Can we have a feels thread?
Unsure if this is good feels or bad feels.
>Started off pretty chubby
>Got really skinny, starting to build some mass
>Meet up with my oneitis
>She distanced herself from me when I was bullied in HS, and wanted nothing to do with me when I asked her for help
>She looks just as good, and apologizes about the way she treated in the past, ask if we can start fresh and maybe get past being friends
>I told her that she is forgiven, but I don't want to do anything with her. I left the restaurant as she was making a scene.
>Now my phone is being blown up by her, and honestly I don't feel a damn thing.
Anyways can't wait to get back to uni and hitting the squat rack.
>turn down platterpussy from oneitis out of spite
>wonder why you're obsessing over it afterwards
>realize the feeling of superiority quickly turns to crippling loneliness
welcome anon, now you're truly one of us.
Good on you for not doing anything with her.
Tbh, if you were just "chubby" in hs, and she didn't help you out with the bullying, whether it was consoling you or standing up for the bullies, then she sounds like a shitty human being.
Then again she's a woman, what the fuck do you expect, dumbass.Why would you want her to solve your problems? You don't, that's probably why you started working out and eating better.
Basically, you're in a better place than you were before, and you got there without her.
You don't need her Anon, she needs you.
Keep it up dude, Godspeed.
>haven't seen the qt walgreens cashier in over a month
>never got here number
oh well, i'm an autist anyways
>this website has alienated me to the point where I spend all of my free time alone on the internet when I'm not working or with my gf
>never try to make friends
>people must think I already have friends
Something is telling me I need to leave, but I don't know where I'll go.
>texting girl since before thanksgiving
>try to meet up
>cancels last minute
>ask her two more times
>says she's busy
>give up hope
>starts getting more affectionate NYE
>asks me out this time
>"Friday, but I can't come to your house after"
>so what time are we trying for
>"oh was it Friday I thought we said Saturday"
>"I have a tinder date tonight "
>she sleeps with him that night
>spend all of Saturday with him, blowing me off
>asks what I'm doing tomorrow
>she says name when and where
>I give her a time and place
>she hasn't responded in over two hours
My heart is heavy
Mate, i'll level with you. Being here has convinced me to give up. I always saw the signs, but hearing real, unfiltered thought the way you can when anon made it clear.
No woman will like you for anything but money. You cannot love a woman and be happy together. Men are shallow, insecure, and unfaithful. You cannot love a man without being a second class human. I'm sorry anon. I really am. Leave if you wish, but know that I speak the truth. You will find no solace out there.
Bro.... This is fucking bait, cut losses she obviously doesnt value your time, also dating a slut.
>noone to enjoy it with
dont know what the fuck i'd do without the gym or my computer desu.
meeting people by yourself is impossible. everyone sticks with their social circles and it's just way too awkward to meet people.
You seem to be suffering from blue balls, just rub one out you'll feel a lot better.
>be doing back day
>haven't been to the gym for nearly a week because I wanted to rest and because the runs
>doing dumbbell rows
>look up at the bench press area
>see qt3.14 high test lightskin (part filipino maybe?) with glorious brown curls benching babby weight
>some short, somewhat skinny dude is there with her the whole time
Life ain't fair man.
Then again, I gotta give it to the guy, he was spotting her and working out all while having his arm in a cast.
Also, I have a question: is it plausible to flirt with girls who work at the gym cafe?
theres this qt girl at the gym who i think is interested in me but any time i try to talk to her my mind goes blank and i end up spaghetting every time. its gotten to the point where im so hotly embarrassed that i try to avoid her any time she tries apporaching me.
kill me now and end my misery
stop being a faggot she's obviously wasting your time and stringing you along. ditch her asap
Brehs, I don't want to feel like a sad loser anymore, I mean, I have friends and I go out, but when it comes to girls it seems like they are not interested at all, or they lose interest very quickly.
Anybody knows how to socially make it?.
The secret is to not do it at all. Also get good and picking up ladies and lift heaps. Guys will tend to respect you by default, unless they already knew you, then they will say that you're tryharding.
She's trying to keep you keen as a backup. If you literally stop replying to her and cut off all ties, she'll either come back to you or not. Probably for the better if she doesn't.
gf chose some dyel cunt over me, while she was on holiday, I know this because i hacked her facebook account while i was drunk and read through the messages
cried for a week, never skipped a day at the gym, 3 weeks later i'm due to pick her up from the terminal.
conversation goes like this
>Anon where are you, im at gate b
>Just paying for parking wait a sec
>Hold on just moving my car
>Okay, please hurry babe x
>Yeah, okay coming now, where are you?
>Gate B, babe
>Just look at the signs x
>Don't reply for 25 minutes
>Can you just come to the McDonalds, I can't find it
some time passes
>what the fuck where are you????
my face when I was lying on the couch having a beer at home the whole time.
fuck her bros.
thanks familia, I have had a gf in the past but that girl had daddy issues so I think that's why she accepted dating me.
Have any of you tried picking up women at random places during the day?
I feel like this will weird them out, but it will be good to learn to overcome my anxiety and not give a fuck.
i'm >>35558752 and i've never personally hit on any woman out in public, it just feels really unnatural and i don't want to make anyone uncomfortable u know
i did talk to women online though, and that seems to work out pretty well
I was the middle of those replies bro, I can answer this question for you..
Yes, do it, I picked up most of my ladies in random places and in fact met my wife outside a train station. Funny thing I also picked up 2 other girls on that day walking around the inner city. Went with my wife after first date with them all. It works, just do it, the balls will grow after.
>went out on date with qt 8/10 girl
>went well and shev actually enjoyed herself past my awkwardness
>texted me a few our afterwards telling me she had fun and wants to hang out next weekend
>thought I would feel something if a girl was actually into me
>feel as empty and lonely as ever
I know the feel of not wanting to make people feel unconformable, but I don't know breh, I am way boring online than irl.
So if you are walking down the street and you see a qt you just stop her and tell her that you find her beautiful?
>Have any of you tried picking up women at random places during the day?
I'm not a lesbian so no. However, from a female perspective, I'm open to guys talking to me randomly throughout the day as long as they're not overly aggressive (with the intention of getting my number) or put me on a pedestal; essentially: talk to me like a person. It's a lot easier if you see her regularly and build up from small talk. This way you know that she's compatible with you, your interests, goals, etc. Cold approaches are okay for practice though I've never gone beyond that interaction. (No number, date, etc.)
Nerdlove has a tonne of posts, but I find wisesloth has an index that easier to navigate and is less blue pilled than Nerdlove.
im no expert but you could get a little more personal with her the next time you talk to her, obviously not a TON, but maybe just expressing a more personal side of yourself would not only make you feel better but have her take more interest in you.
Fark no man, that will freak her out. I just ask them if they want to get coffee some time. They say yes 90% of the time, at least in my instances, and then ask for their number, then set a day you're both free right and you're good.
I don't know how often you get laid, like, maybe you're getting laid every night of the week? Turning down pussy is stupid man, it doesn't just grow on trees.
I'm not saying you should be friends with the bitch, but if she was down to fuck, you should of fucked her. You don't have to be bf/gf love love or anything bro, just fucking flirt, slip her the dick, and keep it casual.
I dunno, I only get laid about once a month, and usually with some old married bitch with saggy tits while her husband jerks off in the corner cuz watching a black dude with his wife is what he is into, sometimes with some fat slag at a bar, once or twice a year with a high test qt 3.14.
Maybe you got cute bitches throwing themselves at you all the time. I dunno. When I get a cute bitch I try to lock her down for multiple fuck sessions cuz they ain't common for me.
Sorry, I've no idea. I need a fairly intimate/deep emotional connection with a man before I'm able to sleep with him. If I don't, it's bad sex and I don't want to give bad sex. (Granted, I'm in my mid thirties, so I'm at the forever-boyfriend stage and not interested in hookups.)
we talked a lot about our interests and she thinks I'm really active and interesting and have a lot of things I'm good at
desu I honestly hate all my hobbies and just do them do I don't feel guilty for laying in bed and staring at a screen during all my free time
Will you consider dating a guy you meet in the street after knowing that you both are compatible?
I'm very inexperienced with dates, only dates I have ever been to have been with my ex gf and a friend that I already knew liked me.
So, what do you usually do? just sit and talk while eating?
Same question, how into dates?
also, how old are you m8? how old were you when you got married?
pretty useless arent ya, lass
true, grew up in a single mother household so i have no idea wtf i am doing
even if you had a dad around, i'm sure hed be fucking useless in teaching you about women.
thats how my dad was. I had to learn the game all alone, and it took breaking a couple hearts.
I use a method I like to call the hugh grant technique. Basically alternate between being "charmingly befuddled" and awkwardly direct. It gets results like nothing else, panties drop. I know why this is but I still don't know why this is if that makes sense, but it works.
As for my age I am 29, got married when I was 21. Got a lot of experience before that. I decided to do the opposite of what my friends and family did, which was to basically only date 'friends'. I thought it would mean you would unconsciously pick the same personalities over and over. So I started picking girls randomly based of looks first, then worked from there for comparability. Had some interesting rides and more experiences then my brothers/friends ever did.
I'd definitely be open to having coffee with him if he held himself well, could do a bit of banter and had a sense of humour.
http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2012/07/chemistry-sexual-tension/all/1/ (I'm not near as good as Vesper, but someone that can hold it like Bond makes me swoon.)
>Work at place for few months
>qt starts talking too me more
>"How are you, Anon?" everytime she see's me throughout my shift with a giddy smile.
>Spaghetti begins to leak out, not sure how to respond well.
>Comes back in when place is closing and buys me a beer.
>Adds me on Facebook.
>I've been cutting for three days
I was cool and calm talking to her before this started happening. Now my autism is begging to show.
>pretty useless arent ya, lass
It was a really interesting realization, for sure. I was in a long term relationship that ended and I thought I'd got and whore it up, making up for lost time. Couldn't do it. Hindsight I'm very happy I didn't - I don't want to degrade my product.
Now that you mention it, I have friends who use that technique, and they are great with women.
if your marriage is working then props m8, It's not easy to get married that young and still be together.
thanks for all the links, I'm reading them right now, and will keep them in handy to re-read if necessary.
Anyone else just kinda stop feeling? I think there's a point in which you become so apathetic that just nothing ever feels like anything, it just brushes off of you. I kinda feel like that.
In terms of love because all you guys are talking about it. I don't really care about it. I've been in relationships and had sex and it's fun but it all ends eventually. I haven't given up on it, but I don't know if I'll ever find a girl who truly fits for me. A girl who is as fucked in the head as I am but doesn't give a shit about anything and we can just be happy together. Sounds fun but seems like a pipe dream. But I'm not really torn about it, I like having space and my money.
I guess I just am numb, I don't really feel much anymore.
Just talk to them about whatever. Make an excuse for talking to them. They'll know what you're getting at, and their actions will be your answer as to whether they're interested or not. This was how I met my oneitis.
Cheers, yeah my marriage is great ^^
I will give you my ultimate super technique since I love people feeding my ego any amount. This works, I have 4 perfect runs with it.
First time a woman invites you into her place, get her worked up at the door then say no, you have some errands to run. its makes them like dogs on heat. then leave. A few days later say you're coming over, they will throw themselves onto a bed and it sets up the relationship for the woman to respond positively to the initiating sex. And it does. People are creatures of habit so set the right habit up from the beginning.
thanks femanon, nice knowing there are girls on this homo board.
Are you dating her or you just fancy her at from a distance?
Thanks man, I would have never thought of that, it sounds crazy but I should give it a try.
Also, nice dubs.
Not really "feels", but I can't come to a decision on whether to join the military or not. It's really my only chance of getting back into college without paying full tuition, and I could definitely use the skill set, but I'm just not enthusiastic about who I'll really be laying my life down for. Not to mention the friends and relatives I've had that joined and came back changed. Sometimes for the better, sometimes not, but something in them broke. I'm young enough that I can still join and be out before I'm thirty, but it's the ultimate commitment. I just don't know, man.
mate, i know exactly how you feel, and let me just tell you when you finally find something special you'll know.
i'd become so emotionally detached to everything, that when i finally met a girl i knew i really cared for, everything in my whole life shifted and became so much more. you really gain a sense of empathy. it hits you hard, things that never seemed to matter really affect you.
don't give up, but i agree don't stress about it too much. you'll know when it happens, trust me.
Just do it. But don't be stupid about it and be a grunt infantryman.
The likelyhood of war breaking out soon doesn't seem too terribly high right now, but if it does you want to have a job that ensures you'll be in the rear with the gear.
I was thinking of going into engineering. The only time I took the ASVAB was back in high school, got an 88 iirc. The minimum for that job is a 90, so it's achievable. I know it'll look great on my resume once I'm out, my dream job is to work for Elon Musk at SpaceX. That man is the future.