Is there anything more soul crushing than failing tonnes of internship and graduate job interviews due to bad social skills and then graduating and working a near minimum wage menial job while living at home?
And I'm realising that people at workplaces really really fucking hate you if you're introverted. Even if you're part-time they really fucking hate you. If this happens at part-time jobs, how the hell could I possibly succeed in some white-collar, HR-Stacey-filled, posh-people-filled, management sucking up workplace? >inb4 go in to STEM. Many STEM workplaces are like this.
How is it that I've failed so many interviews if they only ask dumb competency questions and I give my answers with the STAR framework they're looking for?
You didn't realize the most important thing at all - you don't wanna succeed in there. Yes even in STEM. Succeeding means kissing a$$ left and right, ... ah you know I dont even wanna continue. It makes me sick just thinking about it. A good way to get a heart attack and nothing to show for it.
Think what youre good at, or polish your skills in the afterhours and open your own thing. It may be small at first, but great trees grow from well cared for trees.
>How is it that I've failed so many interviews if they only ask dumb competency questions and I give my answers with the STAR framework they're looking for
because you didn't look them in the eye and signaled your autism
okay. finally something I know something abou.
First of all-- are you introverted or merely fat? Know the difference.
Second, you're right. People despise introverted workers. Every job I've gotten (software Engineer, currently doing games in SF) has been a horror show the first 3-6 months. People fucking despise me on sight. Get along with no one.
The solution is to be stronger than everyone else. Expect the insults, the slights, the bullshit. Take it and don't say a word and work fucking hard.
After a year of this people will start to realize you're no drama and not too bad to have around. Complete your assignments.
Eventually I realized that the people who heap insults and shame on their coworkers are generally hated, even more than the introverted. The most valuable thing you can bring to the table is NO DRAMA, GET IT DONE. OWN UP TO YOUR MISTAKES.
That's about it. The benefit of all the above is I feel no pangs of conscience when I quit for a higher paying job after 3 years.
I can sympathize with this approach and mindset but it's fucking tiring. also, with others, it's like
>"no you must socially validate me before I do the job I'm paid to do!"
Then I have to jump through hoops to get my shit sorted.
You should try phenibut, it works similar to alcohol without all the loss of motor skills, I took some before a job interview and beat out 150 people (apparently) and I'm a social retard
I was in this boat for a year after graduating. Sperged out in interviews, wound up doing minimum wage grunt shit for about a year. You just need to fake it. I finally got a good job and I''m probably one of the most outspoken people in my workplace. It can get pretty exhausting, but it also can be pretty fun.
Also, I imagine once you have the experience and performance under your belt you can dial it back. Just remember to be social with the right people still. Unfortunately, when starting out almost everyone is above or equal to you so you want to be on their goood side.
> Interviewed some peeps for an IT internship position
Last guy was a total introvert - I am not seeking for the next Oprah but at least some communication skill is necessary for discussing, negotiating and presenting ideas.
If the guy could barely look me in the eye and couldnt even say about himself in a proper tone, how is he going to perform in a meeting..
>have a portfolio
>lie your ass off
>call back when you fail to see where you need to embellish more.
If it is really just that you're a spazz, gets some fucking Valium.
I am interviewing next week and no idea. I need a "security expert", but at the end of the day just some guy who can IT and not blow himself and others up. The job involves critical infrastructure.
Assholes who are just laying out a maze of trap questions get the wrong employees.
So what questions would you like to hear?
lol. Nobody in my company knows how to do all of that in any our security team. So tired of being the smart one. Our fucking IT team can't even figure out how to allow copy paste of text but not files through RDP.
Anyways, DMZ operation is a keeper question has we have trouble with that concept
People have to work WITH you to get the job done. Meaning they need their emotions to trust you so they can get their work done.
If you were in a hunting party with some fucktard who couldn't communicate the plan and coordinate in vivo, that guy would be removed from the hunting party b/c we and our kids gotta eat.
But from your post you don't see your employers as people, they are a meal ticket and that's all. Once you see them as customers whom you are serving. then you'll grow and see success.
here's a guy talking to his boss and communicating that he loves his job.
Frankly you guys should hire a consultant for a while and then have the consultant hire and train his replacement.