Lesbian General: Not lonely edition
Nobody here feels lonely. Who can feel lonely with friends like these.
It gets better once you give up all hope and accept the circumstances
Tried and failed to flirt at a house party last night.
I can't tell if I'm just extremely unattractive, try to hit on the wrong people, or am just bad at flirting. Could quite possibly be all three.
I never went to a single party in high school and now in college I've only gone to two "real" house parties, so I have no idea how to even begin flirting with girls in a party setting. The talent escapes me.
Any of you secretly in love with your best friend?
Do you perv on them like in this animu?
I don't have friends or someone to fall in love with.
I wonder what being in love is like.
>liking your friends besides platonically
Who does that.
Last year I ended up having a crush on my best friend but I never came out with it coz it'd make things weird and I didn't wanna lose them.
I have a partner now and I no longer crush on my friend
Well, there is this friend who would say things like "women's body is more beautiful than men's", "I read that women are not completely heterosexual", "I'm tired of men"…
But then, she said "I wish I could like girls". Sigh. I actually tease her a bit, but she does not know that I am a lesbian so I end up feeling bad if I joke too much.
>women are more beautiful
>I'm tired of men
>I read that women are not completely heterosexual
This new age freedom to explore sexuality is really rusting my jimmies. Now you have all these straight chicks believing they can just experiment and test the label out, molding it to how they see fit. Don't trust them when they say they're tired of dudes or some other shit around those lines. Red flag right there.
literally 99.9% of the LA/Hollywood lesbians I know. They all end up dating their former platonic friends, remain friends with ex girlfriends, and watch their ex girlfriends date their platonic friends.
It's driving me crazy desu.
I get what you are saying, but it's probably confusing to be a heterosexual woman. I don't think """straight""" women are attracted to men(s' bodies).
I think straight women are attracted to their own bodies, and use men as an accessory that enhances their own attractiveness. or they like to experience their own body being appreciated without feeling any kind of distraction or jealousy from another female body being involved
heterosexuality in women is actually a form of sexual narcissism.
w/e they just need to lay off. It's hard enough finding a lesbian that's attracted to you, available, and compatible - but now we have all these confused straights. And you know desperate lesbians have been ensnared by them only to be hurt by the big reveal.
Thank you, anon. I know she says those things because she is not over her last relationship and has been through some important personal problems.
I like her as a friend and nothing more. Although I am not going to lie: it would be great to have a female friend who I could talk to about girls freely. Oh well.
We're all faggots here. Happy to talk about girls whenever.
This is the only way I have ever fallen for someone. I can't imagine what it's like to meet a stranger with the intention of fucking them or dating and eventually falling in love. The only people I've ever had crushes on were close friends of mine.
How do you fall in love with someone without knowing them and being their friend first? You could be totally incompatible or have nothing in common!
Hey lesgen, why do you think women statistically are less likely to get to be a "brilliant" mind than men? Is it something biological? Is it something social? Socioeconomic? Is the patriarchy really holding women down in the western world even these days? Pls respond.
I ask this here because in other sites I would get trolled to death by neckbeards or accused of being a troll by SJWs, and I want the opinions of women in this matter.
hello fellow women, would you like a slice of pizza? perhaps I can interest you in some bangs or hormones that I received illegally?
no? well how about I use my penis on you?
they hugbox real good and proper over there
have a lewd gif as recompense
not necessarily. Lots of good friends start to get on each others nerves when they become roommates. Lots of friends start to get aggravated with each other when they become girlfriends.
Does anyone not bother to challenge people's assumptions that you're straight and just let yourself be pigeon holed as the token Uninterested/Happy To Be Single friend?
Made a new female friend yesterday and...
>Are you celebrating Valentine's Day with a boyfriend? (No) Meet any cute guys lately? (Lmao never) Are you looking for a man or just content to stay single? (Neither but I guess column B)
>I've never dated- I'm not really into guys.
>I so get you! There are so many gross guys and relationships are not worth the drama. I'm so glad I have my girl friends to rely on.
>Yeah. I'd much rather have a girlfriend.
>Totally, I don't know what I'd do without my BFFs. My last boyfriend was blah blah blah...
Not like I have a relationship history or anyone I'm interested in, so I'm not exactly namedropping pronouns in casual conversation because I have no one to speak of. And it's nicer if people think of me as independent or whatever rather than some lonely dyke. Anyone relate?
That's actually solidly funny, anon. I can't relate at all, I came out at 15 and had enough experience by adulthood to have to be actively lying if I came into a situation like that.
I disagree. Or at least I'd amend that to say, "watch what successfully flirtatious guys do." Ignore the obvious dumb-asses. I've noticed a huge amount of overlap between how I successfully flirt with women and how my straight guy friends successfully flirt with women.
Just be proactive in engaging her in conversation, friendly, attentive, try to be funny, and keep a casual informal demeanor. It's best not to be overtly sexual, but if you can do it in a silly, goofy, nonchalant, and disarming way, it doesn't always come off as creepy and gross (you probably shouldn't attempt that though).
So how is this different from non-flirtatiously talking with someone? Not very different. Most of the flirting happens through body language, eyes, tone, etc (these aren't things you should force, they should just happen naturally). Just have a good conversation with a lot of eye contact, drunken close-talking, etc. If, at some point, the conversation starts to stagger, don't panic. If you've been vibeing on each other for a while, a lull in the conversation can be a good opportunity to SLOWLY go in for the kiss. Maybe say something like, "I like you," first, so you aren't kissing her immediately after a conversation about finding roadkill; put that buffer in there.
>most straight girls bemoan how awful they are
True, a lot of guys are clueless, but take straight girl's are a bad source of information. They live in a warped reality where they don't have to be proactive about flirting unless they want to. don't take straight girls' advice about how to get a girlfriend or how to pleasure a woman in bed. I've made this mistake, and I won't make it again. Most of them have never seduced a girl, gotten a girlfriend, or had sex with a girl in their life. They don't know how to get another girl off, most of them don't even know how to get themselves off.
Or you could just take a look at yourself and understand what someone could say to you that would make you like them. Then apply that to other women. When guys hit on me it's just uncomfortable and pathetic. When women flirt they have this twinkle in their eye, this special tone of voice, and their hints are largely subtle. They like charm, wit and charm, and a good dose of confidence. They don't want you feeling intimidated by them, they want to know you're at least on their level.
I don't feel compelled to tell everyone unless it's necessary to avoid confusion. The simplest, most direct answers are usually all it takes.
>Do you have a boyfriend?
But where I'm from they also ask
>Do you have a girlfriend?
And they can usually pick up on it because my voice trembles and I start hugging my daki.
so lesgen, i had valentine's day plans last night and ended up spending the night at someone's house. i found out from my brother and his girlfriend that apparently last evening, someone came into my house, opened and closed my bedroom door, and stayed here for a few hours. my brother and his girlfriend thought it was me, but it most definitely was not me.
im really concerned. i mean do i call the police? what the fuck do you even do in this situation?
That's seriously weird... I dunno, maybe leave your webcam recording on your laptop/ PC when you're away and if it happens again you can find out what's going on. Police probably won't be able to help you unless you have something substantial
>When women flirt they have this twinkle in their eye, this special tone of voice, and their hints are largely subtle. They like charm, wit and charm, and a good dose of confidence. They don't want you feeling intimidated by them, they want to know you're at least on their level.
The best guys are that way too.
Get new locks asap.
Scary shit. Go full paranoia. Check for any hidden cams, make sure there's no hiding places (I always remember that serial killer who hid in this lady's house for hours waiting to kill her when she got home), get a fucking guard dog.
Go away bisexual, go away.
i did check my room for cameras, found nothing. there arent really any hiding places in my room, i checked my closet. i dont have much decoration outside of bookshelves and a nightstand. i do have a guard dog, two in fact. one did actually bark a bunch whenever the person got in, but my brother and his girlfriend didnt think anything of it, and they left the front door unlocked.
im going full paranoia. im actually kind of genuinely concerned it could have been one of my ex girlfriends, because it would be really fucking poetic to "surprise" me on valentine's day, and definitely something she would fucking do.
>because it would be really fucking poetic to "surprise" me on valentine's day, and definitely something she would fucking do
Oh god that would be so fucking hilarious. I hope she set up an elaborate plan to kidnap you and drag you to some remote location for "romance"
Who says I like guys. They just like hitting on me.
I'm from portland. It's all I've ever known so I'm not sure how other cities fare. I just know I want to get out of it because I want to get far away from my family and start really being gay. Lesbians are unavoidable here, but so are the bisexuals, pansexuals, queers, and every word you can think of. I'm not finding my wife here.
>and running an antivirus scan now
Just reinstall the OS and check your computer for any hardware keyloggers or other weird hardware installed. And seconding the anon that told you to change your locks.
>remain friends with ex girlfriends
Absolutely not. Or maybe my exes are just particularly shitty.
Surely there could be social factors as well. But I guess there's some biology to it, contributing to an overall difference in intelligence/aptitude between women and men in various areas.
What I do think is a major issue is how typically female characteristics in behavior/skill/intelligence is often downplayed by both genders, but particularly women themselves. Sure, you won't develop new technologies by being a secretary or invent medical treatments as a nurse, but does that automatically mean that having good organizing and people skills isn't as worth as tech skills or just plain "intelligence"?
Even if I had a girlfriend I wouldn't do Valentine's day. I don't want anyone telling me when I should be showing her I love her. I'll do it everyday, all the time. She won't have to ever bring it into question.
your bro and his gf probably fucked in your room. they told you that someone broke in so that you will suspect a burglar/stalker instead of them in case you notice things have shifted around.
Why don't more and more grills join the Seed Dating app?
I am so sorry, lesbos.
I am so, so sorry.
I fucked up, I fucked everything up. I had a girl for valentines today.
But I completely fucked it up.
I clipped my nails, but neglected to manicure, file or moisturize.
They were probably a little rough in her pussy.
I will accept whatever judgement the dyke council sees fit to cast down on me.
Trips don't lie. But it reminds me of this post I saw once where a straight girl talked about being married to a lesbian. She said she wasn't attracted to her, but she isn't interested in anyone else. So I guess it could have a 1/1 millionth chance of working.
I do that anyway. Valentines has deteriorated in import over the years.
Why? Because they're young and feminine? What must they style themselves to look like in order to be accepted as doing homosexual things?
P R O J E C T I O N
Jesus christ, you're sad. A face caress, lips open for tongue that isn't being seen, eyes closed and faces in concentration, one of them is even pulling the other against her. Being a dyke isn't even cool and hasn't been for a long time. They're in denim, you retard. There's no way they're angling for fad-riding.
What would I be projecting?
Yeah, all the same stuff women do in other poses for this stuff. And being gay is totally in right now, all about getting them oppression points. And what is wrong with denim? Denim jackets are pretty cool yo.
Denim is for losers. It's electing to be a loser, even. Gay isn't the fad thing, the fad is made up gender shit and pansexual circuses and asexuality. You're projecting your bitterness on them.
>too shy to hit on anyone or actively look for a gf
>guys have flirted with me but I'm not interested in men at all so I've just never kissed or had sex
>girls probably all think I'm straight
>I will never get a qt gf
The date idea was making taco's together and some homemade guacamole, and then watching some spooky movies and cuddling, but if I'm sick, then I'm going to get her sick when cuddling eventually leads to making out and all that other fun stuff.
If I'm not mostly better tomorrow then I'll cancel it and reschedule it for later.
Why the fuck can't I be lonely? I should be allowed to feel bad about bad stuff.
I've been sick for like 5 days now and I think it's only getting worse. I caught it from my sister and she got over it in 3 days....
I'm so frustrated right now because I just started working as a receptionist for a big hotel and I've been sicker than I've been in 10 years while I'm trying to learn how to do my job.
How do I make girls like me lesgen? I'm trying to be less rude. And more femme. Should I just assume that I'm a repulsive horrible person or is being self-deprecating bad? I'm so lonely.
Being self deprecating is bad. When you put yourself down, you put pressure on others to keep you up. That's kind of stressful, to have to constantly give compliments, lest she feels bad about herself. Be confident, but not arrogant. Introduce yourself and give her the limelight. Bitches love attention. Talk to her about stuff that interests her. Do it naturally. Make her feel special.
I'm 115 pounds and I can run 10ks. I WISH fitness was my problem because I'm very motivated and I love exercise/eating healthy and whatever. It's just my shitty personality/style choices. I bought a bunch of new clothes recently to look more girly, and I'm getting used to wearing them. I'm also growing my hair out.
Errughhh. I try to be nice to girls, but I also assume they find me repulsive, so I avoid them whenever I can. Someone told me they thought I didn't like them a while ago because I acted like that, but it's a habit. Don't the majority of straight girls dislike gay girls? I don't want anyone to think I'm hitting on them.
>hoped in-game wife would pop in to hang out together
>she's too busy spending it with her real life girlfriend, who nearly broke up with her last month for not agreeing to an open relationship
A-at least I've got (wo)man's best friends to keep me company: a cat, a dog, and a lot of alcohol.
This is some solid advice right here.
Kek, I don't blame you for that though, LGBT reunions are just awful.
>over the summer I attend to a tech convention organized by murrikans and there is a LGBT event
>why.jpg but still curious
>decide to go just for a bit
>suddenly transfats with coloured hair, a weird girl with beard, a sissy autistic gayman and a bunch of feminist pansexuals
>literally everyone there but the gayman was biologically a woman except no one was a lesbian
>they begin to talk about diversity in tech and all the times they have gotten harrassed
>don't know what to say, I just wanted to meet a qt girl and talk to her about software communism and shit
>can barely follow spoken English anyway
>after an hour there is a break and never return
>pretend to be friends with someone
We ARE friends. Not pretending. I already said I couldn't see starting a relationship with someone I wasn't friends with.
>feeling like a creepy friend-zoned nice-guy
I don't get how that parallels at all? I don't feel cheated or slighted if I have a secret crush on a friend, and I certainly wouldn't blame her for not liking me back. I know boundaries and even if it sucks knowing that I can't be with her (in this case, a friend whom I moved away from for university) our friendship goes on as normal. It's not like I spend all our time together undressing her with my eyes. Having a crush on somebody doesn't turn you into an objectifying creep.
I think the Tumblrs call it "demisexual"? Where you're only attracted to people after already having a close connection/friendship with them. I certainly wouldn't label it as its own sexuality, but I don't think it's that unusual.
Oh god that sounds horrible. But basically my situation at the uni... The only 'lgbt' people are pansexual genderspecials who don't actually want to date girls ever. Maybe part of the reason I don't fit in with that crowd. Where does one find all the other chill lesbians who aren't like that?
Basically all wanna-be bisluts realized being a bislut was now too mainstream and just decided to change their label to the new hotness that is "pansexual". Fuck the LGBT, cancerous as shit.
Only here in lesgen I've found chill lesbians but of course they are on yuropoor or something.
I get what you're saying about pansexuals. It's just the new bi, and they ALWAYS want to mention it in conversation even if it isn't related. It makes me feel ashamed to be a lesbian honestly.
Yeah what's up with all the cool lesbians living in europe/brazil.
Being gay was never cool. Posing is duck lips kiss on the cheek. Straight girls wouldn't dare full-on kiss each other
Free as in freedom, etc. GPL is basically communism, I prefer the BSD licence or better yet no licence at all because who the fuck cares who you are and what you made; if it's important the Jews will take it anyway.
Maybe because yurop is not as crazy feminism heavy as murrika? Although you have places like Sweden.
Advances in automation necessitate a communist revolution. Artificial Intelligence in software and robotics will take your job, do it better than you, cheaper than you; and AI will steal your girlfriend, love her more than you, and fuck her better. We need a communist system where government bureaucrats will assign you a job that you cannot be fried from and a girlfriend who is not allowed to dump you or cheat on you with an android.
Oh no, I live in 'murica too, I just don't like a lot of the the lgbt girls here. Maybe I just haven't met the right one. It feels like it's only the lgbt people who are obsessed with being oppressed who actually congregate.
Nah, not everyone cares about or gets excited over sex. There are obviously people who completely obsess over sex, so if that exists thne you have to allow that there's an opposite end to that spectrum of enthusiasm.
You are allowed. I hope you find a quiet place to process your emotions, anon.
If you're not already going, consider therapy. You don't need to have some big obvious problem or trauma to discuss, but professionally guided self-reflection will do wonders for a shitty personality.
If you assume that a person finds you repulsive, you automatically act kind of distance and cold so that you're less vulnerable and you shield yourself in preparation for the inevitable rejection, but the only thing that makes it inevitable is this attitude. No one will think you're hitting on them if you don't act like you are. Realize everyone is nervous and flawed and human, and that you deserve to be just as happy and safe and confident as the people around you. I think you should consider therapy too, as it sounds like you have a pretty bad self esteem problem and flawed coping mechanisms that holding you back. It all gets better though, nonnie, just hang in there.
Gender fluid is the new "I'm not like other girls."
I agree. I'd rather date a girl who was rabidly right-wing than a tumblrina.
>have the robots do everything
They tried that in Dune and the Matrix and the robots took over. Humans had to rebel and start doing work again. Best case scenario, humans will become like zoo animals watched over by a civilization of AIs. This isn't good. humans should continue working. Robots should be restricted to menial jobs like sweat-shop worker and prostitute.
My worst fear is that I'll finally get a girlfriend but it will be too good to be true and then she'll dump me because she wants to date a guy. My gentle heart cannot take that desu
One of my best friends started to get involved in our schools queer union and now she's having an existential crisis because she really wanted to have a good social community and be able to help people, but the queer politics are so fucked and ass backwards, and there's no real place for the L or G in LGBTQPIA+++++ anymore.
Anyways I spend half my time laughing and half sympathizing with her. Thankfully there's plenty of queers on this campus that aren't.... "QUEERS" if ykwim, so the friend/dating pool is still viable.
>racist Jew hating girlfriend would be pretty cute
tfw no jew hating, sheet wearing, AK47 firing, face hiding, mohammed worshiping, bacon eschewing, alcohol avoiding, explosive vest wearing, goat roasting, hummus grinding, tunnel digging, apostate killing, adulterer stoning, husband obeying, koran reading, mortar and missile hoarding, qtp2t palestinian girlfriend.
Ugh how do I find one. I would be the most loyal girlfriend ever if she could look past the fact that I'm sometimes retarded and salty as fuck and talk about boring politics stuff a lot.
>tfw no girlfriend to report you to the authorities and get you chucked off a building.
We all know that feel anon.
>tfw exactly 1 year after my gf told me she'd never love me and broke up with me, I bumped into her at my favorite restraunt with another girl
I showed her that place. We spent so many late nights talking and drinking the shitty coffee. And then I had to run into her on the exact day I broke up with her 1 year prior. My life is a tragic comedy to some outside observer I'm sure.
> some asshole guy does a bunch of lewd things to me in middle school.
> literally no sexual activity after that, especially not with girls.
> in uni now
> tfw no sex memories besides gross-smelling dick being stuck in my mouth/ass and teenage male aggression.
>tfw no girlfriend to make new memories with.
Gross. Go talk about your sexual fantasies somewhere else, bislut.
That's every lesbian's worst nightmare. One of the many reasons we resent bisexuals. My worst fear is having a girlfriend and then her getting preggers and then the dad be a deadbeat and she doesn't have anyone to help her so I'm stuck being a cuck and raising his kid. Like in that story by Neil Gaiman. Except in my version I let both of them die.
Fuuuckk you. As if you've never done stupid shit in middle school? I hate guys and I regret it more than anything. Even when I do get a girlfriend I'm afraid she'll think I'm gross because of it if I tell her.
I was homeschooled during middleschool so no, heh. In elementary school and kindergarten I got abused by other girls, like a truLESBIAN.
Yeah, yeah, I know I'm a degenerate. Again, I would redo it if I could because it was disgusting and horrible. I can't do anything about it now, it was 6 years ago.
I think this thread got derailed. Can I go home now?
Forget them. Not every lesbian has this 4chan mentality. There are plenty of girls who will listen to your story and not judge, and want to help you heal. There are girls who have gone through this themselves. Finding this out would not taint my opinion of you at all and anyone who thinks otherwise has bigger flaws that discount them from being a kind, empathetic girlfriend before you even get around to telling them your backstory. Your past is your past. I promise you're not "tainted" or disqualified from being a "true lesbian" or any other nonsense. You are not a degenerate. I do think you should go to therapy though, regardless of how long ago this was, if you haven't already because this was a genuinely traumatic experience and you owe it to yourself to not let it control any part of you and to be happy and healthy.
Sorry, it's just that this 4chan Discourse reached such a level of shittiness that I wanted to assure you that this conversation is not real life.
Jesus, I hope you're miserable. Oh look, my wish came true.
>implying I'm not already ashamed and suicidal
> implying I don't know already
do you even pay attention
>help you heal
What the fuck, she wasn't raped you dipshit. She's just a self-hating bisexual. From you're post I'm under the impression you're one of them too. You have your own thread, go ruin it.
well my entire point is that "gold star" is a meme - they never had the chance to do anything with a boy, not that they are these qt femme lesbians that absolutely turned down every guy every because they knew that they liked girls since they were a small child.
Lmao this is a legitimate question but it is kind of fix-all solution since there are therapists for every problem. Plus everyone could benefit from it.
"It was disgusting and horrible," "I'm ashamed and suicidal." Clearly there is healing that needs to be had here. Also >>5728215 doesn't sound consensual. I do have my own thread and it's this one.
Isn't "femme" a lesbian-only descriptor? So no bi femme girls? What's the consensus on this?
I've never met a fat lesbian. Like ever. I'm from Portland. There are only lesbians here. All fat girls have been bi and they have some hairy boyfriend they want a threesome with.
What is with your obsession with weight? You sound like some dude trying to coax anons into posting their faces.
all I'm saying is - they are.
They're not bullying me, just projecting their own insecurities onto my experiences.
I'm not insecure about being a lesbian at all, so it doesn't bother me.
Did/is anyone try to change their appearance before coming out? Like losing weight, growing out your hair long, etc so that you wouldn't confirm stereotypes?
that's true. women did get burned at the stake during the Salem witch trials.
i'm just trying to expand my awareness and not encroach or court any gay women.
plus its not any of my business, i am just curious because if possible i would like to avoid falling for gay women.
Ok ladies. Let's brainstorm how to address the male question. And by that I mean let's vote on how we're going to begin the male genocide.
Sweet, that makes me feel less alone then! What goals have you achieved? Do you worry that people will read into you regardless of how hard you try to avoid being a typical lesbian? Like if someone thought you were loud, suddenly you're the Loud Abrasive Lesbian instead of it just being another personality trait.
What are your appearance goals? I can think of behavioral stereotypes about gay men, but not really appearance based ones (aside from flamboyant clothes which no one actually wears outside of cartoons).
>I concede that i am a worthless piece of trash. I'm sorry for offending you senpai.
You better be, you fucking slut.
>mfw I get off on making bisexuals miserable
lesbians and straight men have a much higher BMI than straight women and gay men, respectively. An NIH funded Harvard study thinks that this is because lesbians have ‘low athletic self-esteem’.
I think it's because when you're not worried about "the oppressive male gaze" you let your body go to shit.
im just saying.. MtF trannies love shitposting where ever they may be.
as a veteran r9k poster, using 2d anime girl reaction images is the hallmark of the MtF shitposter, from r9k to v and perhaps lesgen as well.
>tfw no verbally abusive gold-star dyke gf
thanks, you too. i am going to buy cute jeans for my friend and maybe i'll get some chocolate for her too.
apparently we have the same leg length, and she wanted my grey jeans that i was wearing so i said i would get her a pair in her size so its not all loose and baggy looking.
I'm curious as to why men always do this. Women don't go in your /r9k/ threads or in gaygen to shitpost. But there is always a salty gay or straight retard who goes here to shitpost and talk about him. Are you that self-centered?
Nothing. I grew tired of you. I'm not aroused anymore.
People pick out what they want to see. Overweight woman with buzzcut? Lesbian. Skinny man with high voice? Gay man. Amazingly enough I don't have a buzzcut, my bmi (although bmi isn't accurate) is 20, and I've never hit anyone. Studies done on the lesbians are especially iffy since there are so few of us in one spot, so few of us out, and so few of us getting invited to these studies. Also, in places other than the United States lesbians are certainly not known for being obese.
That's not the point at all. It's called respect. Ironically enough, people have more respect for opinions here. You don't have to tolerate the things spewed out of every other region of the internet. You can vent, without reprimand. Which doesn't make 4chan better, it makes it unique. Talk shit about bisexuals on reddit - get a nice ban or ""downvotes"". Say you don't want a man hanging around posting in a thread for lesbians - get a great deal of harassment and "shame on you for not being welcoming!!1" and god forbid saying anything against trannies. We're not nice here because we can be, and you're welcome to leave you stupid faggot.
thank you! i am still learning how to be a good friend your words are very encouraging for me. right now i'm trying not to text bomb her/fall for her too much.
she's not interested in me but i like being around her and getting her presents and food.
she just says she likes something and i offer to get things for her. and it makes me happy to do it but its addicting.
i hate being needy and dependent like this but what i can do? i feel bad for intruding on this girl only space, i hardly ever post or visit lesgen but tonight i was feeling kind of blue.
but thank you for being nice to me, you made me feel a lot better.
Behaviourally I'm trying to be more outgoing and less obnoxious when I talk. Right now I fit the stereotype of self conscious annoying closet. Y'know, the person that constantly make shitty jokes but never actually like talks to people? For appearance I just want to look like someone you'd see on the street, because I simultaneously crave and hate attention. I'm gonna dye my hair a) because my natural hair is a rare colour and for some reason that's the only trait people think of me as and b) My facial hair, eyebrows/eyelashes and hair hair are different colours to each other which makes me very self conscious because that's weird as fuck.
I often fantasize about meeting an innocent bisexual woman, and dating her. Then one special night, maybe Valentine's, she comes home to find me fucking a really ugly fat chick. She bursts into tears and then I ascend to heaven.
I think that some of it might be that there are already a good number of gay male voices in the media, gay characters, etc, so gay men are not really this mystery entity who you want to spy on. But there's not really much lesbian representation, so men may be curious about even the most mundane conversations that lesbians have. Might be malicious, might not be.
No, I think that's a good point. Thanks for actually verbalizing it to me instead of leading with your last point. I think this place is interesting and productive for the same reasons, which you verbalized well.
We like people that we respect, but it's hard to respect someone who acts like they're not on the same level as you- presents are nice but if you buy too many, you risk being more like her butler than her friend! No matter what happens with this girl, I hope you have a great week.
xoxo come get kisses from ur missus, sugar plum
More outgoing, less obnoxious, and less overtly overcompensating is always a good change to make. Good on you for being self aware!
I don't see a lot of guys with dyed hair but I really love it when I do. What hair color are you going for?
i know you don't like talking to me because i'm male and from r9k, but i don't want "studies" done on lesbian women, i just want there to be more literature about lesbian women so i can read some books.
having "studies" done sounds like some clinical research study and that sounds way too cold.
you are talking about lesbian stereotypes, and the prevalent stereotypes are the butch and the tomboy "femme", and the lipstick lesbian glamorously portrayed in Van Wilder movies.
i feel like Lesbian awareness month should be a thing, not with clinical studies but with literature from centuries past.
but this kind of literature seems to be very rare, and not popularized by anyone.
i excluded gay men and trans people from Lesbian awareness month because you are not the same people but you are grouped together here and elsewhere. was that by choice or by necessity, since lesbian women are a small percentage of the population?
maybe lesbian woman are not so small a percentage of the population, they may be too afraid to come out because there is no lesbian awareness at all.
i am doing my best to contribute here, i am not shitposting.
Ideally I'd like it to be black (not in an emo way, I just think freckled, black hair and blushing is the cutest combo) but people with dyed black hair always seem to look a bit 'off' to me so I reckon I'll start with brown. Blonde would be nice but it's much harder to maintain light hair dye then dark and it's not worth the effort.
i am just doing my best to understand, but i am not to be trusted in places like here because i don't have boobs and a vagina.
sometimes i feel so silly for caring about my friend so much. i just know that i'm not supposed to let go yet i'm not supposed to get too close to her either.
i am in a confusing place. i just want to understand, that's all.
Haha, I know, I'm just saying that if she's not buying you gifts, it might be weird if you buy her tons because that can seem pretty intense. Still, whatever works. You sound like a kind person and I hope you find the answers you're looking for soon!
I also wish there were more lesbian literature. And you're right, in a world where so many people still are afraid to admit their orientation to themselves, let alone to others, it can be hard to have accurate statistics. But it's nice to have encouraging people like you to cheer us on and be respectful in the meantime. Personally, as long as the guys here don't pretend to be girls/demand all our attention/act like jerks, I'm not that bothered. Trying to enact online sanctions is a waste of energy anyway and I'm confused as to why someone would even try outside of tumblr.
The trick is to go very dark brown- your instincts about dyed black hair looking off is spot on because there's no actual black hair in nature! Instead, we just have veeeryyy dark brown hair. For example, you take the hair of a person with natural black hair and put it up to light, you'll see warm brown undertones. But you don't get that with black hair dye, so it looks weird. The easiest hair to maintain is whatever's closest to your natural hair color (in terms of darkness) because then the roots won't be as obvious. If you've never done anything with your hair before, I would consider going to a salon! Or at least get a friend who has hair dye experience to help you. Good luck with the hair, personality changes, and with coming out in future!
ya she has admitted that when i start to write her long texts, she won't respond because she thinks i need to cool off, but that just makes me feel more lonely.
she's a masseuse, men pay for her time but women don't. i am just trying to understand. she has told me she is a lesbian but i wasn't sure if that was true because i found out she was married, and once she told me it was just something she told guys she didn't like.
i learned that as a man, it will never be an equal footing kind of situation when it comes to courting women, i'm over that. now i just want to understand lesbian women because i wasn't truly aware at all up until i met my friend.
i always try to be respectful and put in my best effort, but more often i break down and write very long essays in text to her about how i feel.
so i was on r9k, and i've stumbled my way here. and here i put in my best effort to support Lesbian awareness so girls don't have to retreat into remote corners of the internet to feel safe.
but honestly i think lesbian women don't need any help from me in this regard and they like where they are now, and this is hard to swallow. it's silly how much this bothers me but it does.
it bothers me because i want to understand, but because i am a man lesbian women feel threatened by my presence and don't want to help me understand.
except for the kind poster who was nice to me in this thread, thank you.
i did expose the transbian 2d anime girl poster though.
transbians are hella aggressive in their posts i've noticed, probably because they still have their balls even though their bodies are oozing with artificial estrogens.
How the fuck do I meet cute girls, /lesgen/? I have aspergers and I've never been good at socializing with anyone irl, I don't know where to start.
That's a shame you want to dye your hair; red hair is the best color ever. The most beautiful women I ever met were always red heads, and men with this hair color are pretty okay too, even if I don't care about them that way.
Anyway, good luck to you, and thank you for not being like the nutjob from /r9k/.
In general, how bad is it that I have dyed hair? It got really fucked up weird blonde/green color at a salon and I couldn't fix it, so I ended up dying it dark blue to cover it. While I wait for my regular hair to grow out and I can cut it off, am I just gonna have to deal with being a special snowflake?
It sounds like she has already made her wishes clear. if she is a lesbian, then she won't like you back in that way no matter what you do. Just like how, if you're a heterosexual guy, there's nothing that a male friend of yours could do to make you like him back. But lesbians are just as diverse as any other group of people. The only thing we really have in common is that we like girls.
Gingers are cute af. When I was in elementary school I had plans to get freckles tattooed onto me because I thought they were the shit- the tattoo idea was misguided, liking freckles was not. You have good genes, anon! But obviously dye your hair if it would make you happy since, as corny as it sounds, confidence really does trump most things and is one of the most attractive qualities.
Ehh, I love artificial colors. I went up to talk to a girl last week only because two hours into my class I finally noticed that there was green in her hair that she had not completely succeeded in dying over. I know people here roll their eyes at this sentiment but to me, dyed hair is like a badge of autonomy. You did something that a lot of people might find unattractive because taking control of your appearance was more important than those opinions. If stepping outside anything that's normal and natural is being a ~special snowflake~, then yeah, the blue hair is being a special snowflake and you're doomed to roam tumblr forever. But I'm not interested in people who are too scared/boring/unimaginative/uninterested to do anything off beat so I find it attractive.
No problem! Honestly, if you're getting tons of compliments from girls in real life, then you already know "how bad it is"- it's great! Don't let other people talk you out of that and don't put too much stock into what the internet thinks. But since you reached for blue dye instead of brown when fixing a botched dye job, I think you are probably a cool and independent thinking person already. Hope you have a great week and get even more compliments, blue haired anon!
Good night. If you're the same anon that has been posting all the other images that have a similar vibe to this one, I have been enjoying them. They have all been calming and very pretty, thank you.
Am I supposed to be the raging bitch? How rude.
some of you girls act like just because im male and from r9k im gonna try and hit on all of you or something. i just came here looking for a conversation and some understanding. at least one of you was nice enough to talk to me.
Jesus dude. You honestly just sound desperate and weird.
I had a 'friend' who I made clear about my lack of interest with, and he'd constantly send me long ass messages about being lonely and wishing he could cuddle someone (hinting obviously at me). He ended up sending me lewd messages and pictures because he was so messed in the head that he took my friendship as desire. This is what I instantly thought of when I read what you wrote here.
Seriously, all I'm getting is creepy vibes from everything you've written in this thread. Seek help.
Yeah, when I was still in the closet there was this guy who would always come on to me, send me long text messages about his feelings, and try to touch me when we were hanging out with friends.
Tbh you're probably creeping her out, and need to back off a bit. No one in real life owes you explanations or has to listen to your "feelings".
If you really want to understand, shut up and just enjoy spending time with her. If she's comfortable around you, she'll open up.
i didn't say anyone owed me anything damn i am just trying to understand.
you girls just go cold and expect me to figure it out so here i am trying to do exactly that.
if by "seek help" you mean see a therapist, no thanks my insurance doesn't cover that. but i am doing exactly that here, seeking help.
you girls can act all high and mighty if you want, but i've gone through broken glass for this girl i didn't have the heart to just tell her i didn't care.
whatever i didn't expect sympathy but getting called a creep is a little too much, especially right off the bat.
you girls don't even know what's wrong until that guy is gone and then you come crawling back and he doesn't have the heart to tell you no because he still cares.
"Oh boo hoo I'm so caring and loving but she doesn't even care."
Dude. Shut up. You're the epitome of the 'beta male' meme.
You want my help in your lesbian friend situation? Get over yourself and realise that she won't ever want you. She's a lesbian for a reason. Stop buying her gifts to try and win her, stop pressuring her with your constant needy texts, and start improving your life and your self esteem so that you can get a girl that has a minute chance of liking you romantically.
again with the insults because you don't know how to deal, and that's the truth. neither you or my friend has an answer for me other than "stay where you are, your feelings are irrelevant."
and that's the truth, you and her simply don't know how to deal with guys so you just choose not to.
i never said she owed me anything, i was hoping she had an answer but now i see that sh e doesn't, none of you do.
so now i can be another guy that leaves her behind because im a "creep" that just wanted sex from a lesbian woman.
i'm frustrated because in truth i can neither blame her or anyone here, and i don't know how i can be her friend and be truly happy except in those brief moments where i spend time with her and be sad when i'm not.
i'm sad because there are some things i cannot change, like my feelings for her or her non-feelings for me. and the only way people deal with this is to find somebody else and slowly drift apart, like always.
yeah call me a nancy because i can speak my mind without hiding behind a wall of "being normal" or "manning up."
for a group of people i believed to be in tune with their emotions, it turns out that you girls don't really know how to deal with them at all.
its not your fault, i'm thankful that you took the time to respond to me. i'm just frustrated and sad because i'm a creep for meaning well, and i'm a creep for developing romantic ideas for my friend in the process of being close to her.
that's not true, i care about her well-being and i want her to be happy, so i did everything i could to make her happy and i fell for her in the process. somebody shoot me, because i'm a creep and apparently a threat to her well-being.
i'm just utterly frustrated that nobody has any wisdom to share to help me understand, so again i walk alone.
beta males get a lot of shit, but we don't deserve that. we don't. if you've ever had a beta male friend that was in love with you he did a lot of stuff for you, which you will brush off as "he only did it to get sex." but i never intended to fall for my friend, it just happened. i never planned it, and i let just my feelings grow instead of trying to stop them because i wanted to see where it went.
you think i will just "go get a girl" as if my feelings don't matter at all, that any girl will do. that just says to me that im just some guy, and if it wasn't for me then any other guy would do to be a beta friend until that beta friend gets too overbearing with his emotions and she will find another one.
if you wanna live like that i'm not going to stop you, i never tried to. this is why men seem so heartless, because we get told to "get over it, just find a girl" as in any girl will do, it doesn't matter who she is because she is a girl and i'm a man and that's good enough.
i looked up to you girls, and for what? to be utterly disappointed. girls never understand only when he is gone, but that is human nature i just didn't have the heart to do it and be heartless.
i dread becoming like that, evaluating girls to just "find a girl". you can't just make people fall in love it just doesn't work like that and i'm a hypocrite because i need to take my own advice and fuck off already.
my feelings don't mean shit, that's the bottom line and that's the bitter pill i cannot swallow.
i refuse to be devalued as a friend, i'm not a "creep". i can take no for answer, just give me a clean out and i'll build my life anew.
telling me to just "find a girl" like my feelings never mattered is too much, but i expected too much from you girls and from her, that's all my fault.
>beta males get a lot of shit, but we don't deserve that
Yes you do you piece of shit.
Go look in a mirror, you lazy tired fuckstick. I bet you just feel so sorry for yourself with your poor little life and your poor little loneliness that drives you to the sheer hell of posting in a lesgen thread.
Let me tell you something: you aren't the first, you won't be the last. You will live and die alone because there is no good or bad or right or wrong there is only this world and you looking out at it. And you can sit there gagging yourself with your hand or get up and piss off into the horrifying hellstorm of real life.
That got kind of inspirational, but rest assured: I'm here to fucking insult you, you double-ended fleshlight kisser. I bet you drive around in your car looking out and just WISHING you could holla at some of the juicy Shaniquas on the curbside. I bet they just make your twisted pervert mouth WATER.
Why don't you go play with a train set, because in the time you'll have alone you'll need a hobby.
I didn't say get over it, I said get over yourself.
Also by saying "get a girl", it's quicker than saying "develop yourself as a person better so that you can be happier alone, which in turn will draw people who could be happy with you, and finally help you find someone who you can love and they can love you in return"
Now, I'm sick of trying to make you understand how fucking autistic and cringey you sound, so I'm going to stop responding in the hope that you stop shitting up the thread.
>my feelings don't mean shit, that's the bottom line and that's the bitter pill i cannot swallow.
You want your feelings to "mean shit"?
I will literally POOP on your SHITTY feelings!
You are such, let me tell you!
You are such pity-partying low-life scum, that if low-life scum held a pity party they'd tell you to fuck off for trying to rain on their parade and bring everybody down with your shitty POOP feelings.
By the way, your feelings are terrible and you should see a doctor about them. Maybe mention to your psychiatrist, because I'm sure you have one, how you're going around stalking lesbians like a dick. He'll help you, I'm sure.
>i want her but she told me no
>i wanted to know why and she told me she wasn't interested
>but i am a man and she's a woman
>i just want to understand
>why are you yelling at me, i just want to understand
Fucking hell, she told you she wasn't interested in you that way, what else do you need? That you're not her type, she finds you disgusting or what? People don't need to explain their every train of though to you. Some anons were kind enough to give you some advices and yet you ignore it by spouting "you just want to understand". Now fuck off, and go harass your friend. Holy shit, if you're like that with her, it's astonishing she still hasn't called the cops.
I'm talking about what a horrible, disingenuous, pathetic piece of shit you are. And if you weren't such a horrible, disingenuous, pathetic piece of shit, you would understand that by now.
dude im fine with being alone, what i was not fine with was leaving something behind without getting to the bottom of it.
but it turns out there was no "bottom", everything was literally at face value and i was just too blind to see it.
i know you all hate me but thank you, okay? i'm really not a bad person.
only because i'm the male, and im "that friend" and you've all had bad experiences with them.
other than being wordy with texts, i'm pretty tame. im gonna fuck off though, i lasted 2 months before i came crawling back to her.
she did call me at one point though, to be fair. i didn't say anything bad other than argue, if you go back and re-read it objectively you'll see that. i really am trying to come to senses and i think that's why i came here for help.
turns out having anonymous lesgen yell at me and call me a creep does the trick.
She won't ever return your feelings, and she doesn't have to explain to you why, no matter how hard you want her to.
Now stop being a retard, stop being around her for a while and think about something else. You'll never have her, so try to improve yourself and find someone who will love you back.
no, I really don't care that you're male, you just seen incredibly petty and self-entitled from skimming your posts
you think a whole thread should be held captive to your tantrum/whining about why you can't have what you want and nothing you've posted would lead anyone to believe that you are "really not a bad person",maybe you are but you've done nothing here to suggest it
i know but she was still there as a friend. yes i know she doesn't have to explain to me why, but i thought she would because i would and i am always explaining things to her. that doesn't mean she owes me anything i just assumed that she would explain stuff to me like i do for her. anyway!
i'm not a retard, i cooked dinner for her and all her friends and they said it was delicious and she said she loved it.
i try to improve myself with or without her regardless. as for finding someone who will love me back, i always say that i'm better off alone and then sooner or later i fall head over heels over some kind Stacey who opens the door for me or some dumb shit like that.
i will update you girls! lesgen support group. and i won't post unless i absolutely have to, thank you i really appreciate everyone's input i mean it.
and when/if i do update, i will put a nametag or some such so you know its me and can ignore me or respond at your leisure.
tonight was just a hard night for me, its morning now but valentines day etc.
i was dropped on my head as a baby, true story. i rolled off the bed when my momma wasn't looking and fell on my head.
okay that's fair. i know i hijacked the thread and i'm sorry but i needed help.
i guess other than bringing her food when she's hungry and buying her things, i didn't do all that much for her.
i bought her a gym membership, i should probably cancel that.
>that whole post
Christ. Okay, you took some advices and all but you don't need to update, we're not your support group. Now be a grown up man and take care of yourself, without whining here.
>because i would and i am always explaining things to her
>i just assumed that she would explain stuff to me like i do for her
>that doesn't mean she owes me anything
>yes i know she doesn't have to explain to me why
from your posts Idk how true those last statements are to you because the others seem like a mess of excuses
yeah i have been a mess trying to figure stuff out. being a true friend and trying to understand where the boundaries are but it blurred to me, i am only human.
i am trying to do the right thing, this i can say.
no hard feelings i hope?
Not my best friend, but a pretty big crush on my sister's friend, who I'm kind of getting close with.
She's illegally fucking cute. I only wish she was taller and teased me even more.