Hi /b/ 21yo femanon here
I need your advice. Me and Jake, my best friend have known each other since we were both 10 years old. We used to hang around with each other on a daily basis, go cinemas, watch TV together, eat out, hang out, have a laugh, talk about anything, never argue and absolutely love each other with complete trust.
3 months ago, he was acting weird over complementing me, i didn't understand and he eventually admitted he loved me inside and out. But then I got a little upset because I don't and never will feel the same way. He's just not attractive to me and I'm honest about it.
He goes into a mood with me and walks out and ignores my phonecalls, texts. FB messages and even house visits. He apologizes eventually at mine and invites me out and we went to our local cafe... we got talking and asks if we could please have a go. I say yes out of fear of hurting him, but I don't want to date him I just wanna be his friend.
I've really screwed up /b/ and nobody is really giving me any good advice. What makes things worse is, there's a guy I sort of like at the gym but I don't want him getting the wrong idea. How do we regain our best friendship? How do we go back to how it was? I miss it.
What do I do to fix this now /b/?
Pic related: me
>What do I do to fix this now /b/?
You can´t. GGWP
Why don't you elaborate more on the story between you two? Like pic related for ecample
You could see if that is an option for him but I've seen this scenario enough to know that it never turns out well. Had a girl I was friends with for a long time wanted to date her but she was not interested. Tore me up inside and drove me to almost become an hero. She set me up with her friend but I had to cut off our friendship so I could focus on having feelings for others.
you should have never accepted to "give it a go"
probably the best thing to do now is telling him the truth, he will be sad, tell him that as he can't change the way he thinks about you, you can't change the way you think about him. tell him that you will be there for him as a friend if he ever wants that friendship back
I know he's hurt and not acting like a man, But insulting him and telling him to man up might not help?? So I should sit him down and tell him it's just not going to work between us and I really just wanna stay friends and that's final? Should I just say it straight? That I don't find him attractive but I do love his personality?
im in the same position. except for the gym guy.
Now get over your selfish feelings, and dont give a fuck what the gym guy thinks.
hes a crush. not ur soul mate, at least ur friend has been a good friend, atleast u can too.
Become pushy and maybe even alittle manipulative. some people "change" in relationships. and so can you. if u want him to break up with u.
or just suck his dick.
or tell him your not his type and that he deserves better than a skanky hoe like yourself. done
Having sex with him is slutty, I don't even get the desire to.. I don't see him that way. He'll just want more won't he? Are you implying that it will make him get over me easier....?
ok on the off chance this isnt a troll
you need to provide some sort of proof; seriously its the rules.
but fuck it.
>How do we regain our best friendship?
Its not going to happen, period. it probably didnt happen for ages, this type of thing doesnt happen overnight, theres a very good chance he "loved" you for years and years but never had the balls to actually say anything about it, if you asked his mum im sure she would turn around and tell you this.
this friend in this friendship is literally over, there is no going back from this type of situation. Period.
if thats you in the image and him in the other image then you're obviously way hotter than he is so hes infatuated with you and always was.
this is literally him right now, hes going to bitch and whine if you do anything except utterly accept him, theres no way around that.
if you dont wanna be a cunt about it, dont try to repair the friendship, its not going to happen, drop it and move on, DO NOT lead him on (you already did by not wanting to hurt him which in retrospect will only hurt him more)
>Ok i got you, if he's a man he will understand/ sick it up
Go through with it, ok bear with me. Once it is all and done and still nothing is changed on your thoughts about him, explain so. Just don't call him unattractive, that's rude. Just say you've known him too long, at a point of if it got any more serious it would end up worse for both of you. Let the future carry your friendship and trust throughout the years, and who knows maybe it will blossom into something. Could go a boy further with that but to lazy and lay my treason of thought.
Nonetheless, hope this helped.
So what you're saying is, just because he's being a bit selfish, I have to to terminate our 11 year friendship because he can't contain himself? I don't even know how to reply to his text "so are we meeting up at the park? xx :)" I really don't know what to say.
You need to tell him the truth and then help lead him to another pot of gold. If you know him as well as you say you do then you know what he's looking for. Once he finds another woman that tickles his fancy, he'll be okay. He will probably always have some feelings for you but once you both find other love interests it will be managable. Once your honest with him...go get the guy at the gym!!
You don't you dumb cunt. Leave that poor faggot alone. Either deal with the fact that your best friend is the best possible partner for you, or cut off contact completely, otherwise you are just going to hurt him more. If you really care about him, you'll either start trying to change your tune, or you'll stop all this nonsense. Fucking idiot kids.
seems like that he was friendzoned for 11 years and you didnt even notice. he is a faggot for desiring you so long and just letting you know that late. it is his fault. your friendship will never be the same, because the faggot will be jealous over other boys you will date and act like a pussy. get some girls as best friends instead of female faggot boys who dont have nuts.
She is not attention whoring.
If guyanon asked this he would get mocked but no show dick or gtfo. If you want tits go google porn.
OP you agreed to go out you should keep your word. That does not mean you have to make it a sexual relationship. Try being totally honest with him.
Ex[plain that you are simply not physically attracted to him and want to remain just friends.
Honestly though physical beauty goes away eventually we all get old. That happens a whole lot sooner than most think it will.
Consider that life long marriages are more about being compatible friends then they are about being fuck buddies.
I think you are being horribly vain and foolish.
But it is YOUR life.
I can't pretend I'm happy with him nor can I have a one night stand to satisfy him. It just doesn't feel right, he's like my best friend as a girl if you get me. Like having sex with a girl. He's just not attractive to me atall, our whole relationship would be fake and I really wanna give it a go but can't. But I'm really hurt though, I don't wanna lose my best friend :'(
are you fucking serious
physical attraction is a major part of the reason why relationships form in the first place, just because you dont find someone unattractive doesnt mean you're automatically going to be compatiable, you should lust after your partner and physical attraction is a huge part of that,
Fucking white knight faggot
No timestamp or anything, in this story that OP is making up, you are the friend. Off yourself faggot
Fuck off, just be honest.
He's ugly and weird and you will never ever be attracted to him. He must move on or lose your friendship. Then don't talk to him for a couple of weeks to let him think about everything.
He'll either control his feelings and go back to being a good friend or he won't, in which case he doesn't want your friendship anymore and you should move on.
This shit's so Social Interactions 101 I'm thinking you're either a guy trolling us or an autistic landwhale.
Yeah I am very proud of my status of "whiteknight".
I have been here a fucking long time.
I have no interest in tits.
If some one asks an honest question I give an honest answer.
Deal with shit the way you want to and I will do the same.
TOUGH SHIT, HAVING A ONE NIGHT STAND ISNT GOING TO DO ANYTHING EXCEPT MAKE HIM WANT YOU MORE BECAUSE IT WILL SHOW YOU HAVE INTEREST IN HIM.
THE BEST WAY OUT OF THIS IS LITERALLY DROPPING THE ENTIRE FRIENDSHIP AND MOVING ON, ANY OTHER WAY JUST PROMOTES MORE DRAMA AND SHITTINESS FROM EVERY SIDE
holy fuck op
I'm on the other end of your situation
I met this girl about a year ago she fine as fuck and we hung out every day and she knows everything about me and I know everything about her and her family is great her mom is great cook she's told me her mom asks how come I never go inside her house anymore because we recently started to hang out less and less due to jobs with differing hours anyway the thing I did was I told her I think we should stop talking and didn't specify because we were supposed to go somewhere today and she didn't text me back but I was going to tell her in person I think I'm starting to catch feelings but yeah she asked why and I just said we should stop talking I forgot how the conversation went but yeah
no. no no no you are a fucking faggot. Simply by being on /b/ this is a tits or gtfo situation motherfucking newfag. If she wanted real advice she should take her ass somewhere else. Faggots like you are the cancer that has ruined /b/
As for the second thing you said, that part is correct.. It is amazing how horribly naive you are about this board but that is sound advice.
haha anyone who has visited this place(/b/) will know what kind a treatment a "hi im a femanon" post will get oh Mr Dashing White Knight. She should try /adv/ since she is indeed looking for advice
>proud of my status of "whiteknight"
How much fucking gayer can you get? /b/ isn't some fucking therapist website, you don't get what you want just for asking for it. Just because you like dick doesn't mean no one else should get tits. Get your head out of your ass and think about everyone else you greedy cunt
You fucked up. You lied, he can't trust you anymore. You should've just told him the truth he would've at least respected you for it and now when you tell him (you will have to tell him) he will be mad and probably won't talk to you again.
wise woman once said if you don't wanna rip each other's clothes off half the time, then what is the fucking point. But the other half of the equation has to be there. And trust me, women can develop sexual attraction for a person they weren't attracted to at first. The "friendzone" is a load of bullshit made up by vain cunts who have their cake and want to eat it too.
he hasnt been playing you, atleast not purposly, he got it in his head that if he becomes friends with you you will eventually like him for him and not his looks, the problem is this isnt a cartoon and reality exists. physical attraction is a huge part of why people get together in the first place nad if you arnt attracted to him physically then nothing will change that. the best course of action will literally be stop talking to him. the friendship is over, there isnt any way back and there will never be (unless its slike 20 yhears down the road and hes matured; doubtful.)
what you should tell him with that bullshit text is "no; saying yes to your question was a mistake and i dont want it to happen, im sorry i have to be truthful here but it needs to be said, i do not find you physically attractive and i think we need some time apart, if this entire friendship has been a sham for you to "get with me" then you need to sort yourself out."
THEN NEVER INITIATE CONTACT AGAIN
I came to this thread expecting op to be bullied into showing tits. b is truly cancer now.
Femanon posting selfie on b = attention whore = tits or gtfo, math is simple.
you are welcome. honestly, your friendship wont be the same as it used to be. you should know that. each time he will see you, he will feel the desire to have you as gf. even tough he will date other girls, he was 11 years with you. he didnt start to love you since yesterday, but since a long time ago. you should know that. take you time and start to meet him less. date other boys, so that he recognizes that you arent interested in him. it his a hard experience for him, but if he is man enough, he will deal with it.
unless he never sees you again ever, he cant control those feelings. I had my first gf who i felt like i loved dump me over the smallest thing, shes moved on and is with another guy now but I still love her, that never goes away, you're just forced to hide it deeep down so you're not called a beta obsessive type of cunt
of course the other half of the equation has to be there but to be in such a predicament where one side likes the other and its not reciprocated is complete bullshit for half the party because it makes them out to be the bad guy when in reality its completely the opposite, OP's friend is merely trying to gtet the other half of the equation (as you put it) to be there without any of the first half, which is stupid. you should be compatible on both halfs otherwise its just going to lead to a dead bedroom, if it happened at all.
Well i'm not going to lie to you. There is no way of it going back to the way it was. You'll have to tell him the truth if you don't want him to be too emotionally scarred. But believe me when I say it'll never ever go back to what you guys have. Odds are is that he felt that way about you for a long time. And now that you know he'll never be able to be "just friends." Set things right and let him live his life as much as he can. Let him go and don't keep him chained down. If you remain in contact with him he'll keep holding onto you. Don't torture him.
HAHAHAH FUCKIN TOP KEK I ACTUALLY LAUGHED OUT LOUD AND IT'S 12am
if thats really you in the op post then this fag is so delusional hahaha his face cracks me up, saving that one
You're so right, if our friendship means so much then his feelings for me shouldn't matter. I'll ring him now, I think it needs to be said.
Same good advice, ringing him.
>Pretend to be femanon w/ typical problem
>Wait for eventual timestamp/tits GTFO
>Play dashing white knight
>double the bait double the pleasure
i like sage, its good for cooking
virgins cant be friends with chicks. it rally truly is impossible. he will never break those feelings for you until the day he finds a 40oz in one hand a shorty in the other and hes bout to go and stick it.
>just because he's being a bit selfish
oh fuck you. Could just as easily say you're being selfish by not giving dating a chance.
The truth is neither of you are being selfish. He can't control how he feels about you, and you can't control how you feel about him. The only way you are ever going to be friends is if he gets a girlfriend and loses interest in you as a romantic partner (if you want to be pro-active about fixing things, you could actually help him get a girlfriend). Otherwise just walk away.
btw, walking away is a perfectly valid option. From the way you reacted it seems like you were a little insulted that he'd think he'd be good enough for you. In which case you clearly don't think much of him and he'd probably be better off without you. Also, if he does stop loving you, you may find that actually what you liked about the friendship was not so much his company, but the fawning attention he gave you.
JUST STRAIGHT UP BE FUCKING HONEST WITH HIM, IT MAY HURT BUT AT LEAST HE KNOWS YOU'RE BEING HONEST WITH HIM FEMANON
Tell him that you want to stay friends, you're not interested in a relationship and that you just can't fucking stay in that if one doesn't feel the same for another
Do it over the phone or while hanging out at the cafe or something
I personally know how much it fucking sucks to be in a relationship that's one sided, so I would suggest that you'll have to be straight up, tell him that you want and miss how it used to be, etc
Good luck, femanon
BS Arranged marriages have been happening since the dawn of time. 70% of marriages these days fail. Again nothing wrong with being attracted to one another.
But OP says they have been "friends" since they were 10. She could be very happy but she is attracted to some meat bag at a gym.
That is lust and vanity and neither of those lead to life long relationships.
Trust and Love are far more important.
Fuck you ya wanker.
I don't care if OP is trolling or not.
I gave my answer it is my opinion.
You can believe what ever you want. IDGAF.
Kiss my ass.
You are not cress at all just another reddit fag interested in the lulz.
Never even once.
I prefer twinks to traps.
Proud to be one of the last remaining humans on /b/.
Just saying you are female is not cause for TOGTFO. If her being female is related to her question then it is perfectly OK to admit it.
LOL yeah my IP signature.
Honey I was on the net in 1988 I am very oldfag.
I have computers that are older than you.
/b/ random it is what ever the fuck you want it to be. You do not own it unless you recently changed your name to Hiro?
Hell Moot was known to give a bit of advice on occasion. Wh6y the hell do you think he created a random board?
I don't wear fedoras. 100% Stetsonfag here.
You will never see me tip my hat to the like of you.
Are woman really this dumb? No man EVER will feed a horse that who would´nt wanna ride.
If he´s a single and not a blood relative (this may or may not aply) He wants to get in your pants no fucking exception.
Either you're the whitest knight fag around or the best troller. Either way, sage goes in all fields.
first off all never say sorry for the next thing cuz he wil then pin the idea on you that it's your fault.
Jake i don't like you in the way you like me i just want to be friends i hope you can act like a man and take your loss like one. I hope for you, you wil find someone else you like(btw he picked you because he thinks he has a shot because you have been friends already)
THE POWER OF MOOT COMPELS YOU
THE POWER OF MOOT COMPELS YOU
GO BACK TO TUMBLR YOU FAGGOT
Yikes. Real fuckin' Peep Show situation you've got going on, huh? The poor bastard never stood a chance. Let him down. The entire relationship has already changed and will always be changed. There's no resolving this in the way you want. Either he'll stick around and be disappointed every time you're with another man or he'll just grow apart from you and move on. I say let him move the hell on. Don't make him orbit, you frosty bitch.
This >>673172442 meant that any femanon at any post in here (/b/) will eventually get a newfag/oldfag dropping the timestamp on them
>or so a wise old SAGE told me
Literally no way to fix it, move on, most likely he will become super depressed and off himself or chase after you and off you. Pretty shit situation both ways, but y'know love and shit right or he could get over it, who knows. This is most likely a b8 anyways, fuggit i'll bite.
JESUS CHRIST JUST LEAVE HIM ALONE YOU BITCH!! YOU MUST UNDERSTAND THE EMOTIONAL DAMAGE YOU WILL CREATE BY THINKING THINGS CAN "REVERSE" OR "GO BACK" FUCKING GIRLS AND THEIS LACK OF LOGIC FUCK ALL YALL BITCHES GTFO
>whitest knight fag
I do enjoy an occasional bit of trolling though or I would not be on 4chan.
Best part is I decide how I react to a thread and not just "bleat" and be a sheep to a bunch of ignorant /b/tards.
I'm sorry I couldn't read your post there seemed to be some interference. Almost like you had so many dicks in your mouth and butt that your post was distorted by the sheer amount of faggotry. Finish sucking off all those SJWs and make sure you lick up all the jizz, let that big black cock go off in your ass, then try and post again.
WKing is a form of meta trolling the entry level trolls, so I think I'm fine with that.
OP is butthurt, posters are hutthurt, I'm ok with this.
>dont be a sucker know the bluffer
Remember, your Creamy Polenta with Roasted Corn taste better with fresh sage
If the relationship means something to him then I'm sure he doesn't want to lose that but making a grand stand like that is immature. You have to recognise that perhaps althpugh he may want to continue to be your friend, the hurt from unreciprocated romance may make it extremely difficult. He may feel its better for his own health to cut contact, and thats okay. He may need a little time away, and you may find if you do become friends again it will never be the same and you will to accept that. He's a person, not your blanket
I didn't write that, some anon did. I just rang him and told him exactly the truth. I told him how I'm sorry I just don't find him physically attractive and I just want to remain best friends forever and that I loved him. He got a bit aggressive and told me I was nasty to do that, I apologized and said I didn't want to lose him. He said it's fine, and he was crying a little down the phone... ='/ I told him that just so he knows there's a guy I'm sort of interested in at the gym and he told me to never speak to him again and that I'm the most manipulative, disgusting, shallow bitch he encountered. Well, that didn't work out too well. He removed and blocked me on facebook just now and ignoring me. I think I fucked up permanently.
good you maximum bait, now take off that pesky underwear and show all of us thirsty pervs some of whatcha got goin down under. sharpie in pooper with timestamp or it won't get us all the way there.
If you're real, you did fine. At that point he's just really hurt that you don't see him like that when all he can see is you, and then you talk about this other guy and he probably thinks you like him as much as he likes you. Just hurt feelings all around
Op you make me sick. Theres no fixing anything. He will always love you. If you dont feel the same way, save him the pain and leave. Him watching you date "gym guy" is fucked and will result in his an hero. If you are best friends with a guy since you were ten then he should mean more to you than some asshole at the gym. All it tells me is you are a conceited bitch. Honestly kill yourself and save everyone else the misery. Youll get more attention that way you cunt.
LOL better off without him if he's that much of a beta faggot, but yeah not so smart telling him about your weightlifting faggot
Oh well atleast I got quality laughs from this face >>673171063
Plus if that's really you then wow 11/10 nice work
Maybe he'll come back after sometime
You have to tell him that you still want him around and everything and that you're not willing to lose a friendship like that
Like one of the anons said earlier, walk away if you need to, maybe try and talk to him if that's what you want
He'll probably come back though
OP is a troll, WK is a fag, people expecting tits are hitting f5 like it's their first piece of ass.
As I said before I have been on /b/ a very long time.
I never use reddit or tumblr.
If you want to move on feel free.
I am here until the site goes 404..
I wish. I am at the prostate exam and ED phase of life sunshine.
Feel free to demand tits all you want.
I answered OPs question.
That's the wonderful thing about freedom of choice.
Not even close.
I am behind 7 proxies.
Don't make me back trace you LOL..
I do not follow links from /b/ feel free to summarize it if you wish.
Pic is just for you.
No no pwease do not call us a fag.
LOL You ARE the weakest link.. Good bye.
No problem. It was a weak attempt to bait for dox.
too many faggots here who are butthurted because a girl told her male friend that she doesnt want to date him. he is a faggot, so are you. grow some nuts and date hot girls who are down to fuck insteat being friendzoned with the only girl you know.
fuck off outta here with you faggotry faggot no one cares about your daddy issues
C'est la vie.
You made your choice.
Time to move on.
Assume you aren't fake OP, straight up tell the guy to fuck off. My best female friend had a crush on me for a long time, until she finally told me. Looks play a big part ina relationship despite it being shallow as fuck. I told her no straight up. You can't put yourself in a situation where you aren't enjoying the relationship. It's doomed to fail, and the longer it lasts, the more your friend gets hurt.
I just didn't want him finding out and think I was taking the piss later on. What should I have done? I'm sure he'll come back and accept it right? Then we can be BFF'S?
also check my sick trips bro. you jelly?
nah doubt it, he's so fucking beta he will be crying in his room for the next 20 years and emerge as a wizard
But yeah you two are done, no saddle club or barbie play time anymore
See image here >>673174831
I am probably your grandma's first lover youngster.
You do know us old farts invented this little thing called the internet right?
I used to run BBS's like Wildcat and Major before you were born.
Go read and perhaps learn something from history.
you wish for him to be in pain and miserable? then go ask for him to just be your friend.
>best case scenario, he falls inlove with some1 else in a couple of years but has to endure true hardships by just being near you
>worst case scenario, he lives his whole life being friends with you but never get over his feelings. thus staying single and one day realizes he's lonely and kills himself.
Just be a good fucking friend OP and appreciate that you two had a good run but sadly the friendship has come to an end.
Oh really?? You are not shallow nor vain? Yet you deny the love of a man who knows you deeply and cares about you?? Yet youd rather go with the muscular guy from the gym who is most probably a douchebag??
if you're so old why are you on /b/ with a bunch of 12-year olds. I'm gonna stop making fun of you now because I honestly feel sorry for you. I'm sorry I made fun of you earlier. I hope things get better. Don't give up hope. 40 is the new 30.
I'm a bit late on this, but I will give you my insight.
We, as humans, are now tought by social media to be attracted to people who "look hot". Your friend, I assume, is not a "hot" looking guy therefore you don't see the attractiveness in him and the love, trust, honesty and compassion that he offers.
I strongly suggest going to this site.
Because I enjoy anonymous image boards.
OC is rare anymore but this place invented the meme.
Do you even know where you are?
12 year olds are underage and B&.
(Not that that stops them)
But yeah I am a "founder".
I browse wherever the fuck I want.
Oh well, now that he's gone you can go to the gym and bone that chad, ride the cock carousel until your all used up and looking for a meal ticket, then go banging on his door in desperation, i am sure he'll want you then.
Thank you so much /b/. I guess if he really cares about me he'll come back. One last question, this guy at the gym is so hot... we had a conversation 2 days ago and he said I'm really hot too. I think I'm falling in love with him, I've never felt this way before. How do I give him the hint to ask me out?? I'm interesting in seeing more of him.
Gotta agree with this guy, he knows where it's at.
What you're doing to this poor guy is making him think he has a chance. You're giving him that thought. It is your fault.
You said you'd been honest before, but I doubt that, because if you had been completely honest he probably wouldn't speak to you.
Don't keep him around because it makes you feel better, cut ties, cut your losses, get banged by the guy from the gym.
oh man, just when I thought this was le ebin meme thread this 0/10 bait happens. Your sage rating just went from 8/10 to 5/10. You're probably some old forgetful fucker though.. nobody is perfect..
>talked to this guy maybe once or twice
>muscles make your fanny wet
>omgeeee i think i'm falling in love with him
p.s go kill yourself
Let's just hope that gym guy doesn't make you feel how your friend feels, femanon
It's a chad. He would fuck whatever he wants it, then forget about you when he were bored of using you like a fucktoy.
So just wait, whore. He would make the unfamous chad's Move soon probably.
No fun if you live your life never taking some fresh bait m8
Looking at the picture of that wanker tells me he will crawl back to OP like a fucking maggot.
He clearly has 0 self esteem and will remain a beta virgin for the rest of his life.
Just leave it be, he's a lost case
Funny that image was probably the best clue as to who I am..
Ah well newfags gonna be newfags..
(Is it summer already?)
>>673176321 fair enough
>Thats it for my random pics
>Im out of this shithole
>Remember, when cooking, add plenty of sage
why do you even hang out with ugly people ur dumb lol
My first time witnessing this level of faggotry, you've made this board covered with even more shit than OP did, I'm out once this is posted thread is so dead, thanks for being such a fucking retard twelvie!
LOL 14 + 35
Do you know what the Kermit protocol is?
I think you need to lay off the semen mate. I feel like offing myself so.wtinea because I've been coming here for a couple of years, you must be a special sort of autist if you've put up with this hellhole for longer than that.
Oh it is just one of many sites I frequent.
If I decided to an hero based on the shit folks put online? I would have been dead in 2001.
I think I know who you are. Lost any of that weight yet fatty? ;) btw for real if it is who I think it is, I legitimately hate you. Like, if we ever met in real life it would take every ounce of my willpower not to kill you. You are by far the biggest piece of shit I've ever run across and I hope your heart gives out under that tub of lard you call a body. You know all these fancy old terms like he does, you have the most cancerous opinions, and you've never done anything worthwhile, just rode other's coattails. Seriously, you should have killed yourself in 2001. This shithole world would be just a little less shitty with you in it.
You have no clue.
But one day we will meet each other to be sure.
You likely will kill me.
But that will not be the end.
Looking forward to it.