I'm 19 /fa/ and I've never had sex. Now that valentine's day is coming up I've been feeling really fucking lonely. I've noticed girls checking me out (plus I flirt with girls in class) and I like to think that I'm effa;y but I'm terrible at making the first move. Is this the beginning of the end? Does anyone have tips on tying a noose?
>It's a plan for birthcontrol
Not a virgin thank god. If I can get laid in college, anyone can; you literally just have to go out/go to parties and it takes care of itself for the most part. But since then, gfs have been few and far between
truth is, being 19 it's not a big deal bro
You can make a big deal out of it, but it's not really that important unless you feel like it is.
That said, it depends on what is sex to you. Would you rather just bang some random chick you meet at a party, or meet some girl you want to actually have a relationship with.
If it's the latter then it will take time, but obviously you need to meet girls in order for that to happen. The only way is to be in an environment where you are constantly meeting new people.
If you never go out and try to meet the people in your area, it's a slim chance you'll find someone you feel comfortable enough to pursue.
Law of averages man.
Also in line with this, is that you should just take everything you're doing now as practice.
Talk to girls you aren't uncomfortable around so you can get a little time under your belt.
Take girls out who are interested in you, so you understand the mechanics of a date and how you want them to go.
Do go fucking every dumb slut you meet without any personal standards, but go for quantity right now, and you'll develop a taste for quality.
Then when someone really important comes along, you won't let it slip.
How to get pussy if you don't Like people ? Can you answer me Anon ?
>I've noticed girls checking me out (plus I flirt with girls in class)
Also you might be surprised by this, but if you actually seem like a well put together guy, most girls in college are intimidated by that.
Sure, some of these girls are HOT, but that doesn't mean all of them are some sort of goddess or relationship expert, they are just as nervous as you.
And in my experience, the true gems are just as inexperienced as you, because people are so intimidated by their presence they don't pursue thus making it a catch 22.
Anyway, don't make every interaction with a girl a big deal. You're going to get a lot of rejection, but it's how you deal with the situation that makes you seem desirable.
This doesn't mean being a cocky asshole and acting like you are some hot shit, just be amiable
23yr old here - Learned a lot in the last couple yrs. Honest advice - do not smile ever. EVER. Work the moody/ mysterious/ borderline angry hardass aesthetic and you'll no longer have to make the 1st move. Girls will just flock senpai. Works fucking wonders. Nice guy/ insecure face is a real thing. Keep your face solid / serious looking and do not crack. Over time you will eventually become the hard-ass you're wanting to be to get the girl in the end.
I lost my v-card at 19. Losing it later than that isn't a huge deal either.
I was like you though, my tips
>women aren't that fucking special, they are like men but they have vaginas
>talk to women like you do your bros, everyone is people, they are the same
>LIFE ISN'T SERIOUS BRO JUST CHILL BRO
>seriously the consequences are never that bad
>literally the worst thing that can happen is you say something retarded and if she isn't cool then she acts all weird and leaves, then it becomes a funny story
Oh and don't sweat valentines day mang, I'll be alone this v day too. Most people your age will be, really. Valentines day is a hassle to begin with, trust me you're not missing out.
>try and look serious and mysterious all the time
>play the 'cool guy' angle
>make girls think you're a hardass
You forgot to tell him to buy a scorpion jacket and chew on toothpicks, senpai
Also 23 years old, not a virgin personally.
This guy is probably a virgin.
Smiling helps a lot, seriously smiling does something chemical in your brain. If you smile more you're just instantly likable and you seem more confident. Your shitty jokes are funny if you have a good smile. If you act stoic you just seem shy, uninterested, and lacking in confidence.
Yeah, some women will give you more looks, but when it comes time to talk, it doesn't work. You're basically an ornament unless the woman is just really gullible. I have been both before, mysterious /fa/ guy who gets all the looks, and actually good guy who people like and have fun with. The 2nd one gets way more ass and is way more successful in life.
Also, lmfao if you think women will make the first move. You will still have to make the first move in some capacity, that's just how this shit works. She may be the one to put herself in an open situation, but you will still have to be the one that plays to her.
I always get the mysterious comment, but yeah that guy is full of shit because I smile all the time.
Anyone at work tells me I probably the most likeable person there. The only reason why I might get the mysterious quality is I prefer to listen to people, rather than blab about my shit life.
Listening is a HUGE part of communication. If you can't stop and relate to what people are actually saying, you're just going to dig yourself a hole.
Why are you pretending to be cool when you're ugly as fuck and people on /fa/ have hated you since the first day you started posting?
Plus you've been here for ages and still can't dress well so you're clearly a fucking spastic who doesn't 'listen' to others.
Not to imply that people on /fa/ dress well but shit after you lurk here for like 5 years+ all those inspo threads must sink into your brain through osmosis or some shit and make you throw on a decent outfit once or twice.
I pray every day you get a hot shot and die
Be like me OP and have the girls make the first move on you.
I've only made the first move once, asked for a cashier's phone number and she wrote it down on the receipt, ended up going on a couple dates but there was no chemistry. Felt like a fuckin' king for daring to ask her though, still have the receipt lying around somewhere.
Other than that, there's been 4 girls who've made the first move on me even though I'm ugly, awkward and socially inept.
>Do go fucking every dumb slut you meet
Don't do this. Trust me.
I went through a bad period where I was sleeping around a lot and eventually caught the herp-derp from a girl who either knew she had it but didn't tell me or was one of the ones who never get any symptoms and wasn't aware of it.
Still, now I got it and there's no going back for me now... Pretty much impossible to meet anyone now, especially since I always tell them I have it because I don't want to be 'that guy'...
why are you so concerned with getting laid anon
someday the right person will come and sweep of your feet
you don't have to change yourself for others,they should appreciate you for who you are
sampei, if there's one thing I've learnt in my time on this gay earth.
It's that the vast majority of people make unshakeable snap judgements about others at first contact and worse still they propogate the idea that this is how you ought to judge others.
Especially for relationships.
Always weird how people treat the start of a mafia war as romantic holiday.
I guess buy your girlfriend a dozen flowers now because al scarface capones crew will unload several thousand rounds of .45acp then chop you in half and leave your rotting body in an old meat shop?
Like I said, I'm socially inept, so I share the same problem. However, sometimes it's really, really hard to miss.
Like when they find some other girl to give you their number. Or when they suddenly stick their tongue down your throat. Or grab your hands and put them on their behind.
Since we're on the topic already, I'm in the same boat but I met the girl of my dreams in an art class last semester and we've been snapchatting / DMing since. Recently since the weather has been better she snaps me bikini pics, especially one that was a lying down over the back booty shot made me HNNNNNNG hard. Does this mean anything? Am I an idiot for not taking these signals? I've never been in a real relationship, I was a depressed recluse for most of high school. Should I ask her straight to dinner or just coffee or something?
Morrisey will make you into the ultimate lady man. Literally just talk to some girl blah blah blah laugh a little give her your number. Then act like morrisey like you always fall in love witht the wrong girls and get you heart broken. That you hate one night stands. Like you have a million girls at your door. then bang you're fucking another girl. It works everytime. Be like james dean in rebel without a cause.
>I've noticed girls checking me out (plus I flirt with girls in class)
Then just ask them out. Seriously, taking a shot will make you feel much, much, much better than ruing over the countless chances you've squandered over the year (speaking from experience).
>but the regrets are killing me
This too op. it's easy just make small talk.look them in the eyes a lot. keep them talking about her stuff. then i always give them a piece of paper that says just in case. and has my number on it. she will text you immediately. now you have a girls number step one complete.
this is like the worst advice ever.
I think you should find out what people like about you and work on showing it. It's easy really - ask a good friend about your qualities. I bet there are thousands and you already can show those qualities when your friends see it.