How do you deal with someone who's trans in denial/doesn't know it yet? I'm getting more and more certain that my girlfriend would be a lot happier if she transitioned and I think it's starting to really mess her up. She talks about how much she hates being a girl, that she wanted her breasts removed when she was 13, and says weird/suspect shit like she's "too lazy to transition," as if she actually wants to but is being held back for whatever reason.
We recently got a strap on and I gave her a "blow job" last night, and she was obviously super into it but also looked really awkward and anxious. She was really distant after we finished and when I woke up this morning she told me she couldn't sleep all night long.
Pic related, it's another closet case.
tell them to see a therapist, people wont realize something unless they figure it out on their own. telling Them that they are trans can become problematic because it can sound like your preference or agenda. Lead them to figuring it out and accepting. Let them know it wont change anything (unless they think it will change their sexuality or they will be a different person) let it be an own discussion, but more so with them discussing.
Chances are they couldnt sleep because they are still trying to accept it themselves.
Just know every transperson will say stuff like they dont want to transition because too lazy or something. its them trying to repress it.
I've tried to avoid pushing it when it comes up but it makes my stomach turn watching her like this. I've been trying to get her to see a therapist for a while now but she bristles when I'm direct about it.
I just want her to be happy :(
I'm pretty sure saying you're too lazy to transition is pretty much acknowledgement of being trans. I mean, that implies they want to transition, just that they can't be bothered with it
You could bring up the concept of therapy for her body issues. If that leads to a realization that she has gender dysphoria then so be it. You can't pressure someone for or against transition because you personally feel like they should or shouldn't be trans. Gender dysphoria is something you either have or you don't, and transition is something that they have to decide on for themselves.
>We recently got a strap on and I gave her a "blow job" last night, and she was obviously super into it but also looked really awkward and anxious.