Hey /b/. Damn it's been like a year since I've been on here. Anyway. I'm having some troubles. So the other night my girl was sleeping over at her sisters house. She and her "brother in law" that I had never heard of before were having a movie night. One of my girlfriends friends told me she walked in on them cuddling in the morning. Now my girlfriend says that nothing happened, they just shared a blanket and fell asleep that way and when she woke up they were like that. My other friend says she was flirting with him the night of. I also saw a pic of them on snapchat with their heads touching earlier that day. I feel super confused about the situation and don't know who to believe. I already broke up with her last night, we talked about it and I took her back. But thinking about it again just gets me paranoid and mad. Like i don't know dude or his intentions. Anyway I just didn't have anyone to talk to about this. What do you guys think?
If your stupid ass believes that they just slept under the same blanket then your stupid ass would probably believe that they were having a water balloon fight if you find a condom under your bed
Like dog listen. It's been a year I've been with this girl man. I already dumped her last night because when I heard the story I was enraged man. I took her back after we talked about it. But I just.. It's like I can't take myself to believe that she'd do something like this she's always been faithful. But at the same time it's like.. Her story is so hard to believe yknow?
Please just do this. Women lie all the time(most of the time tbh) and it's better that you end it here before its too late. This is coming from experience, I hate women that lie. Actually I hate it when anyone lies to me.
What did the dudes cock taste like when you kissed her after making up.
If you don't dump her now she will shit on you until she finally finds a dude with some real balls and then dumps you.
I dumped her already last night then took her back. I feel like such a dick. she was crying and shit. I love that girl man it's not like she's some random hoe it's like over a year of my life spent on her. Now I gotta tell her I changed my mind again
you are young.
fuck bitch, get MONEY.
trust me dude.
If you need to fulfill sexual desires, get a FWB, or intentionally date chicks you are compatible with so you have an excuse to dip. Dont forget to wrap your willy, silly.
Love at this age is fucking stupid, so many of my friends are getting married and divorced, some with kids, some are in my family.
Fuck all that noise, focus on getting everything you want in life, dont get tied down by these fucking hoes that want your money and will leave you as soon as they believe someone else can satisfy them more in some way.
It's human nature. Work with that shit.
This. The last conversation you had with her was the last time you ever talk to her. Don't acknowledge her ever again. I've done this to a few chicks and they hold on like pocket lint trying to get that closure on the relationship. Fuck em.
That's why it's easier now than later. Its up to you bub. If you think you can live your relationship out to the end with this on your chest you do it, but just know that this is only the tip of the iceberg. She may or may not do anything else and you'll live happily ever after, until one day years later she admits to you "Anon, you know my brother in-law? Well we actually had sex that night, sorry, I just didn't want to loose you. Please don't leave me, we can get over it."
Then you'll be feeling like an idiot and she'll try to make you feel like a jackass and the bad guy because of her choices.
Yes it is brother, yes it is. The sooner you realize its for the better the sooner you'll heal up. Hit the gym, buy some new clothes, chill for a while. Opportunities will fall on your lap when you're ready
>mfw also betrayed after being with a girl for over a year
please heed the advice of someone who has been in your position
This works too. Cheating is an indescribable thrill. Getting caught is fucking awesome too, especially when you can get the bitch to take you back and run the cycle all over again.
It's gonna be alright OP, you'll move in. If you find it hard breaking up with her just imagine her fucking that guy and enjoying it. Just picture her being with you and texting this guy about how much she misses his big throbbing cock. Smirking at you and thinking about how dumb you are for taking her back. Picture that and the breakup becomes easy.
That's what I was saying too. Prior to this I was thinking like man I'm in a relationship I'm too young to be tied down right now then this shit happens. Its like damn.
It really seems as if everyone in the thread believes that she did it. Fuck. I was really trying to convince myself that she didn't do it. I took her back. Now I just gotta let her go again and hurt her again. Im gonna be looked at like such a dick yknow. Like what if she didn't do it? I fucked up by taking her back probably. Man I'm just so confused you know. One year with this chick man I love her
Thank you fam. Sigh. I don't know what to do. I'm so stupid yknow. How am I gonna tell her "YEET Hahahahah u thought we was dating again nah" that's just super fucked up and playing with her emotions yknow. Fuck. I dunno how I'm gonna tell her
Go with your gut.
Die or Survive.
If you think she didn't do it, then go about your life as if it never happened. If she admits to doing it, lesson learned. Make your own mistakes, half of these yards on /b/ have never even been in a relationship.
Do you really believe you could be under a blanket with a chick and fall asleep with her and nothing would have happened? If you do more power to you; stay with her. If you are a normal dude; man up, face facts and dump that cheating slut.
It's either a couple weeks of pain now or months and months of it as she realizes she has carte blanche to suck veiny drifter dicks behind the 7-11.
OP she is FOR SURE cucking you.
You need to break up with her. You have just too many clues, when other people hide having sex even better than she is. She at LEAST rubbed his dick that night.
this is the thing OP, your girl shouldn't have been in that situation where she was sharing a blanket with another guy and even more so she shouldn't have fuckin fallen asleep with the fuckin guy she shared a blanket with and was allegedly flirting with
the fact that you took her back just shows her that she can get away with shit like that and this is the thing: she's gong to keep pushing the boundaries more and more because she knows she can just cry and you'll take her back, so if she didn't end up fucking the guy this time, it's only a matter of time til she does it with someone
no matter how much you think you know a girl OP, truth is you don't, i know this from experience
even if a girl who you swear up and down is faithful could break under the right circumstances
Find some actual proof first. Get her to admit it. Look up a few ways onljne. It's manipulation. Or just sit her down and explain calmly why your passed and go from there. She's a women. She'll crack.
Giving them second chances doesn't work. this is from experience. My ex cheated on me 2 years ago when I was away. I have her phone gps telling me he's at his house until 6 am. I was about to dump her but took her back. Then 2 years later when she went back to Vietnam she cheated on me with another guy. Find out through tapping her home with a recorder when she got back. It's this bitch right here
You don't know what to do? You mean you already know what to do but you're too scared to act upon it. The time is now my friend, cut off the ties and get rid of anything that reminds you of her
That's what I'm saying yknow? Like I don't know the dude man. I really don't know that nigga whatsoever. I don't know his intentions and if it was me? I would have wanted some pussy. Like they woke up cuddling? But damn. I'm thinking about this now and I'm like I blew this out of proportion dumped her I was mad as fuck. Then talked to her last night and took her back. Now I gotta find a way to dump her again. I feel retarded yknow. It's just hard to come to terms with it like idk what to believe you know. I'm really confused man.
Trust me bro, once the trust is gone, its gone.
Take./b/ for example, you've probably seen(maybe even jacked off too) a beautiful woman who turns out to be a trap,
Bottom line, when something goes wrong, we always expect it.
If she gets away with it once, a second time is inevitable.
Cheating or not, she was under a blanket with another man. Grow a pair and walk out
dude just say you are really sorry but because of all that you have heard you cant bring yourself to trust her and that you cant be in a relationship without trust. or some gay shit like that anyways.
this is not a bad idea
if your girl is so desperate to get back with you, then she obviously cares a lot about you.. and you can use this to get her to crack
you know her better than us OP, so use that knowledge to get her to break down emotionally and spill the beans
>trying to get a woman to tell the truth
Yea tbh. I feel like such a bitch. Like my gut is saying you know you should break up with her or whatever and now it's like I gotta do it again? Like she's gonna be upset as fuck. And I'll never really know what happened too. What if she actually didn't do it yknow? it's like holding me back
>Now I gotta find a way to dump her again.
you say this because you think that you have to prove your actions to anybody. But guess what man, you can do whatever the fuck you want to do. You're not an asshole for taking her back and then dumping her again, just fucking dump her. She fucked up big time man, and there's nothing worse than getting fucking CUCKED. She disrespected you big time by sleeping next to another man EVEN IF she didn't do anything besides rub her ass on his clothed cock.
His intentions were to stick his cock in one of her holes. There is no finding a way to dump her. I told you. Never speak to her again. If you have shit of hers gather it up, drop it off on her porch at 2AM so you don't have to see her and never acknowledge her existence again.
Why take her back? It's inappropriate for her to be sleeping with/cuddling other men. End of story. He's not her brother. Even if he was, they don't sleep together/cuddle if she wants to keep a bf.
No, this is me having sex with her. I never recorded her having sex with that guy. If I have i would've hurt her real bad. The fucked up part was that I was living together with her and her car broke down so I have to stay at my parent house and let her use my car. Low be behold that night she went to club with him and stay at his house until 6 am. She keeps on denying it saying they just having drinks and nothing happen. Fucking whore will always be a whore.
OP, you're relationship is just gonna be shit from now on if you choose to stay with her. You're going to resent her for the rest of your relationship, you won't trust her, you'll think about what happened that night besides the "cuddling" constantly, and she'll resent you for not trusting her. Just end it man, sorry man. There are women out there RIGHT NOW who would do nothing other than please you and respect you and never hurt you. Don't settle for a cheating bitch, you don't deserve that shit.
you gotta break it off NOW, OP.. if you wait you'll just be diggin yourself deeper into your own grave and that shit's gonna hit you that much harder when she finally admits to it in the future
you'll never love again
:/ that sounds about right. Maybe i should just message her tonight some super long paragraph about how I feel about it.
You're probably right. Sigh.
I took her back because I believed her. Now I gotta let go again.
That's what I'm saying. I feel like this is just gonna be in my head because I'll never TRULY know yknow? And I felt like talking to that dude about it and straight up asking him what happened.
Men do it to man, i know this from experience lol. I only felt shitty about it when she knew, i dunno, i might be an asshole like that but its to much tempting pussy out there. Its either get fucked or fuck. I would also go crazy if my gf cheated and i found out, but i would survive it.
She's gonna be upset as fuck? I would give a shit but I already gave one for New Years and I'm all out. And you know what happened and even if she was telling the truth she still slept with another guy. So fuck that bitch, tell her to shove a broom up her cunt and find yourself someone who isn't a stupid whore
Why is that bad? Fuck her, it's ok for her to hurt you but you to not hurt her? Fuck that logic. Try your best to be nice, then one day drop the fucking break up bomb on her. Try to cheat on her ass too and take pics.
here's how you break up too OP. Be real nice, for like another month, let her think shit's all good. Go out to eat at a nice place (whatever you like). Then when your food gets there hand her the pics you took while cheating on her with "we're done" written somewhere on them (make sure it's easily noticeable). As she's reading/looking at them and in shock, enjoy your meal. Let it unfold too, she might throw food/drink on you, so be prepared to dodge, or not give a shit idc. If she tries to stab you make sure it doesn't kill you, then get her put in prison for assault.
Fuck her life up op.
Hindsight is 20/20. Yea I should've broken up with her after that incident but I was stupid her being my first gf. I tapped her phone after she lied about going out to see her sick grandma but she went to starbucks with him. That's when the trust is going down and I put gps on her phone.
>That's what I'm saying. I feel like this is just gonna be in my head because I'll never TRULY know yknow? And I felt like talking to that dude about it and straight up asking him what happened.
You do know and you know what you need to do. You've got plenty of good advice. Now take it faggot.
One of the women i cheated with told me when we fucked that she got really turned on by me cheating with my gf. I can tell that i did NOT get turned on when i fucked girls that cheated with their bfs, so i dunno. I dont like this whole cheating thing, someone kill of jelousy, not good man, not good.
>I'll never TRULY know yknow?
This is what you should do.
Call your gf.
Tell her that you don't know if this relationship will work anymore, because it will be hard to trust her, you'll always be thinking about what happened that night, and she'll resent you for not trusting her, tell her you at least need closure to what happened that night, and if she doesn't tell the truth, you will talk to that guy.
She will most likely deny again, in which case, call the guy, ask him what happened.
Either way, I think you should break up with her, even if all she did was cuddle up next to a guy, because that shit means that she doesn't respect you, and that she doesn't value you as a fucking human being, there are women out there who wouldn't even THINK about doing that if they wanted to keep their boyfriend.
Cheating really enrages me like nothing else. I actually went to get a gun to kill her and then commit suicide, but back out at the last second just because my mom called earlier that day and it would torn up my family if I did it. I just want to hurt her really bad.
She never cheated, i was just a insecure paranoid faggot that had micro dick complexes, so i always accused her of cheating when it was just really small signals. meh, sucks to have those insecurties, i thinks its better today tho
Look just be glad you're not married or have kids or anything. That's when you're fucked when you find out shit like this. You have the option of just walking away and starting over. Whatever you do, NEVER marry or conceive with this woman, or you will be fucked.
It's pretty simple you piece of blind shithead!!! Dump your fucking girlfriend! If your going to act like a fucking little pussy then leave her ass. If you saw the snapchat then you know a picture is worth more than a thousand words bro. Fucking do as I say. I've been through your shoes before it fucking sucks man. Learn from my mistakes leave the bitch and move on.
You can care. You should be mad as hell, but don't give that slut the satisfaction of knowing it. A flat out no contact dump is the best course of action here. If you talk or try to stay friendly you will either end up getting back with her or fucking her. Have some self-respect and do that bitch dirty just like she did you.
Even if she didn't fuck, suck or jerk the dude she still put herself in a situation that showed you the ultimate disrespect. Show her the same.
I fucked a married 19 year old once, I kinda felt bad for her husband afterwards ( I was 27 and freshly separated from a cheater at the time). She didn't seem to give a fcuk though, especially seeing as we fucked in her best friends house, her best friend whose husband was best friends with hers. Hahah man it sucks being a guy.
fuck, this made me think about this shitty period of my life, fucking painful as shit. Seriosly, im worried those "ocd" thoughts will never dissapair making me unable to keep relationships, fuck i need to go to therapy
Yo that's what I was gonna do last night you know? I really was. My friend talked me out of it last minute and then guilted me out of it. I called her and took her back. Told her I love her. Now I gotta do it again. Whatever man. Fuck this is hard
>already broke up with her
>talked about it and took her back
i remember when i was 12.
fuck off bro. seriously.
Break it off
Your pride and dignity are literally all you fucking have in this world. She aint gonna be faithful from the sound of things. If she has not already violated your damn trust that is
I met this whore in a club with her friend and we went back to (what she said was) her sisters place and knocked one out. As I go to hit the bathroom (after fucking her) I see a wedding photo on a dresser of her and some Army dude. I palmed the used rubber and threw it under the bed and then stuffed the wrapper into the pillow case of the pillow I was using hoping it was his and that he'd find one or the other.
Felt bad man.
>nobody knew about them "sleeping together and sharing a blanket" until the morning when they were "walked in on"
>you even slightly believe that bullshit story
listen, this is what happened and you fucking KNOW this is what happened.
Your girlfriend flirted with this guy all night, everybody started hitting the hay and IN SECRET she and him went to that room and FUCKED. They fell asleep without anybody knowing they did this, and they woke up together, to be found by her friend.
They fucked dude, they fucked, why the hell would they share a fucking blanket? Is there really a huge shortage of blankets at that house? That's IMPOSSIBLE and you know it.
It's almost certain she fucked him or at least suck him off. This girl have no respect for you or much love for you no matter what she claimed. In the future if you take her back she'll just fuck some guy behind your back. They will cheat again as long as no one finds out.
Definitly dude, ive had my moments with cheating and dealing with cheating bitches, and i always get paranoid about their bfs wants to kill me or something. Sometimes when they get insecure, i even say it to brag about it, just to rub it in their face. jesus, im a terrible human being. But all i know is, all those bitches that cheated with me never felt bad about what they did, because they almost always think that HE deserves it or HE doesnt have shit to say. Bitches are ruthless like that, its because they know they can get around and get layed the very next hour without problems. Guys have to work for it, therefore its more hard feelings
Alright. I've really thought about this. I really have. I don't think I can do this anymore yknow? I really am sorry. I just feel like things won't be the same with us anymore. You know it too. I'm always going to be thinking of this and getting mad about it and resenting and neglecting you over it and it's like there's no point. I don't know the dude. I don't know his intentions. The whole situation feels just too suspicious. Our relationship really won't ever be the same. I'm always going to be thinking about it that way and I don't want that. I don't want to keep getting mad at you anymore. I love you. I'm sorry for doing this to you again but I know this is for the best now and the best way to do it. I think you know too. I still want to read that letter. I loved everything we've shared together and if you really can't see me out of your life we can try to be friends. I really am sorry for doing this again but it just doesn't feel right and I dont think it will ever again.
Man and that very thing has me fucked in current relationships, because now that I'm older, I don't trust anyone, and my current gf who din do nuffin gets treated like a cheater, just because I know there is the potential. It's hard finding a middle ground with this shit.
Hey /b/. Damn it's been like a year since I've been on here. Anyway. I'm having some troubles. So the other night my girl was CUCKING ME at her sisters house. She and her "brother in law" that I had never heard of before were having a CUCKING night. One of my girlfriends friends told me she walked in on them CUCKING ME in the morning. Now my girlfriend says that nothing happened, they just CUCKED ME and fell asleep that way and when she woke up they were CUCKING ME like that. My other friend says she was CUCKING ME the night of. I also saw a pic of them on snapchat CUCKING ME earlier that day. I feel super confused about the situation and don't know who to believe. I already broke up with her last night, we talked about it and SHE MANIPULATED ME INTO TAKING HER BACK SO SHE COULD CONTINUE CUCKING ME. But thinking about it again just gets me paranoid and mad. Like i don't know dude or his intentions. Anyway I just didn't have anyone to talk to about this. What do you guys think?
that's how i read that
You should've said this, " I ain't stupid you whore. You fucked that pleb I've been in the game for far tooo long to know what's going on. When I smell shit that means your fucking lying, well guess what the shit does stinks. Fuck you fucking cunt.
I had a fwb I met one day that caught her boyfriend trying to talk to other girls so she wanted revenge(at least that was her story). The first time we fucked it was in a wendys bathroom(so romantic), the second time was in her house. I cut it off after that..stepping over her kids toys and seeing picture's everywhere was just a bit much.
THIS don't be fucking sorry. She cucked you, she KNEW she cucked you, and she should feel SHAME about it. You're fucking up by taking any sort of responsibility for this extreme cucking she just did to you.
It doesn't matter if they fucked. She flirted with him all night and cuddled up with him under a blanket. If her friends are telling you she was flirting, they probably know she did worse.
You could just be like me and keep trying to make it work until you have a kid with her and still end up splitting up later on, thus fucking up an innocent kids life with a situation that isn't ideal (divorced parents). Break it off NOW or you will fuck up your life man
Alright. I've thought about this. I really have. I don't think I can do this anymore. Thing won't be the same with us anymore. You know it too. I'm always going to be thinking of this and getting mad about it and resenting and neglecting you over it and it's like there's no point. The whole situation is disrespectful to me, and our relationship. It will never be the same. I'm always going to be thinking about it that way and I don't want that. I love you. I know this is for the best now and the best way to do it. You know too. I do not want to read that letter. I loved everything we've shared together.
Edited to remove beta-ness thank me later OP
Well op. Fuck her up mentally or leave her ass. There is too much proof against her and she may have done worse shit.
Well by him saying the sorry part I see an advantage. Make sure you stick to your decision and do not talk to her anymore. Shell respect you but if you left out the sorry bs she would respect you more. Take it back. No advantage. You dun goofed.
OP send her another message saying "after some more thought I realize that I'm not sorry. I've been disrespected and so was our relationship. Goodbye"
this is the guy who edited your message.
let me guess
shes: "cute, smart, funny" ?
they all are she should not have allowed serself or anyone else to out her in that position and and should have in no way ended up as you described
just tell her > "I dont play games, we are done"
Yeah dude. In her head she will try to convince herself (and possibly you) that it's not her fault. Saying sorry just gives her more ammo, even though you are just saying it because you love her and wish things were different. She messed things up, not you. Sorry for your loss bro, hope you stay strong and follow through with breaking up. You will be better off only spending a year with her instead of 2...3...5.
Do what you feel like. I wouldn't personally but I'm more vindictive. I'd want to hurt her. You don't seem to want to so make sure she's knows she screwed up and out of respect for yourself. It's over.
No prob. Been there done that, sorta. Didn't have the balls to leave but I was also a wreck on drugs. Now have a kid with her and she took off when he was 2. You want to find someone who you can have a family with and stay together. You'll find her. Also keep in mind that you're doing her a favor. Maybe she'll learn to stop acting that way if she's dumped over it. Better for her in the long run. That's also why you take no responsibility. You're helping her too bro
I know it'll be hard to not get back with her, but just remember that she laid with another man. She made the mistake, not you. She didn't think about you at all to fall asleep and flirt with another man. It's hard, but stay true to yourself. You deserve better. She doesn't deserve your love, and she'll realize and do anything to get it back.