/lgbt/, why is it that femmes who like other femmes seem to be, like. Mythical creatures.
Every single girl who's ever been into me (which is not a lot) has been butch or at least chapstick. I've been told by more than one lesbian that my "very straight" appearance is off-putting. The fuck. mffw.
Other femmes who like femmes, if you're out there. Pls post ITT so I know I'm not alone in this world orz
I'm butch so I'm probably biased here, but... anything more feminine than chapstick requires a lot of effort. Makeup and fashion require a huge time investment to learn and practice routinely. Just look at /mtfg/. There's no purpose to it either, other than looking good.
I feel like a lot of straight women go full lipstick because they know that's what men want, and lesbians just... don't give a fuck. There's no reason to try that hard to get a woman to sleep with you. There's some strict femme4femme types out there but even the women that actively avoid butches aren't going to complain if you never wear eyeliner. The only lesbians who go full femme are the ones who just really, really care about looking like the women on billboards for whatever reason.
I respectfully but completely disagree with almost everything you've said.
>There's no purpose to it either, other than looking good.
Wrong. If I do my hair/makeup/put on a nice outfit, it's not because I want to look good for the sake of looking good. It's all about how it makes me feel. Presenting myself in a way that feels right to be is a huge part of my identity and a big factor playing into my daily happiness.
>The only lesbians who go full femme are the ones who just really, really care about looking like the women on billboards for whatever reason.
So wrong. I'm not sure what you mean by "full femme", but. I'm a conventionally attractive woman. I'm fit, have a nice face, I wear nice clothes, etc. I don't give a flying winged fuck about looking at the women on the billboards. I look cute because I want to look cute FOR MYSELF. I have never in my life dolled my appearance for the sole purpose of attracting a partner.
Yeah, I just don't understand that mentality at all. I get absolutely no pleasure out of painting my face in the morning, it feels like a huge waste of time and I love how I look without the hassle. You do you though anon.
That's like my biggest fantasy and it's hard to find femmes because some of them are either in the closet or straight.
How do you even tell if she's a femme lesbian? Some girls who are straight just flirt for fun which is pretty fucked up
Honestly, I hate makeup. Makeup is expensive and the process of putting it on fucking sucks. But to me, there's nothing quite like heading out feeling like I look beautiful. To me, doing some killer eyeliner and putting on red lipstick can turn a shit day into a great day. Again tho, all with utmost respect, anon. Lesbians on the internet must look out for one another since, y'know, we don't exist.
Nope, you're not alone and neither am I. Hi qt.
It is fucked up. I can't tell you how many of my straight friends get drunk and start hella flirting with me only to be all "ew that was so weird I can't believe I tried to kiss you" in the morning. I like to drop subtle hints in my appearance that I'm gay. Like, I have a bunch of rainbow pins on my bag, hah. I also wear flannel a lot.
>But to me, there's nothing quite like heading out feeling like I look beautiful.
I think is the difference between us. I don't feel like makeup makes me any more or less attractive than I normally am. It just makes me look different. I've never prioritized my appearance very highly either though, so what do I know.
But yeah, all respect to what you're doing. Hope you find a qt 3.14 femme to date soon.
I really hate those girls who say they support lgbt and they are full on straight. Like really? They even made their header the lgbt flag on some gay pride day. What a fucking tease.
Can I just say being a femme who likes femme makes me insecure at time. I mean not to be stereotypical, but most femmes won't even look or talk to me if you don't reach a certain level of attractiveness. Idk if this makes any sense. But being a femme liking femme is tough because everyone is constantly out prettying each other and you can never be pretty enough for anyone for fucks sake.
Not butch but I do get intimidated by pretty feminine women. I get nervous and don't know what to say so try to avoid them where possible. With butches or chapsticks I don't get flustered. Just comes with have low self-confidence which is terrible.
>Makeup is expensive and the process of putting it on fucking sucks. But to me, there's nothing quite like heading out feeling like I look beautiful
this is why i dont trust girls when they say "i dont do it for anyone else/cause of society". theres a reason you feel ugly without makeup on. i just dont understand why girls dont deal with that poor self esteem instead of giving tons of money to men to put a bandaid on a festering wound
inb4 "i do it to express myself" obviously that's different
I know this feel so fucking hard. I like unconventionally attractive girls so I don't mind if her face is like 4/10 but even those girls are expecting a solid 7 or 8 /10.
Try and find a trans girl. Those seem to be the only lesbians I know of that actually try to seem feminine most of the time. I know dicks are gross, but you can get past it if they're attractive in every other way.
there are plenty of femmes who like femmes. They don't get together because they act like straight girls, and wait to be approached. If two femmes are at a girlbar, they will glance at each other from across the room, and think that it is the other girl's job to come over and talk to them. In the meantime, a butch girl will come and hit on one of them.
No, we gays guys are usually not that afraid of really attractive guys. Although we try to avoid them before knowing whether or not they are gay. Straight guys are really insecure about that.
By what I've heard from my straight guy friends it seems attractive women are kinda cunts. They know they are highest up in any social ladder and therefor they act as if allowing lower creatures near them is politeness enough.
We gay guys deal with men, and men are just better to be around. They are smart and considerate and always polite and helpful.
I feel for you lesbians.
I'm female and I like females. That means boobs and cute faces.
I don't like "females" who look, sound and act exactly like men. What the fuck is the point of that? Just date a man if you're into that
>mfw I wish I was straight
>mfw I'm not attracted to men at all.
I get what you're saying, but life in gayland doesn't seem that good for men either (STDs, anal sex prep, 10 hrs a day at the gym for an average gay bod, tokenized and caricatured by society). Straight women seem like the only ones who have it easy.
I'm a femme who likes a femme.
I wouldn't date another femme. Just her. I'm going to kidnap her and smuggle her into Chile where we'd live together in a bunker and harvest organs for cocaine someday.
Also, I kinda have to wear lipstick because it's so damn dry in my region.
butches make me feel sick, even more so than men because it's like they are raping my eyes by being female and gaining my attention but then looking like men with mustaches who i wouldn't have looked at otherwise
When it comes to STD lesbians are least likely to get them out of all sexual groups.
Anal sex prep is sometimes a hassle, but believe me when i say there is no better feeling on this planet than being fucked deeply in the ass by a large hairy man while he reaches around and jerks you of with his strong manly hands, a couple of times i have passed out from the sheer sexual pleasure of that.
I actually almost vomited twice while reading that post. I had to take antacids, and my mouth tastes like bile. I'm so glad I'm gay, that sounds awful.
Man, I have go-blind orgasms basically every time I have sex, and it can be spontaneous. I feel bad for gay men and all the hassle just for normal function.
You can be femme without looking like a straight girl. Get a side cut, get some queer looking tattoos, get some piecings, dye your hair weird colors, anything that flags that you're not just another straight girl. You gotta advertise your sexuality if you want other girls to pick up on it
I said this to my last gf and it so pissed the off Lol like those exact words. She was so gross. She started to wear these nasty collared shirts and started wearing guy underwear. It was disgusting! I wear pretty femme stuff and she wouldn't even wear makeup. I didn't understand the point of it all. It was weird though because she only wanted to be screwed with a strap on like the biggest ones. Eventually I told her that if I wanted to date a guy I would do so. So I ended it with her. Please lesbians, if you're going to be butch you might as well go all the way and be trans. Or else what is the point?
You're not alone, OP. But you probably live somewhere like I do, a Southern US city where LGBT aesthetics have yet to progress past 1992. It makes it bloody impossible to find anyone.
>"drop subtle hints in my appearance"
>having to keep it hidden
Yep. Putting my money on somewhere in the South.
Well I don't think it's doing it wrong, but I do agree that rainbow wristband is acceptable identification.
Actually I live in Miami. Super liberal place but y'know, I don't wanna have to wear a shirt that says "I'm a lesbian, ask me how" all the time.
>I used to live in Florida. You all are Southerners
Not really, most of Florida is snowbirding yankees, and Florida wasn't actually inhabited enough to count back when "the South" meant something.
The only thing southern about Florida is its geographical location. You may as well call Puerto Rico "southern".
>Nah. I mean, from your description you sound to me more femme than chapstick.
>anything more feminine than chapstick requires a lot of effort
Where does the distinction lie between chapstick and lipstick?
I have cute fashion, but I wouldn't call it "high effort" to wear boots, patterned leggings, short skirts, and cute sweaters. And I never wear makeup or jewelry.
What about the inverse? A girl who only wears baggy jeans, tshirts, and sneakers, but does wear some makeup?
Is there like a half step above Chapstick but below lipstick lesbian? Because I feel like that's where I'm hovering. I wear very light makeup because I'm mostly too lazy/incompetent to learn how to properly wing eyeliner. I do love figuring out new ways to do updos though and spend a lot of time on my hair.
>Is there like a half step above Chapstick but below lipstick lesbian?
yeah it's called quit worrying about this garbage
people change, you will change, just find the thing you want to fuck and fuck it. your relationship does not need to be tumblr approved™
Ill help you. Chapstick lez is a lez that only wears minimal makeup, usually not mac or sephora, and their outfits are feminine but not fashionable. They also don't out a lot of effort in their hair.
A lipstick will wear name brand makeup and look quite fashionable. She will look like a straight girl so you wouldn't guess she was gay.
Is that really a read for lesbian though? I know tons of straight girls who look like that.
Or should I be hitting on makeupless girls more? Maybe they're bi?
I know at least three who are painfully straight. Zero homoflexibility.
allright, I'm pretty chapstick. What do I need to do to upgrade to lipstick? Is it just wearing more makeup? are feminine clothes important or is it more do to with makeup?
also, what do you girls think of /fit/ girls?
Not legal here
Just civil union