Has anyone with daddy issues ever entered into a relationship with an older man, either consciously or unconsciously, to address that? How'd it work out?
I'm going to want to be a "daddy" some day, and I know I'll treat my boy like gold.
I don't think you should feel bad about daddy issues. People go seeking a particular kind of mate based on all kinda of psychological kinks.
Certain straight guys are sure to have "mommy issues" and the like.
I'd like to, but I never will. The only reason I have daddy issues is because my dumb cunt of a mother, bless her, had them, too, and married a man 10 years het senior to deal with them. They then continued to have kids past the age where either of them could raise them properly. Guess who died first? Guess who was left without a father at a young age?
I see how lonely she is as a widow. I'm not going to do that to myself. I'll be damned if I ever become a widower before 60.
They already wrecked my youth, I'm not relinquishing my adulthood, too.
Indeed. There's absolutely no shame in some daddy sex. Almost all of my best sexual experiences are with older men. Just keep the condoms/PreP ready (which you do anyways, right?) because the older population is more likely to have HIV.
Condom are good, but I wouldn't recommend PrEP unless you are really sexually active. If I recall correctly; it needs to be taking on a daily basis for it to be effective. It's not a morning after pill for gay men or anything. I've noticed a lot of the older guys post that they are on PrEP, but if they don't mention it then be safe and use a condom and make them use one too. I'm not very active sexually, so for me condoms are they way to go. If I become more active(not likely with my life at the moment) I'll talk with my doctor.
I'm not into hookups. I won't deny that I certainly understand the appeal and that it is tempting, but I wouldn't be comfortable having sex with someone unless I really trusted them. I'll probably hook up sometime in the future, but not now.
I don't think the type of attraction daddy issues typically create are because of the age gap, specifically, I'd imagine it has more to do with a father figure/strong man 'taking care' of you. Someone can have that kind of fantasy despite being older. Even with an old couple, someone's gotta be the bottom, right?
My particular fantasy is less of an older man who takes care of me, and more of one who supports me and wants to see me grow. It's about the sex, but it's also about an emotional connection not quite like a traditional one. We wouldn't be equals, but it wouldn't be DS either.
I wish I could admit to myself that I fantasize about the same thing. I don't know why, but thinking of myself as the bottom makes me very uncomfortable. It feels degrading, even if I want it.
That's pretty much what I like with older guys too. Someone I can go to on occasions about life things and get a listening ear and maybe advice, and they are hopeful for my success and pleased when it happens.
Like a mentor or a senpai...except sometimes they fuck me.
They do, but they usually aren't about being called daddy. There's also Vers ones.
Personally I'm not really about calling an older guy daddy unless we get into a dom sort of sexual relationship. If we're "sexual equals" then it's weird calling them daddy. And I don't like to call them daddy outside of the bed either.
This guy gets it, on both counts. Tbhfam I didn't even call my own daddy, daddy, so it would feel weird as fuck calling another man that. He'd be my boyfriend, he'd just be like a decade or so older.