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Been there. It's always the hot ones that are crazy. She'll drag you down into the crazy with her, even though everything she does is batshit, she'll make you think it's your fault. Never ending scenarios of thinking "I upset her so it's my fault", but realistically, she'll be upset no matter what and always find a reason; you were just caught in the blast zone.
>>669152263 She'll fuck you up mentally. Trust me it's hard as fuck to be with a woman like that. I was unlucky enough to fall head over heels in love with someone and dumb enough to put a baby in her.
Tons of people have that, but it's left undiagnosed. This site probably has a high rate of it. If you like her and don't have issues with her, a diagnosis shouldn't change that. It's only explaining something that's already been happening.
>>669153343 My woman cheated then tried to blame me. The problem is that they are so unstable. Nothing will make them happy so they chase after what they think will make them happy and sex is one of those things.
>>669154043 Well I did, but there's some stuff about her, she has said over and over that I should break up with her, that she would fuck my life up, that I should go after normal girls and all that, I said no because I actually like the girl, but that shit's weird nonetheless
>>669154019 Went to a support group, literally every guy had similar story. I actually met her when she was dating someone else. Dude was a douche supported her leaving him. Fucked her a couple times. Realized I was attached to a monster. Don't have the strength to walk away now.
You don't really "get over" BPD. You have it for life.
The fact that it's not really their "fault" that a BPD sufferer will end up treating anyone who loves them like shit, pushing them away, or smothering them with neediness, thinking their partner is the greatest person in the world, then thinking that their partner is complete scum and doesn't want them to be happy.
It's just too much for any healthy intimate relationship. Your girlfriend may learn to manage her behavior and symptoms better in time, but it will be on the backs of several failed, scorched earth relationships and/or job firings.
No need for you to be the collateral damage of that process.
>>669155288 That was also me, actually. I met her when she was with another dude, she somehow got my cell-phone number, and said she felt attraction towards me and that shit, I was like "cool, ok" and we started dating a month or so later. But the thing is, she is really attached to me emotionally, since I basically saved her from suicide a couple of times by now, and she gets really desperate when I don't talk to her for some time
>>669155841 Eventually the honeymoon phase will fade, and she'll no longer get that endorphin fix from you, and she'll start treating you like shit more and more often, and looking for the NEW savior figure in her life that makes her feel whole again temporarily.
Correct. Therapy and meds can help people with BPD but it's very hard going at first. They are very resistant to the idea that their thought process often is not rational. They may say they understand this, but to get to the point where they actually believe that they need help is something else.
>>669153343 the suicide thing is to put pressure on you (gives her more confidence in you not leaving her) she wants someone to understand her and make her feel special, but the more you are going to know her and all her 'games' the more she is going to repulse you bc she is going to feel too vulnerable and you are going to bore her if you dont play along with her games
>>669156063 I'm way past the honeymoon phase, I kind of fattened her up enough to the point where she thinks she's no longer attractive to other men. Another god send is that I live in a small enough town that everyone already knows she's crazy and wouldn't fuck that with someone else's dick.
>>669156523 >Some therapists don't even bother with Borderline, being it's such a sabotaging and self-destructive condition.
It's especially hard to treat, because the patient isn't always truthful with the therapist, either telling the therapist what the patient thinks the therapist wants to hear, or because the patient truly believes whatever falsehood he/she is saying.
>>669156602 You have no fucking idea what you're talking about.
I've worked with people who suffer from BPD, Cluster B and it's not fucking picnic. They usually leave treatment AMA. I had one client in my seven years of working in the field with that condition who completed treatment.
Dated a girl for about 2 years that had BPD. I ended up getting her out of a really bad living situation, where she was living with an abusive couple. As far as I know, they never really did anything to her. However, they would fight and throw that around when I went over there. So, having my own place, I said it was totally ridiculous for her to live in that situation, and so I invited her to move in with me. That was my fault. I knew very well that two months into our relationship was too soon to be moving in with somebody, however, I couldn't justify leaving her in that place. Things were great for the first year and a half, we literally never fought, and we agree on most things without even having to talk about it. The sex was great, and she was fantastic to hang out with. She opens up to me about all sorts of physical and mental abuse that she had to deal with as a young child. I won't go into details but she was sexually abused by a member of a family repeatedly for years. Things were great until her birthday that year. I told her she can go ahead and have a party because I'm not a total douche, and she ended up getting way too f***** up, people were feeding her psychedelics and alcohol, and long story short, she ended up cheating on me. With another girl, but I guess I'm enough of a f***** but that still bother me. I'm talking it out over the course of the next three weeks we work it out. Things pretty much go back to normal. Fast forward six months. My lease is up and we decided to get a place with one of my other friends as a roommate. Once we move into the new house, she starts getting crazier and crazier, & I just kind of sweep it under the rug. The way it ended, was with her coming out of the blue, and breaking up with me over a text message while I was at work. She basically said that she didn't love me anymore, and she was leaving to go to a music festival with some random dude.
>>669156925 no, not specifically her way but you are either going to play your own games (fucking with her bc of your emotions) which she is going to find more thrilling or you are just going to stand above it; making it too boring for her
either way its going to turn into a shitty situation she needs to reflect a lot and understand herself and control her actions before she is going to be ready for a healthy relationship
>>669157557 The long and short of it is, in my opinion what one of the posts before me said. I don't believe you can ever truly get over BPD, and if you can it's going to be with years of therapy. Like I said, she was one of the most wonderful and loving people I've ever been with, but like the poster towards the top said, it's all great, until they get bored, don't get that rush from being with you anymore, and decide to seek someone else out. I would say the only true advice anyone can give you is to really consider yourself and your feelings, and be careful in whatever decision you make. If you're questioning it already, I'd say that you already know the answer.
Read up on it. Learn how to help her OP. The wikipedia article and a quick google search should help. If she goes to therapy(if she dosent it will end VERY badly) she should be fine and almost a normie in 10 years.
Thing is gonna be a rocky road. If youre ready to to that and you can get here to actually put effort into therapy you should be fine.
If she cant then you will probably break up and get your heart ripped out.
Honestly, only you can answer that question. I will say from experience that borderlines can be very caring, loveing and devoted. And they will never cheat on you and accept you for who and what you are. Honestly, nobody on here but you can give you a definitive answer
>>669157751 Gets depressed/angry over anything really, suicidal, fears abandonment but encourages me to dump her because she fears she'll fuck my life up, shitty self-esteem, hallucinations and fucked up dreams
>>669157942 Thanks. It was really rough when I was going through it, and it f***** me up for a few months afterwards. All I can say is that it definitely makes me take a lot harder of a look at people I get involved with, be they friends girlfriends or just acquaintances. Try to find the good in the bad you know?
>>669157172 You're going to put up with a lot of shit. What she'll end up doing that drives you away (or just want her out of your life) varies from person to person.
I can only tell you to remember she'll wake up the next day and feel horrible and want to make it up to you in anyway she can. But if she's anything like me she'll be really ashamed and will just try and push it out of her mind and she'll act like everything is fine and nothing happened. What you need to do is hug her or some shit and tell her you forgive her, then she'll probably breakdown crying about how sorry she is.
>>669154856 everything besides the hallucinations is pretty normal for a chick. You just have to know how to play your cards and still get the most out of it. Heck, get her to start working on her compulsive behavior so she can keep you, that's what keeps my gf in check
>>669158301 I've lost count of how many times I've done that already. She gets pissed/depressed over stupid shit and doesn't want to speak about it, but I pressure her a bit and she tells me what it is
>>669158580 She's 17, so she hasn't been diagnosed yet.
>>669156753 >fattened her up Why would you do this? You don't get a gf to make her not leave you by puttibg her in a cage. You fuck her good enough and make her stand by your side what is obviously not happening when you make her unattractive
If it is severe, dump her because she'll bring you down and probably kill you in your sleep and wear your skin as a costume. If it isn't severe, stay with her unless she has a negative influence on your life.
>>669160166 said my first gf (we were both 17 at that time) too, she was diagnosed with bps too, but it's mostly just bullshit. She even read my text messaes and justified it by saying she did some demonic ritual with my friends that told her I cheated on her. I broke up with her a few times but got back together with her again cuz she always played the cute and hurt card again. I endes it finally after she told me on the phone that she killed a chicken in a ritual with her friends to curse me so I get deseases and die unhappy. After I said her that's crazy she yelled at me that I make her cut herself and stuff like that. Crazy cunt, still has the best sex with her. Ok The other best sex was with another bpd chick.
Lesson from the story fuck them then dump them. The cute ones might not be as good in bed but you can teach them and they are loyal and don't give you as much trouble.
>>669160340 >>669160681 The great thing about suicidal women is that they will have anal sex. Every fucking time, suicide girls will take it. Whether or not she commits suicide after you have anal sectz with her is up to her and how much your conscious can handle.
>>669161773 does she do drugs? speed, md or acid/shroom flashbacks can cause this. those drugs usually only give you flashback-optics and not hallucinations but in her craving for attention she just bumps it up to make it seem more dramatic
>>669159920 Brief, frank expressions of psychosis are characteristic of Bpd during times of stress.
That being said bpd is crock, the only one Borderline is the psychiatrist who is hesitating in making a clear diagnosis and instead clings to the vague and unscrupulous, unscientific notion of a disordered personality.
>>669162342 Schizophrenic hallucinations are stress induced and include delusional thoughts, if she was schizophrenic she would appear anxious, and get paranoid about strange things, she sure as fuck wouldn't be chatty about hallucinations. She would believe things that were not true and had basically no basis.
You don't ever, ever, ever, recover from schizophrenia and it never gets better, only worse.
If she is from Toronto or Scarborough then just break up with her in the nicest way you can otherwise she will possible chop your dick of and violently fuck you with it. If its a usa bitch, just get in one last fuck and disconnect asap.
>>669159371 That's victimizing yourself into putting up a defensive front. Therapists don't consider your condition any less valid than a physician considers those with less fiber, or those with early signs of cancer.
>>669162980 Honestly as someone that has lived with schizophrenics and been in over 9000 psych wards I can say this.
Check her meds. If they include any of the following, lithium carbonate, carbamazepine/tagretol, olanzepine/zyprexa, or any benzos like clonazepam.
Run. By the time shes 30 she will be too far gone to function on her own most likely and end up committed in a state hospital.
>>669163471 Really stupid shit, like someone is moving the doors around in your house. Maybe the time is changing on you, people are shouting angrily at you if you move a certain way, it can be anything really. Maybe they start thinking shit happened that never did and building whole fantasies upon it. They usually will start talking when nobody is around to fight off the voices.
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