Why the fuck are some guys in such denial about being gay? This closeted guy started sexting me telling me he would fuck me and shit, even came over once asked for a blowjob but chickened out at the last second. Now he's in this denial mode where he acts like I somehow tricked him into sextinf, pic related I'll post some of our sexting convos if ur interested. I'm so sick of closeted guys why can't I find a masculine guy that isn't closeted? Seems like all the out gay guys are liberal feminine fags, especially where I live, you go on craigslist and its 30 to 1 bottoms to tops, and the tops are all ugly old guys that can't even get hard.
This is where it usually ends, he'll say jk and then act like nothing even happened as if by those simple words he can wipe the act from his slate.
I mean I was closeted at one time but i don't remember trying to bend reality like this.
They were hot conversations but I hate how I have this attraction to closeted guys, fucking worthless pieces of shit that could care less how you feel as long as they don't get labeled as a homo. They can do mental gymnastics insanely good to trick themselves into believing telling another guy you'd fuck them is normal straight guy behavior.
The majority of the masculine gay guys are just experimenting, the moment things get too gay for their liking the try to save face and act like they never wanted anything gay in the first place.
The search is hard and difficult, anon, but you can do it.
Also, stop being so upfront about fucking/sucking/whatever, you probably scared the poor guy with your queer talk.
He also has had me send him videos of me sucking a cucumber, as well as a bid of me twerking, twice. I didn't offer he asked out of nowhere. For awhile I knew if he hit me up we were talking about sex because he never talked to me otherwise.
Maybe sexuality is more complex than just being x, y or z.
Maybe to some people their sexuality defines their identity and doing homosexual acts enforces that.
Maybe to others doing homosexual acts is just something that they do and not who they are, and they have no identity attached to their acts.
Maybe it is often others that makes the latter sometimes act jerk-ish because of how they can transfer situations they felt were part of their identity over towards other people so that there would be reputation.
If someone had sex with someone that was ugly they most likely wouldn't want anyone else to know and they certainly didn't want anyone to think of them as uglysexuals.
you don't really make sense. at least to me. sexuality is a huge part of your life. it defines who you are spending your life with and often who you hang around with. if you deny that it'll likely make life much less enjoyable or downright not worth it. some people put more focus on their sexuality than others. idk about asexuality though.
Just the same you don't really make much sense to me. I really don't get this closeted talk because I think most of the things in my life is no one else's business.
Today I have taken a shit and jerked off, but when I meet my friends later today I'm not gonna tell them that because they are aspects of my life that are private.
Same thing with sexual escapades, just because I don't detail who, what and where I've done things doesn't have any impact on my enjoyability of life because I don't feel these things define me in any way, they were just sensations that I enjoyed. Maybe I'm more of a sensualist and maybe those of us that are, aren't so focused on sensations defining our personality or identity. Maybe people that place more value on feelings need sensations to define them, if that is the case I would advice you to stay away from such people and rather go with pragmatic and thinking people instead.
Being a confused closeted homosexual is really hard, it's like you're two persons in one body. Sometimes when I'm not horny I feel straight, I feel like a hardcunt(I would get really aggressive if someone tried to intimate me) and it's like I feel tougher than I really am. But when I'm horny I just want to touch other guys and make dicks touchs and bottom for somebody and then cuddle.
It's so hard for a guy like me that has repressed his homosexuality most of his life. When I tell some guys on grindr that I repressed my sexuality for most of my life they just don't seem to understand, it's like they can't even begin to fathom it. Well I can't really fathom why you guys that knew you were gay at 8 would celebrate that when the environment around you told you that being gay was(dirty) and that gay people were fucked up.
I've fucked up my life by being such an autistic faggot with a fucked up faggot brain. I'm 25 and I'm a bot now, and all that I can do is go to the gym...
How is he denying his sexuality really? Seems more to me like he is a sensualist and he's dragging it out because he knows that the lead up to sex is just as exciting as the sex itself.
I personally like to tease and almost torture my partners over long periods of time, making them unable to think about little else than the consummation. I could be wrong of course but don't operate under the notion that people are afraid just because they are not behaving in a manner as you would.
I understand it to an extent, I grew up in a hyper religious environment but when I was 12 I started messing around with some church boys and by 14 me and another boy were having full blown sex, but I stayed in the closet til about 22 years old, not to myself though. I guess that's what confuses me the most being in the closet to yourself, you can't wish away your attractions just by pretending they aren't there you know?
eh its pretty normal
like most bicurious guys he can have it as a fantasy but when it gets real he has no balls to go through with it
and in person you can fool around and if hes drunk and horny and you make out or even go further - the next day hes acting like a dumb schoolgirl pretending he cant recall much and it was all booze
Because I know this guy really well, we grew up in the same church, he's also mexican, and he's like 19. He's not sophisticated enough for that yet, he's just ashamed of his gay feelings.
>Seems more to me like he is a sensualist and he's dragging it out because he knows that the lead up to sex is just as exciting as the sex itself.
lol? are you baiting me? nothing of the conversation and what OP said suggests that. sure it's possible but very unlikely. besides i said as an example so you aren't really answering me.
>I could be wrong of course but don't operate under the notion that people are afraid just because they are not behaving in a manner as you would.
but you operate under the notion that he has the exact same sexual preferences as you. why are you talking about that guy like he is you?
>guess that's what confuses me the most being in the closet to yourself, you can't wish away your attractions just by pretending they aren't there you know?
After having same sex fantasies I would always do some mental gymnastics in my head to make it seem like this wasn't gay and that all males had homoerotic fantasies about their friends or classmates. Also, I would jack off to porn and lust over the cock, then say I can't be gay cuz I jack off to straight porn,check mate faggots(while the sole reason I was watching porn was to look at big cocks that belonged to fit men), I'd also jerk off to solo males and occasionally gay porn(that would always make me feel like shit after I came, because of the shame).
Me and my friend almost started humping each other on several occasions when I was 11 but I just fought the desires away because I felt that if we would so something that would mean that we were just losers. When I look back on it I hate how much I cared about what was "right" and what was "wrong". I felt like my sexual attractions were to the same sex were "wrong".
If I was the guy in OP's pic I could think the same think about OP: "What if he's just some mentally ill person? I mean he wants other men to fuck him, I don't even know the dude and he just wants strangers to have sex with him(guys not women), i'd be down with it if it was a chick... there's something off about homosexuals on hook up apps that just want a stranger to fuck them... I should be weary"
I find it really hard to trust people, especially when it comes to sex and were I'm vulnerable. Should I talk about thinks like these in my therapy sessions?
I think that when guy in OP's pic cums he snaps out of the gay mentality and goes back to his straight self of "wtf am I doing, I was about to stick it into a dude".
As a closeted faggot I can kinda relate to the guy.