Mtf, lesbian, 23, pre-everything
Does HRT/transition have any effects on your personality, concerning sexual attraction/need for companionship/etc.?
The reason I ask is because I'm currently fighting depression, wrestling with poor self-worth, loneliness, mtf-related shame, general inadequacy and dissatisfaction with life. A lot of these feel really male-centric, and I am wondering if my present male gender, either biologically or socially, has any influence on this.
>Following is unrelated bitching
If living in a poor neighborhood has taught me anything, it's that people can get unfathomably crushed and screwed by the system/life/bad luck/bad choices. Honestly, I feel like the only way out of this is to accept that I'm not that cool, probably will be single for a long time (if not my whole life), don't pass all that well, and so on. It's either that, or hate myself and spend an hour in the shower trying to convince myself not to kill myself.
Any advice is appreciated
OP here, wanna mention that I'm well aware that my personal habits (video games and typical wasted-life white-male bullshit-type) will not change. Just curious if my body's male biology is really having any effect on me.
At least be bi. Btw what's the point of transitioning, if you're not going to 1st least TRY to be normal? Fuck !this white transgender entitlement pisses me the fuck off.
I think that since transitioning makes you more comfortable in your own skin, you act a little more freely and expressively. You might seem happier, or more positive, and if you were embarrassed about having some of your hobbies while living as a man/woman, you might not feel as bad about them as a woman/man.
That said, no, your personality itself doesn't change.
>angry hon: clueless in Manhattan
im so afraid that transitioning will have the opposite affect for me. as it is, i often feel uncomfortable around others because i dont like the way i look/sound (male). but im afraid that i'll hate the way i look/sound even MORE if im worrying about passing and whether or not my voice sounds fake or stupid. especially in front of people who have known me for years.
idk what to do
my life in a nutshell. if you're thinking this way I'm assuming you're not one of those "transition or die" type dysphorics. So the way I cope is I just keep going ahead with my HRT and not socially transitioning until I feel comfortable it's going to be reasonably successful. Just don't worry too much about whether the end result is going to be good, focus on the next goal and if youre working toward the long term plans (FFS if you need it, etc)
>Just don't worry too much about whether the end result is going to be good, focus on the next goal and if youre working toward the long term plans
thank you, thats very good advice.
and yep, thats pretty much my plan exactly. im going to see a psychiatrist soon for my adhd, and im gonna make sure to go to one who also specializes in trans issues, then hopefully get started on hrt. i'll probably only tell my parents and closest friend, and eventually come out completely if i ever feel comfortable enough about it.
im scared as hell but i know i have to SOMETHING about this soon. im already 24, i know i'll regret it forever if i wait much longer
>i know i'll regret it forever if i wait much longer
Same, pretty much. I give for once I'm glad I've always looked and sounded like a little kid. Hope it goes well for you. Add me on skype if you want: ugokanaidaitoshokan
at last in some way
after living free as yourself it happens that you may discover that you like some different things and you may behave different
i`m no logner a person that i was before transition
also lot of bullshit you may expirence may change you as a person
inb4 everyone changes over time
Lesbians don't have penises. OP is a straight dude. Maybe one day with lots of work and struggle, he can be a straight dude who cut off his dick but still likes women. But never a lesbian.
Only thing that I've noticed is that I'm actually less of a fucking autistic shitbag these days, probably because I'm not overcompensating constantly anymore. Take that as you will though. Otherwise I'm the same cynical, sarcastic douche canoe I've always been. Definitely got a massive confidence boost and life feels moderately better in general. Don't expect it to fix your depression though(from my experience, being pretty nasty depression, the only thing I could even say it helped with in that regard is that I'm a bit less suicidal). Life will be easier to handle internally after a while on titty skittles though, you'll just feel a lot more complete. Hope this helps answer your question
The secret of /lgbt/ is that the straight trans women are actually the most obnoxious, the most catty, and the most likely to make a mockery of the female gender.
Go browse /mtfg/ and then try /tlg/. The difference is palpable.
>do you idiots actually think "normal" trans people (lol) just transition because they want to get fucked by straight men?
This line of logic always sounds creepy to me. Like what, there wasn't enough dick to suck as a faggot already? You have to trick straight men so you can get some? At least the transbians genuinely want to be women and aren't just omega tier bottom boys with bitchy personalities. Straight men are boring lays. Which I guess is fine if you just want to be a pampered princess and never do anything.