Suffering from oneitis pretty bad, /fit/.
I'm going to try to get some muscle this summer and bulk up to look better, but long story short, she's attractive and I'm not.
Is it possible?
Is your gf hotter than you? Do you know people whose SOs are more attractive than them?
forget oneitis. You're only allowed to have a oneitis if you're in a relationship with them already.
It's not going to work out and you're just going to feel like shit because you'll probably sperg hard.
please please please anon, promise me you will get over this oneitis before it's too late. it's not worth it I fucking promise you as retarded and dumb as it may sound to you right now please don't dwell on this feeling and just forget about her and any "oneitis" you will ever have. It's for the best.
This OP. Don't succumb to this nice "dreamy" poisonous lifestyle of thinking about a girl who will never be with you. Think about yourself, love yourself and then someday another girl will see this confidence in you and will make everything to be with you.
Doesn't listen to these fags. Just because they can't decide if they like men or woman and have no romantic aspirations beyond sticking their dick in some random chick doesn't mean love is dead.
I feel you on being really into one girl, and only wanting her, but lifting and dressing better and getting a good haircut that complements your head shape is about all you can do.
Make sure you cut to sub 10% body fat to reach your true aesthetic potential, and also don't underestimate the importance of a flattering haircut, hit a salon, drop 50 bucks, its something that you take with you every single day and you only need haircuts once every couple months.
thanks for the hope brother, i'll listen to your advice
i've been doing no porn but not no fap
no fap is really tough for me and i don't really see the pros in it. no porn makes sense, but not no fap
>obsessing over a girl you've never been in a romantic relationship with
>obsessing over a girl you've never been in a romantic relationship with
kek. This isn't a romance novel. This is real life
>Tfw in love with some QT asian grill that's here for her study and is most likely going back to her country and has to set her priority on making a future instead of dealing with a BF.
I want to love, but i got to stay realistic and sober.
Having oneitis fucking sucks and makes you beta.
honestly not sure.
i know i sound like an sperglord, but you guys just have to take my word on this that i'm not. we're pretty good friends, she's definitely my best girl friend.
we've hung out alone together several times before and it wasn't awkward at all. i find it very easy to talk to her alone. i've known her for about two years now.
i guess i'm just wondering how much that matters to a girl if you aren't that attractive. my main concern is my face. people have told me i'm ugly before, but i've also been told i'm just average
6'4" and sort of skinnyfat but i have potential to look good if i stay consistent with my diet / exercise up through summer.
>inb4 won't make it b/c lifting for a girl
i know that it's not a good reason to lift, i just can't help that it motivates me.
The way I got over oneitis for good was to think to myself about what qualities I like in someone I want to date.
I realized that "liking me back" should pretty much be number 1 in my list of desired traits for a girl to have.
After thinking this I stopped wasting time thinking about girls who didn't show any interest in me.
Lift for yourself and meet someone who deserves the person you become instead of some bitch who ignores you at best or wants you to serve her as an orbiter at worst.
it sucks dick being unattractive. attractive people live life on easy mode.
I feel your pain OP. My gf is 9/10 and I feel like a 7/10 at best. It doesn't matter as long as she loves you and find you attractive. /fit/ gives people a negative self image meaning you THINK you can only pull bitches when you are shredded
Get over her.
Even if she did call you cute id still tell you to stop talking to her for AT LEAST 6 months. That's what I'm doing with mine and tbh by the end I probably won't even care about her anymore.
You're 6'4. I'm a 5'10 manlet and I still get puss. You'll make it just delete her from your life.
Homosexuality is a serious mental problem, not a joke
Brother you can't put it off, life is too short. Not saying you should go for it now because if she has a BF already you might ruin your chances but seriously live your life and see what you can do with her by just testing the waters.
Wanna make out or something?
Op I had severe oneitis last year. I decided to wait and improve myself until approaching her. This year, I always see her staring out of the corner of her eye at me, and she's also started to sit next to me in class. To be honest though, the oneitits is gone. I definitely will try to get her but as for being my gf, I'm not so sure. Anyways, I tell you this because like in my case, if you improve yourself and work hard enough, people WILL take notice, and one if those people can definitely be your oneitis.
>she showed obvious signs of interest
>still didn't make a move because anxiety
what is wrong with me, bros?
Same thing that's wrong with most of us anon.
I has the opportunity to fuck my oneitis. It was basically a layup. Didn't make the right moves and now she thinks I'm a little bitch.
i got some horrendous oneitis at the moment
>at a mates for a house party
>crush of like 4 years is there
>we all get super smashed super fast
>she invites me outside for a cigarette (we're kinda close, we made out once ages ago but it went nowhere)
>tells me she wants to break up with her long term bf because uni etc
>spend rest of night with this in my head
>we wind up spending almost all of the night together playing beerpong, running round the house being drunk, etc
>gets to about 3am
>we're in the kitchen alone
>she's staring at me i'm just kinda blank staring ahead
>she moves closer, we're touching now
>think she's moving in to makeout
and here's where i fucked up massively
>literally dont do anything, dont move, dont say anything just blank stare ahead
>she like whispers my name
>in my head think im not gonna be the one to break her and her bf up
>say "im going for a slash back in a sec"
>come back downstairs
Got a text the next day saying how she's sorry how she behaved she was just really drunk.
Told me yesterday she doesn't think she'll break up with her bf.
Such a sad reminder that, this girl might not even be worth it.
I once had oneitis in hs, real bad case. Got some mad balls and asked her out, turned out to be a real bitch, such a body on her thou...
>have awful anxiety
>for the first time in my life I ask my oneitis out
>actually hook up
>best time of my life
>in a relationship for a week
>suddenly she doesn't want anything to do with me anymore
That hurt like a bitch. Still recovering.
The best way to get a girl is to just like follow her around and always do things for her.
Trust me, women love a gentleman.
Attention op and others here with oneitis, stop it. She isn't your dream girl. She isn't worth your time. Stop stressing about her. It's not gonna be a perfect fairytale love story. It will never work out.....ever. drop it and move on.
>Is it possible?
>Is your gf hotter than you? Do you know people whose SOs are more attractive than them?
Yes, it's possible. I've dated a few women that were more attractive than me (which is crazy awesome, because aside from my height I'm pretty fucking attractive) and I have friends who've dated way out of their league (think 5/10s dating 9/10 high test [not fat. literally just the perfect wide as fuck hips with D cups and an 8+ face while maintaining pretty low bf%] girls that looked better than most of the women I've been with)
Me? I was a nerd in high school. I had faggy emo hair and acne, yet I dated one of the most beautiful, popular girls out of 1400 people in the school, and I fucked another that made prom queen.
That isn't the point, though. First off, with the state your mind is in now, you are probably going to blow it. Whether or not you get the perfect noob gains, you are going to fuck it up. I've seen it before. It always always fails--though I have seen it work a few times. It ultimately did not last a single one of those times because these fucks were going about it the wrong way and for the wrong reasons.
Shit, I'm guilty of it myself. And I'm single now, so what does that tell you? I've gotten two of the three oneitises I've had in life, and six months or a year later, I could look back and realize that retrospectively, it was a waste of fucking time because we were broken up and it felt horrible.
You want to build a better body. Good. Do it. Not for her. Work out. Lift weights. Ignore what this board says and do cardio as well. Figure out what you enjoy doing and find some fucking hobbies, for Christ's sake. If you're going to college, then fucking focus on your major. If you're still in high school then focus on keeping your GPA up. But make sure your ass starts exercising and learning how to eat properly in the interim.
This is not for her. This is for you. You're young. (cont)
You're chasing a unicorn but all you're going to catch is a donkey that's being sold cheap because of all the Mexican sex shows it's done.
What you start building now at this exact point in your life is going to be a foundation for the rest of it.
I'm not saying this is your only window. I'm just saying that now is the best time. The second best time is any time before you commit to a lifestyle haphazardly for a girl that you'll find out isn't worth it, then mope around and give up on fitness because "it didn't do the thing I wanted it to." The third best time is after you've gotten over the resulting bitterness. See where I'm going with this?
You're probably going to ignore what I'm saying because you're a stupid kid with no confidence and you've yet to experience life nor the true emotional highs and lows it can bring. You can't even imagine them yet, OP, because you clearly don't even know how to take a chance on things that are ultimately only worth immediate gratification.
But copy this shit into a word document so that if you do go through with your dumbass plan, you can read it again when it all falls apart.
Relationships you haven't had are not that serious. You do not truly know people you haven't been in a romantic relationship with. You are merely lustful and obsessed because this is the one beautiful girl you've had the opportunity to get to know, and--because of that bias and your lack of a large sample group--your "one."
Get that shit outta town. Get the fuck up off your lanky ass, hit the weights, read a nice book, run, smell the flowers, do fucking woodcarving if that's your thing, start a sport, whatever.
Grow into the person you've always wanted to be. The one young you would admire. Plan out the steps required to get there. I swear there are cuter, smarter, funnier girls that are interested in the admirable cunt you've always wanted to be.
You just gotta get yourself there, put yourself out, and have patience. Faggot.
I've never had a gf, I've been depressed most my life and really a recluse. I guess some girls found it mysterious so I got a lot of girls interested in me but I had no idea what to do with them so I kind of ignored them. I've been through a lot since then but now girls don't show interest in me anymore. I'm drunk, I watched a really trippy tv show episode and have no idea what to think anymore
I think it'd be comfy laying down in the mud right about now. Oh and being /fit/ improves confidence but that's not what all grills want, even though I'm happy with myself. It looks like girls don't like me when I'm happy