/gayfeels/ >Never had a bf before >Find out dude has feelings

>>5600277
welcome to gay dating.

it sucks

you gonna love it.

I've literally never had a /gayfeel/ because people think I look too intimidating to even get close.

>in love with best friend
>he's straight
>get mad jealous whenever he has a girlfriend
>spend time and money on him, even to my detriment
>he'll never love me the same as I love him
He's the only thing that makes me smile...

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>>5600340
same here

I just started in the gay dating scene on grindr. Got hooked on ONE guy andhes all i think about. I hadnt looked at porn since we started talking then went on a date, he was and is super vague about wherehe wantsto go with it/ if hes even attracted to me. I asked him out tonight and he ignored me so i just looked at porn again. Im scaredmy whole life is going to be endless chasing and progressive loneliness, pain, and depression. I hope it gets to the point where i have a gun to my head bc then i will be ready to turn my life over to Gods care. If it isnt too late.

why isn't this in /gaygen/

>>5600394
because gaygen sucks

>>5600401
be the change you want to see in the world faggot

>>5600394
because it's gay

>>5600277
>tfw a repressed homo
>tfw don't want to be labeled as a stereotype
>tfw I care a lot about what others think of me
>tfw my own millennial agenda of being different made me not want to become a stereotype
>tfw I don't date because of this
>tfw I don't look at men because of this
>tfw sex drive is dying because I'm repressing so hard

I just want to be a gay guy. One who doesn't care if people call him a faggot. Why am I such a beta.

>>5600434
Literally completely ur own fault, have fun being lonely

>>5600407
I'm changing the world by not posting there

>>5600434
I think we all go through that phase at one point. I spent years telling people I was bi.

>"I'm not THAT gay, guys, really!

Don't worry, you'll grow out of it.

>>5600511
So will he become a flaming faggot?

>>5600580
well, I had a flaming faggot phase too

then I was masc4masc

now I just don't know

i use to whine about not having any intimate experiences with people. now i realize i'm just insulating myself from other people so i never have to feel the stinging pain of rejection or loss even if it means i'll never know the joy of young love or being with someone who wants to be with you. it'd probably be the same thing if i were straight, so not even gay feels really.

im 19 btw maybe im just talking out of my ass and i haven't met enough people yet.

>>5600664
19 too and feel the same way

>>5600340
>>5600376
Man up anons, you can't change their sexuality..

>>5603103
>you can't change their sexuality
I swear to god, this boys MINE, one day he'll see the light and we'll get married

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>>5600651
Not him but you are probably a faggot. Source I am a doctor with a stethoscope. :^)

>/gayfeels/
>be me
>mildly successful, still relatively young
>can't decide if I want to just fuck some married man for the rest of my life on the side or actually fall in love

feels bad bros

>>5603151
Do both. Fuck some married straight man on the side and fall in love with him and cry here about how biscum are assholes and 'I'm tootally gonna dump the next time I see him guisez OMG he JUST whatsapped me and his bitch slut of a wife is at the country club with his BEAUTIFUL KIDS and I'm going to go over to suck his dick and get fucked on the couch like the slut that I am. Totes to you later. I love you lots' etc etc.

>>5603177
I mean, that does sound perfect but I'd never want to see his wife/kids.

biscum are the worst tho thats true :(

>fuck a guy
>get feels
>get ur heart broken cos he has none
>become good friends somehow
>he seems sincerely fond of me
>still love him but dont consider him a dating prospect
>havent hanged since we stopped fucking but talk nearly daily
Doomed/10?

>never had a bf before
>never will
Feels bad.

>tfw 20 years old
>tfw never had bf
>tfw not convinced non-sjw actually exist irl

>>5603221
yep

>>5600387
Iktf

I don't want to be bisexual anymore. I don't like feeling gay and having man lust, am supposed to like women dammit.

>>5603190
>biscum are the worst
>I want to make a father lie to his children and probably ruin their lives

yeeeah

>>5608914
Sarcasm is hard to detect online, I understand. I thought at least I was obvious due to the situation being absolutely ridiculous, but even that didn't work.

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>Hired today at a job I really think I'll like
>Meanwhile living with parents
>Do much more then my fair share of cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc.
>Despite this they...
>Have no respect for privacy
>Have no value of my opinion and think everything they think is fact
>Walk upstairs quickly without warning
>Judge and criticize me on insane details then half-ass everything they do
>Tell me what to do without asking and get upset when I have plans
>Enforce these stressful rules like shorts showers and no long time in the bathroom in general
>Want to have deep talks yet never remember anything I say
>Never have any idea why I'm upset despite having 1000 reasons that they should be aware of, but choose to just believe whatever they want
>Both are very homophobic
>Say "I didn't raise no queer" even though I've had girlfriends in the past

It's a lot of stress. I cannot be myself here. I just want a relationship where we are both quite independent, but I would love to do the cleaning and cooking and have my opinion valued and have general control of the house/ apartment. I just want to be boned and then be able to relax together without this on-edge attitude.

So many young people here who have just started their adult life and think they will be 4ever alone.
Well you will if you keep that line of thinking.

>>5609255
:(

>>5600277
You are lucky, you learned that he is a degenerate now. He would have cheated on you later anyway, so be glad you learned about it at the very begining.

>>5609255
What's considered young? Finding gay partners as you get older only seems to be even more difficult.

>>5610082
Finding gay partners as you get older is kind of a half lie. It's pretty easy finding one at any age. This is of course not taking into account how picky people are.

Generally young = under 30.

>>5600277
>tfw no bf with self-control and humility
>tfw no bf that doesn't have a gay voice
>tfw no bf with a good sense of fashion and not just one who wears tight flashy shit
>tfw no bf that realizes how terrible gays in general tend to be

>>5610116
All of those >tfws are happening because you aren't putting in serious efforts to find it.

>>5610100
>It's pretty easy finding one at any age
Definitely isn't the case in my experience. While I am under 30, I certainly don't see it getting any better from here.

>>5610117
I have, believe me. The trouble is finding one who embodies all these characteristics (or most of them at least) whom I also find attractive.

Could someone send funny sexy text or pics to my friend who posted his number on group chat? Anything that will make him say wtf. He's straight married, etc. Cute for those looking to get him riled u, we have played before.(832) 287-3261

>>5610116
Same here... The LGBT lobby is to blame for this.

>>5610119
Are you really trying though? How many dating apps are you using and for how long, what are your first date habits, do you compliment/hit on anyone in real life, how many hobbies are you physically invested in outside of work, etc.

I find a lot of the time when people complain about not being able to date, it's because they just aren't really trying and are trying to find THE PERFECT man - as if they're entitled to it for some reason. Not saying this is your case, but just a generality I've noticed.

>>5610129
>whom I also find attractive.
That's a pretty BIG portion honestly. Are you worthy of that attention yourself?

>>5610139
>dating apps
You mean hookup apps? People in these apps are lustful degenerates, they do not embody any of the values he desires.

>>5610144
Nope. There are hookup apps like grindr, but there are dating apps like plenty of fish. There are also dating sites in general, but I kind of just lumped them under 'apps' because they're technically applications as well.

>>5610116
Search on the chans. Do not download any hookup apps unless you have no self control, dignity or respect for yourself. The chans are your best bet for finding someone with the values you described.

>>5610139
See >>5610144
Almost all dating apps are just used for hookups even if that's not what they're advertised for. I've been on them for several years though. I don't want anything close to the perfect man. Almost any guy that wasn't a slut and I could relax around would be fine.

>>5610155
>self control and humility
>good sense of fashion
>on the chans
Hysterical.

>>5610158
see >>5610151 for my view on apps.
So what are you doing to attract those you can relax around? Do you hit on any IRL?

>>5610161
Well there is [spoiler] /pol [/spoiler]

>>5610170
You a cheeky m8

>>5610168
I feel your view is misrepresented. I've used okcupid and pof, both of which were vastly used for hookups.
I rarely hit on anyone irl because I'm not attracted to flamers or people that advocate their sexuality. I'm under the philosophy that people shouldn't be able to tell you're gay with just one glance.

>>5610190
>I rarely hit on anyone irl
Change this immediately. You should know better, come on. You're not going to find the person you're looking for by taking your stance. It's not about "knowing they're gay in first glance". Do you think the dude fits your style? Talk to him, get to know him.

>>5610210
There is literally no hope IRL unless he joins some LGBT cicrcle. All LGBT groups are infested by leftists, sluts and effeminate flamers. The chans are his best bet I repeat. The chances are too low

>>5610139
>Are you worthy of that attention yourself?
My attractiveness has been asserted by many men and some straight women before, so I think so.
>>5610134
Yes, politicization of homosexuality was both what gave us civil rights but also what's become a cancer.
>>5610155
I don't know, the board where people camwhore is /soc/ and they don't seem like the most respectable folks.

>>5610210
>Do you think the dude fits your style? Talk to him, get to know him
I do, they're almost always straight and I'm not going to make it uncomfortable by hitting on him.
That's why I try to use online dating because you know who is actually gay and what their listed interests on, but sadly it's just shallow hookups.

>>5610216
/pol/ is an option, 5+3chan /pol/(system wont let me type the name) especially as this one is pure cancer.This and 5+3chan's r9k is also a possibility. I have seen gays posting from time to time lamenting about how alone they are, and most of them fit your ideals of decency and chastity. Since you are not too picky you could reply to one such post, they are all over the homosexuality threads

>>5610215
There is the possibility of meeting someone at your regular coffee shop, or hobby.

>chans
I mean, I'm not against the idea. But it's just as rare to find someone here as it is IRL. Especially sane people and not attention whores or completely mentally fucked up people.

>>5610222
>That's why I try to use online dating because you know who is actually gay and what their listed interests on, but sadly it's just shallow hookups.
I feel you, I turn to these awful dating platforms in hopes to meet someone just average - and I don't mean that in a demeaning way (just someone who isn't into being whored out every day or looking like they stepped out of an awful neon explosion), but it's nearly impossible these days, and IRL everyone's just afraid to hit on each other in fears they're straight, but IMO that's the only way I want to start dating.

>be straight
>become gay?
>no bf

thats it so far

>>5610275
>become gay
Liking effeminate faggots is not gay, you became a bisexual degenerate

>>5610275
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b7k0a5hYnSI

>>5610286
no i actually dont enjoy girls anymore

>>5610294
If you like normal guys yes, but do not fool yourself thinking that liking femboys and flamers is gay.

>>5610301
lmao what

>>5610254
>meeting someone at your regular coffee shop
Do people actually think this is a thing? Do you just cold approach people that are trying to do their own thing and start flirting?

>but IMO that's the only way I want to start dating.
I differ there. I wouldn't want to start dating that way. I want to know what I'm getting into before jumping in.

>>5610254
We are a very small percentage of the population. It is very unlikely to meet someone at a coffee shop or hobby unless he advertises his sexuality

>>5610309
>Do you just cold approach people that are trying to do their own thing and start flirting?
You don't literally just stop in front of someone on their computer and go "y-you have n-nice teeth". It depends on the situation.

>I differ there. I wouldn't want to start dating that way. I want to know what I'm getting into before jumping in.
You can get to know them prior to actually going on your first date with them, and perform your own background checks at home. So I guess online dating is your only hope otherwise.

>>5610320
Not here to change your mind, I just like to believe in some fate for once.

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>like guy
>he ends up being a habitual cheater
>he wont admit to anything saying it's to not hurt me even though it's selfish reasons
>dying inside because i stay in the relationship because im terrified of being alone
>tell him i love him and if he's just honest with me we can work everything out
>claims I broke up with him for asking if him and matt were dating
>he was actually just dating someone else for a while and dropped me like a sack of shit when i found out

>>5610293
very good thanks

>Got used to lame love life and failed encounters
>Not even idealizing anymore
>Don't know if I want someone anymore
>Still bothered by loneliness

Well, well...

>>5610320
This.
The chances of meeting someone gay when your'e out and about is already low. It becomes even more limited by taking out the obnoxious gays who put on a show and only focusing on people you would connect with (same interests, ages, etc.). When you account for all this it's near impossible odds.

>>5610607
The chances of success are also low, guess you should stop trying there too.

>>5610641
I've already given up the hope of meeting anyone irl. It's a futile effort.

>>5610660
Then why be on a gay board talking about how it's impossible if you've already given up? When I give up on things, It's out of my mind completely. I don't spend any effort talking about what I've given up on.

Seems, maybe you haven't really given up, perhaps disheartened.

>>5610667
You can still have feels about something even if it's impossible. I'll never get a chance to explore different galaxies, doesn't mean I can't be disappointed by it.

>>5610231
Yea I peruse /r9k/ but I can't help but think the anon posting is some fat neckbeard, and I hate letting people down if we get along until I see their picture.

>>5610674
But one is actually impossible due to technical limitations and the other is perceived impossibilities for no real substantial reason.

>>5610681
Meeting anyone on the chans is pretty difficult. Granted a lot of people here sound great until you see their picture and you're put in an awkward situation of trying to let the person down gently. Anyone readily posting their image is most likely missing some bolts, so tight rope walk.

>>5610694
Very minuscule odds are a fairly substantial reason.

>>5610703
Not to stop trying and continue holding these feelings. If you're really going to stop trying due to odds, let go of feelings, after all it'll be healthier anyways.

>>5610707
It is a good reason. Just like it's a dumb idea to play the lottery. Your odds are so low that it just ends up being a waste of money.
You can never truly let go of feelings, only try to cope with them or repress them.

>>5610713
You can repress them, sure, but you're not doing that.

>>5610724
I know. I believe it's a poor solution that only leads to more problems down the road.

>>5610731
What do you think is a better solution?

>>5610735
Coping, letting the feels out every now and then.

>>5610737
Fair. Although many get stuck letting out their feels way too often, so I guess just be aware of that and you'll be fine. Don't even know why I'm still on your ass about this m8, apologies.

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>tfw never had a bf
>tfw never experienced the good feels of a relationship
>tfw never experienced the negative ones either

FUck that shit, I would rather be forever alone than have my heart inevitably broken

[spoiler]And I will be[/spoiler]

>>5610775
it's probably better to not date anyone at all, most people go rushing into relationships regardless if they don't totally click with the other person, the power your dick has over your decisions is remarkable, I'm fully convinced that human sexuality is a mental illness, it makes us do ridiculous things.

>Never had a bf before
>he's straight
>tfw I care a lot about what others think of me
>can't decide if I want to just fuck some married man for the rest of my life on the side or actually fall in love
>he seems sincerely fond of me
>Have no value of my opinion and think everything they think is fact
>tfw no bf that realizes how terrible gays in general tend to be
>on the chans
>he was actually just dating someone else for a while and dropped me like a sack of shit when i found out
>Still bothered by loneliness

>>5610775
I know those feels. I'd like to try it, but it wont happen.

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>>5610902
Did you just make a greentext story out of lines from other people's stories?

>>5610902
K

>>5603131
I swear to god = Praise to Allah?

This boys MINE = Are you into claymores?

He'll see the light = Die a martyr?

We'll get married = I bet the virgins'll get jealous.

>Get my 1st BF recently. Was fine at first, but turned into intolerable drama. On reflection, he has many symptoms of BPD.
>He breaks up with me. Two days later he wants me back.
>I personally am done with his BS
>We try 'still be friends', he clearly still wants me, I clearly haved moved on.
>He calls and texts non-stop
>I start ignoring
>He slowly gets the message.
I feel kinda guilty saying this, but I feel happier now that he is gone.

Having a 'top' who is a emotional, clingy, needy, skeleton boy just wasn't for me. However, we did have many cool moments, and he indulged my furfag fetish a bit, so it wasn't so bad.

>>5613676
Do you ever think about how odd it is for a man to act like that? like a girl?

>>5613714
My ex totally acted like an emotional woman, and he even joked about it.

I hate how he woud win arguments by saying "I'm making this a shit test", and also I hated how he would make me suck his emotional dick before i sucked his physical dick.

I want my man to act like a man, damn it!
Sorry, just venting a bit.

>>5613735
Like, I would too, probably. Gays with all annoying traits of femininity might as well have a vagina; not interested.

>>5613735
My ex was kind of like that but I think half the time I hung out with him I was stoned out of my mind (though he had no idea i even smoked) so I'd never really cave into arguing with him which infuriated him even more. I thought it was kind of cute but I guess it really bugged him because he thought because I didn't indulge in his random bitch fits that I didn't care about him.
Oh well, was fun while it lasted.

>I finally find another gay I'm willing to date
>We've hung out a couple times with some mutual friends
>We talked a lot and we're both single and looking for someone
>We flirt with each other every time we're together and get along great
>He doesn't seem to mind that I'm a sad tranny
>Finally get the courage to ask him out on a date
>He gives some lame same excuse about how he's busy for the next few weeks
Wew lads this is what I get for thinking I can have a relationship like a normal person.

>>5616149
>I finally find another gay I'm willing to date
>He gives some lame same excuse about how he's busy for the next few weeks
Sounds like you're only willing to date people that are too good for you.

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>accept dating biscum
>leftist
>actually agree to disagree with the guy
>few weeks later
>"oh no I think I got ahead of myself with this"
Left and never looked back.

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>20
>never had bf before
>go months without speaking
>have no friends
>want to die literally all the time
>all i can think about is how pathetically lonely i am despite being in college where its so easy to make friends
>utterly hideous and have no personality
>the idea of relationships and even having friends is as strange as walking around on the surface of mars
>already missed out on everything anyway

i dont know anyone as disconnected from society as i am
the worst part is i know theres no way back in

>>5629480
I'm you but I couldn't take it anymore so I dropped out of college, now I browse 4chan all day and pop antidepressants

>>5618453
am I still biscum is I only want to date and have sex with men but find women attractive?

>>5629480
I'm you but 21
just remember it never gets better

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>first week working in a cafe
>1/3 of the staff is gay
>talk to the gay guys
>they're shocked that I never had a bf or dated
>they're confused that I don't have a tumblr
>they call me boring for not liking night clubs and gay bars
>they quickly stop talking and associating with me
I only talk to the lesbians now

>>5629687
Well, ARE you boring?

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Are lesbianfeels okay?
>extremely attractive friend has short hair, wears flannel, looks for all the world like an adorable butch lesbian
>I've had a crush on her for years
>she jokes about marrying me and it gets my hopes up every time
>she doesn't know I like girls
>she's straight and fucks random guys twice a week

>>5630777
Stop

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>>5610301

Seems pretty gay to me m8

>>5600340
>be straight, but young and want to learn about homosex
>best friend turns gay in the process
>begin to hate him for loving me

I'm straight. I don't know why I lurk here occasionally, but...

What's the deal with gays being >tfw no bf

You're dudes. Just march up to another fag and grab him buy the dick. It can't be more complicated than that, is it?

>>5635018
where's the romance in that?

>>5635052
Romance? You folks really are wired different. I'd be beating dudes on the street with my dick like a riot cop on meth.

>>5635018
>You're dudes. Just march up to another fag and grab him buy the dick. It can't be more complicated than that, is it?
Most guys are straight so they'd turn your offer down; and that dick grabbing you just described is a hook up/casual sex not a committed relationship. And >>5635078's one of the reasons why homosexual relationships have so many "TFW no bf"s, guys get cheated on, or guys don't want to be tied down to one dick.

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Does anyone else have this problem where they just dont 'stick' with people
I can go somewhere, a society or club and talk to someone or a few people, things will go well, and then thats it, I just dont see them ever again, we dont become friends
It feels like im casting a net that cant hold anything

Is there some incredible normie trick that im missing

>>5637837
I have the same problem. It's probably because I'm boring I guess

>>5636759
That's why I said fag, bro. Is there some alpha-beta gay dynamic i don't understand? Is going up to a dude and grabbing his dick the gay equivalent of starting a fist fight, maybe? I'd be destroying poop-whistles all day if i was gay.

>>5637837
>>5638367
Same here. I already have friends but when I try to make new ones at university clubs or classes I just can't. I can talk to them for a little bit and I do have fun, but I just can't connect with them because I don't care enough. I'm not a complete loner so why make new superficial friends that I don't give a shit about?

>>5637837
Give people your number? Ask them to go out?

>>5640061
>That's why I said fag, bro.
Oh I see, and yeah that's a valid distinction. But it's still fairly common for gay guys to have crushes on straight guys. There's a bit of a difference between the "yeah I'd stick my dick in that guy" one night stand feel, and "I think I am in love with that guy" feel.

>Is going up to a dude and grabbing his dick the gay equivalent of starting a fist fight, maybe?
Depends on you and the dick you're grabbing. If you're young and attractive and dick grabbing desperate available guys that would probably be fine. If you're not, well you're probably gonna have some teeth loosened.

>>5603177
>>5603151
>>5603190


>ywn be cucked by your bisexual husband

Y'all, I know the meme is that bisluts even hate bisluts, but all I want is to live the cishet american dream while secretly having a side piece. If I married fellow likeminded biscum who wanted children, life would be incredible.

>inb4 just be poly because I'm nowhere near that level of degeneracy.

>>5644383
>If I married fellow likeminded biscum who wanted children, life would be incredible
You mean like you marry a bislut woman who has her female side piece and you being the bislut you are also have your own male side piece?

Sounds perfect m8, the true american dream

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>meet an attractive gay guy in a normal social setting
>he's actually into me too
>agree to meet up again afterwards and eventually start dating
>keep things tasteful and romantic
>don't want to sully the perfect relationship by jumping the gun
>finally reach a point where sex is appropriate
>he's not into anal

This is why I use grindr.

>>5644515
>not having to deal with anal
> a bad thing
lmaowyd

>>5644407

I am a bislut woman. Just looking for a bislut man to call my own.

>>5644867
No side pieces?

>>5600277
You'll meet better more awesome dudes in the future trust me.

>>5644873

Side pieces are fine, as long as we're each other's public lover.