Is that normal or is it a symptom of something? I'm 22 years old and I got no libido, at all.
Nothing turns me on. If there's a sex scene in a movie I'm watching, I wanna close my eyes cause it almost like makes me disgusted.
I have a very healthy diet and my bf% is within the normal range.
Aren't you supposed to be horny when you are young, wild and free? Well I'm definitely not, and the only reasons I've had sex before (which was some 2 years ago anyway) was cause I was in a some sort of a relationship and sex kinda belongs to such interactions, doesn't it.
Anyone else here with same "issue?" It's not an issue for me really, but naturally it has lead to a situation where I got no motivation what so ever pursue the attention of the opposite sex.
something's up with your mental health
I don't think so, or then it's a sneaky depression. Actually feeling better than in a long time and I'm pretty happy.
As fuck, but my libido has always been low, stressed or not.
This one it's definitely not.
I have honestly watched porn maybe three times in total in my entire life. Nothing in porn turns me on, it makes me feel sick to watch naked random people fucking. I get this feeling like I was watching people using the toilet or something else nasty yet private.
>Maybe you're asexual
I'm familiar with the term, but from what I've noticed, no normies seems to suffer from that condition/what ever it should be called. And I don't quite understand the biological explanation why some people wouldn't be interested in sex/reproduction at all since it's the most natural thing there is. But then again, I'm one of them. I don't have a history of being sexually assaulted or anything similar either. I just kinda expected it to strike at some point in my life (had my puberty rather late) but nope, the hormones never really kicked in. And as I'm getting older, I'm not even interested in seldom masturbation anymore.
You're most likely asexual. Why do you want to have more of a libido? Is it because you feel less of a person than those who have a strong libido, like you're failing or something? that it's abnormal to be someone in your situation?
Of course I feel like something is missing. Or should I say, I'd like to understand the big fuss around sex cause it's a part of most people's lives. For most people, relationships and sex are one major thing (and source of pleasure) in their lives, so it's like everyone keeps telling me that there's this amazing beautiful thing, yet I can't even see it. Also the main reason I made this post was that I wanted to hear if I really am so abnormal or if others have similar thoughts. Gives me some perspective.
I don't know, should I? And say what exactly, hey I'm perfectly healthy and active but I don't enjoy nor I have any libido, got any pills?
I know there's no pill to cure/change the current situation, but I sure will go see a doctor if this is a symptom of some health related issue.
>hey I'm perfectly healthy and active but I don't enjoy nor I have any libido
yeah pretty much that, you'll get blood work done and get a prescription for what ever and/or referral to a therapist.
but you'll talk to strangers online?
try joining one of the forums for asexual people and ask if any of them can identify with your story. Maybe you will get some good advice for your situation.
Don't go to 4chan to ask if your lack of sex drive is normal. Seriously, most people here gauge their entire self worth on the number/looks of the girls they sleep with.
Your condition is normal ffs. Read some materials on asexual orientation, and hopefully you will feel a bit more at ease with yourself.
Maybe you're just thinking about it too much. Like you're setting up expectations for yourself knowing you'll fail. I think my libido is fine but sex scenes in movies don't do anything for me (maybe when I was 13 they did).
You've had sex so now it's just a thing. It's normal. So maybe you need to rewire your expectations to that.
Alternatively are you sleeping well and on a normal schedule?
I agree with posts saying that you should check with your doctor and see what your levels are at, but I wouldn't be too concerned otherwise. It can be a symptom of low test or a health issue, but it isn't necessarily
It may not be something you hear of often but it's perfectly normal. My boyfriend is generally the same way, just never cared so much for sex, no particular reason. My libido is through the roof so it took me a while to wrap my head around that you can just not like sex. However, I've done lots of reading on it for this reason and it seems to be a fairly common perspective. You aren't alone, by any means, and it does get overhyped in general. To me it's just a fun endorphin rush, like you get from exercise
I'm like you anon. I'm 28 and I still have 0 sex drive. And it has always been that way.
I think perhaps there is something wrong with some hormone somewhere, but I honestly don't care enough to have it fixed. You can't miss what you never have. I guess I consider myself asexual because of that, although tumblr kinda misuses the term.
Normal? Absolutely not. A recognizable and treatable disorder? Sure.
We are biologically programmed to want to procreate, and to procreate requires sex. Therefore, it is normal human behavior to actively seek out sex.
The development of our cerebellar cortices gave us the ability to actively choose not to procreate, because at optimal tribe numbers, babies were difficult to care for, annoying, and a burden on the group. From this, sex started to 'feel' good as a response to keep us from logic-ing our way out of sex.
>hay guize I have this problem
-well maybe it's one of these things
>no, I don't think so, but is there a remedy for that?
-sure, here's the solution
>no, I don't want to do that. Help me with my problem guys it's so hard being me
Go fuck yourself you defective piece of shit attention whore.
Not op, not a faggot
I've gone from 235lbs to 160lbs since June 2015 by ending each day with ~1000 calorie deficit. I'm a cyclist, but I lift because I read it will help prevent muscle loss from being on a cut. I definitely get enough protein. For the past two months, my libido has been extremely low. I've gone from masturbating multiple times a day every day to once or twice a week, because I've lost interest. I think my diet might be too low in fat. Could that be the cause?
>I'm not sorry for the blog post, because this thread was already shit.
>masturbate once a week or not at all, but don't cum
>don't rub your nipples when you masturbate
>horny goat weed tea
>6-9 hours of sleep
>put some money aside for Asian massage parlors that do favors
>keep getting fit
>eat dark fruit berries like blue and blackberries
>get enough water
>only let girls make you cum
I only want to masturbate rather than have sex.
I've never had the urge to actually have sex but I get the urge for sexual release, so I just masturbate.
I've been propositioned sex before from girls but I've just never been overly interested
curious what /fit/ thinks of going vegan, which apparently has positive blood flow and chemical effects on the body leading to enhanced sexual drive/performance. broscience or for real?
>>masturbate once a week or not at all, but don't cum
I don't masturbate pretty much at all.
>>don't rub your nipples when you masturbate
I never do, don't worry.
I don't watch
-9 hours of sleep
I can only sleep 4-5 hours, not cause of my schedule but I'm not tired after that and I keep waking up even during that time.
>>put some money aside for Asian massage
parlors that do favors
Lol, I don't want and I doubt they'll serve female clients
>>keep getting fit
6 times a week twice a day
>>eat dark fruit berries like blue and blackberries
>>get enough water
>>only let girls make you cum
If men doesn't really turn me on, I'm still definitely not a dyke
Grill. Girls can have low test too, right? I'm gaining muscle pretty well though, but I guess this could be possible.
How's this fixed? Some kinds of depression meds? I definitely don't wanna start taking such stuff which will fuck my brain chemisty over a minor thing like this.
I had low libido from undereating and overtraining. I didn't even realize this was why I had no sex drive until I starting eating way more to bulk up. I also had depression for years, but not getting enough nutrients affected my sex drive way more than depression. Try eating more, see if that helps.
whyyyyy did you not say
of all the times to specify your gender, this is one of the most important ones
male and female arousal/desire is just not the same and can't always be fixed the same ways.
there is a drug called Addyi that was recently released, made for women who are anxious over low libido. that's one option.
How to not come so fast. My boner can last through a couple of goes but my first one comes out in like a minute or two. I'd like the first round to last longer since it's when I'm most passionate about ramming the puss.
Vegan? It boils down to this.
Can you obtain algae oil? Can you live with using it for extended periods of time?
If the answer is yes to both questions, then all you have to do is watch your amino acid intake. Algae oil is the only good source of longer omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids, which your body can produce by itself, but usually not in sufficient amounts. Losing out on those can impact your whole body.
Better go vegetarian and stick with eggs and fish. Cheap eggs generally have lower cholesterol but same protein content.
If this is something that honestly bothers you, stop being a little pansy about talking to a doctor or therapist about your sex life, and get professional help. The fact that you're ashamed to talk to someone face-to-face about your libido is indicative by itself.
If a guy can go to the doctor and ask for stuff to fix his limp-dick, you can have an honest conversation, too.
additionally, it may help just to get into the routine of being sexual. take 15-20 minutes a night and try to get off, use a toy or read erotic stories if you like, it doesn't matter. maybe you won't ever orgasm this way, but just building a habit of eroticism may make a difference.
honestly it sounds like you're directing your focus onto your breathing instead of your dick, and that's what makes you last longer
if that works, great! it's probably one of the few things your bodies are doing that isn't directly erotic, but isn't really a turn off, either.
another other option is to foreplay for much longer; tease, stroke, kiss, lick, dry hump, all the good stuff to put her on the edge of coming quickly. I mean, if she stops caring how quickly you come, why should you worry about it?
Maybe it's also because you've actually been active in your life. And your mind has been preoccupied with things other than sex.
Good stuff. Check with a physician if you are really worried.
Op is female.
And it actually changes everything. Some guy already said it, men and women are different in regards to sex.
Some smartass (girl) once summarised:
>when girls get sex, they crave it (and when they don't get it they just couldn't care less)
>when guys don't get sex, they crave it (and when they get it they care a little less)
If you are still worried get over yourself and seek advice/therapy.
sounds interesting, I'm no expert at it either
But I realized that when you do not breathe together with your partner, the rythm will also be off. And that fucks everything up.
Hey dude, 29 year old here, had the same problem. My solution was:
- Cold showers every day
- Kegel exercises
Worked like a fucking charm. Not instant results, but libido and sperm production increased significantly within a month.
There's nothing wrong with you, you just need to make some simple adjustments to life
was getting head from a girl, blew a load, then a few minutes later we're going at it again and I wanted to fuck her, but my dick went limp as I put the condom on
I jerked off to porn the day before, possible reason why?
With my girlfriend I couldn't get hard first three times.
Now we can have sex like 2-4 times a hour, lose count how much I nut.
My advice is to stop thinking. Tune out all thoughts, esp anxious one. Don't get distracted from the girl in front of you. Consciously take her all in with all your senses. Smell her, feel her, look at her as her whole, and listen to the sounds she makes. Emotional attachment also helps you get hard.