So women hate being hit on at the gym? Must be this feminist whale hyperventilating and venting on the net since she can't get any dick at the gym.
To be fair I fucking hate it when people talk to me at the gym and I have a dick. So I don't think she's creeped out, but just some degree of bitter/antisocial at the gym.
Back to r8k or whatever
Listen, buddy: People go to a gym to do WORK. It is NOT a social club, and if you think you should be allowed to try to pick up girls at the gym, then you need to check yourself because you're acting like an entitled little inconsiderate jerk. You can smile-and-nod at them if you like, but otherwise you leave them the hell alone unless they talk to you FIRST, got it? Now quit fucking up.
Yeah, I generally don't want to talk at the gym.
I had one guy strike up convo with me and turned out to be an utter bro, ended up giving me a few tips on stuff I should focus on and shit like that. so it's not all bad, I just prefer to be antisocial at the gym.
The reason she made that post is simply cause she wanted to tell the world "I AM BEING HIT ON SO I AM DESIRABLE HUMAN BEING AND BY THIS POST I WISH TO GAIN MORE ATTENTION."
Honestly, that's what you can read between the lines if you know some female psychology. I got a vag, so I know some. I've done that too, "complained" to my friends cause duhh that guy on our class was flirting with me again, so annoying!!! Nope, I liked the attention and wanted to share it with other and shower myself in it.
I've been hit on at gym by someone who was way too forward and who kept asking me out on weekly basis after I had claimed that I'm not single. Then he started to stalk and wait until I left the gym, and that was too much.
However, if some guy started casually talking to me, I wouldn't mind. Maybe it would be odd if someone would start a convo by asking me out, but if he tried talking to me hear and there to see my reaction, I would be perfectly okay with that. I go to the gym mainly to workout of course, but I wouldn't say no to some interesting guy just cause we had met at gym. And even if I wasn't interested, I'd be flattered and wouldn't go to "fuck you fucker leave me alone" mode. (unless he was an arab cause they seems to think that yes and no means yes.)
If you see someone interesting at gym, just play it cool. Ask if she has many reps left or say that her form looks great, or ask her to spot you. If she smiles and doesn't seem grumpy, maybe take the small talk a bit further. Her reaction will tell if she's enjoying the situation or not.
>go to gym
>want to work out like most people
>some unattractive fuccboi tries to strike up a conversation ruining my set
Unless you're a 9/10 and above, always assume that people go to the gym to work out, and not talk to you. If you're a 9/10 do it in between sets and never with the morning crowd (because tight schedule have to work and shit)
I hate how people rely on media to make friends rather than build meaningful relationship with real life experiences. I wouldn't want to meet any of you faggots in real life honestly.
>unless he's cute, then it's ok!
>Must be this feminist whale hyperventilating and venting on the net since she can't get any dick at the gym.
Sure, a well groomed, attractive white woman in her twenties who regularly exercices can't get laid.
Yeah, seems right. Totally.
Honestly, only fucking losers actually have full conversations with anyone besides their spotter at the gym. If you go to the gym primarily to strike up conversations and socialise, I do not respect you.
I simply exchange a few pleasantries with regulars, do my routine, and that's it. Anything more is creepy.
Again, there are clubs for that kind of thing.
I find it strange how dishonest girls are with themselves/each other. They feel the need to "complain" about getting hit on just as an excuse to bring it up, whereas guys just straight up brag about being hit on. It's weird.
>go to gym with my twin sister sometimes
>go to get water or take a leak or something
>some random guys have started talking to her
>they see me
>suddenly stop and slink away
I think most women really are insane, but I can see how being approached by people who try to come off as only wanting to have some "friendly conversation" when really they're just trying to have sex with you could be annoying
People socialize at serious gyms. It's only natural. It's a place you go to pursue a hobby you're passionate about. It makes perfect sense that over time you develop relationships with other people who are serious about the hobby. It's like saying that it's crazy to socialize at a boardgame store or at a concert. People who don't want to socialize can be rude or aloof to maintain their distance, but anybody normal at the gym will talk to other regulars as long as they don't interrupt one another's workouts.
>So women hate being hit on in the gym
No just this one, there's nothing wrong with that OP. Although she seems cuntish about it she isn't wrong to feel that way. If I went to talk to a qt at the gym and she said something like that I would understand, people aren't made to please you OP
It's been scientifically proven that high-acheiving and successful girls are less popular amongst their peers, whilst high-acheiving guys are more respected amongst theirs.
Therefore girls have to bring their achievements up discreetly, for example by "being offended" by getting hit on. Guys do not have this burden.
I absolutely hate it when people talk to me in the gym, doesn't matter whether male or female (it's mostly gay men, I suspect tho), it's not why I pay for it, it's not why I go there. I usually have a very strict schedule for my work out. If I rest for four minutes, I rest for exactly four fucking minutes, I don't rest for two and then talk to some annoying cunt for five minutes. I know I sound autistic as fuck and normally I'm not that inapproachable, but when I'm working out, I need that. Being absolutely focused and alone with my thoughts is the one thing that relaxes me about working out. If some asshole thinks he can steal my time with his boring bullshit stories he destroys that mental state I'm in and can go fuck himself. I know I come off as absolutely rude in the gym, but nobody has the right to take that away from me.
>I AM BEING HIT ON SO I AM DESIRABLE HUMAN BEING AND BY THIS POST I WISH TO GAIN MORE ATTENTION.
This is absolutely true.
I agree with you dude. You pay for a membership, and you go to the gym to improve yourself. I am like you when I go to the gym, although I will exchange pleasantries with regulars. I won't have conversations, but I am always pleasant with everyone.
>Posting about it on Facebook
She's into it. She just can't admit she is. But, by complaining on Facebook, she gets to tell everyone how attractive she is (because everyone hits on her) and that she goes to the gym. It's the only way women can brag without being called vain.
I actually try to be friendly, but there were two or three occasions where people somehow interpreted my categorical refusal to talk as an invitation to try harder. Then I usually get unpleasant. I think it's just disrespectful.
You don't sound like a person that anyone respects anon
DAAAAADDD get off 4chan, you're embarrassing me in front of all my friends!!
>DAAAAADDD get off 4chan, you're embarrassing me in front of all my friends!!
I'm a diagnosed autist and I am always happy to have a small chat at the gym. How could you be mad at someone for taking the time to talk to you? The people in this thread must have some serious attitude problems
I wouldn't mind chatting with people at the gym, nor would i mind if someone hit on me once in a while. But for some women it must get pretty creepy.
My GFs 17 year old sister gets hit on all the time, she can't do anything without some guy coming up trying to help her (she obviously don't need it) asking what they're doing after etc. She showed me her facebook messages, literally dozens of guys from our gym stalk and find her on Facebook, send messages/texts asking her out on dates, writing pretty explicit shit like "Hey, enjoyed your butt today, see you there tomorrow? xoxooxo :) <3" "How about we work out your glutes together? haha lol"
She can't workout anymore without me and my GF or her brother there without getting harassed. And most of them can't take a hint, asking someone on a date after getting rejected 15 times is just sad.
>tfw random people on the internet can't even quote me correctly
Am I that hard to understand anon-kun?
Listen, buddy: People go to a bar to DRINK. It is NOT a social club, and if you think you should be allowed to try to pick up girls at the bar, then you need to check yourself because you're acting like an entitled little inconsiderate jerk. You can smile-and-nod at them if you like, but otherwise you leave them the hell alone unless they talk to you FIRST, got it? Now quit fucking up.
This is sad. Society has become so closed off. People used to actually know how to talk to one another and social skills were more developed.
I'm 52 years old (I know, I shouldn't be here) and when I was in my 20's you could go anywhere and start a conversation with nearly anyone with offending, annoying, or crossing someone.
I don't understand how things got this way.
United we stand, divided we fall. Society wants you to be as isolated as possible from any potential source of motivation. Go to work, pay your taxes, watch tv, this is what they want you to do
>why are you looking at my ass
>why can't I wear these tight pants and move hips free from your perverted eyes, creep!?
> Nope, I liked the attention and wanted to share it with other and shower myself in it.
And this is also why you went out of your way to write an anecdote about a random individual hitting on you at a gym, even though nobody asked :^)
>maybe you should try finding someone online
I think this is a very good example of somebody needing to "check their privilege."
Women can easily find someone online. Men can't really do that, online dating is pretty terrible for males unless you want to date a fat chick. Why do women keep telling men "oh you can just go online and find somebody perfect for you!" Are they really so retarded that they can't realize online dating as a man isn't the same as online dating for women?
Men hit on women everywhere, because women want that. The alternative is women start taking some initiative themselves and start making the first move sometimes, but since the woman in the OP probably doesn't want that much equality she can shut her trap and deal with being hit on in public.
There is literally no disadvantage to hitting on women at the gym or anywhere. "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take"
That's actually kinda true though.
Let me guess, you're that guy that sits down uninvited at a table of women and tries to pick them up.
Just have some fucking social awareness. You can tell if someone wants to talk or not.
If people are at a table it means that they want to have their own conversations. When people are sitting at the bar by themselves or in a group it leaves a little more room for conversations with strangers.
Source: I'm a bartender
>There is literally no disadvantage to hitting on women at the gym or anywhere.
Except the part where they complain to the manager that you are harassing the other customers and you can start looking for another gym.
I met a girl at the gym. Dated her. We banged.
She later complimented me that I had the guts to just come up to her and ask her out.
The chick in OP's photo can get fucked.
here's a tip. you don't want to be hit on? Don't wear fucking skin tight clothing. It's an advertisement. Wear some baggy clothes and a hoody and I wont fuck with you.
Only ever talked to one person at the gym. Total gymbro who wanted to know where I was getting my gear. Told him Im all natty which is laughable because I swear Im DYELmode. We only ever fist bump and pass a few words since.
I didn't reply to this thread at all until the post you replied to. When someone can't deal with social interaction at all, and thinks someone shouldn't post their own thoughts that contribute to the thread; that person belongs on /r9k/.
>And this is also why you went out of your way to write an anecdote about a random individual hitting on you at a gym, even though nobody asked :^)
No, I told you guys how not to hit on womyn at gym and offered a better alternative way. And that sneaky attention seeking tactic doesn't work the same way in a place like this where we are all anonymous. Can't gain any fame or anything if you are nothing but eight random digits. We are faceless so the normal rules of social interactions aren't valid here.
I don't believe this. How the hell did the random gym guys even know how to find her from FB?
If that's true, she's defo doing all she can to get them interested and then leading them on by adding them on FB and so on.
yeah this. she must be giving them her name and shit. Only time i find a girl that went to my gym because she gave me her name. and i ended up hating her once I found it. posted the most cringeworthy shit I've ever seen.
>girl doesn't get attention at the gym, or only gets attention from ugly dudes
>in order to satisfy her need for attention, she makes a post about creepy guys staring at her online
>lots of attention from other women and even some guys
Had some mixed feels the other day.
>been lifting for 6 months, made some pretty good noob gains
>one dude that I knew from outside of gym kept telling me he was impressed with my gains
>all of a sudden other regulars started talking to me
>I enjoyed being considered a 'regular' but it took me like 20 minutes longer to lift because they kept talking to me and stuff
tbr Kim Kardashian is a dime everywhere EXCEPT her fake ass, which is what people are giving her shit for. It's fake and dumb-looking
D-does anyone else have workout equipment at home to avoid the gym?
Or 6 feet tall like her wookie sister
look at how absolutely disgusting those women are, they also all look late 40s+ if you're nearly 50 or older and still jealousy posting on facebook like a 14 year old girl your personality is as ugly as wanda louise lester's face
I actually agree, nothing pisses me off more than the douchebags who spend 3 hours at the gym every night and only actually work out for half an hour. They go around flexing in the mirror in lift stations, give unwarranted retarded advice to anyone who will listen to them and try to hit on any girls they see while occasionally doing a set of dumbbell curls (the only exercise they know)
When some faggot comes up to me trying to give me advice or sell himself as a personal trainer it's annoying as shit. Gyms should be silent except for the sound of iron being moved and the whir of the cardio equipment.
Listen, buddy: People go to a social club to SOCIALIZE. It IS a social club, and if you think you should be allowed to try to pick up girls at the bar, then you're right. You can smile-and-nod at them if you like, but otherwise you try to go up and talk to them, unless they talk to you FIRST, got it? Now quit fucking up.
It's more likely that this fat, unwanted female finally got a bit of attention at the gym and could conveniently rush to her computer to make this post to validate her meager sense of self esteem to the world
I prefer being left alone for the most part at the gym but if someone wants to be social I'm going to be friendly as that's simply natural human behavior
The only people that hit on me at the gym are niggers, and who doesn't hate niggers?
I used to worry and think this meant that I was just getting fat, but niggers hit on every girl with a pulse and only go to the gym to get their dicks wet
is it still legal to talk to women in the safe space USA?
I thought it was classified as sexual harassment
There is a nigger who goes to my gym, wears the same outfit jean shorts and a plaid button up with the sleeves cut off (like a farmer outfit not ghetto looking) he does literally nothing but flex, try to talk to every woman in the free weight section and occasionally does curls. Them and the types who show up, throw their stuff on one of the few bench stations, load up way more weight than they can do then just proceed to start doing sets elsewhere, leaving their shit on the bench and coming back after each one to sit by all that weight. I usually just move their shit and they go away but last time I just stared at this guy who was tiny, clearly never worked out who racked up 225. 25 mins he does all this dumbell shit sitting on the bench, finally he tries to bench it, he can't do it but does this thing where he lowers it a fraction of an inch and back 3 times then i saw him take a photo of the weight. The gym in january is so shitty.
don't worry, hilary/bernie will soon put a stop to that harrassment by making talking out loud with women who do not give you a sticker of speech nearby illegal and the right of those women to withdraw sticker consent at any time with or without any discernable physical or vocal cues.
well, either would appoint to the supreme court people who would radically and irreversibly transform America into a social justice dystopia. merely having balls could become a federal crime.
That girl just wants attention and had to tell everyone she is getting hit on at the gym. Its not true but it makes her feel better about her crippling self esteem issues.
>You can smile-and-nod at them if you like, but otherwise you leave them the hell alone unless they talk to you FIRST, got it?
Mfw I've had both an 8/10 and a 9/10 qt come on to me at my gym but I'm too autstic to say anything besides "y-you too." Spent weeks blowing them off and eventually started working out at a different time so I wouldn't have to see them anymore.
I swear to gawd I'm not gay, just autistic.
Nigga, you're not autistic. Stop making excuses for yourself, you know you just don't have any confidence.
Solution: Man the fuck up, m8. You've got the upper hand already if they're approaching you.
>I hate random people talking ot me!!
What happened in society that this happened? I am the same way where I think it's weird to talk to random people yet my dad can talk to anyone easily at any random event and become friends with them for that time they are in vicinity.
>at NBA game
>we have decent seats
>get there early and waiting in line
>out of nowhere dad talking to some random dude
>when we get in he somehow has a box and invites us with him to hang with his family
>game finishes we say goodbye and I ask dad who he was
>"I don't know I just met him in line."
I feel like that's kinda ignorant to assume a stance for all women, since I know that not all women mind getting talked to at the gym. I can see she's just trying to be helpful, and she seems nice, she's just misguided.
I work at 24 hour fitness and I got laid twice, one was 17 years old and the other 20, so this is just a whale trying to show off she got hit on and wants to make it look bad since her romantic life is in shambles, and I bet she even gets charged to get in clubs since she's so fat that it would be the same as allowing 5 guys since no one would hit it.
>girls wear this type of shit
>get mad when people look at them
I lift on base so my gym is pretty much just full of other dudes and a few married women.
Hmm, would be neat to hit up a gym off base every once in a while just to gauge the difference.
>and who doesn't hate niggers?
the hell... since when did fit become so racist...
If you're sitting on your cell phone or looking for social time gtfo the gym! You should be working out, the operative word being WORKING. You should be breathing hard and using any rest time to recover, you aren't recovering as fast as you can chatting like an old woman. You shouldn't be thinking about having conversations or worrying about how inviting a gym is you should be struggling with what you are currently doing and if you're resting you should be tired enough that you are not interested in anything except max breathing and not moving for your rest period.
I've been going to the same gym for 3 years and only talked to a guy once when he forced it after asking to work in. If you're socializing at the gym you're not focused, it's just Mickey Mouse shit
Listen, buddy: People go to a swinger's club to FUCK. It is NOT a social club, and if you think you should be allowed to try to pick up girls in the pleasure room, then you need to check yourself because you're acting like an entitled little inconsiderate jerk. You can smile-and-nod at them if you like, but otherwise you leave them the hell alone unless they talk to you FIRST, got it? Now quit fucking up.
Just that the only guys I see talk to girls are the guys who went there with those girls like their husband or boyfriend. Now that I think about it most people don't really talk there at all unless they like went there together or know each other already.
Unless you were literally asking what that meant. In which case >>35675816
Which makes me curious as to what you think lifting on base means.
I feel the same way. My dad is old, fat, and ugly yet he talks to and has conversations with random strangers like its no big deal. I on the other hand, am young, fit, and attractive and lack the confidence to talk to anyone.
Internet and vidya games fucked our generation.
Seriously guys, don't be afraid to strike a conversation with a grill. Practice by first casually talking to some fat middle aged women or grannies casually and then go up and start approaching those you actually find attractive. I'm not talking about flirting, I'm talking about opening your mouth and just saying something casual which fits to the situation, like, how many reps you got left or are you using this, or say that his form looks good.
Unless you start the conversation in a middle of a rep, most people won't think anything negative. And even if they do, they'll forget it in no time.
That's such great social exercise really to do every now and then, even if you didn't have any hidden agendas. It'll help you when once you really find someone you wanna approach, was it at gym, school, work or bar.
No reason to be autistic, there's no actual, concrete danger out there. It's all in your silly little mind.
>tfw I'm so going to strike a convo with this qt guy next time I see him (no homo/london though.)
"your form looks good"
Literally can't think of a creepier/ worse thing to say to a girl at the gym. Just because you possess a vagina doesn't make you an expert on picking up women, in fact it's probably the opposite.
It's weird if she's doing some shitty ass improvement peeing a dog moves which she read from Seventeen, but if she's doing bp with proper weight, there ain't nothing creepy in that. Squats and shit are a different story then.