Long-time lurker here.
>Bi boyfriend wants to settle down with a wife and kids. Gay lifestyle, adopted kids and gay marriage are 'knockoffs' of hetero marriages/families. He's moving out and I'm never dating a bi guy again.
>I've been reading a lot here regarding bisexuals, "biphobia" and what not since it affects as a gay man dating a bisexual man. Many bi anons here say the stereotype of a "bi guy leaving a gay guy for a woman" is a myth and they'd be happy in any fulfilling relationship regardless of gender.
>I used these comments as a candle of hope to ward of any misgivings I had about dating a bisexual man.
>And I couldn't have been more wrong.
>We're both late-twenties East-Euro professionals sharing a flat in Bucharest. We've been in a relationship for two years. And we adopted a border collie together just last month.
>We've had our ups and downs but we've always worked it out in the end. I really thought I found my happy ending.
Then he dropped a big bombshell on me last week: He's considering breaking up with me and finding a "nice girl" (his words) to 'finally settle down with with a real family'.
>Funny. I thought we were settled down. I thought we were real.
>He came out of the closet as a bisexual in his early twenties. He was introduced to me by mutual friends at a popular gay club. He came from a fairly liberal family. He was smart, witty and seemed to have his shit together. I was instantly smitten.
>Knowing I had the hots for him and wanted to seriously date him (among other things), my other friends (some of them homosexual) tried to ward me off him telling me to "never seriously date a bi guy. EVER." I had heard all the stories and cautionary tales of heartbreak that bi guys can inflict on gay guys but I decided to take a chance on him.
>And they were shattered. I asked him if he was already seeing a girl or he had a cheated on me with a woman. He said no and I believed him (living o long with a guy you ca pick on his mannerism and detect when he is sincere or not). I asked him why he wanted to end our relationship.
>Simply put, he said he wanted a 'real' family. Coming from a dysfunctional family with a mom twice divorced, he said always dreamed of 'nuclear family' with a doting wife, two kids (a boy and a girl) , a dog and nice house. He wanted a blushing bride in a white wedding dress. He wanted to walk down the streets with his wife without having to look around to see where we are when he was with me. And I, as a man, can't provide that for him. So he wanted to end our relationship now while he was still young enough to find a nice girl to start dating.
>He says that it was fun while it lasted, but now he wants to be a 'responsible adult',
>Understandably, I was horribly offended and upset. I cursed at him for about an hour and left our flat (it's not even 'ours' anymore) with the dog in tow to stay the night at a friend's.
>After three days of calming down, I came back to the flat and was relieved to see he was still there and his things weren't in boxes.
>We sat down and talked. I was willing to compromise. True, as a man I can't give him a child or the 'real family' he wanted. But I told him we could adopt or find a surrogate for in-vitro fertilization. We could get a house in a nice neighborhood too. We could start our own family. We could even move and get married or form a civil partnership since it's legal in most of the Western and Northern EU countries.
>He wasn't having it. He said that a 'gay' family isn't the same or equal to for that matter, a normal family. It wasn't 'normal' to him. He felt like he was choosing the runner-up option or 'knockoff' (his words) version of a 'real family'. Two men thinking they can play house like normal people. Anything I could give him as a potential husband, any child we could have together, any married life we could have is just a cheap knockoff of the real thing to him.
>My attempts at compromise failed and he moved out. He says he still loves me and he's sorry he's hurt me but he doesn't want to be 'gay' anymore and wants to settle down.
>So, anons, I am sitting at home alone instead of at work drinking heavily and listening to Lera Lynn's 'My Least Favorite Life' on repeat. An unanswered text from my phone from a bitchy 'frienemy' reads "So sorry dude, but I did tell you so. Call me" flashes on my desk. I'm looking around our flat and seeing what waste of time it all was.
>So much for my happy ending.
>And you know what the real twist of the knife is? My ex-boyfriend says if and when he finds a wife he wants me to be his best man. Somehow I can't refuse, even if I want to.
>Maybe it's because I'm drunk but I feel depressed.
>Before my current ex-boyfriend I've been cheated on and left for another guy. It hurt. But it really doesn't hurt like this. It's like someone sucked the life out of me. I'm thinking really homophobic thoughts about myself.
>Maybe he's right? Maybe being homosexual is just a terrible lonely lifestyle.
>Maybe same-sex families are just knockoffs of normal families.
>Maybe we are just playing house.
>What if homosexual men really are diseased or mentally ill. Why did I ever think putting a penis up a man's rectum was natural?
>What if he'll be happy with his wife and kids and I'll die of AIDS alone just like my father said?
>I just feel like shit. I haven't felt like this since I was 16 years old.
Well yes, the experience was the same and I edited to my own story. Yes, we both lived at my place, yes we had a border collie, and yes he left me because he had conservative ideals of having a stay at home wife and kids. Because I am lazy and drunk right now I decided to just edit an already existing text, describing an experience 90% similar to mine (difference being my nationality and city I live in) in order to educate younger people to never trust men who call themselves bisexuals. What they truly are is cowardly whores who use you for their sexual gratification and then leave you in order to pursue their Disney marriage dream.
From the Reddit post:
>And you know what the real twist of the knife is? My boyfriend (soon to be ex) says if and when he finds a wife he wants me to be his best man....
How fucking delusional are bisexuals. If somebody said that to me, I would try to kill him.
>dating a biscum
You'd be better off dating a middle easterner, even with the chance of his family being islamic.
I take it whenever I'm with another gay person I should say I'm gay, but when I'm with another straight person I should say I'm bi, right? If I come out as gay I'll ruin my chance of ever experiencing how fucking an attractive girl feels like(I've fucked a not so attractive woman), I just want to try again and give it another shot.
>but when I'm with another straight person I should say I'm bi, right
No. Say you're straight, esp. if it's a girl you're interested in. Most straight girls are turned off by their potential male partners being bi. even more so if they find out you like to bottom or give bjs.
>even more so if they find out you like to bottom or give bjs.
Girls are so bitchy and mean. I've never been with another man, but let's say I have sex with another man and find out I'm not gay but actually a straight male wouldn't I be fucked if the word spreads around?
I'm probably gay but I keep doubting it(sometimes), I'm afraid of sucking a dick or being with a man and not get exited.
It's pretty fucked up for a "straight" man to have to try and suck a dick to know which one I like better. Hooking up with a stranger on grindr seems kinda spooky for me, and I don't want to fuck somebody I don't actually find attractive.
I'm also a anxious person by nature and I have a hard time dealing with heavy feelings.
Damned it's damned if I do and damned if I don't. Why can't I just figure myself out without all these labels being branch-marked on you by society? A guy sucks a dick "you've caught the gay now" all it takes is one gay act to destroy someones heterosexuality(in the eyes of other people).
Why are people so shitty?
Because an heterosexual male wouldn't suck someone's dick without coercion being involved. If he does then he has same sex attraction and is no longer on the 0 in the kinsey scale.
You can call an apple a banana 300 times, but it's still an apple.
>No. Say you're straight, esp. if it's a girl you're interested in.
A bisexual person is attracted to both genders, regardless of whether or not they have done with any gender. A straight person can have a same-sex experience.
Yeah, people use labels. A green-eyed person is a green-eyed person regardless of you saying "He's not green-eyed, stop labelling him!". Unfortunately your problem is you. I had some intimate contact with a girl once when I was drunk/hungover, but don't consider myself bisexual because I am not attracted to the same gender.
I was gonna say something meaner, but now I don't remember what, and I think it's almost always better when it's mean, but eloquent so... too bad.
But I have fucked a woman once, I got hard but I couldn't cum. Doesn't that count for something? I prepped myself for it by not jerking off days before I met her. She had nice tits but that didn't do nothing for me, I fucked her like it was a chore.
But I used to jerk of to naked lady pics when I was a teenager(along with big cock porn), then I stopped getting aroused by seeing hot naked women online and had to hunt for good looking dicks in my porn. And whenever I would fantasies about a girl i'd always think about my friend doing her, or being in a mmf threesome, sure I've had fantasies of getting fucked by my friends or trying to get them to jerk off to me to porn. I always just thought I was a pervert/degenerate, but ever since I started watching gay porn I can finally visualize myself in the porn without being the guy who's jerking off in the corner to another guy fuckking a women, when I watch gay porn I actually enjoy thinking about myself on my knees servicing men and getting fucked in the ass and cummed on.
Ever since i've let go and started sexualizing guys irl I'm starting to feel like I'm getting sucked into being gay, kinda like I'm making myself gay, or that maybe im just a latent homosexual.
I'm on grindr now, and seeing a lgbt therapist who wants me to meet other gay men and test out the water... it's just that I'm kinda scared meeting a stranger on grindr because I have this fear of not actually liking dicks once they're in my mouth and I'm just a mentally ill straight person.
Why am I so neurotic about this?
I'm so confused when it comes to sexual attraction, I see a hot woman with big breasts and I like to look but I don't get horny. I see a well endowed man swinging his dick around and I get a semi.
I have atypical autism btw soo...
I always just thought I had a penis fetish, a fetish I couldn't even talk about with my closest friend(we like to share sexual thoughts sometimes).
>I am not attracted to the same gender.
Oops, I meant different gender.
Cause you're over-analysing this. Just relax. You'll soon end up in a sex-less relationship, with bills to pay, cats to feed, and the only glimmer of excitement to shelter you from the tragic reality of life will be a new episode of Always Sunny coming out soon.
>Cause you're over-analysing this. Just relax. You'll soon end up in a sex-less relationship, with bills to pay, cats to feed, and the only glimmer of excitement to shelter you from the tragic reality of life will be a new episode of Always Sunny coming out soon.
Do you mean same sex relationship or a hetero relationship?
i don't care if this is pasta. biscum triggers me every time.
Jesus OP I feel so bad about this. Biscum here. I've always thought about this issue, and didn't want to think about it. I couldn't break someones heart like that. On the other hand, if I ever enter to serios relationship, my partner has to understand that I will want my own biilogical children.Imade a promise to my now dead grandfather as a child that no matter what I would have biological children. For me thou surrogacy would be enoguh. God, I'm sorry I hope I'll never turn out like your bi-partner.
>.Imade a promise to my now dead grandfather as a child that no matter what I would have biological children
how do you even promise that
>be grandpa in death bed
>a-anon, issat you?
>yes gramps, its me, anon
>a-anon you must promise one thing before i kick the bucket
>y-you must have BIOLOGICAL children you little shit I don't want no niggers in this family. We haven't stayed full aryan only for you to ruin it
Pretty much this, more or less. I was 12 at that time... thus far it seems I'm more gay but he was important person in my life and as a single child in our family....I kinda have to do it.
>y-you must have BIOLOGICAL children you little shit I don't want no niggers in this family. We haven't stayed full aryan only for you to ruin it
>with the last of his strength, grandpa manages to raise his right arm
Partners up and leave in any relationship, be they straight, gay or bi. This guy must be some kind of asshole or is real bitter with you since he rationalized it the way he did, but that's all it is, rationalizations. He decided he was done, and being an ass he wanted to spite you at the end. Shitsucks, but it's not like you're not going to run into the same thing in relationships with gay guys, it will just be "I want a guy with a bigger dick/nicer clothes/same taste in movies/whatever".
Nah, that makes total sense tho. As a bi-dude you've got options. And coming out of a shitfest of a relationship with a dude you're going to be looking for something else. So you go for a woman. Lots of women complain about being left for gay dudes. Same fucking thing. I'm sure there are bi-dudes who date two guys in a row or whatever, but still.
This is why I have never dated any bisexual guys. They can claim they love you and be so romantic. However, one day, their breeder instincts will kick in and they'll either cheat on you, or leave you for some bitch to squeeze out his babies.
I know this is pasta, but the original story is ridiculous. Bisexual guys claim that this isn't normal, but we see stuff like this happening all the time.
I keep telling these gay boys to remember the acronym, BMAT (Bisexual Men Are Trifling), but they don't listen. They'll learn one day.
Who gives a shit, really. If a gay guy is retarded enough to date bi guys, he deserves everything he gets. Just like those germans getting raped by muslims, some people just want to stick their heads in the sand and believe that everything is possible as long as you believe in yourself and follow your heart...