Post your biggest downfall/weakness and have other anons give advice on how to improve upon them.
Keep it as /fit/ related as possible
lolling at you manlet
weighted Shrugs worked for me.
My squat form is (I think) terrible.
I know i'm supposed to keep my heels flat, but whenever i go down i can only reach just before parallel before i have to move to my tip toes or i lose balance. Am i just doomed to never be able to properly squat?
I'm 5'7 and balding and I'm the leader of my social circle, have a gf (used to be a player) and make friends easy.
>mfw I came to /fit/ and read that my life was supposed to be shit because of my height
>applied to uni for electrical engineering
>dad died last year
>on and off waves of depression
>can't motivate myself to do homework and will never have good marks because if it
>lazy piece of shit when it comes to school work but can workout really hard 5 days a week
>smart enough to understand the math but no work ethic
>how to I make myself do homework, when I get home from school I just lie on the couch and fuck around on my phone
>not underage, turned 18 on Jan 12
I want to leave this place, but it keeps sucking me back in.
Is this what you want to do for the rest of your life?
Lay on your couch and look at your phone,thinking of how much time you're wasting?
You're in EE, you must be a pretty smart kid. A lot of people don't have that privilege -- like me.
I have work ethic but my brain just doesn't work the way an engineers does and I had to settle for Finance.
You're really missing out on doing some special stuff bro. Find what you like in life, find something to fight for, and find a goal. Do what you can to reach that goal dude. Don't let it slip by you because it really will.
You're not smart, you're just shit at social interaction
and yet you're still insecure enough to post about it and try to instigate rebuttals
>lazy piece of shit when it comes to school work but can workout really hard 5 days a week
>smart enough to understand the math but no work ethic
You answered your own question. You've never learned discipline, self control and basic work ethic.
As for how to improve and accomplish more, learn to work on things you don't like or enjoy for long periods of time and to completion. This is mostly about creating habit through discipline, and shaping your environment to make this easier, try to stay away from the self-help bullshit and focus on creating habit.
For example, when I was 15 I taught myself to code and decided to make a large online browser game. It was awesome learning new shit to start with but eventually I just got sick, tired and fed up of the tedium of doing the same bland programming shit day in day out. I slowly sank into video games and wanking all the time. To get myself out I set up a second computer with nothing on it but a web server and a few coding tools. By moving the gaming computer out and the coding computer in I reshaped my environment and automatically booted up and started working on shit each day again.
Same went for when I got into running.
tl;dr Humans are very like rats, creatures of habit and environment.
Oh and another important thing for me (and most smart lazy people who don't need to try hard I think) is to focus on 'working on project X for Y hours' instead of 'I will do project X now'. Mentally I used to be a perfectionist and I'd want to nail something 100% first time, or not do it at all. So inevitably I'd always give up at the first mistake or not even start. When you focus on simply working on something for X hours it becomes less of a responsibility and challenge in your mind and you don't mind fucking up as much, it's also easier to get start
serial killer eyesight,
aggressive body language,
and the list goes on
to touch on what >>35706255 said about going from x to y instead of all at once.
Start reading. It makes you much more patient and you'll be able to notice how steady progress is better than doing it all at once.
haha nice try anon i know its not used that way
I have no consistency in anything I do. I've taken on 4+ different degrees, ranging from nursing to law to education.
I love learning and education, but I can't just stick to one thing.
[spoiler]my debt is no joke[/spoiler]
Stop selling yourself as a person.
Worry about your hobbies and interests and things that make you interesting and you will naturally have things to talk about which you love that don't make you sound like a jerk
Unless you're talking about job interviews or something, that's a different scenario and answer
Also learn to break down the problems you're having so you can identify why consistency would benefit you, it'll also give you an overview of where you're going wrong
Shrugs as heavy as you can go with full range of motion 3-4*15
Famers walks with straps as heavey and long as you can go, 3*Until form starts to break down
>if that's finished or out, i'll switch to alcohol, if that's finished or not available i'll go to gambling.
Sounds less like addiction and more like being a shitty human with no self control or other joys in life.
Find some hobbies and implement restrictions on your cash or other obstacles to becoming a financial disaster. Keep yourself busy long enough to break shitty habits and form new ones.
Nah, you guys don't get it. I was reading, writing, and solving math equations at a college level when I was in fifth grade. I was also in love with life had tons of friends loved making people laugh wasn't scared of being outgoing.
Highschool was really the worst. Obviously I was at the top of the social hierarchy me and my boys ran the school from the time we were juniors (seniors were beta). It was all empty though. No joy out of putting people down just so you can stay on top. But that's smart, right? That's what we're all supposed to learn to do so we can succeed right? All I learned from highschool is that society is fucked as a whole and the people who run shit have no soul.
Anyway turns out playing the social game turns you into a shit person with no sense of humor who can't let down their guard for anything or anyone. I have spent the last four or five years inebriated just so I can find the will to interact with other people on a day to day basis.
Occasionally I'll run into another person who understands. Usually they dropped too much acid or smoked salvia and got a glimpse of what there is on the outside of this wall of shit we call the real world. I can't form relationships with them though because I have come to the conclusion that in this day and age of mindless pack order evolutionist mentality it's either get with the program or get fucked which is fine by me.
You probably all think I'm sick or demented or something but truth be told I think the same about you. Things will always be shit as long as there is greed jealousy power struggles Wars strife famine etc people are full of ulterior motives they want to use you as a chess piece for their own personal gain no matter how bro they are.
I'm 26 and I'm only passionate about working out. If somebody asked me to name some things I'm good at, I couldn't come up with an answer besides making people laugh. How the hell do I find things to be passionate about? I live in a shitty small rural town but I'll try anything new. I went to a spinning class last night for christ's sake.
>serial killer eye sight
Lol me too. Also so many people have commented that my eyes are like pure black not even dark brown and that I have "devil eyes" or something
You're using your existential crisis as an excuse to explain your depression. You are simply depressed and pretending to yourself it's because life is pointless and socializing is pointless.
You're not wrong, you're just an idiot. The universe doesn't care whether you're a worthless piece of shit or not, but your brain and body do, and they'll feel like shit the more you treat them like shit and do nothing all day.
Bad things in the world don't make you any less or more of a faggot and don't decide whether or not you're satisfied and content in life. They just mean you have to change and/or work slightly harder when they affect you.
Stop being 12 and depressed and strive for being content or productive in life. You'll never be happy, that's a myth or meme explaining a temporary balance of chemicals in your brain, but you can be content and not pretend your life sucks because the world sucks and that you simply chose not to be a part of it. That's called misguided intellectual depression.
Good luck whichever way you go.
I can summarise all this information into 5 words:
life is shit, why bother.
Nigga, drop the nihilism. If you're truly as smart as your grandiose claims imply, get out there and fucking do something. There would certainly be a place for someone like yourself to make some good of the world. Work in a capacity where you're surrounded by people who share your passions. Explore the world, find something that needs fixing and fix it.
You bitch about people you meet acting as petulant children, yet you're remarkably acting in the same fashion.
>You probably all think I'm sick or demented or something
Everyone literally thinks what you're thinking all the time. The difference is that most people try to make the most of their situation, not languish and create excuses for inaction.
Photography, writing, poetry, singing, dancing, whatever the month is.
There are a billion hobbies and interests and you only get passionate about them after taking part in them for a while. Just like you, at some point, didn't care one iota about fitness.
>Stray back hairs
My back is the most disgusting thing and idk what to do about it. The scoliosis keeps me from being able to do a lot of workouts. No deadlifts, squats, or heavy OHP.
Should I just kill myself now?
so how big of a failure are you in life? you talk big game but there all always be people ahead of you. You may top your podunk school but you won't be shit at a top university. The world has no place for narcissistic shits like you. if you give no one a chance you're no worse than a child yourself.
>they're not pure black, they just look so in public
Risk of embarrassment kills my sex drive. Sex life with gf has gone downhill as she gets tired of stopping for me. Just kill me senpai.
Work out what's making you mad and deal with it instead of being crazy
Meditation is also great for dealing with emotions with control
Write down possible life directions/long term drives until you find/mold one that you're at least comfortable with. Like most people, you're unlikely to find something you enjoy or want, that usually doesn't come until you've spent a lot of time doing something. After then you feel comfortable enough that you nearly like it
As for career, most people will tell you to find something you enjoy that pays, but I find aiming for something you can turn into other skills/use in other careers is a great move when you're fairly new.
>DO YOUR VOLUME
/fit/ preaches low rep sets like gospel truth but the fact is if you ever want to look good, you need to also do sets of 10-15 regularly of exercises that merely stroke your ego
Bench, curls, shoulder and chest accessories these all need high volumes of 6 or 7 sets
This is the biggest thing that took me the longest to learn. This won't make you strong but let's be honest a lot of guys aren't lifting for anything but aesthetics
Did 3.5 plaet diddies two days ago and my form was subpar on the last rep and now my back kinda hurts when bending over, did I snap? The pain only comes when I bend over or stretch my legs out forward, kinda horizontal pain in my lower back radiating a bit into my sacrum, kinda sharp but nothing special. Stretching helped and I don't feel any pain when walking or anything, I did squats and diddies today with lower weight and I didn't have any pain but I did notice my diddies were considerably weaker. Any input? How do I know if I snapped my shit up? What's snap pain like?
Thanks for the advice bro, may gains and qt3.14s come your way
>last semester of civil engineering
>never worked a single day in my life
>speak english, spanish, french, a little german
>don't care about girls. everyone thinks i'm gay, i'm not.
>depressed all the time
help me /fit/?
Do you actually lift or do you just browse? If not, I really recommend lifting that'll improve your life.
Find some hobbies that aren't video games. Read some books, hike.
These are the things that help me.
If your sleep schedule is bad then you'll be bad. Go to sleep by 11 every night and wake up before 830.
DIY Wrist roller (rope and a bar of some kind) with increasing weights.
Also farmers walks
Always start your sets with your weaker side. Add a few extra reps on a lower eight with your weaker side. Doing this will usually even you up over time.
I have an opinion on everything and I think I am right about everything and other people (mainly normies but also lots of people on 4chan) are stupid faggots.
Also I am kinda pretty bad at articulating myself so I come across as an angy retard when trying to convince people of something while actually I'm kinda smart.
Also I have no confidence and major self esteem issues.
Theres more to sex than just putting your dick into a orifice. Do you ejaculate even when your not getting any physical stimulation? Try doing a bunch of shit to her first. Oral, fingering, anything. Either get her to cum first that way or get her about 9/10ths of the way there and then put your benis in her bagina.
It sounds like your problems could be fixed by trying to make a conscious habit of stopping and thinking about what you're about to say before you say it. Slow down when you speak. Speaking slowly makes people listen to you more anyway
Every school has a counseling center that is free. Go to them and talk it out. I suggest you start sorting that shit out soon because it only goes down hill from there if you don't do anything about it. And don't self medicate, its a waste of money. Also, look into more efficient studying techniques. The sooner the better because you have more time to implement it since you are still a freshman. You can still redeem your grades at this point. Spoken from experience. Oh, and keep lifting.
I am pretty driven. But i can't study for shit unless its like 2days before an exam.
I train consistently to a decent level, but i consistently eat shit food in between periods of eating well.
Food addiction and muted pallet. My mom, when I was younger, wasn't home so she loaded up the fridge and shit with cheap, high calorie foods so I grew to replace emotional connection with salty/sugary foods. I know how to eat better, but it's really difficult. Getting better about it, though.
I can't do something when I don´t feel like it, despite the consequences.
Are you so tired of this shit, you've even decided to hop on pinning test just to see if you can finally stop being a lethargic, irritable, nostalgic asshole with no will power at all?
That's me, I have no issues understanding the topics in class at all, but I have no fucking will nor discipline to fucking sit down and do what I should be doing. So tired of this.
Im awkward social retard.I really wish i could fix that but it seems impossible because i always find a way to embarrass myself and i literally dont leave my home and refuse to work even thought my family is poor because of it.
but like seriously, everyone tells me that height isnt that bad or a deal breaker and every time i want to stab them for lying straight to my face when i explicitly tell them not to. (probably in their knees, all i can reach for)
also my debilitating need to find someone that loves me, but yeah that wish is not getting fulfilled
I have a speech impediment. I cant speak much without starting to stutter. As a result, i have never had any real friends nor actual relationships with girls, along with no communication with my teachers throughout my high school life.
Someone please help me.
work on facial gains, aesthetics are king
tom cruise and RDJ are both "short" yet hugely successful. are you going to let frog posters on /fit/ get to you?
do your best, dont give a fuck about what other people say. im not tall either, but people are friendly and girls are nice cause I take care of myself and have confidence.
I know how you feel, I felt that way before too. dont let other people make you insecure: just be the best you that you can be.
I stutter sometimes too and imo its mostly because stress/breathing so try to be more relaxed in general,breath from your nose only(close your LIPS and mouth) and practice deep breathing.Also check 4-7-8 method it helps when you're anxious and with sleeping.
>Go to work
>Work is physically taxing
>Eat light lunch
>Drink water all day
>Nice healthy dinner
>Drink myself into oblivion
I managed to stop doing this for a while, I recommend:
>regularly spend time paying attention to how you feel physically inside your body
>be "in the moment" more
>stop anything you're doing which is compulsive, like constantly stimulating yourself
the idea I was working on is that bringing down dopamine activity stops the nail-biting, and restlessness or compulsive behaviours raise dopamine while the other things lower it.
Ive been working on my breathing for the past 6 months and im able to mindlessly socialize by blurting out random stuff but thats about it. When i try to explain something or tell someone to do something or even try to have an entire conversation with them, i stutter. However, when i dont stutter right away, i end up feeling like im about to stutter about midway through my sentence so i begin to speak faster to get the sentence out, and it either becomes unintelligible or i end up stuttering/mumbling over the words.
It also doesnt help that my tongue is too big for my mouth. I have braces hoping that they'll expand my palate but im not sure if my dentist even plans on doing that. Im asking him next visit. Maybe itll improve my breathing
Take out your vacation days and reboot without alcohol. The first three weeks will suck like balls but slowly get better. Use cardio to beat the drinking black dog into submission. Run away from it, bro.
I cope by actively attempting to break the cycle.
Every so often this works.
Apply for new jobs, hang out with friends, applying for grad school. These kinda things sometimes perk me up for a few dry days, then something will make me feel depressed and the cycle will begin anew.
My advice is to just not start. Don't romanticize drinking, and don't drink alone.
Also don't go to the same bar every day for a week+, the employees will think you're up to harm someone other than yourself.
That's pretty good advice senpai. Thank you for your kind words.
I'm going to try hard not to drink tonight. and at the end of the month I'm actually taking a week off so I might just try to do what you say.
>tfw I really want a damn beer and I'm trying to rationalize it.
I know its really annoying but like i said its probably about stress/not being used to talk.Im sure reading aloud/reading something and then explaining it aloud would be great.Also you should learn to talk slower and have you seen how old people stutter which i think might be because of memory.
True its really horrible and i sometimes even stop in the middle of the word/sentence and just repeat it again.
pumping and other exercises, if you're serious about it visit pegym. I recommend staying away from jelqing though, I don't think it's safe.
It could be low dopamine levels -
although they say "if linked with blunted affect" - still it might be.
I can't imagine cutting a small piece of skin off would affect your erectile quality in itself, I suspect it might be a psychological reaction - I recommend you see a doctor.
"But with the many factors involved in taste and flavor preference, is it scientifically possible to retrain a “processed” palate to not only eat but also enjoy a lower salt, fat, or sugar diet? Pelchat says it isn’t an easy fix, but it is certainly possible for people to modify their palate. “Monell’s director, Gary Beauchamp [PhD], did a small study on this, where he put [participants] on a low-salt diet, and their salt preferences did change. Their most preferred level of salt did go down with time,” she says, adding that it took roughly one month for participants’ preferences to change.
“And it was very easy to reverse the change in preference,” she adds. “If they went back to eating canned foods or fast foods that had a lot of salt in it, their preference for the higher salt level would go right back up. This has been shown as well with low-fat and low-sugar diets. It turns out that the change in preference is a sensory phenomenon.”
Stretching seems to be most effective for flaccid length, it might be worth talking to a urologist - or trying it on your own, there are "traction devices" you can buy but I would make sure you buy one of the ones used in these studies.
Do you work out? Do you see slow but earnest progress on your body?
Take that idea and apply it to everything.
Also don't fuck with your family. Assuming they're not abusive, they are very important.
>average male in my country 5'11
Never gonna make it, bro.
I want to move to korea to compensate for this. [spoiler]And my slightly below average dick[/spoiler]
Maybe you could learn how to laugh it off if something embarrassing happens, take it lightly. Other than that it might help if you had a friendship where you get to know someone well enough not to be awkward around them anymore, that might give you some confidence.
But it does not work like that because i get ridiculed all the time and noone ever takes me seriously.If it was as easy as just working out i was not going to ask here for advice.
You could approach it like learning a skill, there must be some resources online for learning how to manage social interactions. Without understanding the exact details of why it's happening it's difficult to recommend anything specific. Who are the people ridiculing you and what for?
Would you stop working out because someone told you it was dumb? or because you hurt yourself?
said It's hard to offer advice without specifics,but it sounds like you could use a lesson in not giving a fuck.
If you wear your insecurities as armor and rock your weaknesses as well as your strengths, than no one can hurt you,besides your shitty self.
Tomorrow go start a conversation with three people, at least one of them of the sex you would rather plow.
actually let me take a stab at this:
What kind? Anterior? Posterior?
If you're overweight lose weight. Check your ankle flexion, check your running posture, strengthen your calf muscles/quads/hams/glutes. Take calcium. Get more absorbent shoes or at least insoles. Ice them and take a NSAID.
Thank should work.
Sorry to hear about your dad, but basically you just have to think about what the results of inaction will be versus the results of action.
>don't do homework
>get bad grades
>don't go to uni
If your goal is to go get a post-secondary education, then you should go for it anon. You need to think about how it will affect your future and decide what is best for you.
Try to learn how to smile and squinch, it will immediately make you look less intimidating.
As for social stuff, don't beat yourself up anon, get a hobby or develop an interest in something so you have something you can talk about with people. Everyone likes it when they can see someone is passionate about something and really enjoys it.
There is nothing wrong with having a vice, just think of it as recreation rather than a requirement. Try to keep it to a specific time or day like the weekend.
If you like making people laugh, why not foster an interest in comedy? Not only watching comedies from all eras and places, but also reading about comedic theory and the history of comedy.
Try to learn to be diplomatic in your opinions and also don't refer to yourself as "kind of smart", in general you let your thoughts and actions speak for you. You don't see academics starting lectures with "I have a PhD, I'm pretty smart you college fucks".
As for confidence and self-esteem, just take baby steps and set goals you can achieve that lead up to a larger goal you want to achieve. It's the easiest way to build up your self-esteem.
I'm not a psychologist, I'm just some asshole on the internet, but your first two problems may stem from your lack of confidence. Try and work on it and see if it helps.
I mumble really badly and don't pronounce my words well, it sounds like I'm blackout drunk slurring all the time. My friends have adjusted to it but when I'm talking to new people I can see them straining to understand. I have really shit teeth and a low voice which makes it worse.
I'm having a hard time with being to shy to sign up at the gym. Also, they'll want to charge me a full month even if there is a bit more than a week left (I went to check it out last week and still was too much of a jew)
Look yourself in the mirror and say shit that is hype as hell.
Yes you will look/sound like a fucking idiot.
I had a sorta similar problem that I was able to fix this way (it sounds like yours might be a tad worse, but it was pretty much the same).
Also there is nothing wrong with programming witty responses to things, as long as you don't enter sociopath levels of robot you should be fine.
Alright will try it, will feel like a sperg but its cheaper than speech tuition I guess. It's not so much what I have to say, making conversation is easy for me but just executing actually saying it thats the issue. Cheers breh
The month starts when you pay for it. They don't charge you for a month if there's only a few days left in it. It extends until (e.g.) the 21st of the next month
Stop being a pussy. Everybody was a beginner at some point
Damn anons thanks for the advice, didn't think is get this many replies.
>have had a gf for a little over a month
>we don't hangout a ton because she's busy with 2 vball teams
>used to play travel vball like her but quit this year to focus on school
>mom is an english prof, dad an architect
>they're very strict on her and she gets good grades
>no older male figure to discipline me now
>mom loves me but is often at her boyfriends house
>always tells me that "there's other options" and to "not be so hard on myself"
>have a based older uncle who helps my mom with financial stuff and paperwork.
>quite strict and a logical thinker
>very funny and lives around the corner from me
I need someone like him to force me to get my shit done. It's weird not having a dad, you start to look towards other males in your life and they don't realise how much of an effect they have on you