I'm not very experienced or anything, but imo, if you have to confess your feelings to a girl you're doing it wrong. It means you have orbited her for a long time and have not created real attraction with her whatsoever. She sees you as a friend at this point, so when you confess your feelings it's almost 100% guaranteed to fail. Instead, try to generate attraction and sexual tension with her. Don't let her give you shit and pass her tests. She's supposed to confess her feelings to YOU, or at least suggest it heavily.
>>25629656 Yeah but you never confess it anyway like >>25629805 said. It instantly kills any mystery and attraction she might have for you. Just learn from this mistake and never do it again. Instead of confessing your feelings, try to escalate your level of intimacy with her, and don't ever apologize for it. It's not about being weird, pushy or rape-y, it's about escalating things gradually and turning her on. A woman wants to feel desired, they want to please and they want to be happy.
>>25629198 20 times? you must be kidding. This is why girls don't date guys like you even if you pour your hearts out. Because my love my eternal and all that other bullshit means nothing, next week you'll just do the exact same speech for some other girl hoping your cheesy confession lands you a sympathy date. That's not love and girls can smell it a mile away.
>guys saying to never confess I can't speak for every girl, but I think it's very sweet to do so and realize it takes a lot of courage. I respect all men who put their feelings out there and risk so much. And to be honest, a male friend trying to kiss or touch me is what would be gross and a complete turnoff. If a guy attempted to kiss me, I'd be pissed as fuck he almost took my first kiss. But maybe you guys are talking about normie sloots and they are different about this stuff.
I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, but you're a very strong person to be able to do this, OP.
>be two years ago >orbiting one girl I met at a party >tried to move on because she had a boyfriend >would constantly flash her ass and lower her pants and shirts, especially when she comes out of her shower. >grabbed my dick a few times and jerked me >grinded with me
You think she was suggesting it heavily? Nah, she was just stuck in a sexless relationship because the guy she dated at the time was an ex who got warts and she didn't want to get it.
She's dated two other guys since then. Women are women lol. She once told me she "gave me many chances." I am now thinking back to all of the opportunities I could have initiated and done something.
>>25630824 Well, maybe if you're not autistic you should talk it over with something like your best friend of 5 years that you have recently developed feelings for, but I agree most robots lack the social skills to know how to actually navigate a situation like that.
Now move on with your life and get jacked. Women are overrated anyway. Once you stop caring about them and just improve yourself to the maximum potential they will begin to notice you. I don`t know why. Just trust me.
>>25631310 >grabbed my dick a few times and jerked me >grinded with me Those might have been your chance you idiot, how did you not act on those?
>>25632601 You know it's true though, I'd bet most of what /r9k/ considers love is extreme infatuation, loneliness, and fantasy. When you fall in love with someone from afar and expect the person you're in love with to be on the same level as you instantly it's a ridiculous notion. Love takes time, no such thing as love at first sight, takes fucking work.
I've asked out 3 girls in my life. 2 of them I wasn't very interested in but 1 I still think about., I spent nights awake just thinking about her. My entire life would have been different if she just said yes
A few months ago I looked up her facebook and she went to her prom with some guy who's probably better than me in every way
>>25632819 You need to learn what women mean when they say things. She said that because she`s trying to deflect you without coming off like an asshole. Women do this shit all the time because they`re fully obsessed with how the world perceives them. It`s why when some crippled ugly woman posts pics women will say they look pretty when they`re hideous.
>>25633211 You chose to just let depression swallow you up. Boo Hoo, three guys rejected you, wow that must be literally the worst thing ever. Grow a pair and man the fuck up, there's people far worse off than your lazy NEET ass. Your suffering is selfish, and I'd wager it effects your family in a very negative way.
You're one of those people who shouldn't be themselves because you need to be better than yourself.
>>25633027 No. Just no. That shit happens to me all the time, and as soon as I show slightest interest she either pretends not to notice until I spaghetti myself, or "doesn't love me THAT way, teehee."
>>25633325 You`re doing something that either makes you look desperate or unattractive then. Don`t show interest bluntly. You have to play their stupid games but know when you`ve lost the game and move on.
>>25633757 Get some fucking help if you can't handle it yourself, manning up means being able to ask for help. Or are you too good for that? Wallowing in depression is way easier than confronting your problems I guess.
>>25634037 Yeah that's the definition. You said he's not indebted to anyone, but that doesnt relate to him taking responsibility for his life. He also didn't say that he believes he owes someone anything (why would that make him depressed?). Its looks a lot like you meant to say that no one owes him anything, in which case it's wrong.
I believe that when people become enough of an outcast they become disconnected from society which just snowballs into them getting worse and ending up in some meaningless pit. If people never become disconnected then they stay in the box and continue living the normal life.
So yes, I think a girlfriend or a more normal life with friends would have changed everything
>>25633027 >believing this this happened to me. she did these things and alot more and then I asked her and she was all weird about it, said sorry for leading me along if she did, but she wasn't even convincing, it's like she was lying. >although she did find out I made out with another girl at a random party the night before whilst drunk. so that could be it.
The fact that people experience love at first sight literally proves you wrong. It takes just one example to disprove a universal claim, you retard.
Men experience romantic love, and then have unrealistic expectations that women also experience this. Women don't. They experience Chadcocklust. Love is a feeling, not something you "work on". The fact that you cannot even comprehend this experience shows that you must not be a man.
Everyone can tell you're a deluded roastie slut sneakily trying to seem credible by parroting social memes.
>>25635487 I think it's okay to be infatuated by someone, but it doesn't mean it just lust. But you just can't love someone right away. Even if you did, it's not for sure she'll love you back. Love must be reciprocated to make sense.
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