/Sexual health general/, lack of sex drive normal?

>>35780935
source ?

>>35780935
Could be depression or high stress or anxiety or you could be asexual or low test

>>35780935
difference between you and a horny young adult
is
>>35780942
this

Maybe you're asexual, or there's some kind of stress going on that has you preoccupied.

Are you by any chance a compulsive porn addict?

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>>35780935
stress, depression
something's up with your mental health

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>>35780949
>Depression
I don't think so, or then it's a sneaky depression. Actually feeling better than in a long time and I'm pretty happy.
>Stressed
As fuck, but my libido has always been low, stressed or not.
>Anxiety
This one it's definitely not.

>>35780969
I have honestly watched porn maybe three times in total in my entire life. Nothing in porn turns me on, it makes me feel sick to watch naked random people fucking. I get this feeling like I was watching people using the toilet or something else nasty yet private.

>>35780957
>Maybe you're asexual
I'm familiar with the term, but from what I've noticed, no normies seems to suffer from that condition/what ever it should be called. And I don't quite understand the biological explanation why some people wouldn't be interested in sex/reproduction at all since it's the most natural thing there is. But then again, I'm one of them. I don't have a history of being sexually assaulted or anything similar either. I just kinda expected it to strike at some point in my life (had my puberty rather late) but nope, the hormones never really kicked in. And as I'm getting older, I'm not even interested in seldom masturbation anymore.

>>35781029
You're most likely asexual. Why do you want to have more of a libido? Is it because you feel less of a person than those who have a strong libido, like you're failing or something? that it's abnormal to be someone in your situation?

>>35780935
how about you go speak to a medical professional

>>35781074
Of course I feel like something is missing. Or should I say, I'd like to understand the big fuss around sex cause it's a part of most people's lives. For most people, relationships and sex are one major thing (and source of pleasure) in their lives, so it's like everyone keeps telling me that there's this amazing beautiful thing, yet I can't even see it. Also the main reason I made this post was that I wanted to hear if I really am so abnormal or if others have similar thoughts. Gives me some perspective.

>>35781097
I don't know, should I? And say what exactly, hey I'm perfectly healthy and active but I don't enjoy nor I have any libido, got any pills?

I know there's no pill to cure/change the current situation, but I sure will go see a doctor if this is a symptom of some health related issue.

>>35781147
>hey I'm perfectly healthy and active but I don't enjoy nor I have any libido

yeah pretty much that, you'll get blood work done and get a prescription for what ever and/or referral to a therapist.

>>35781171
I'm not willing to talk about the lack of sex life with a therapist though lol.

>>35781184
but you'll talk to strangers online?
try joining one of the forums for asexual people and ask if any of them can identify with your story. Maybe you will get some good advice for your situation.

>>35781147
Don't go to 4chan to ask if your lack of sex drive is normal. Seriously, most people here gauge their entire self worth on the number/looks of the girls they sleep with.

Your condition is normal ffs. Read some materials on asexual orientation, and hopefully you will feel a bit more at ease with yourself.

>>35781147
Try and do some sensual stuff, like get in relax mode and grope your body and work your way slowly to your genitals. Also maybe whatch some very softcore porn meanwhile.

>>35780935

Maybe you're just thinking about it too much. Like you're setting up expectations for yourself knowing you'll fail. I think my libido is fine but sex scenes in movies don't do anything for me (maybe when I was 13 they did).

You've had sex so now it's just a thing. It's normal. So maybe you need to rewire your expectations to that.

Alternatively are you sleeping well and on a normal schedule?

>>35781147
Being asexual is obviously not normal, you should definitely check with your doctor if you want to know if there's anything you can do.

I agree with posts saying that you should check with your doctor and see what your levels are at, but I wouldn't be too concerned otherwise. It can be a symptom of low test or a health issue, but it isn't necessarily

It may not be something you hear of often but it's perfectly normal. My boyfriend is generally the same way, just never cared so much for sex, no particular reason. My libido is through the roof so it took me a while to wrap my head around that you can just not like sex. However, I've done lots of reading on it for this reason and it seems to be a fairly common perspective. You aren't alone, by any means, and it does get overhyped in general. To me it's just a fun endorphin rush, like you get from exercise

>>35781530
Being normal is obviously shit tho bitch.

>>35780935
>Free from the ultimate Gains Goblin
>Complaining
OP pls.

>>35781029

I'm like you anon. I'm 28 and I still have 0 sex drive. And it has always been that way.

I think perhaps there is something wrong with some hormone somewhere, but I honestly don't care enough to have it fixed. You can't miss what you never have. I guess I consider myself asexual because of that, although tumblr kinda misuses the term.

You may have some form of autism or schizoid personality disorder by the way you write
I'm not joking

>>35782423
How come?

>>35780935
I promise you are better of the way you are. People are the worst thing ever, and being attracted to them is to live a daily hell.

But if you're really bothered, see a psych.

Normal? Absolutely not. A recognizable and treatable disorder? Sure.

We are biologically programmed to want to procreate, and to procreate requires sex. Therefore, it is normal human behavior to actively seek out sex.

The development of our cerebellar cortices gave us the ability to actively choose not to procreate, because at optimal tribe numbers, babies were difficult to care for, annoying, and a burden on the group. From this, sex started to 'feel' good as a response to keep us from logic-ing our way out of sex.

How do you keep up noporn if you have a functioning libido?

Faggot OP
>hay guize I have this problem
Anon
-well maybe it's one of these things
>no, I don't think so, but is there a remedy for that?
-sure, here's the solution
>no, I don't want to do that. Help me with my problem guys it's so hard being me

Go fuck yourself you defective piece of shit attention whore.

Not op, not a faggot
I've gone from 235lbs to 160lbs since June 2015 by ending each day with ~1000 calorie deficit. I'm a cyclist, but I lift because I read it will help prevent muscle loss from being on a cut. I definitely get enough protein. For the past two months, my libido has been extremely low. I've gone from masturbating multiple times a day every day to once or twice a week, because I've lost interest. I think my diet might be too low in fat. Could that be the cause?
>I'm not sorry for the blog post, because this thread was already shit.

>>35782881
Not sure if it's the fat, but it's definitely your diet. People comment on changes in their libido while cutting/bulking all the time you'll notice from lurking.

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>>35780935
>masturbate once a week or not at all, but don't cum
>don't rub your nipples when you masturbate
>no porn
>zma
>horny goat weed tea
>6-9 hours of sleep
>put some money aside for Asian massage parlors that do favors
>keep getting fit
>eat dark fruit berries like blue and blackberries
>get enough water
>stay hydrated
>only let girls make you cum

male or female, OP?

if male, you may be literally low test and could be a candidate for hormone therapy.

I only want to masturbate rather than have sex.
I've never had the urge to actually have sex but I get the urge for sexual release, so I just masturbate.

I've been propositioned sex before from girls but I've just never been overly interested

low dopamine

you're welcome

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>>35783128

curious what /fit/ thinks of going vegan, which apparently has positive blood flow and chemical effects on the body leading to enhanced sexual drive/performance. broscience or for real?

>>35783128
You forgot l argine
really helps the dick get hard

>>35783128
>>masturbate once a week or not at all, but don't cum
I don't masturbate pretty much at all.
>>don't rub your nipples when you masturbate
I never do, don't worry.
>>no porn
I don't watch
>>zma
Taking already
>>6-9 hours of sleep
I can only sleep 4-5 hours, not cause of my schedule but I'm not tired after that and I keep waking up even during that time.
>>put some money aside for Asian massage
parlors that do favors
Lol, I don't want and I doubt they'll serve female clients
>>keep getting fit
6 times a week twice a day
>>eat dark fruit berries like blue and blackberries
Check
>>get enough water
>>stay hydrated
Check, check
>>only let girls make you cum
If men doesn't really turn me on, I'm still definitely not a dyke

>>35783180
Grill. Girls can have low test too, right? I'm gaining muscle pretty well though, but I guess this could be possible.

>>35783279
How's this fixed? Some kinds of depression meds? I definitely don't wanna start taking such stuff which will fuck my brain chemisty over a minor thing like this.

>inb4 Londonistan

I had low libido from undereating and overtraining. I didn't even realize this was why I had no sex drive until I starting eating way more to bulk up. I also had depression for years, but not getting enough nutrients affected my sex drive way more than depression. Try eating more, see if that helps.

>>35783388
>Grill

whyyyyy did you not say
of all the times to specify your gender, this is one of the most important ones

male and female arousal/desire is just not the same and can't always be fixed the same ways.

there is a drug called Addyi that was recently released, made for women who are anxious over low libido. that's one option.

>>35780935
How to not come so fast. My boner can last through a couple of goes but my first one comes out in like a minute or two. I'd like the first round to last longer since it's when I'm most passionate about ramming the puss.

>>35783365
Vegan? It boils down to this.
Can you obtain algae oil? Can you live with using it for extended periods of time?
If the answer is yes to both questions, then all you have to do is watch your amino acid intake. Algae oil is the only good source of longer omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids, which your body can produce by itself, but usually not in sufficient amounts. Losing out on those can impact your whole body.

Better go vegetarian and stick with eggs and fish. Cheap eggs generally have lower cholesterol but same protein content.

>>35783388
Of the girls I've been with/known, lower libidos tend to be fairly common, moreso than in men

>>35783388
If this is something that honestly bothers you, stop being a little pansy about talking to a doctor or therapist about your sex life, and get professional help. The fact that you're ashamed to talk to someone face-to-face about your libido is indicative by itself.

If a guy can go to the doctor and ask for stuff to fix his limp-dick, you can have an honest conversation, too.

additionally, it may help just to get into the routine of being sexual. take 15-20 minutes a night and try to get off, use a toy or read erotic stories if you like, it doesn't matter. maybe you won't ever orgasm this way, but just building a habit of eroticism may make a difference.

is controlled and relaxed breathing all you need to last longer in sex?

>>35783699
checked and... questioned?

What do you mean? You tried meditating during sex or something?

>>35783699
>>35783739

sounds like tantric fluff. you can try it tho

>>35783739
>>35783750
I read that it helped. before trying breathing techniques I lasted much less. I'm not a sex expert and I've only had sex with my current gf so I need tips

>>35783793
honestly it sounds like you're directing your focus onto your breathing instead of your dick, and that's what makes you last longer

if that works, great! it's probably one of the few things your bodies are doing that isn't directly erotic, but isn't really a turn off, either.

another other option is to foreplay for much longer; tease, stroke, kiss, lick, dry hump, all the good stuff to put her on the edge of coming quickly. I mean, if she stops caring how quickly you come, why should you worry about it?

>>35782361
My Caucasian.

I wish I could be free. And yet. Not.

>>35782966
>>35782881

Maybe it's also because you've actually been active in your life. And your mind has been preoccupied with things other than sex.
Good stuff. Check with a physician if you are really worried.

>>35783884
sticking the dick in just feels nice, so the longer the better. I'm also self conscious about lasting less than three minutes so I tried to improve

>>35783388
Plot twist.
Op is female.

And it actually changes everything. Some guy already said it, men and women are different in regards to sex.

Some smartass (girl) once summarised:
>when girls get sex, they crave it (and when they don't get it they just couldn't care less)
>when guys don't get sex, they crave it (and when they get it they care a little less)

If you are still worried get over yourself and seek advice/therapy.

>>35783739
>>35783750
>>35783793
sounds interesting, I'm no expert at it either

But I realized that when you do not breathe together with your partner, the rythm will also be off. And that fucks everything up.

My balls feel like they're about to explode and I don't want to jerk off. What should I do?

>>35784986
go to an asian massage parlor and have a qt asian help to relieve that pressure

>>35780935
Hey dude, 29 year old here, had the same problem. My solution was:

- Cold showers every day
- weightlifting
- Kegel exercises

Worked like a fucking charm. Not instant results, but libido and sperm production increased significantly within a month.

There's nothing wrong with you, you just need to make some simple adjustments to life

>>35780935
virgin here
was getting head from a girl, blew a load, then a few minutes later we're going at it again and I wanted to fuck her, but my dick went limp as I put the condom on
why m8's

I jerked off to porn the day before, possible reason why?

>>35783931
Not worried. /fit/ is just an extension of /r9k/, so like everyone else here, sex isn't a concern.

>>35780942
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>>35781783
It's not normal, your bf must be low test

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>>35780935

With my girlfriend I couldn't get hard first three times.

Now we can have sex like 2-4 times a hour, lose count how much I nut.

My advice is to stop thinking. Tune out all thoughts, esp anxious one. Don't get distracted from the girl in front of you. Consciously take her all in with all your senses. Smell her, feel her, look at her as her whole, and listen to the sounds she makes. Emotional attachment also helps you get hard.

>>35780935
I never think about sexual things at all.
Seeing this thread reminded me that I haven't had a erection in several months.
Is this a problem?