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>have 3 year relationship with girl
>ask her to marry me twice but am rejected both times
>she breaks up with me at about 3.5 years due to religious differences
>proceeds to be a slut after a completely faithful, monogamous, no sex before marriage relationship
>fast forward a year to today
>i go back to her facebook to reminisce
>find out that she deleted all photos evidencing our relationship
>feel sick to stomach
>I've changed fb accounts since then. maybe she has settings limiting her profile to strangers
>log into old account
>view pictures
>nope, every picture with me in it is gone
>stomach still hurts
>for some crazed reason go back in her post history to find out if she deleted ALL mention of me, her seriously committed and dearly beloved boyfriend of 3.5 years
>scrolling through 2014
>scrolling through 2013
>scrolling through 2012
>"Happy aniversary, Anon!" posted October 2012
>she broke up with me in december of the same year that we had our 3rd anniversary
>she broke up with me in 2012
>mfw the crippling depression that followed has only now, nearly 2 full years after the breakup, abated even to this degree
>that feeling in the pit of my stomach again
>remember that I sent a message to her a couple months ago from my new account
>log back into new account to see if she replied back
>she didn't
>oh god the stomach pain
>mfw it crosses my mind to send her another message, because maybe she didn't see the first
>mfw realizing that i'd sent that message a full year and a half after she broke up with me, and that she's so active on facebook that there's nearly no way that she could possibly have not seen that message
>remember that she begged me when she broke up with me to not delete all mention of her in my facebook, because that would've crushed her
>what happened?
>remember that she wanted to remain good friends when she broke up with me
>what happened?
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I really didn't think I could still feel this level of pain as a result of her shenanigans, but wow. I feel like shit, b.
Dude..Get over her. She sure as hell got over you.

You deserve that for being a fucking retarded manchild who believes space santa cares whether you have sex or not.
Cant bump your own threads
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What a shame.
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No kidding.
You could however make an effort to keep it alive dontcha think?
That's true.

I guess I'll dump my reaction folder as penance for sulking.

Best Advice on the planet. Not even Kidding. Its a funny vid this is true, but if you take it to Heart your life will Improve.
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Space Santa. Ha! Thank god I was already on the shitter cause that's funny shit.
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Women do this. Given time, they delude themselves.
By now she probably has herself convinced that you're some axe murdering pedophile abuser who ruined her life.
So, she deletes all reference of you that could possibly refute her current image of you.

This is how some women think.
My story was very similar to yours.. but for mine; add on that at 8 months after she broke up with me suddenly with no explanation - I find she had married the guy who was her boss while she was with me. 8 fucking months.

that was all 5 years ago. I'm with a really great girl now. I wouldn't change a thing. all the depression I went through for about 18 months to 2 years was worth it for the one I'm with (engaged to) now.

Keep strong, OP.
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forgot to say - I found that all out when an old mutual friend posted pics from my ex's wedding. "Sick to the stomach" doesn't come close
Stop drowning yourself in sorrow. It's over and there are more fish. Especially fish that do deserve a great guy like you. You're gonna make it
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Wow that's rough. What kinda stupid shit did you do after you found out?
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I'm fully aware that there are other, better fish. It's just a matter of during the depression that followed the breakup, I've transitioned to become a woman, and am now trapped in feelings of inequity.
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Well I suppose she's ashamed of your relationship is one thing.
I know my Ex deleted all my facebook links to her.
I felt like she was cleansing herself of me.
Didn't feel great.jpg

She also went out with one of my friends about 6 months after we broke up.
Who I was living with around that time.

Your feelings are just bullshit getting in the way. If you listen to them you will become a neurotic whiny man-child like I was for a while.

Keep your head level and think about your life clearly and rationally. Don't start lapsing into melodrama about how profound your relationship was.

Every man is an island.
Mostly drinking. tried dating sites to fuck my way out of it but most of the time I'd just end up meeting them, getting drunk and talking about my ex. really pathetic. I did get laid a few times but hated it cos I was so depressed.
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I'm curious if you're referencing the John Donne poem.
On the bright side alcohol is very high calorie, so you probably didn't starve yourself during that depression.
>I've transitioned to become a woman.

said many have said on this thread women do weird shit, back when i was like 17 my ex broke up with me and killed herself because she missed being with me
I feel you /b/ro.

We all been there some way or another, I strongly believe that you will find someone else that will make you happy.

For now just ignore the bitch, unfriend her on facebook and other social media networks, just ignore her completly and be happy.
Maybe you just need to hucklebuck sucka.

Was she your first gf or something? Most ex's do this man. They don't wanna stumble across something that stirs up feels that they don't want to feel. Don't take it personal, whatever you have worked up in your head is likely worse than reality. Just fuck bitches and move on, she's not coming back
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Yeah I'm a transsexual.
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That must've been an odd bit of selfish gratification.
Was that something that was dormant while you were in the relationship, then? Could that have been the reason she left you, perhaps?
Bro. Just forget about her.
I had a girlfriend in college. We were each others firsts, and it was actually good. After we did the deed she made me promise that I wouldn't be a douche and break up with her the next day. The thought never crossed my mind. The next day she broke up with me. Fuckin douche. It was Christmas eve no less. It wasn't til after then that I realized how much she meant to me. Spent a long time trying to win her back. Eventually I realized it wasn't worth it and moved on. Five years later and I'm happily married.
found out this girls brother ingested cyanide a few weeks back and I sent my condolences and congratulated her on her marriage and new daughter. She actually apologized for what she did to me back then. Feels good.
Thats probably why she removed every aspect of you from her life...
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I guess so in the sense that she's the first person that I've entered into an emotional relationship with. Plenty of one night stands outside of her though.
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That's some good music~
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oh man, i feel like a shit ... :/
are you for fucking real? ditch social media as a means of communication and call her, or see her in person. you should know by now that facebook and all other social mediums only worsen the effects of isolation.
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Nah, it was too heavily repressed until, in my depression, I stopped repressing it.
Two reasons that's not the case:
She was more open minded than that.
She wasn't petty enough to invent or hide the reason she broke up with me.

there is no possible way you are older than 18
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I would've done exactly that, except when she broke up with me I deleted her phone number from my contacts list as a way to not see her name every time I went to call somebody. And to see her in person outside of happenstance would be kinda stalkerish, considering that we're so far estranged now. At least that's the way I see it.
Alright, whatever makes you feel better. I'm sorry but thats the kind of shit that makes people who don't care about you anymore distance themselves from you. No matter how open minded you think they are, it happens. We're human, most people are concerned about how they appear to people...most girls wouldn't want a connection to their tranny x-bf.
there is no possible way you aren't insincere
OP man the fuck up
>2 year relationship with grill
>she cheats on me several times
>she cries about it, swears she'll never do it again
>every time
>whatevs, forgive her because I tell myself "I really love her"
>go to college
>she breaks up with me because of distance
>first week I'm away she has had 5 different cocks inside of her
>still messages me on skype telling me how she misses me
>ruin relationships with college bitties early on because I'm confused, think it'll work out with ex
Long story short, I decided to stop moping about that shit and started going to the gym, sailing, took up fencing, and made some new friends. She messaged me on skype a while ago and I told her stop. Last message is from Halloween, where she hoped I was doing well. Ended up never responding.

Having someone else is nice, but it's not all there is OP. I have a few bros who make me happy, plus when I look in the mirror I can smile. I've had potential relationships with a few girls, but I've decided that I need to figure my shit out first before I mess with someone else. Sometimes it takes being alone to find yourself. Listen to some music, cry yourself to sleep some nights, but just know you're going to make it.
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>Sometimes it takes being alone to find yourself.

Truer words....
Alcohol is a great coping mechanism.
Go out and bang 10 girls... It will make you feel better. If you don't know how to then learn game. You will realize that she wasn't special or some shit that you think she is. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you.

She broke up with you 2 years ago. Why are you still being such a pussy about it?
Honestly I have no idea. I rarely think of her anymore even. I hardly expected that reminiscing would lead to such devastation, but here I am I guess, devastated.
>she breaks up with me at about 3.5 years due to religious differences
>proceeds to be a slut after a completely faithful, monogamous, no sex before marriage relationship

m8... no grown man with a healthy sex drive would hang around for 3.5 years without sleeping with her. that's why I presumed you started dating in your teens, am I wrong?
Unrequited love in a nutshell.

Why do you care what her Facebook says even? Who wants pictures of clingy exes on their profile?
I think you should cry about it some more.
I had a bitch pull that shit on me. So, I friended all her friends and family on FB and we all have a great time. She canceled her account because I was everywhere she turned. Her brothers, her aunt, her cousin. Hahahahaha. Fuck her.
what? don't be a little bitch and ditch that passive aggressive shit. you have nothing to lose. until you go over and talk to her on this issue, you'll never reach a true resolution to your depression.
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No, don't listen to this chick. She is trying to make one more beta manchild wallet for women to have their way with.

Fuck bitches, get money.

Thats not love. You called her a slut then cyber stalked her.
I was nearly 19 at the start of the relationship. I'm pretty sure that's still a childish age, but it's not nearly the childish age you're thinking. And I did have a healthy sex drive. Masturbated to completion every day. I just had an immense will to make her happy. Really I dunno why anymore. Brain chemicals, man. Brain chemicals.
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This is for you OP

Your relationship did not work out. Time to move on. Any time you spend thinking about what could have been is lost time. Ask yourself if she dwells on your messages to her as she does on her lack of response to yours.

You already know the answer.
She wanted to remain in control until she felt strong to enough to completely obliterate you.

>all I've ever learned of love is how to shoot somebody who outdrew you
I assume that the latter part is directed towards me.

As to the former, I don't so much care what her facebook says, more what she's said by taking the time to remove me from it so long after the breakup.
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Your loving parents never said anything mean to you, snooped through your shit, and generally tried to control you through the shadows?
shes passive aggressive. you deserve better. ditch her. focus on YOU and what YOU want. you'll learn you don't need that bullshit in your life and you'll be happy.
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A part of me believes that.

that's messed up man. 1st love can really mess the brain up.

so you're a transsexual? what does that mean, you want to be a woman yet still sleep with women?

in any case, if she found out about it, I can guarantee that's the reason she removed you. regardless how tolerant, open minded, nice person she might have been - no person wants to be "the girl with the tranny ex-bf". and keep in mind people are forever-changing, always evolving. she's not the person she was when she was 19 and sometimes putting the past away is the best thing to do.

in all honestly, I wouldn't take it so personally but I can appreciate the gut wrench in your stomach as I have gone down memory lane as well when feeling nostalging and ended up in feels-ville. best to stay away from exes FBs
fuck her and other women

Seems pretty accurate.

It's probably true that I need to talk to her in order to get over this completely, but I just don't see that conversation being anything but a disaster. Realistically, I don't even know what I would say or where I would start.
maybe thats why she broke up with you? because she didn't want to date a woman?
Oh, as in have sex with her and other people just because? I kind of lost the appeal to have sex with her after she had (admittedly) slept with random guys. I'd rather not take a chance with stds. Besides, I don't want to have sex with someone who hurt me. As for having sex with other women, meh. I've been there done that, I get more enjoyment doing other things. I'm fine with being just friends.
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I can guarantee it's not.

>1st love can really mess the brain up
It really can, except this was my second emotionally invested relationship. The first went something like this.
>be 12
>be alone
>be at a park crying on an otherwise empty swing set in the middle of the night
>14 year old attractive girl walks up and asks whats wrong
>tell her
>she consoles me
>I fall head over heels for her, because of an absent mother and an otherwise cruel world of circumstance
>for the next year and a half she acts as a sexually charged big sister/mother figure
>13 years old
>get invited along with gf to a new year's eve party - booze and weed galore
>can't sneak out till late, so I get there late
>when I get there I ask where she's at, so I can join her
>mfw I went upstairs and her tits are out and she's at the center of a group of teens, all of whom have their dicks out

Yep. First breakups suck. (teenagers too)

As for her being the girl with the tranny ex-bf, yeah, it's possible she's changed and she doesn't want anything to do with her tranny ex-bf, but I'm hoping against hope that that's not the case, for sake of some abstract sense of self-worth. I suppose I'll never know for sure unless I confront her, and considering that I'm moving back to Alaska (from Indiana) next summer, I better pull out the courage soon, or I'll have no other chances.
Yeah, that's right. Because they were good parents. If they did that they'd be pretty fucked up. And probably would have fucked me up too. Hopefully not so bad I slice off my own dick about it though.
Dood, a girl did the same thing to me back in 2012. I still think about her but shit. Fuck her dood. If she wants to walk away, let her. But if she wants to be a prick about it, then she isnt worth the thoughts you have about her, let alone your interest. Chicks like this are a waste of time and I guarantee you that you can find someone else waaayy better and better for you.
its pretty easy, you go see her tell her that you need to talk, ask what went wrong and make it clear your intent isn't to salvage a lost relationship. the key here is to be mature and not too emotional about this. she probably has a fair bit to say to you too.
You two sounds like a good match

>I can guarantee it's not.
Uh-huh. How can you guarantee that? You just know her so well? Did you think she'd do all this?
A match for what???`
is there an original image somewhere?
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I know that's not the reason for which she broke up with me not because i know her well enough to preclude her from it, but because I know myself well enough to know that I gave no hints lending to being transgender.
There is, but it's lost in the annals of the internet.
sorry anon, thats a shit
you'll have to wait a couple of years to be better and don't feel that bad about her
>I'll never know for sure unless I confront her, and considering that I'm moving back to Alaska (from Indiana) next summer, I better pull out the courage soon, or I'll have no other chances.

do it. even if you'll get the answer you're hoping against, the closure will feel good.
You're right. I think I'll start by calling her parents and asking for their daughter's number. That's probably my best bet outside of waiting at the cold, unroofed, entrance to her place for some hours until she gets home from work.

Thanks for helping me make up my mind.
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