>mom asks why I wear a chest binder
>thrust hands in pockets to prevent spaghetti spillage
>say it makes me feel better
>"do you want to separate yourself from maturity? or femininity? i looked stuff up and it said they were used to get a more male body"
>spaghetti begins to slip through fingers
>"I don't really give that much thought to it. didn't like something, did something about it"
>"well you're not particularly butch so..."
>pocket spaghetti replaced by confusion
What does it mean to be butch? I wouldn't say I was either but where's the line between tomboy and butch?
I mean, shit, the only feminine things about me are long hair, a couple pieces of jewelry and menstruation.
Long hair butch isn't easy, you kinda have to go over the top with it. You probably read more tomboy, if not just a regular cis girl. Why don't you cut your hair?
Since I've always known binders in the context of passing, I've never considered that viewpoint. That's some food for thought, about suppressing secondary sex characteristics not out of a desire to be the opposite sex, but to deny sexual maturity.
>Why don't you cut your hair?
I'd like to. I don't want to be read as a lesbian, which butch is tightly linked to. I'd rather be read as tomboy or pass as male. Anyone I mention a short haircut to as an idea gives me the "really? eeeeeeh..." response though which isn't encouraging.
If there is a line, it's a really really fine line. I would say tomboy implies that you identify as woman and are still feminine enough to pass as a woman. I guess a functional/sporty women's wardrobe in dark or neutral colours is what sets them apart from more feminine girls. Butch, from what I understand, is a masculine woman who dresses in men's clothes. Also short hair can be feminine or masculine depending on how it's styled, so I wouldn't give up on it OP.
Why are trans men so greedy? I literally read a conversation bunch of trans men had on one of the bigger lgbt sites in my language about how unfair it is that they can't pass with long hair and how they don't want to cut their hair. Like wtf? You're not cis so you're gonna have to make extra effort to look good. That would be like a trans woman complaining she doesn't look like a woman while wearing crew cut, male jeans and t shirt. No shit .
Menstruation is femaleness, not femininity.
Butch is like plain t-shirts, buzzcuts, plain jewelry, laced boots, etc. Obviously ties and buttoned shirts. Sometimes you get fancy enough to be called dapper. Tomboy, to me, is more sporty, capris, tennies, ponytails or pixie cuts, etc.
Lesbians consider it a lesbian-only word. Just call yourself masculine.
>not liking butches
Shit taste, sis.