I don't like genitals.
Anyone else who doesn't really feel sexually attracted to genitals?
I'm a guy and I guess I'm mostly/rather attracted to women.
However! I really don't like vaginas and I really hate the idea of licking them and sucking at some clitoris, eek! But: I also hate cocks and I really hate the idea of taking such a thing into my mouth. My sexual fantasies are usually about BDSM, about power and such, they are pretty "psychological", but they never involve any genitals.
Yeah, as if sexuality is the same as food preferences. Pretty much all kids start out with hating vegetables but eventually like them.
Same is not true for gays, fetishists, bisexuals and so on.
>as if sexuality is the same as food preferences
It's basically the same. They're both things you do to promote genetic survival and are compelled to pursue due to biological pleasure feedback loops.
Don't know if I follow. I will say fat people are going to be more comfortable with themselves sexually and hungry skellies are going to be more neurotic about their sexual feelings.
He wrote a lot about sexuality, among many other things!
He wrote a series of essays on Sadism and Masochism; the English translation is called "Coldness & Cruelty" and it should be available somewhere online.
>Interesting. How do you feel about your own genitals? Have you had sex?
I don't feel much about my own genitals.
They are either not involved in my sexual fantasies or they involve chastity devices and such.
And I only had BDSM sex with my former girlfriend. I licked her boots, she made me wear tutus and took pictures of me, put things in my ass - that kind of stuff. "Femdom" I suppose.
And she never really liked being seen naked, so sexually we were kinda compatible, I suppose.
But it didn't work out otherwise for a dozens of reasons.
Go see a sex therapist. A bunch of utter retards will try to tell you that you're asexual, don't worry about it, sex is overrated, born this way! It's pure lies. They're covering up for their self-destructive behavior and terrible self-esteem. It sounds like you have a very treatable condition, and you're be more functional and outgoing for the therapy, with far less stress and far less labor.
Before you join those frauds in their circus, give the therapy a go. And not just any random asshole, look for certification and satisfied clientele.
Good luck, anon. I believe in your ability to heal. What you're going through might be making you uncomfortable, but it is not an immutable part of your sexuality.
>Go see a sex therapist. A bunch of utter retards will try to tell you that you're asexual, don't worry about it, sex is overrated, born this way! It's pure lies. They're covering up for their self-destructive behavior and terrible self-esteem.
Yes, I was thinking about that.
Because ... like I said, my former girlfriend, strictly sexually speaking we were kinda compatible.
However, she also had deep mental issues with her sexuality and was even locked up as a teenager in some institution. And she was fucking paranoid about being seen naked and being seen without her panties on.
Not just some average issues with worrying about being too fat or something, but really deep issues. I remember, she even went into the shower sometime with her panties on.
So, she had actual psychological issues and I guess I have similiar ones regarding genitals.