is what would be gross and a complete turnoff. If a guy attempted to kiss me, I'd be pissed as fuck he almost took my first kiss.
But maybe you guys are talking about normie sloots and they are different about this stuff.

I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, but you're a very strong person to be able to do this, OP.

>>25629109
>>25629122
>>25629198
>>25629226
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>>25629707
>>25630608
>confessing

No. Stop it, don't do that. Unless you're confessing to murder or something.

Going up to a girl and being like HI I HAVE FEELINGS FOR YOU PLEASE DEAL WITH IT NOW is an absolutely guaranteed way to get rejected and friendzoned.

Don't write her a poem or be like I'VVE BEEN WATCHING YOU FOR 27 MONTHS FROM THE BUSHES ACROSS THE STREET


Just ask her out on a date, no bullshit, no over-dramatic feelings.

>>25629172
this 100x

You're supposed to suavely talk her up and ask her out

You don't unleash your emotions. That's literally what women do.

Like the guy said, this isn't an anime

>>25629656
Yeah. Girls do that.

>be two years ago
>orbiting one girl I met at a party
>tried to move on because she had a boyfriend
>would constantly flash her ass and lower her pants and shirts, especially when she comes out of her shower.
>grabbed my dick a few times and jerked me
>grinded with me

You think she was suggesting it heavily? Nah, she was just stuck in a sexless relationship because the guy she dated at the time was an ex who got warts and she didn't want to get it.

She's dated two other guys since then. Women are women lol. She once told me she "gave me many chances." I am now thinking back to all of the opportunities I could have initiated and done something.

But I've learned from that.

>>25629109
At least you tried

I didn't

>>25629707
>the clock ticks life away
TRYIN TO HOLD ON
I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW
I WASTED IT ALL JUST TO WATCH YOU FALL

>>25630824
Well, maybe if you're not autistic you should talk it over with something like your best friend of 5 years that you have recently developed feelings for, but I agree most robots lack the social skills to know how to actually navigate a situation like that.

>>25631448
WHEN THE LIFE CLOCK STRIKES YOU WILL OBEY
TIME ISN'T HERE TO STAY
ASHES TO ASHES
DUST TO DUST

>>25630818

now if you excuse me Chad wants to use my anus as a cum dumpster again. Sigh that rascal. teheh

>confessed at age 12
>got rejected
>threw a dodgeball at her during gym so hard it gave her a concussion
fucking whore should have dated me. Now her nose is all crooked, roasty slut deserved it

>>25629109
Great.

Now move on with your life and get jacked. Women are overrated anyway. Once you stop caring about them and just improve yourself to the maximum potential they will begin to notice you. I don`t know why. Just trust me.

>>25632292
Listen to this. All this. Go to the gym and improve yourself. Don't give a fuck about girls, feel happy in yourself. Watch how they flock to you then.

Oh, well I guess it's time for suicide you fucking weak faggot.

>>25632283
10/10, perfect response. Some women have to learn the hard way

>tfw confessed to a girl when i had a psychotic episode
I couldn't help it, I explained to her after I had recovered from it but I feel like I've fucked up. Have I?

>>25632502
110%

Just as a tip, women DESPISE emotional men. Never show your emotions to a woman unless she`s already emotional.

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>>25629138
I'd argue loving someone without reciprocal love isn't really love as it's just half the experience sadly.

>>25632356
>women
>hard way
I can't even begin to imagine something like that.

>>25632570
Thanks for expressing your worthless and factually wrong opinion.

every girl i have confessed to has rejected me. if you have to confess to her then she probably didnt like you in the first place.

>>25629109

Why did you do this?

There is ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE for thinking confessing, especially when you're an orbiter, is a good idea.

Smash yourself in the cock and balls with a hammer as penance

>>25631310
>grabbed my dick a few times and jerked me
>grinded with me
Those might have been your chance you idiot, how did you not act on those?

>>25632601
You know it's true though, I'd bet most of what /r9k/ considers love is extreme infatuation, loneliness, and fantasy. When you fall in love with someone from afar and expect the person you're in love with to be on the same level as you instantly it's a ridiculous notion. Love takes time, no such thing as love at first sight, takes fucking work.

>Taking dating advice from /r9k/

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>>25630827
Even in anime, isn't it usually the girl that confesses?

>>25632714
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/love
"loving someone without reciprocal love isn't really love" is total bullshit.

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I've asked out 3 girls in my life. 2 of them I wasn't very interested in but 1 I still think about., I spent nights awake just thinking about her. My entire life would have been different if she just said yes

A few months ago I looked up her facebook and she went to her prom with some guy who's probably better than me in every way

>>25630824
This

The less you care about a girl, the more interested they are

>>25632560
She replied with "But you don't know me" So I can't tell if I've been rejected or not.

>>25632819
That's a rejection Anon.

>>25632819

Total rejection.

Any answer that isn't a definitive yes is a no.

>>25632811
>My entire life would have been different if she just said yes

No it wouldn't have. You're a complete faggot if you actually believe this.

if a girl
>frequently smiles at you
>touches you on purpose (especially arms / chest)
>laughs at your unfunny jokes
She is interested in you.

>>25633027
I never make unfunny jokes.

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>>25633027
Ergo, it's a pretty big gamble to a tell a girl you love her if she's never done any of these things before.

>>25632819
You need to learn what women mean when they say things. She said that because she`s trying to deflect you without coming off like an asshole. Women do this shit all the time because they`re fully obsessed with how the world perceives them. It`s why when some crippled ugly woman posts pics women will say they look pretty when they`re hideous.

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>>25633006
>became depressed with no sense of purpose or friends
>dropped out of school because of that
>became a shut-in and everything went down from there
You're wrong, faggot

>>25633027
When you've never experienced any of this then your mind plays tricks and you just assume any sign of affection is them being attracted to you

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>>25633126
A lot of these problems come back to you and not anyone else. Take some fucking responsibility for your life, you're not beholden to anyone.

>>25633175
Are you actually fucking retarded, faggot?

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>>25633211
You chose to just let depression swallow you up. Boo Hoo, three guys rejected you, wow that must be literally the worst thing ever. Grow a pair and man the fuck up, there's people far worse off than your lazy NEET ass. Your suffering is selfish, and I'd wager it effects your family in a very negative way.

You're one of those people who shouldn't be themselves because you need to be better than yourself.

>>25633027
No. Just no. That shit happens to me all the time, and as soon as I show slightest interest she either pretends not to notice until I spaghetti myself, or "doesn't love me THAT way, teehee."

>>25633325
You`re doing something that either makes you look desperate or unattractive then. Don`t show interest bluntly. You have to play their stupid games but know when you`ve lost the game and move on.

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>>25633310
are you legit fucking retarded?

>>25633310
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Think_of_the_children

>>25633325
shorukyen those hoes in their cunts

>>25633448
pretty sure you're the retarded faggot if you think one girl saying "no" to your pathetic ass is a legitimate excuse to drop out of school and downward spiral into NEEThood and depression.

>>25633325
>she either pretends not to notice until I spaghetti myself
>until I spaghetti myself
What does this even mean?

>>25633526
Being rejected may have been an antecedent factor in my depression but there are other factors I can't explain

Just because someone writes about one part of their life doesn't mean you understand it all.

And then with your stupid "just man up bruh, be in control of your emotions bruh" bullshit

>>25633126

She was never going to fix your life. You're delusional.

>>25633757
Get some fucking help if you can't handle it yourself, manning up means being able to ask for help. Or are you too good for that? Wallowing in depression is way easier than confronting your problems I guess.

>>25633175
>beholden

im pretty sure you used that word wrong

>>25633052
You're screwed then anon

>>25633988
>owing thanks or having a duty to someone in return for help or a service.
I'm pretty sure you're a fucking simp.

As gay as it sounds you need to properly love yourself before anyone can truly love you back. Think about it, no one wants to love a miserable robot who hates everything.

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>get rejected 3 times
>3rd girl opens up a few days after
>3rd girl asks you to come over to her dorm room
>tfw she rapes you.
>started dating after that.

>>25634094
It's not rape if you wanted it, retard.

>>25634142
That's the bad joke. :^)
It's a bad joke because I sorta didn't want too because it happened late at night and I wanted to sleep.

>>25633757
>Being this much of a little bitch
>Nuh-uh it ain't my fault I don't do shit with my life i-it's hers! All hers!
other anon is right, either man up or shut the fuck up.

>>25634037
Yeah that's the definition. You said he's not indebted to anyone, but that doesnt relate to him taking responsibility for his life. He also didn't say that he believes he owes someone anything (why would that make him depressed?). Its looks a lot like you meant to say that no one owes him anything, in which case it's wrong.

>>25633901
This. Relationships only amplify what you bring into them- if you're a nervous wreck already you'll become a derailed trainwreck in a relatonship.

>>25633901
It wasn't about saving me, it was about not just falling out of life

People with relationships don't just fall out of life. When someone goes their entire life without a meaningful human relationship it males sense for them to just give up.

>>25634459
We simply disagree

I believe that when people become enough of an outcast they become disconnected from society which just snowballs into them getting worse and ending up in some meaningless pit. If people never become disconnected then they stay in the box and continue living the normal life.

So yes, I think a girlfriend or a more normal life with friends would have changed everything

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>>25634528
Or you would have just turned said girl into an outcast herself.

>>25633027
>believing this
this happened to me. she did these things and alot more and then I asked her and she was all weird about it, said sorry for leading me along if she did, but she wasn't even convincing, it's like she was lying.
>although she did find out I made out with another girl at a random party the night before whilst drunk. so that could be it.

>>25630818
>but I think it's very sweet to do so and realize it takes a lot of courage.

Only works if you're attractive. Otherwise, it's as "creepy" and "desperate" .

This is why women aren't worth it anymore, it's never that she's just not interested in a guy, he has to be bad person to be rejected

>>25629109
>ask a girl out for the first time
>sorry, I only like black guys

>>25635321
>sorry, I only like black guys

If only actual women said this

>>25629109
You're on your way to greatness. Don't give up now.

She is not deserving to carry your genes.

>>25632714

The fact that people experience love at first sight literally proves you wrong. It takes just one example to disprove a universal claim, you retard.

Men experience romantic love, and then have unrealistic expectations that women also experience this. Women don't. They experience Chadcocklust. Love is a feeling, not something you "work on". The fact that you cannot even comprehend this experience shows that you must not be a man.

Everyone can tell you're a deluded roastie slut sneakily trying to seem credible by parroting social memes.

>>25635428
kek, pretty much
the only girls that would say that are probably not the type of girl that r9k fags like

>>25635487
I think it's okay to be infatuated by someone, but it doesn't mean it just lust. But you just can't love someone right away. Even if you did, it's not for sure she'll love you back. Love must be reciprocated to make sense.