i'm really fucking tired of not being able to date 95% of the people i'm attracted to.
i kind of get this actually. back when the whole, "it gets better" campaign was a thing, all the celebrities were telling gay kids how great their lives would turn out, and it got me thinking, "yes, if you're tim gunn, or some other fucking rich white millionaire, of course it 'got better' for you. what if you don't have access to all the things in life that the cast of Will and Grace does?
But I had all those things... I grew up in a super wealthy, liberal town. I went to a liberal college, and since then I worked in a liberal city, and I've basically had every privilege possible for someone in america. But i'm still a virgin and it just makes me feel all the more pathetic for it.
I'm gay and black, that poster's not wrong.
a majority of other gay dudes won't give you the time of day to begin with and most of the white guys who are into you are vapid wrinkly BBC fetishists who might as well just buy a dildo because that's all you are to them. shit, half the other black dudes won't try and date you because they only want a white guy and think it's "settling" for you.
honestly it's a surprise that so few black gay dudes snapped like vester flanagan, you basically are on the outside looking in, perpetually.
is lowering standard something people actually do? i know that's a stupid question but i really don't know.
is there a point in your life when you just decide, "you know what i'm really not super attracted to this person but I'm going to date them anyways" ?
or rather as you grow older, you'll be less about superficial stuff and look at the inner beauty of ppl because beauty always fades. Plus, over time you find out the the really pretty ppl usually have shitty personalities.
>"you know what i'm really not super attracted to this person but I'm going to date them anyways"
usually doesn't happen. You just start to find ppl attractive that yourself when he/she was a dumbass kid most likely wouldn't have.
what if i never dated people when i was younger, and now that I'm 26 I want the chance to have all the stupid high school romance bullshit i never could before?