Am I really a music snob because of this? This girls says she's into synthpop and I ask her what she likes. She names some indie bands- (not synthpop). I tell her it's indie. She takes it badly.
Look man don't blow your load telling her what you like so much. shes got 30 other guys trying to fuck the shit out of her who are probably hotter than you
just invite her over to listen to ur shit man. cant be trying to make friends with these chicks on okcupid/tinder . you'll have nothing to talk about when you meet
I can't. she blocked me LOL.
I don't really care though. I think her profile pic speaks volumes for her poor judgement.
look buddy, i'm trying to help you out so maybe you won't be such a doucher in the future
we're on an anonymous image board here, you don't have to get defensive with me either
just learn from your mistake, move on, and do better in the future. maybe you'll get laid some day
>but that's ok! I' often wrong about genres myself.
I have gotten laid but only by a girl more boring than me. they actually exist, believe it or not.
Also I'm not so sure it was douchey. I was lighthearted about it. Laughed. Even said I was often wrong about genres.
I know this is bait, but the whole concept of anything-splaining is a logical fallacy. An argument should be considered for its virtue as an argument in isolation from who is presenting it, considering an argument to be less valid because it comes from someone who is "privileged" is a genetic fallacy at its simplest. /autism
You're probably right.
I don't care for that thought though- that you should just let girls believe what they want.
If no one bothered to tell girls they were wrong then there would be a lot more shitty female pop musicians.
Indie rock isn't a genre because "rock released on an independent record label" is not a distinguishing characteristic from other rock music. But the meme has spread so much that you'll keep thinking it's a genre solely because everyone else does.
And again with the opressive mansplaining...
That's rather like saying this isn't dance music because I am sitting down. Indie was a style of music started on independent labels and then it became more popular and more widely played. The same basic indie sound is used, although it has evolved, and how it is released doesn't effect what it sounds like.
I'm honestly curious if you boners understand how autistic and socially retarded you are.
That girl's response was perfectly justified. Her response was perfectly predictable and reasonable to your complete lack of social understanding.
Do you really think that normal people have the autism fueled intricate understanding of the difference specific music genres? The average person who likes music does not see the importance of precise categorization, especially women.
Your use of exclamation points and correcting her really cut the rope tying the autism ship to dock.
Have fun being a sexless loser who doesn't understand why /mu/memes aren't going to help you get laid and in this case is actually working against your goals.
Yes, a boner is a person who is socially retarded and sticks by their socially retarded actions even if no one agrees with them and will even draw a false but perceived sense of superiority from it.
Why do women only respond with ad homiems? Can they not come up with a valid refutal to justify their hatred towards the "evil men"? What will happen when you can't rely on your sexuality anymore and have to be treated as equals?
>intricate understanding of the difference specific music genres
All she had to do was not try to get so specific with genres. Synthpop is pretty fucking specific, and you don't need to be autistic to understand that.
She could have said "electronic" and I wouldn't have corrected her. Basic music genres are not hard to wrap your head around.
he's a dumbass using online dating. where women get 50+ messages a day kissing ass hoping to get laid. and might I add older guys offering them money also trying to be sugar daddies. and this dumbass gets a reply back and goes autism over fucking genre name
you know many girls don't even know what synthpop is? he could have save that shit for when they meet in person. but nope he went full retard and now she blocked him and he's posting this shit here because hes sad
The fact that you're not getting this only further proves my point. You're trying to get laid?
Don't correct a woman about bullshit that doesn't matter in the middle of trying to flirt with her. They fucking hate that.
didnt want to meet her unless she could show that we had some similar interests. Her profile was pretty bare, but she said she liked synthpop. i went for it.
I'm not saying i didn't made any mistakes. i just wouldn't say I'm an asshole for correcting her.
According to wikipedia:
Matt and Kim: Indie pop, lo-fi, Alternative dance
Oberhofer: Indie rock, psychedelic pop, noise pop, new wave, dance-punk
So it's more than valid to call them both indie, or better indie pop
Anyway you dodged a bullet op, would have been a horrible person to talk to if she can't handle being wrong about anything ever.
Yeah I'll remember that when I'm rolling around with some hot bitch who jumps my bones and you're making threads on /mu/ desperately trying to figure out why correcting a woman about the distinction between synthpop and electronic indie in the middle of flirting ruined the conversation.
In what way is clarifying genre labels snobbish? You're not a snob for that at all. You are a pedant however and that "clarification" was so out of left field that I think many people would be kind of set back by it, it wasn't necessary in order to answer the question so it looks like you just want to correct things for the sake of correcting them which is often a put off in normal conversation. The third point is that if she does take it that badly she's a child you shouldn't waste your time with, if she doesn't even consider your actual answer and only focuses on that then it sounds like most exchanges with her would be a complete nightmare to navigate. Not worth the hassle.
tl;dr I wouldn't want to hang out with either of you.
A lot of people would consider what you said as condescending and you obviously don't know her very well, if at all, which makes it even worse. You could have constructed your response differently and it would have turned out a hundred times better, i.e:
"I really like those artists too, there's definitely some synthpop elements but I think they're considered more electronic/indie. I'm not sure I could be wrong, haha. Do you like X? :)"
You can highlight whatever you think is great about the bands she mentioned and keep it relevant to HER so there's an option to find mutual ground. In reality you shouldn't have corrected her as it doesn't benefit your game at all, you gain zero interest from her by doing so. Unless you're a music geek of any kind people generally don't care a lot about genres.
>you're what's wrong with society!
>nuh uh I totally get laid
I'm just catching the tail end of this conversation but holy shit that was a dumb response. Did you put any thought into it at all or is "I'm not a virgin" your default maneuver?
>Anyway you dodged a bullet op, would have been a horrible person to talk to if she can't handle being wrong about anything ever.
that's what you got out of that conversation, huh?
don't worry op i'll message the girl for you :)
http://www.okcupid.com/profile/HumanPulse?cf=regular is you right? nice memes :)
I don't know, I feel like I can be better, which is part of the reason why I came here. There have been a lot of good suggestions on a better way I could have corrected her without coming off at patronizing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The six things I could never do without
All I need in life is Death Grips.
>of course he's a Death Grips fan
>and yet you're clueless about how females work and talk to them like they're children
Atheist (and it’s important)
Does drugs often
>so do i but no one wants to hear that, i know enough to keep it to myself
holy shit it's real and the actual profile is worse than your summary implies
> Feminist, vegetarian, anti-fascist, anti-racist, animal rights activist.
> Rishloo. Doomtree. Death Grips. Run the Jewels. Astronautalis. Kanye West. Watain.
I probably shouldn't have corrected her, because she clearly can't take the criticism. I just wanted her to learn, and look at that, she hasn't. She still calls them synthpop. What a waste, right?
and this is why you keep any personal information as far away from 4chan as possible
OP i'd recommend you delete the thread but i'd imagine it's too late to do that
i remember when /mu/ used to be above this shit
but we're /b/-tier now
No anon you silly fuck. Women don't like being corrected like this in the middle of flirting. It completely derails the vibe momentum you had and they see it as petty, patronizing and annoying.
Just don't fucking do it with any woman you're trying to flirt with and get to know.
yeah, i think i agree with the side that is saying that you didn't need to correct her, but i also think that you did it in a pretty polite way, and that you didn't have any bad intentions with it. i also think that she may have been a bit more bothered by it than she needed to be. just trying to say that to me, it doesn't seem like you were as bad as most of the people in this thread are saying.
They literally came up with a derogatory term for when men try to explain things to them because it bothers them that much.
Don't buy into your faggot generation z propaganda where everyone is the same. Men and women are different and value different things.
you call it polite, i call it patronizing
it's like he's talking to his dog or a kid and patting them on the head as he's doing it
"oh it's ok! (you stupid little thing) you just don't know any better! (because you're just a girl)"
PEOPLE don't like being corrected
proof? look at /mu/ every day
this post will get all the guys who don't have sex here fired up, so i'm leaving after i post it. but it's the truth.
just look how many guys are saying that she overreacted. i'm a guy and i would have reacted the same way if someone was talking to me like i'm a fucking idiot about something i don't even care about. women get this shit every day of their lives, because guys automatically think they know more and their opinions are more important because they're guys.
you might not be doing it on purpose, but you're still doing it. and girls get fucking tired of that shit every day.
this guy's trying to get laid and he still can't keep himself from doing it. that's how ingrained it is.
I agree with this post.
Also, OP's profile is hilariously bad.
>Cis. He/him pronouns.
i think you're looking at op with condescension-colored glasses. he could have been talking to her like that because she's a girl, but it could also be because that's how he talks, or that's how he flirts because he is unconsciously trying to present himself as a nice guy.
it is literally because he has autism
he thinks he is just sharing useful information and doesn't understand the social connotation of what he says or how others may react
>... but that's ok! I'm often wrong about genres myself.
This is where you fucked up, OP.
You told her she was wrong in an unnecessarily patronizing way, you treated her like she was stupid and that's why she took it badly.
Isn't that shit great? And believe it or not, they have tons of other great tracks, even some newer stuff that's good, like "Come Undone" ,"Ordinary World".
Look them up on spotify. They are amazing. I think everyone would love them.
>Straight, Man, Single, 5’ 8”, Fit
lol, that's definitely you
But that's just because most men on dating sites act in a "super safe way". If you do the same to them on a non-dating site they get as much butthurt as the girl on the OP.
I'm talking about real life. If this was a real life conversation the progression would have been the same. I used to do this thing pretty frequently until I realized how I was fucking up.
Yes, it happens on real conversations too, but men are less likely to express their frustration when corrected because of the mentality that they shouldn't "hurt" girls.
It's not about girls overreacting when being corrected, it's about guys not overreacting in front of woman (whoever, they are a lot more likely to express this when talking to other guys).
I disagree I just honestly see men caring less about this type of thing. I don't refrain from correcting women because I don't want to hurt them, I refrain from doing it because I know they get wicked annoyed by it and it will lessen my chances of having sex.
So, what does indie rock sound like?
>I disagree I just honestly see men caring less about this type of thing.
Maybe it's just you, but some guys can really stress over it (like OP)
>I don't refrain from correcting women because I don't want to hurt them
Yeah, but that's just you, most guys aren't like that
>I refrain from doing it because I know they get wicked annoyed by it
Depends on the girl.
>and it will lessen my chances of having sex.
By caring, I meant caring about being corrected, not caring about correcting people.
>Yeah, but that's just you, most guys aren't like that
In my experience it is.
>Depends on the girl.
It does, but I stay on the safe side.
>mfw i've been trolling you all, all evening
OK guys. I have decided that I'm going to kill myself. I'm going to take ~3 grams of benadryl and pass out listening to Death Grips, my favorite music.
sorry to bother you guys with my autism.
it's hard to fatally overdose on benadryl. if he dies it will be because he walked into traffic while tripping balls or something like that. although that's obviously a troll post so who cares.
>if she doesn't even consider your actual answer and only focuses on that then it sounds like most exchanges with her would be a complete nightmare to navigate
thanks for that i'm glad i read this