I'm 21. I just got a gig managing 4 people 29-52. They resent me. How fix?
For one thing, don't act like you know how how to do their jobs better than them, even if you think you do. They have experience on their side. Make sure they know that you understand that, and recognize it, by telling them so.
They just compare me to old boss that wouldn't say anything when they came in 2 hours late or crack a joke at me when I ask them to do their work. Their inability to complete simple tasks is making me look worse to the COO, and it's not like these guys aren't making good money! They just don't do any work! I tried yelling and now I just get the cold shoulder
As a first step, you schedule monthly 1:1 "catch-up" meetings with everyone in your team. In those meetings you can raise your concerns - about performance, attitude, etc
At the end of those meetings send briefs to HR.
If after several attempts to get your team to cooperate and perform they are still being difficult, you go to HR and ask them what are the next official steps.
In the end the team will either fold or lose their jobs, and trust me, if you and HR documented well everything, they will leave without any severance.
Forgot to mention - you have to play it right. Always use the "concern" angle - you want to help everyone to get along, perform well, contribute to the company objectives etc etc, you need to come out on top as the person who tries to build the team spirit, holds team work as the highest value, and you only had to resort to HR because after numerous attempts to help them they didn't want to cooperate. So regretfully you feel HR needs to take the next step.
Gotta learn to politics if you want rid of toxic people and internal cliques.
I'll be honest, I'm 20 and manage somebody older than me...
He is in his late 50s and very set in his way of doing things and I've lost all motivation to manage them because they just do their own thing. His previous manager was a retired major and they couldn't make him change, so I'm resigned.
Actually I was on the receiving end of all this in my previous job, that's how I learned if your boss is not happy with you they can make your life hell (whilst smiling at you).
I have no desire to "manage" people, I prefer to be a stand-alone specialist in a matrix org.
This is the best way
also, if u bring it up with HR they will tell you the bureaucratic 'by the books' way to go about it, so if anything bad happens you can just say you were following company instructions
Every idea in this thread is terrible Jesus fuck. You lead by example and by outworking them. Stay longer hours, take on more projects, know more than them.
Hold yourself aloof and always appear busy. But take the time to stop by a few times a week and ask a specific question to let them know you're paying attention to them.
Ask them questions about their job to let them feel their task is important, ask them how they're doing, if everything in life is going well, etc
I always respect managers who take the time to know you, what's the reason they don't like you?