Petplay Thread returns!
What is petplay you ask? It's BDSM where one party is the "owner" and another is the "pet".
Ever seen pictures of kittygirls or puppyboys? It's pretty much the real life version of that.
Petplay porn time!
To try to keep socializing and connecting off of /d/, we have created an external site, where many of /d/'s pets and owners now reside! We also have a board on that new chan all the young kids are talking about, which is pretty easy to find.
that's our site for any who want to come say hi and see what we're about. whether you're just curious, well versed and experienced, or just beginning to explore BDSM and Petplay, all are welcome!
Lets answer a few quick questions from my email shall we?
Do I have to be into BDSM to be into Petplay?
No, they're not mutually exclusive. Some people are just into petplay with none of the BDSM elements. You can do whatever you want, in any case. It's not like there's rules.
Do I have to be into BDSM to go to your site?
No, feel free to come check us out if you have any interest in BDSM or Petplay, either or both, or none at all if you're just curious about it!
Where do I get cool petplay gear?
A lot of it is hiding in plain sight. Collars designed for pets can be just as good for humans (and a lot cheaper than a leather fetish site would charge you). Many costume stores will have petplay stuff too, pet ears, clip on tails, even gloves. Apart from that ebay and etsy have a wealth of available items, usually reasonably priced.
Its being licked and.. not being drawn proper
Whelp I made a account on the website, and that's a start right? Now I just need to work up the confidence to try to find a master. I guess I should also start saving up petboi porn now too...
Totally up to you. I wish you luck anon :3
I have a question for all the pets, owners, switches, and curious peoples out there. What do you think are appropriate punishments for pets, and when are punishments required? What are your personal philosophies on the topic, or outside observations for those not too versed in BDSM or Petplay?
Depends on what your relationship is like. If it's a very domestic power exchange sort of thing where you're punishing them for legitimately breaking a household rule, anything from loss of privileges to a cathartic non-sexual spanking.
"Sexy" punishments can range from being put into a particularly torturous pet suit bondage, a spanking(with a rolled up newspaper maybe?) ... if you're feeling particularly edgy maybe holding their face down while they're forced to drink cum or dog food or piss from a bowl, or a harsh fucking on a short leash.
I want to be owned by a mistress so badly, but they seem so rare.
I feel punishment should be reserved only for the most extreme cases. Knowing you have upset your owner is a psychological torture in and of itself for a pet, at least it would be for me.
I feel punishment should be used to reinforce a lesson learned. The punishment makes sure it isn't forgotten.
I feel there's a difference between Funishment and Punishment. The difference being one is something you want, another is something you don't. If you enjoy a punishment, it's not punishment. Funishment is doing something that you may not directly enjoy, but which deep down you do, for example being pushed a little past your limits, to the edge of discomfort. Punishment is something unenjoyable, which should be made very distinct.
One is something you do for fun, the other is something you do so you don't forget a wrong doing.
I'd be interested to hear what you all think, am I wrong?
I'm more of a fan of funishments.
Real issues should be dealt with normally, discussing like adults, equals, and should be kept out of play.
Play is for fun. If I'm ornery to provoke someone into spanking me, that's funishment. If I actually piss them off by being a shithead, that's different.
I can see your point. Separating the work and the play so to speak. I suppose it depends how involved BDSM is in your regular life, and how separated it is to begin with.
To me, I feel there should be a discussion as you say. Equals making clear the issues in the relationship and discussing as adults. However, further to that for me there would in turn be a discussion between Dom and Sub, and some level of punishment meted out if appropriate. Perhaps that's just formality on my part, but it seems it would be fitting.
As always, every relationship is their own. It's always nice to see the opinions of others.
What kind of punishments do you think are appropriate? In my experience I have come to believe the punishment should fit the crime.
Lying or breaking a promise - writing I will not ___ a certain number of times.
Failing at a task - practicing the task repeatedly and at length until it can be done on command.
Same. I just can't see how an adult could take an actual punishment seriously. Like if the consequence for lying to my partner is just writing some lines, who cares? I'd be willing to risk it if I was tempted. But in real life the consequence is usually dealing with a hurt, angry partner which is something I'd prefer to avoid.
That said, I can see how it could work for some couples which are really into the D/S mechanics. I'm mainly thinking of cases where you have a sub that has something approaching a psychological need to be punished in order to stop beating themselves up, but I suppose there are other cases too where it would make sense.
A punishment is anything a person finds genuinely aversive. The stuff you listed could easily be funishment for a lot of subs. You really don't have to get too creative to come up with an effective punishment. Think about the punishments you'd use on a teenager. No video games or no internet or no cell phone for a week is going to hit home pretty hard. There's also grounding, and if the dominant spouse is the one controlling all the money then you could also freeze the sub's spending/allowance for a short time (I say "spouse" in this case because I don't think it's smart to do findom outside of marriage). These are all things that even the biggest punishment slut is likely to find aversive; there's nothing exciting about these punishments, they just make life boring and inconvenient, and it goes on long enough where any enjoyment they may have gotten out of it will have surely been eclipsed by the frustration.
Of course, the problem with using real punishments like these is that sooner or later subby's probably going to start getting frustrated when they make what they feel was an honest or minor screw up and have their week ruined nonetheless, and since we were all teenagers at some point I don't think I need to explain what happens then.
As an adult, and someone into petplay, I can think of one punishment I would not enjoy--being caged in a room by myself.
There's the confinement and boredom of being locked in a cage all by yourself, but its also such a clear and distinct separation from ones owner. Which, while I can't speak for everyone, would be pretty bad for me.
For some of us there's a degree of punishment which manages to hit the desire to feel controlled and owned, without being unbearable. I've had a couple of internet bans, for example, and my allowance varies depending on how good I've been, and while I haven't been grounded I know full well I could be.
The punishments aren't fun. I'd go as far as to say that some of them are legitimately unfun. The sense of control you get during and especially afterwards are /very/ fun, though, and the fact that the punishments actually are undesirable helps me to avoid the behaviour next time.
I see, the regimented control could be quite comforting. I think I might like that... I'll suggest it to Mistress :3
I have a question for the thread. Why is it that, obviously not exclusively but to some extent, Petplay tends to attract those seeking a more gentle and loving approach to BDSM?
Is it simply that the mindset of Owner and Pet is a more tender one than that of Master and Slave? Or is there something more?
Yeah, a slave is a slave, and a sub is a sub. They're more for other uses. While your pet, you just love, nurture, and care for them. Think of how you would treat an actual pet. I mean, it just makes sense.
I wouldn't say there's a huge separation between Slave and Pet. Both are submissives in a BDSM relationship after all. It is entirely on a case by case basis. Plenty of pets get off on the foul treatment, plenty of slaves are doted upon and loved.
I have noticed a tendency towards it in Petplay however, a higher proportion so to speak, I think you guys might be right.
I find it extremely comforting, if I'm honest. Some things are "bad", but not really serious and a perfect excuse for funishment. Some things are /bad/, in the sense that if they continued it would put the relationship dynamic in danger. That's when we bring out the more serious and less fun punishments. It's very comforting knowing that Sir has ways to keep me in line.
Welcome, I hope you decide to visit us!
This should count as well, right?
ponyplay is more than welcome, it's a delight to see it. we hardly get to meet any ponies or riders.
You can eat dog food. I wouldn't recommend making a meal of it or doing it often though.
If you want something meant for human consumption and/or palatable though, dry cereal would be a good choice to simulate crunchy pet food. If you want to simulate sloppy wet pet food, chili would work well (wait for it to cool first though obviously).
Another idea if you have an owner and are doing puppy play and want an "authentic" food experience that still involves human food is to have your owner dump their leftovers into the doggy bowl.
I've heard of people living off the stuff, like in cases where there's a flood that wipes out food supplies, eg New Orleans after Katrina. In the case of dog food I believe it's actually not much different from what people would eat.
Like I said, I wouldn't make a habit out of it because it's designed to meet a dog's dietary needs, not yours, but it shouldn't hurt you if it's just something every now and then for a scene.
Depends on whats in it. Some pet foods might contain hard indigestibles like bone matter and stuff. I -THINK- thats mostly dog foods, and Im pretty sure if I decided to eat my cats wet tuna-chicken-medley food I'd be ok, but I'e never tried it.
Anytime I've wanted or needed to eat from a bowl or emulate pet food, I've just used like, hamburger helper, or chilli, or something. A canned, breadded chilli is a really tasty substitute for pet slop. Especially if you're like me and you like getting a big mess all over your face.
"A-anon-san... d-do you want to take me for a walk?"
Nigga do you have any idea how many Dom/mes are into that shit? A medical problem sends their protective instincts into overdrive.
I can totally relate.
I suffer from chronic prostatitis and having anything in my butt causes me severe and protracted pain (and bloody semen). I always fancied myself a bottom before I came down with it, and I still do get to bottom orally when I want, but it's really limiting to have a sub's fuckhole off limits.
As the years go on I pretty much have had to hang up my sub hat and go full top/dom, but now that I've gotten used to it I realize I'm a hell of a lot happier taking my frustration out on cute little things than trying to be a cute little thing myself.
I'd be curious to know the nature of your ailment.
The world would be a better place with more over-protective, motherly, maternal doms :3
ultimately it's a cute pet. no matter what you post it'll find an audience i'm sure.
>What is petplay you ask? It's BDSM where one party is the "owner" and another is the "pet".
Is there a name for something similar to this but instead of a human pretending to be an animal it involves them switching bodies with one?
The concensus I got from our chatroom was:
there isn't one
I like plugs
So there you have it. I hope that helps anon!
I have a fetish for people switching bodies with animals and then seeing the person in the animal's body have sex with their old body or just seeing the animal in the human's body have sex with other people.
Yup.(usually lurk in /bdsmg/)
Relationship-wise, also a mix of the two. Never forgetting that we're both equal as human beings, but our natures and power dynamic will always effect the relationship.
Being interested but not knowing where to start is difficult. I kind of like the idea of adopting a cute kitten or some other pet, but I really don't think I can get into the Domme kind of mindset having no experience with it.
Are mentorships or obedience schools or anything like that unheard of? I'd need to do my research before I adopt a pet.
Speaking as a pet (also on Fetlife and usually in /bdsmg/) I'm not really worried if my future owner lacks experience when or if we started entering a Mistress/pet relationship. Being able to share that journey of discovery together would actually be a bit more of a plus to me.
Also, while I don't know and pet owner mentors off the top of my head, mentorship seems fairly common in the scene from what I've seen.
The way I say it, it's easy to find mentors who can help teach certain skills, but every D/s relationship is different and unique because it involves different and unique individuals with their own needs and desires. There might be certain vague fundamentals that can be taught, but the important part is working together with your pet or owner to navigate the waters between you both and find out what works best for both of you.
You could visit our site, if you wanted to talk to some other owners and pets. It's a good start if you're just looking for some advice, as well as a few of the online communities. Apart from that really take any source that claims to be "teaching BDSM" with a heaping pile of salt.
The most important rule is just to remember that if you and your partner are happy, and someone is telling you you're doing something wrong, better chance than not that person's fucking retarded. Use common sense.
You can always ask us anything in these threads and we'll try our best to answer!
Absolutely. I think you've missed the forest for the trees! This thread, and others on alt sites like this, are a great place to start. Personally i'd be very wary of anyone charging money for stuff like mentoring or advice. You can get advice from pets and owners involved in petplay right here.
Apart from that, I'd take a look into your local community. See if there are any local kinksters you could meet up with. They are (usually) quite welcoming and accepting of newcomers, just like us. :3 They could offer you some insight, and maybe even a sneak peek into their kinks, although you might find cute and cuddly petplay a lot rarer than you'd think.
So what would you like to know? I'd be happy to answer any questions, as I'm sure most of us would.
All of that's reassuring to hear, actually. Turns out there is a kink community in my city, and they're having a party (meetup? gathering?) on my birthday. I might have to consider it, even if I'd be going alone and maybe just asking if watching is okay.
I think the most important things I'd wanna know right off the bat would have to do with safety. Every pet'll be different, but I'm afraid of binding for too long or rushing into things too recklessly.
If any of you don't mind sharing stories on some important learning curves you've been through, then I'm all ears.
I'm a 20 something male looking for a female who's interested in meeting up to discuss petplay in the SF bay area.
My name is Devon Grills.
You can reach me at [email protected]
I like the cuteness of petplay. Cute things make me hnnng. I lean more toward owner, but sometimes I like to be a pet too. hmu
Mmm, I'm still just learning myself, to be honest. My biggest issues with trying to learn new kink skills has been trying to figure out how to learn them when I don't have anyone to practice with, on, or for.
Different kinds of play have different safety issues, and the kink community as a whole often has a wide selection of literature and classes to help learn about that.
The only thing I'd feel confident enough to lecture about safety on is hypnoplay. Which can be great fun as a tool to help get into petspace, though does present certain unique challenges.
You can hit me up on Fetlife if you have specific questions?
>Personally i'd be very wary of anyone charging money for stuff like mentoring or advice
Same. All the people I've seen who do IRL mentoring will happily do it for free. And the folks at munches and events always jump on the opportunity to give someone advice. Anyone who's charging is a scumbag whose "advice" and "mentoring" may very well be harmful.
>you might find cute and cuddly petplay a lot rarer than you'd think.
Yeah, you'd think it'd be a pretty common fetish considering how often animal costumes show up even in vanilla sex play and how common furry is, but it's actually pretty rare, at least in my experience.
Going alone to kink meetups is pretty common. It's not really something you'd invite your friends to after all. People often show up with their SOs, or in groups of other kinksters they've already met (probably at that same munch), but singles are pretty normal.
What kind of event is btw? If it's a munch you have nothing to be nervous about, and there probably won't be any play going on. If it's a meetup or event for a specific fetish, they'll still be newbie friendly but there probably will be play going on (though no one is going to have a problem with you watching unless you give them the creepy rapist stare). If it's an actual play party, I would recommend against going and waiting for a more casual event. People are a lot less interested in socializing at play parties, so if you go alone and don't know anyone there, you'll probably be alone the whole time. And if it's a private party, definitely do not go.
And when you do go to an event, SOCIALIZE. Even munches are terrible places if you just stand in the corner silently the whole time. Kinksters are pretty welcoming people, but unless you're a young girl you can't just sit quietly in a corner and wait for people to come to you. You'll have to get in there and strike up conversations yourself if you want to meet people. Most of all, BE CONFIDENT. People respond to that.
you don't need to be a commanding owner if you don't want to. If the training aspect of owning a pet was something that you wanted sure, but don't forget about those kitties who like to be cute and innocent
honestly, sometimes the pet could be the Dom
Never heard of such a thing or even considered it. But now that you've brought up the idea I'm surprised it hasn't been done yet. It would be a really good, hot theme for a pet play event. Granted it would have to be done differently for each type of pet play which probably makes it unfeasible for most places (pet play already being a rare enough fetish without splitting it up even further), but it would work so fucking well.
>I really don't think I can get into the Domme kind of mindset having no experience with it.
As a guy who's been both pet and master, it's pretty easy. All you have to do is just treat the sub as whatever animal they want to be treated as and you're golden. Obviously you can also work in whatever fantasies or other fetishes you have. If you're unsure of how to control/train a human pet, read up on actual pet training guides for whatever animal you're interested in, along with pet play specific guides.
As far as safety goes, it's a pretty safe fetish, though there are some concerns that pop up depending on what you're doing. Shock collars shouldn't be used above the heart. If the sub is going to be crawling around they need to wear knee pads or else they're going to get wicked carpet burn surprisingly fast (I recommend dancing knee pads). Don't lock the pet in a cage if no one will be around to get them out in an emergency (same for any other restraints they can't get out of on their own). If you use dog toys, make sure they're suitable for human mouths, and if you do anything like tug of war then obviously do it very gently. Beyond that it's the same safety concerns that appear in any other BDSM fetish, unless you're doing pony play which has enough special safety concerns to warrant its own topic.
Yup. Owning a pet doesn't necessarily mean you have to be commanding. My catgirl side is much more teasing, playful, and frisky than obedient. While my more wolfy maidpet side is just happy to serve. That side likes orders, but I don't know how much "training" would go with it when that part of me wants to obey on my own.
What's most important is figuring out what works for you and your partner.
We exist. =3
I know a little part of me has been eyeing metal finger claws, though a bit less than I've been eyeing ears and a tail.
wolfy maidpet sounds adorable, Nicki. Omg.
I have some metal claws(technically they belong to my roommate but I have borrowed them for nefarious purposes) and can highly reccomend them.
I'd love to find someone to Dom pet play with. I often feel like a lazy, randy tomcat or a loyal, protective guard dog.
Interestingly enough a friend i know just got some metal claws. Not sure if they were for a specific reason or not hehe but they seem the type of person to be into pet play and related things
so word on the street is there is going to be a new site from kink.com which features the cute side of petplay
it's definitely an under developed market outside of anime/manga's ever popular cat girls and nekomimi. Might be interesting
>it's definitely an under developed market outside of anime/manga's ever popular cat girls and nekomimi.
I don't even get why it's like that. Mistress and I have that relationship and it's the best thing ever. It saddens me how much of a niche in a niche it is.
I dunno I really have no evidence that cute pet play is more normal. In hentai/anime you have cat girls and that very clearly goes for the cute aspect. But outside of cosplay/anime fans who I doubt would consider themselves petplay enthusiasts, I see no evidence of your assertion
Newcomer from a few days ago here. All the info's been a big help, thanks everyone.
I'll probably give the party a pass, since it looks like it's a play party. Next event'll be sometime in January, so that gives me a little more time to test the waters, so to speak.
I'm sorry you have such a skewed view of the world. Have some porn.
Sounds awesome anon. I hope you have a good time! I would probably avoid a play party too, honestly, since i'd be pretty uncomfortable at one.
Jeez, well I'm sorry you had some misconception about the gender spread across BDSM. We can't magically summon women i'm afraid. We have quite a few female users but for obvious reasons (obviously not obvious enough) they don't always make that fact completely public knowledge.
Regardless, good luck in your travels anon. Say hi to /pol/ for me. :3
Hey guys, I was looking around for this comic and anything like it. I love the art style. (WoW) ^^
I also figured it'd be relevant. Anyone know where I can find it?
It's what I've noticed at munches and events. Every single person I've met who does stuff related to pet play does the cutesy stuff. Mostly it's girls doing kitten play. Also, on here, most people seem interested in the cutesy side.
Time for some info dump
That series of doujins is called HYHH! (Hold Your Head High!), its set on the universe of WoW and its made by Purin House, it has 3 chapters but only the first one is translated so far.
chapter 1: http://nhentai.net/g/62900/
chapter 2 (not translated): http://nhentai.net/g/53950/
chapter 3 (not translated): http://nhentai.net/g/96792/
the series has some heavy focus on humiliation and ponyplay, so if you're not into that.. well.. now you know.
Hope this helped :)
Heres a question for the thread. When I was younger I would often try to imitate the noises my pet cat made. As such ive become rather proficient at "kitty talk". Have any pets here done/tried anything similar?
Sort of like practice? Awesome. I wondered if I was the only one.
I have fairly severe anxiety problems and tend to need people to help me with everyday things, like going to the shop and having to talk to the cashier, is this something that dom/mes would find annoying or is it another thing that would send their protective side into overdrive?
I-i have this fantasy
>be a spoiled pet
>cuddling with master in the morning
>he's still asleep
>wake him up with kisses on his neck
>whispering to him "wake up my dear master"
>hear him asking for five more minutes
>keep doing the same until he just wakes up
>he gives you a kiss on the cheek
>he asks you what do you want for breakfast
>you say that whatever he wants is fine
>he goes and cooks something
>you get ready for him
>cute lingerie that makes contrast with your skin
>he comes to the bedroom and caresses you with his gentle hands
>he kisses your hand and says "you're my precious pet"
>he lets you hug him
>he suddenly carries you
>he has a beautiful smile that melts your heart
>he fools around with you for awhile
>he feeds you
>he loves teasing you when you're hungry
>but he ends up apologizing
>he's cuddly again
>but you want more than cuddles
>you start clawing your polished nails on his skin
>you love how does it feels
>how he gets marks on his skin
>he's your scratch post
>he gives you tender kisses as you keep with your favorite game
And that's most of it, anyway i'm not good at writing