You guys are attractive, right?
How's life as an attractive person? What are the pros and cons of being attractive?
i have a gf of 2 years
sex is good
i have horrible self-esteem so im constantly worried she's cheating on me
feels bad man
would rather be alone as if it never happened
Can get girls easily.
Lots of "friends" that hang out with you just because they and everyone find you interesting (this is maybe not that much of a pro but if you want to make new friends then it is obviously more easy).
As a college student is more easy to find a summer job at a mall, because good looks is everything.
As a professional it opens you a lot of doors to jobs, too.
Now maybe this is just my experience but I realized that a lot of people think you're dumb (you know the streotype that atractive people can't be intelligent).
Lots of people that hate you for no reason other than he fact that they're just jealous about the attention you get.
Lots of people don't hate you but assume instantly that you're probably a douche.
as a somewhat attractive girl (I've been told I'm attractive...i dont really think so but whatevs), I can see some pros. Like whenever I go out, people treat me wayyy nicer than they treat my friends. They serve me right away and first when I go to bars, even when there are people who have been waiting for drinks 10+ minutes. The service is always friendly. Vendors give me lots of free stuff.
But the cons are that lots of people are always trying to get in your pants. Guys approach me a lot, act all friendly, and get mad when I dont want to fuck them right away. Also, sexual harassment is a huge issue. Guys try to get close to me just because of my looks. My friends also make fun of how many times I get hit on by dudes :/ I rather just be meh desu senpai
Funny thing, I'm with the nerd crowd because on the first day of classes I noticed someone's anime wallpaper on their laptop and started talking with them about anime. All of my friends are ugly losers, except for one, he just needs to lose some weight, the rest aren't real friends
but the normal/good looking people don't talk to me because of who hangs around me and tb.h fa.m im cool with that
some chick with a nice ass that tried talking to me started avoiding me though
it's good because I have a gf but see >>10818695
It's better than the alternative I guess. Seeing other girls watching guys watch me is fun. The attention gets obnoxious at times. Both sexes treat you as an object.
Ohai Patrick. You're probably alright. :3
Also when I was in HS, I got away with more stuff when I got in trouble compared to the ugly delinquents. I would get a warning while they got suspended, because good looking Maxwell would never mean to do such a thing. While the ugly ones who have no self esteem feel worthless and no longer care if they get in trouble because they will never be good looking or as successful as me. While they are pushed down, I'm given more chances on the pathway that is paved for me to be successful.
Even though I get told I could be a public speaker/politician/president, I would rather sit on my computer, draw, listen to music.
More opportunities have also been given to me. I only know this because I used to have shit teeth, then I got veneers, and was suddenly put on a pedestal. Made me realize what it was like to go from nothing to something. Prob why I'm still humble. Although I got new teeth, Im still kind of the same person on the inside. Its def weird. I used to feel ugly and worthless, all because my one flaw, which I got fixed, now I realized I'm happy i did def don't regret it
I'm like a 7/10, an 8/10 when fit and fresh. I smile good.
>People generally like you more for no real reason.
>Gay guys and bisexuals become kind of problematic if you're straight. Maybe I've just had shit luck, but I've lost 3 good friendships to unrequited love (two bi guys, and an apparent lesbo girl). It's really hard to make friends with people who are of the same attractiveness level as you if they are bi/gay/opposite gender, unless you're in a committed relationship.
>If you're too effay then people just assume you're too pretty to be straight.
>people at the mall always try to recruit me to work for them "you have the look" etc.
>people assume that you're a player when you're totally not, some women won't like you because of this
I lost a lot of weight and went from a 5/10 to a 9/10, if you want to fuck bitches you get the most at like 7/10. Like when I was 7/10 I got way more bitches but at 9/10 I got a smoking smart gf. Tons of gay guys hit on you, people are always trying to impress you and it's annoying as fuck, random people talk to you and it's Annoying as fuck. So I'd say 7/10 is best for fucking but being 9/10 or 10/10 and you can wife up any bitch
I look at myself in the mirror and wanna go gay for myself I love it
>Gay guys and bisexuals become kind of problematic if you're straight.
It helps me get away with being a depressed recluse, but on the other hand, everybody just assumes I'm super happy because I'm wealthy and good looking, and it's like no man I just want a friend.
What do you think about people who are obsessed with you because you're good-looking? Do you find that cool or do you think they're stupid?
People who constantly praise you or maybe stalk you, I mean
well i'm just a 6 even if girls consider me as a 7 and for guys i'm at least an 8 i suppose ? because everytime i laugh /smile everyone is looking at me i thought it was ugly af but once a guy was contemplating my face and told me ' wow your face is so beautiful' ?
>walk like a zombie
>still get laid by qts
Having been both attractive and unattractive (which depends on being /fit/ mostly in my case):
- People appreciate you more.
- Clothes look better on you.
- It's very easy to get laid.
- Girls love your body when you're naked, giggle, kiss your everywhere.
- If you're spiritually immature (which I was in my teens), it can make you arrogant, which is the worst thing that can happen in your life.
Attractiveness can get you things, but if you're not a kind person all the things in the world won't make you any less miserable. Conversely if you're kind, you can have nothing and still be the happiest you can be. For me kindness > attractiveness. If you are already attractive, work on being kind. View attractiveness itself as a way of kindness, and you will never skip your workout, your skincare, or eat bad food.
You'll find that the only guys that are ever nice to you are actually full on gay for you. Ugly Straight guys will ally against you. You might intimidate some girls so work on your sense of humor and don't dress to try hard. But the only perk is you might get away with more than others.
I have relevant comment. I had a "friend" back in High school That had the look and proportions to be attractive.
>Green slightly hooded eyes
>Symmetric boyfriend tier face
>frail skelly (would look better toned up though)
He could have been a 9/10 but he was pretty stupid, annoying, and somewhat socially awkward which made himself look like a complete 5/10. Girls liked him the first time they meet him but once they get to know him, he was complete shithead. I met up with him a few weeks ago and he's still the same. I bet he's never going change.
I'm pretty autistic so it's not as great, at least people don't scoff at my appearance tho.
It's really not all that different since I'm short as shit.
If I was taller I'd probably be considered pretty universally attractive, but the fact that I'm 5'4" really switches up the whole dynamic in an interesting way. Honestly I don't mind it that much. I know the meme is that I'll always be alone and blah blah blah but that really isn't the case. The thing is, height (at least in my case) doesn't really affect how you "score" on the attractive scale. It's more of a binary thing. So even though probably around 80% of women (maybe even more) would view me as undateable that remaining 20% still usually just view me as being attractive. So while an average tall guy is going to have way more opportunities than me, they may not even be able to pull some of the qt short girls I've had into me before.
Idk, maybe that's all bullshit but based on my own experience that seems to be how it works. Also, being short means I don't have to deal with a lot of the negatives to being attractive that people have been talking about here. No one's intimidated by me so I get pretty fair treatment across the board.
People blatantly stare at you. Its terrible if your personality is cerebretonic like mines. I just look strait ahead and ignore it. It is cool but after a while it gets annoying. I can't stare back because then they won't stop. The staring makes me so uncomfortable.
People stare at me but look away really quick if I try to look back and it's really obnoxious. I have people sneak pictures of me which is flattering but overall the attention from gay men when you're straight can be pretty annoying, some of them can be quite manipulative and very creepy.
I'm a 6' college varsity athlete whose been offered modeling work.
Laying drunk chicks is easy.
Even fridgid good girls will go out with you.
Gay guys are cool and even spaghetti a little.
Straight guys on your level are cool and appreciate you.
Straight guys who know you're a few points over them can be nonstop pains in the ass.
The downsides are that if you're also muscular people assume you're dumb.
Girls still insist that you have an outgoing personality even if they like everything else about you. It's a huge deal breaker in relationships to have off days socially.
Dealing with jealous people is pretty bad sometimes. I'd rather be handsome than ugly or average, but when you realize that people are out to sabotage you that way it can be disillusioning.
Girls are too afraid to be themselves around me and so I don't have any girl friends,girls are too afraid to approach me so they always ask the guys who have been known to speak to me about me, who are extremely jealous of me so they tell them awful things to stay away so I just roll solo now and my life has improved. Don't really want guy friends at this point I would settle for just one gf.
This happens to me often and I'm a real hothead so I get angry and depending on whether or not they are men I'll start talking my shit so as to lead to an altercation idk man
and no just getting in trouble like skipping class showing up late to school, handing in assignments late, I was showed more leniency because they want me to succeed because I was the All American Star athlete that was wealthy, and them failing me would be like failing the school, since I grew up in a small town and everyone knew my name. I was like that typical popular jock kid in the movies, but in reality I didn't really care. Kind of hard to explain if since you aren't really me and know all the details. Even when I'm out and about at the local grocery stores, old ladies will ask me how I'm doing, hows college is going, and if I'm ever looking for a special lady, they have one lined up for me if I ever have the time. Its pretty flattering desu and gives me a good laugh.
showing up late to school and handing in assignments late was also kind of due to sports, and long travel distances since I live in the middle of nowhere, so get back late and doing my studies. I wasn't no slacker, took all AP classes and passed with 4s and 5s
But yeah, being good looking people will look up to you because they see you as some perfect human being when in reality Im not lol
>actually an average guy (5/10)
>looks somewhat middle-easterish
>makes me 6/10 now
>walk around with my identical twins
>go on a date with a chubby petite girl yesterday
>saw her do pic related from her car
I always knew that I'm above average, but getting this? Surely boosted my self confidence since I used to be a beta fuck.
I kinda resent people.
If I don't put effort into my appearance I come off as a total sperg and no one gives me the time of day.
A day ago I got a haircut and added some new stuff to my wardrobe. Now there are old ladies smiling at me left and right. Girls working at stores treat me nice and get spaghetti.
My quirkiness is cute now lol. I guess it's better than being ugly, I just notice this always when I clean myself up after I go through a period of hiding in my house.
I can't judge em.
Social timidity isn't a problem if you're genuinely interesting.
You need to deal with the fact that you're just not interesting. Read a fucking book. Artsy bitches love books.
>Live with my parents
>Room is a mess
>It's excusable because books are strewn across the floor instead of trash
Getting treated like a princess (esp. Koreans, they buy me so much stuff)
More success in everything?
No friends at home because they bash my body and shit 24/7
Even my whale family desu
>So if I'm a 6.8/10
I see you people rating yourselves and other people like this all the time, and you guys always seem to sperg out these numbers as if they're scientifically valid or something. Can someone explain this to me? This is all just a big joke right, and I'm just fucking retarded for not getting it? I mean, you people can't seriously be so fucking dumb, right?
i get told i should model all the time and people think i'm some kind of actor when they see me on the street but i see so many flaws in me
Hey it's not as bad as
>being told by everyone I'm 1.8m tall
>doctor measures me and tells me I'm '1.775m tall'.
It was as if the extra 0.5cm was meant to make me feel good or some shit.
>dad says he's 6 foot
>judged my height off his my whole life
>became my dad's height like two years back
>finally measure myself a few weeks ago
- bigger portions at fast food if it's a girl serving u (my friends always point out that i have more)
- easier to make friends
- girls turn into stalkers if u give them attention then ignore them (but i think thats just girls in general)
- can get away with more shit
- ppl expect too much of u
- guys are more hostile to u, especially if u look like u lift
- shitty wingman
as a beautiful male, shit sucks. males aren't supposed to be pretty. I've been rejected by my male peers since puberty and my "friends" at that age are all females that claimed to be my friend but were actually interested in me. so they would streer me away from other females or social situations with other females, which I believed as being a "good friend" at the time since I was in middle school
in high school this meant I had few to no friends and somewhat stunted social skills
In college I kind of opened up a bit, but I had a very jealous and possessive girlfriend. having a low self esteem meant I didn't notice female attention (completely oblivious to it) which ended in a lot of fights that I never understood. especially when it came to cashiers and shit.
I started to accept that my appearance was the cause when I started dating my current girlfriend. she is very smart and quickly noticed that I was oblivious to female attention, so she started pointing it out to me. once she started explaining that, she realized more and more how truly oblivious I was and says that she's never seen a guy attract girls like that. she says it's almost like I'm a girl receiving male attention, with the way that females blatantly stare and leave thirsty comments on my Instagram when I rarely post or interact with people. All of her ex dudes would berate me as being a "pretty boy" though none of them knew each other. it was all very surprising to me
if you haven't also picked up on it, I am also somewhat autistic
this has to do more with being a boring pussy than anything else, trust me
>random people talk to you and it's Annoying as fuck
im ugly/average and people always still do this to me. im like a magnet for lonely people. can't tell you how many times people ive just met tell me their entire life story. it's weird
>people are more patient with you
>you feel more confident
>you focus your self-loathing on your character
>you feel judged, like "thinks he's too good for us" in certain situations - or at least i worry that
>know you have a shot with hot grils/guys
>can get away with doing things that would get ugly/normal people called losers/gay/your choice of insult
the first two points are good if you're insecure and socially crippled like me
I used to be ugly during high school (acne, braces, uneven facial features, no haircut, oversized clothes, very skinny and short), but now I am at my best looking and the most major thing I notice is different is not caring anymore about my appearance, I just know I look good, I am not even afraid of taking photos anymore.
Therefore I am better at everything because I am not self-conscious because of my looks anymore.
Didn't realize I'd already posted
No, like never. Only rarely. I've been told I'm attractive enough fairly often but I know if I was more attractive I'd still just wish to be more attractive.
Cheat at what
Only losers cheat
I need help /fa/, am I attractive?
I've been reflecting back on HS recently and just noticed how well I was treated by both students and teachers alike. I never had problems with anyone, and made tons of friends, and got compliments from women and men all the time. Teachers liked me if they weren't hardasses. I think I'm probably like a 6 to 7 at best, just attractive enough, but not threateningly so.
I can actually report on a recent experience
I consider myself attractive, not godlike but above above average at least; can dress myself in a socially acceptable way (i.e. not gothninja)
new uni, so i don't know anybody there
Decide not to talk to anyone because autism and reduce social interactions with classmates to a strict minimum:
- nobody talks to me
- some people seem intimited when they engage to ask mundane shit
- can't really feel any animosity from anybody (there were instances in the past i could clearly feel people were thinking i'm a hauty twat)
- regularly catch people in public transports or street staring
- ffw to end of first semester, 1 week project where i had to interact with classmates: random grills and people i literally never exchanged a single word with start chatting everyday with me (although i keep dropping spaghettis everywhere)
Can't really comment on other stuff. Overall i'd say people are pretty nice to me
I think attractiveness is overrated, it won't get you laid alone, but people are more willing to start conversation and hang out with you (when you actually try to keep autism levels to a minimum)
I get called attractive a lot but I'm not sure if I agree, pros and cons are the following:
- get laid more than anyone I know
- people are often nice to me from the start
- got a job in modeling recently
- I get a lot of compliments which keep me going
- I've started to question whether I have any other real qualities than a nice face and a good body
- I obsess over tiny details in my appearance that I don't like, once got nausea when I noticed my left eye is naturally slightly less open than my right
-ugly people try to get with me and it gets annoying
>tfw people either say you're ugly or hot, no in-between
Probably cause beauty is subjective and attractiveness is a personal metric for how badly you wanna (theoretically) have kids w someone. And they either wanna bang you or don't so they're gonna flatter you if they do
hmm, maybe. it was normally guys who said mean things about my appearance when i was younger and women who complimented. insults have dissipated since high school, so i shouldn't care tbqh
I had two hot gfs though and I'd say a decent amount of cute girls liked me. I think I attracted the non-normies more than the normies because I had long hair and did a bunch of drugs. Some of the normie girls fucked with me but not all of them
Lmao so many people here think they're super attractive and good looking. Ask them to put a picture of their face with the comment they just typed and we'll see how many people reply...
not kidding new years eve was a nightmare
drunk girls clinging on to me "anon you're so hot can i kiss you"
someone poured their drink over my shoes too
was about to stand in the corner and start complaining about how much my feet hurt
I'd honestly like to see the people posting in this thread. I have no delusions about how attractive I am, attractive enough. But I always have that gnawing suspicion that I'm an abomination and no one I've met has had the huevos to tell me yet
girls will only hit on you if they think they have a solid chance. if you're getting hit on by uglies brave enough to think you're on their level you probably don't look as good as you think.
girls are terrified of rejection since it's already out of the social norm to make the first move on guy they only will make an attempt if they think theres a really good chance
girls have low as fuck standards (lookswise) when it comes to men (just don't be short) due to their natural low self esteem they latch on to anyone that will give them attention especially when young and in high school.
If you think you're attractive, but have a boring personality, I gotta break it to you: you're not attractive. It's a double deal. Your personality counts a lot towards how attractive you are, which makes perfect sense, since people are more drawn to charismatic personalities.
very true girls are more likely to settle since straight men are on average ugly and dress like shit. while gays are a lot more picky with their men since gay men take better care of their appearance the bar is set higher for them
Also dumb shit like superfluous status shit. Like most girls don't care about a guys skills or competence, just how much money he has, or what job. As opposed to caring about how sociable or funny a guy is they tend to care about how social other people get with him, how much others laugh at his jokes etc etc. Basically in my experience girls care about the veneer guys care about the stuff something/someone's made of
Sorry about morning hair btw
And let me beat you to it. My hair is trash if I don't put like 20+ minutes into it, my nose is bulbous, my mouth is too small, I have a big forehead, too narrow of a chin, I need a shave and my complexion is bad
I miss anything?
> most girls don't care about a guys skills or competence
theres examples itt where looks do not triump social awkwardness and autism.
also theres nothing wrong with not wanting someone thats a lazy bum with a shit job.
>guys care about the stuff something/someone's made of
false. the only thing they care about is looks when it comes to women and how she makes HIM feel (stroke his ego). her interior is irrelevant.
This makes me pissed as shit because that could have been me if my parents didn't decide to put me in a ghetto school and hide all our status. I was taught to be subtle and modest about that sort of thing.
daily reminder to the teens out there
50% of attractive people have already peaked and will rapidly turn to shit as they enter adulthood
it's very much a lifestyle to remain attractive
I'm like 5'8" and some change, 111 lbs flat last time I checked.
And tux again it's from a thrift store all my favorite sweaters are, even though I've been thinking of doling out some cash for nice clothes this year. It cost me 6 dollars I've owned it for 4 years of heavy wear so I'm happy w it
r8 for the fun of it
>my nose is bulbous, my mouth is too small, I have a big forehead, too narrow of a chin, I need a shave and my complexion is bad
Yeah. You're a self-conscious motherfucker. You need to take a chill pill.
>look myself in the mirror
>dang I look good as shit, perfect face except fivehead
>turn face slightly to the side and see my profile
>oh right, that's why nobody likes me
my profile is one of the worst. I very rarely see someone with a worse profile than me, not even on /soc/ I see people with uglier sides than me
Holly shit, tell me about it? I was partying for New Years eve, and this dude comes up to me, all faggy and shit, asks me if I'm gay. I say:" No, sorry". He says:" Are you sure?". Fuck my life.
7/10 - not sure if you have the face for picking up women, but pretty nonetheless. Very neotenous. Looks like you'd do good picking up early-mid teen girls. Not very manly though so I imagine people would fuck around with you easily. Boyfriend-tier face.
honestly it's probably not that bad, i can't explain it well but my profile looks awful when i look in the mirror (jaw line wise, but when i see a video of me walking (friends film shit all the time so this is kinda often) my jaw looks loads better
i dont know
sometimes I feel like I look really good and others i look so bad I wanna die
Only picture I have. I think the picture fails to see how terrible it really looks like because not my whole head is in the pic. My jaw from the side looks like shit and the fat under my chin makes me look like a frog from the side, despite having low body fat.
I have a resting bitch face but I've been told my smile is infectious when it shows
Nah son I dont fux with chill pills
You remind of a friend of mine but his smile muscles work
You're pretty correct about everything.
I am not very manly per se either, neither in style nor personality, but my body (apart from my lady ass) is still a mans.
However, people don't fuck around with me at all.
I don't like my smile, because I have braces right now. I'm just not used to it yet.
I still smile all the time in real life, I'm always trying to be positive.
Thanks guys, it's always fun to see what people assume of you
no need to be so demanding anons~
somehow i managed to keep my face from when I was 12 for six years
I don't see myself as beautiful but I recognize what you are saying so much. It took me till the second year of college to actually find out that girls were interested in me and it took me another year and a gf to find out how to actually cope with this.
I secretly also believe that I am somewhere on the spectrum although that is probably just to explain why I can be socially awkward sometimes
i feel like this to a certain extent.
as a pretty boy you define masculinity on a different kinsey scale. I'd love to be a lumberjack and I'll never be. But goddammit if I'm not a BusterKeatonJeffBuckley.
the boys will rough you a lil, especially the repressed ones. but if you show basic snide backbone and posturing it's whatev
(that was my TOUGHMOMENT)
as far as manipulative girls i see that point but also it's a stocked pond theory. girls always equal more girls. period. so, this doesn't work out. let's move along please.
but that look in a girl's eye when you catch her just staring at your cheekbones and greengold eyes, or hell you focus something off in the distance and you see her eating up the glance to devour you with her eyes.
hope you're 20s bro cause the next decades will hit harder. you can try and silver fox it but some of us don't make it back from the patrolman.
the "prettier" you stay the better your confidence. don't do a binge or a whatev like some public figures you see who age non-grace.
(so diet, hydration, etc)
all humans are pretty same. be confident. be your best and you will be attractive over time. truly. maintain. maintain and don't complain.
Do girls ever look at ugly people or do they completely ignore them?
Whenever I'm walking around I always get girls looking at my face (or eyes, can't really tell) and I'm not sure if its because I'm ugly or semi-attractive. I also never look back because I don't want to be a creep. Maybe I'm giving the rape stare without realizing it?
First 3 years of HS me
>too much unkept hair, made my head look really big, especially considering how thin i was
>nerdy as hell
Somehow i still had some friends, mostly because i've always been a smooth talker and everyone tells me my voice sounds very sexy. Despite this, never been popular or anything, my looks totally fucked me over... there were some snob girls in my class who wouldn't even talk to me and the more polite ones did so only to be nice; at the time however I didn't care about anything but wasting my fucking life on vidya.
For some reason I decided to take better care of myself, and started a regimen of self-care on the 4th year.
Started working out a bit, got a decent haircut, and went to the dermatologist to fix my acne, improved my hygiene and all that jazz.
Growing up my babyface went away and I found out i'm rather attractive, also was able to grow some stubble, shit was cash.
On the 5th year things suddendly changed a lot for me, I suddendly became a lot more popular, got a fuckton of friends, noticed girls would look at me a lot more, and i'm rather sure a few of the ones that never talked to me had a crush on me by the end of high school.
Wanna hear the cons? Some of what I thought were my friends started hating me, because girls they liked actually liked me more, in one case even the gf of a friend of mine showed interest in me and that caused my "friend" to keep trying to humiliate me in public everytime he could.
Being attractive is great, but not that great... i feel a lot more confident but it's not paradise.
Pros: people treat me better and generally like me more
Cons: I'm kindof autistic so the extra attention is really stressful sometimes. especially random approaches. And too many girls fall in love with me and I have to break their lil hearts
First, the staring, by everybody
Girls will almost always flirt with you, in every single one of my classes last semester the girls I sat near fixated their attention on me. Not to mention the countless female coworkers who are obsessed with you
People treat you nicer, respect you more, benefit of the doubt and etc
People expect things of you. Girls I flirt with and talk to actually expect me to pursue them, or show the same feelings as them. You don't know how many instances I've had where I'd meet a girl, we would be cool and chill, then after a while it would reach a climax point and then they would just cut everything and become cold
You intimidate girls (no virgin)
You also struggle with the concept of a girlfriend
It's honestly a blessing and a curse
Excuse you sir?
I'll have you know I was voted most attractive in my senior yearbook....
....by my mom.
-Easy to make friends
-Easy to talk to women
-People are nicer to you
-The door is usually open in most cases
-Tons of staring (very uncomfortable)
-People make (negative) assumptions about you
-Some guys will be mean to you
-Cannot have platonic relations wih a girl, they always expect more
its so good man. but only when single. being attractive in a relationship sucks ass. u cant do anything without feeling guilty for cheating and your partner is always insecure. so dont even think of getting a serious gf until you are in your 50s
> then after a while it would reach a climax point and then they would just cut everything and become cold
>You intimidate girls (no virgin)
>You intimidate girls (no virgin)
these are the problems of a person with a personality
I have a question, I'm considering dating a girl that is not as attractive as I am and she is very aware of this almost too much. Would the relationship be smoothsailing or would she be constantly worrying about me cheating and feeling insecure and I have to tell her she's beautiful every 5 mins?
>was having a bad hair day and tied my hair to hang with my friend
>had like 3 people comment on my "manbun" and how they loved it.
my friend asked if it gets tiring. while it does, it's nice to get complimented too much over not at all
I saw You rate faces on /10 i dont know where i could be, girls says That ive got a pretty face but idk i dont find me ugly but not incredibly beautifull either, but all my friends tell me the contrary. My nose holes are not exactly the same size so are my eyes :/
I changed hairstyle a Will ago dont focus on This xD
Shit I've been wondering this too for a while. It doesn't happen often, but when I catch a girl looking at me I can't help but go "Hmm maybe she finds me attractive? Wait... That can't be... Oh god am I so ugly than I actually catch peoples attention??"
>go out drinking with some acquantinces
>autistic as fuck, say about 5 things the entire night, mostly random and barely connected to the conversation of the group
>everyone says that I was really cool and interesting and they want to hang out more
All it comes down to is this: I feel like shit but I look great
I don't get it. Do you post bad pictures on purpose?
This is obviously the best picture you have of yourself, and that's really sad. Your right cheek looks super hollow but it's really just that loose hair strand.
If you want an accurate rating, you should take a more neutral photo; but you're probably scared of that.
Feels really good being praised, but otherwise it's not worth much.
May stress you out if you're anxiety-prone.
same shit here, except I ended up making out with the dude
I often get told that I'm attractive and have girls go out of there way in attempt to make conversation/small talk.
I don't have the confidence to back it up though so I tend to lead girls on and give them mixed signals because I'm unaware that simple things like being nice/polite can be taken as something flirtatious.
It does get annoying when all the work colleagues refer to you as "pretty boy" and other terms because those who don't know you overhear it and automatically have set an image of you in their head, more often than not they assume you're a player or narcissist (to list a few).
I certainly think you get more chances at most jobs, relationships etc when you're more attractive. People want to be around you (can also be a con).
It sucks for those who were unattractive before puberty because they grew up not experiencing the things that attractive people experience so when it finally happens to them, they don't think the compliments and advances are genuine, in fact some see it as being mocked and whatnot..
and I forgot to mention what >>10818831 said is 100% correct. Add to the fact that I thought it would be a good idea to bleach my hair a year ago and you're adding fuel to the flame.
I consider myself fairly attractive. but it changes shit. people hating on your because they're assuming you score a lot, but in fact many women look at me on the street but I'm too shy and bored to talk, especially when beauty does not thrill you as much as personality or culture.
I certainly feel attractive but I'm lucidly aware I lack the universal appeal that leads to constantly being hit on since some of my friends deal with that shit more often. People do compliment my 'style' overall a lot more than they do just my features.
All that matters to me though is that I can date people I think are super hot and so far that's worked out great so I must be doing something right.
Allah hu Akbar brother.
Also rate me I'm on the right.
What you don't understand, is it's impossible to be attractive and have a bad personality.
Everything that you do has a halo effect, hot but quiet? mysterious. ugly and quiet? weirdo potential school shooter. hot and an asshole? confident. ugly and an asshole? arrogant and annoying
Plenty of attractive girls i got to know were dumb and had terrible personalities, but I still think they're good looking, and would fuck them anyways.
If they were also attractive personality-wise that would be a plus, but what's on the inside doesn't influence how good a person LOOKS, only your overall idea of that person.
this guy here gets it.
hot and shy makes you cute, ugly and shy makes you "that weird guy".
hot and flirty makes you sexy, ugly and flirty makes you a creep.
This rule applies to both sexes
Take this guy
He has possibly one of the worst personalities i've ever seen. He is astronomically stupid, uninteresting, says weird things, makes weird faces, talks in weird voices and accents, watches anime. But still has 5,000,000 subscribers and gets 1,000,000 views on every video because he's attractive.
If you imagined his personality on an ugly neckbeard, he would be a friendless, kissless virgin
I get followed and catcalled all the time. Thats why i dont do it with girls cause it kinda gets annoying.
Downside is almost all girls fall in love with you and id always feel bad once they know im not into them.
Damn it. Same feels here. Went out last Friday and met a friend in town. He was with a couple of girls and like during that moment of me and him handshaking, one of the girls just randomly waved at me and said "You're handsome."
Also can totally relate to the "girls fall in love" thing.
That is the worse. Like they cry over you and of course i feel reallly bad but its not my fault ur in love with me. I dont know how to deal with that to be honest cause i dont want them to get hurt.
The positive things:
I get away with pretty much anything I want and get stuff for free all the time. I also notice that doors open for me that don't for others. Guys want to be friends with me because they automatically think I am a popular guy with a lot of connections.
The thing with girls is pretty nice as well. I have literally over 50 girls on my phone I can just text and ask for sex and they would be over in the blink of an eye.
Of course not all is roses though. Sometimes it just gets really wierd to have all girls staring and smiling at you wherever you go. Like literally, wherever I go girls are eyeing me and many come up to me with excuses to start conversations. When I go out clubbing I always have girls chatting me up, asking me for my number and it's not rare to have several girls fight over me.
But all in all it feels pretty good.
These kind of threads make me realise how fucking ugly I am. I never get compliments like the people in the thread. I've gotten compliments but I very rarely feel that they are genuine. It certainly doesn't help that I have literal autism as well.
Just die in my sleep already
>tfw think you might be attractive but never get complements
only like 3 people see me on average so i guess i still might be attractive and i just dont get attention for it but if im at walmart or something its not like i catch anyone looking at me either
I know this feel. It's genuinely annoying, because it'll often damage potential relationships with any of her friends because you're framed as the 'bad guy' for turning her down. Girls are a lot worse than guys at taking rejection, at least from my experiences.
Suddenly being nice when you were an arrogant prick your entire teen life makes you vulnerable to attack from the bitter pricks who can't let go of the past. You literally have to cut off everyone you knew to change yourself.
>get compliments literally each time I go out wether about my face, my body or my clothes
>people literally just stare and smile when you look at them (I would smile back but that would make them come a talk to me)
When I was 15 a model like 10/10 woman during holiday in Paris told me I had the prettiest eyes she's ever seen (I think I have plain boring black eyes but this gave me confidence beyond belief especially when my dad told me its very un Paris like) (next day go shopping with my dad, stop at the pharmacy a woman with golden anime like eyes tells me I had the most beautiful eyes)
Look I know what I am and I am attractive but I have a generic face, I'm pretty sure I'm not the goddess people think I am, I am good at makeup and I dress very well whenever I'm out I think that's it
Idk where you guys live but in my country people rarely compliment others on their physical appearance, only on how they're dressed if it's something quite unique and flashy.
And even when they do, it's mostly just out of politeness rather than genuine appreciation...
Girls would talk a lot about wheter or not a guy is attractive, but only among themselves, but would never voice their opinion on the looks of a guy in his presence, unless he's a VERY close friend.
Do people you just knew suddenly go "oh wow anon your face is gorgeous" or what?
not true /fa/m, you're probably ugly with an interesting life. boring personality makes you less dateable, but not significantly less attractive, and it's not really a single scale anyway
>- I obsess over tiny details in my appearance that I don't like, once got nausea when I noticed my left eye is naturally slightly less open than my right
if I go to walmart I get like someone at least glancing at me every couple aisles or so, but I think it might just partly be my strong features or clothes
if you get the same compliment a lot it's probably genuine /fa/m
it's kinda nice at first but I can hardly imagine myself ever being with someone like that, you sort of just established your inferiority
>ally against you
>get away with more
what country is this?
I live in a very touristic environment and all the foreign girls are attracted by me like crazy (I got a proposal by a 20year old girl from texas) but the locals are ignoring me. gotta move soon
while you guys are thinking about your stupid attractiveness motherfuckers like this are getting laid with your potential girlfriends
I'm above average mostly because I have a good build, but I'm not stunning.
Some people find me attractive and it certainly helps diversify my dating and sex options, but it's not like I can have any girl or guy I lay my eyes on. It is what it is, nothing good or bad about it.
i dont have any friends but i have a gf and girls sometimes compliment me out of the blue and seem more interested in what i have to say
am i attractive or is that just what girls are like?
Girls look at guys the same way guys look at girls. A woman knows right away if she finds a guy attractive. Unless she makes extended eye contact, smiles at you or is otherwise flirtatious, best to assume she doesn't find you attractive.
>be first one into class
>girl I've had a crush on for the past year sits down right behind me
>all seats where open but she decides to sit there anyway
>feel horrendously self-conscious and ugly
help I cannot cope with the anxiety
Women approach me and flirt and try to get my eye contact but I'm not ALWAYS down to engage and so going outside where women are can be one never-ending hassle with my attention being pulled in multiple directions constantly.
And you hear a lot about men harassing women but the more subtle way that women harass attractive men is never talked about
- I've had people obviously take photos of me in public
- Definitely get treated better in customer service and disciplinary situations
- Have been told by numerous people to model, including a friends ex-model mom
- Girls always want to touch my hair
- People are a lot more easily persuaded
- Mall sales persons always tell me I should model
This pic is from the summer so I am kinda tan and it brings out a couple of my skin imperfections. Additionally, I have been told that I have a sexy, mesmerizing, trusting, smooth, radio-like voice.
When people look at you in the streets what do you guys do, stare ahead or look back and smile if they are hot? How do some of you guys get girls to break the intimidation barrier? Should I listen to everyone's advice and model (5'11-6', 135-140)?
Haha you're not as good looking as you think you are. You look pretty juvenile and the second photo shows off your narrow jaw line. Also, too short at 5'11 to model, but you do have looks that are more oriented toward models and less toward being generally attractive.
Not sure if you made this up, or if people have actually said this to you.
thats your fault for going for vapid, shallow terrible girls. i bet the only thing you consider when pursuing them was their looks. you deserve what ever misery they put your dumb ass through.
A lot of guys I meet think I get so many girls, they always compliment everything about me from clothes to hair. However I can personally say i get very few girls, so what gives? Am I a sperg lord?
youu probably have low self esteem, i'm always being told i'm handsome and most nearly every girl i see, i'll catch mirin but i still think i'm really ugly, like my face is all wonky and just a bit off
being attractive will make ugly - average girls fall in love with you, no doubt how shit you threat them.
i'm good looking myself but my mate is basically a model, all the girls love him after talking a word to him but they really dislike/hate him after knowing him.
for good looking girls (9's and 10's) you need looks and personality. if you're a cunt but good looking it makes you pretty uninterested for them. my mate threats girls like shit so he only gets 8's max
girls check you out secretly and if you smile, people usually smile back like you made their day
you always notice the worst features but yes, like some other anon said, i wanna do gay stuff to myself
i got a little fat lately, so no. but it's getting better, i felt really sexy this morning
can't tell if people think I'm attractive or are uncomfortable cause of my super blank gaze
no my lips aren't that big in person
We all know that you only show your face half covered because you're self concious and you are too scared to take a decent picture of your whole face without a filter or covering anything
That doesn't make sense, personality and charm is usually developed by ugly people as children in order to be tolerated by their peers.
Attractive people don't need personalities to be liked.