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>>560177771 depends on the girlfriend can be great if the girl isn't a subhuman but it can be worse than being single. if she's a cheating manipulative lie-ing whore and your beta enough to let her mentally abuse you and fuck around >>560178107 >neckbeard detected
>>560177771 Pros: >regular sex >no boredom >you don't have to pander to other girls anymore >you don't need to take care about you as much
Cons: >no more freedom >can't fuck other girls >less money for yourself >have to spend time with gf family >have to listen to marriage/child plans >have to watch autistic movies >less time for yourself/bros
>>560177771 Entirely depends on what your life is currently like. Are you boring? Do you hate being alone? Do you spend most of your day not enjoying yourself? Getting a gf will probably be a step up for you.
Conversely, are you outgoing? Do you easily get attention when you want it? Do you spend your day having fun and generally enjoying yourself? A gf will probably be a major drag.
The thing about girlfriends is finding one that isn't going to rape you for your time and resources is difficult. It's just biology - if you're not with them, you might be with someone else. If you're with someone else, you might be humping them or giving them your stuff, and they can't have that because caveman instinct and shit.
It progressively gets worse (in most cases, not all) as time goes on. You get married and she stops being the fun gf you had laughs and good times with, and switches roles to being "wife". "Wife" generally tries to run the household and puts you to work. Some of the work will be bullshit and "wife" will get angry that you question her logic.
Then eventually you have kids, biology kicks in again, and "wife" transforms to "mom." Prepare to be treated like a child again. "Mom" has trouble identifying who the adults are in the household and elects to treat everyone as children instead. She will talk down to you, give you instructions like you're mentally handicapped, try to prevent you from doing anything remotely dangerous, try to manage your time for you, etc. Also, unless she's a pedophile, she won't have sex with you anymore either. At that point, you have two options: divorce, or you can try to tough it out and hope that as the kids grow older, she returns to her senses and goes back to being "wife". She can never return to the role of "gf".
I think most the people in here complaining have been with someone they weren't compatible with. Try dating a really cool woman with a real cool family who's willing to keep a job and start a family with you, then see how great it can be.
>>560177771 A few moths of good sex, laughter, butterflies and smiles.
Then... >Why didn't you call me when you left your house and when you arrived at work and during lunch time and when you left? >Who's that bitch? >You are not the same guy >Come to my cousin's sister's granma's brother wedding >Are you gonna wear that? etc
It feels good because you have someone to make out with and fuck for all your basic human needs. But then it's like.. Damn woman i need my space go away. It's for those who need drama in their life or have their shit together.
It varies from person to person but it does have a lot to do with the person that you're dating. It can be a real drag or it can be the best shit ever but it has it's perks regardless like a human meat shield if they're fugly enough or a super duper sex machine. Sometimes even both
A thing that I truly don't understand is that everybody speaks of gf and wives like such a bottomless pit of money... I mean: I have a gf, I have a work, she has a work, and more or less all the common expenses are fifty/fifty, she doesn't ask continuosly for gifts, she doesn't whine about scarcity of cash, she is a nice person that understands when I (or she) don't want to waste money... and for my friends and relatives is pretty much the same... I don't know guys and I'm sorry if your girl blow off all of your money...
>>560181052 Hahah sucker.. Fret not, it gets mildly better. Wife will continue her perpetual slide into assholedom, but if you aren't a total cunt to your kid, they start getting interesting around the 2.5-3 year mark. You can take them places in your spare time and they tell you all sorts of wild stories. They look up to you, and thus never question or judge you.
so much this: sex with a person that you love is way more superior than the casual one... I mean, I enjoy a good sex (when the girl isn't a disaster, like teeth on dick, I can't deal with this kind of shit) everytime, but complicity and play on known field are important factors
>>560181253 >Gf says she's going out with friends. >Comes home late a bit drunk. >Gives you a kiss >Get the same taste you get when you've kissed her after cumming in her mouth. >Well, it ain't your cum you're tasting
Most humiliating feeling ever. Fuck her from behind then never talk to her again. That's the only way to save face.
>>560181264 Depends on the girl. Some blow your cash on themselves, some simply prevent you from using it on yourself. You'll occasionally come across one that's decent, but in my limited experience (6 girlfriends, married 6th, been married for 7 years, 2 kids), most will try to control your resources.
example: All but one of my prior gfs insisted on paying for themselves anytime we went out, but at the same time shot my scowls and frowns when I'd make some sort of major purchase. Wife was the most normal about it, but quickly changed her tune after we got married. "Oh you want this oculus dev kit thing? Absolutely not. I don't care how much it is, you're wasting our money. Nevermind that you're an engineer and can easily afford it."
Everyone that sits too long in a relationship eventually ends up like me - angry and with four spiteful dev kits in the mail.
well...at least if you came home saying "hey hon, I bought a new 3000$ pc because the one I purchased three months ago went out of date and I must play this new 80$ vidya" and she's angry at you it's not such bad thing, if she prevent you to waste your wealth badly... and in such situation that's you that blow off money... clearly this is true if she's a reasonable person and not your personal angry and unstable banker
>>560177771 Holy shit it's annoying. The only good thing is the regular sex, but other than that it's just plain unbearable. You can't flirt with other women because you have to take your gf to every party, most women don't like it that much when you take drugs so say goodbye to all those nice raves on pills or blotters. And getting blackout drunk? Say goodbye to that, too, because she'll want you to stay relatively sober.
It starts off great, you are used to being alone and just having another soul with you always brightens your day, you do anything you can for her and maybe she does the same. Eventually you become best friends and do alot of interests together, you on the inside, dont really care what it is, as long as you're with her you're happy.
Then as months move on, the arguing kicks up. You fight and fight and fight with the one you love and see as a friend in a horrible world. You make up for it, of course, but in your mind you arnt truly okay about it because you know another fight is right around the corner over something stupid.
You loose trust in her, you always get paranoid when she is texting her friends who you know have a better chance with her, because you're lucky you got her in the first place.
And then theres the limbo, you guys hangout, and it's a 50/50 chance is gonna go good, or fight. Then you cringe at the thought of leaving her. You stood by eachother for so long, and you're afraid to admit that it's over.
How do you know when it's over? When you're more in love with the Memories than the person standing right infront of you.
Having a gf is both absolutely amazing and absolutely shit at the same time. But look at it this way, the amazing times are well worth the shit times, assuming you have a nice gf. I've been with mine 2 years now and I'm only 18, now call me young and foolish all you like, but seriously, my relationship is just great, we argue a lot over text but that's just what this generation is like, but in person, I just can't get enough of her, she is my everything, I love her to bits and wouldn't change anything about her, I can seriously see myself with her for the long haul. She also likes to swallow.
>>560183296 That's not the situation at all. The last time I bought a computer was 2010, and I paid $1600 to build it. The only other major purchases I've had since then are wife's car ($26k, which she didn't complain about), and an oculus dev kit ($350, which she did). It's not about the money, it's just about a need to control resources. It's a biological urge - if they control the resources of the household, you're less likely to leave and hump other chicks. If you control the resources, there isn't much preventing you from running away with a boner (obviously these days there are legal implications to doing this - I'm speaking generally; think caveman times).
Even if your $3k-computer-every-few-months example were true, who gives a shit? If I have $3k of disposable income (which is actually not hard to obtain later in life, mid-career) that I worked for, what right does she have to prevent me from enjoying an expensive hobby?
>>560181264 My gf actually doesn't like me spending money on her, she tends to do the spending and tells me to shut up when I offer, there have only been about 4 occasions in 2 whole years where I've been the one to treat her to a day out rather than her doing it for me, excluding birthdays and such cause they're a given.
Feels sketchy to have a girlfriend. Great as fuck at first, but it quickly fades. Once she's over the infatuation stage with you, it's pretty much a paranoid fucking mess until you manage to get her to marry you, or she fucks some nigger behind your back.
Or the worst case scenario: You marry her, she fucks a nigger, you raise niggers kid.
in between houses and live with girlsfriends family atm and shes fuckin perfect been together 2 years but keep lusting for her younger sister, feels so fucked and i dont think it wouldve happened if i didnt live here but man i need some advice, apparently it happens more often than you'd think with sister in laws but i dont want
it's alright. this is just my situation though. I can fuck her whenever I want (she's totally submissive to me and if I want a blowjob I'll get it no questions asked), her family is pretty ok, we have good conversation and I don't feel judged when I talk to her I feel totally free to express myself. Right now though she's pretty fat, she wants to get married and have kids, this is my first girlfriend whom I've dated for 5 years btw. I told her last week that I would break up with her if she didn't lose weight, so she agreed. It's just that she's been fat for our entire relationship but true love only goes so far, I love her and I don't really want to break up with her but I also don't want a fat girlfriend.
>>560185047 don't you dare get that bitch or ESPECIALLY don't get married. She'll go from "pretty fat" to "fucking landwhale mongloid" within 12mo. And she will never lose weight. never. It will only come on in small amounts, only to be gained back with an extra pound or two.
different story, sorry... I also have a pair of hobbies, and one of them is kind of private...don't get me wrong, nothing immoral nor illegal, it's only an expensive kind of modeling, and I keep private (I have my own room, bank account only for that and shit like this) just because I do not want anyone to decide for me
>>560185279 that's what I told her. I told her I wasn't sure if I should break up with her or not because I knew she wouldn't lose the weight. But she cried her eyes out and gave a pretty convincing speech about how she would stop being fat so I figured I'd give it a bit more time and see if she does anything.
I know for sure I'm not gonna marry her unless she loses the weight and keeps it off.
>>560185649 you married her after you thought you were into her sister? for me this is the only problem that I have in my relationship and im feeling pretty fuckin horrible about it, the biggest headfuck is that if it came down to it i probably wouldnt wanna fuck her anyway but i just cant get the thoughts outta my head
>>560185948 Exactly. Look at your gf's parents. If she's thin and they are both fatties, LOOK OUT her metabolism is going to change virtually within 24hrs after you marry her or get preggo and she'll be a fuck fucking whale within 24mo.
>>560185948 her sister is an in-shape 8/10. her parents are both fat. my girlfriend would honestly be a 9/10 if she lost weight, she is so fucking cute in the face it's really a shame.
I doubt she's gonna lose weight, but I don't really care. I'm 20, I'm not really interested in having a girlfriend, I'm ok with just fucking my fat girlfriend while she's losing weight. She said she's gonna be down 15 lbs by the next time I see her (1 month, visiting parents for summer). If she doesn't get to where I want her to be in 6 months, I'll probably break up with her, I'm not really losing anything by staying with her, she's nice to be around, she gives me sex, she's awesome. She's just fat, that's my only problem. I'm just tired of her being fat now. That's it.
Just started dating this girl(first gf ever) and at first I thought it's bad that she doesn't look that interested into me but then I realized if I'm going to date someone long term than she should better act like that because I seriously don't want to spend 24/7 being with girlfriend since we both need some free time on our own. Looks like in my first try I already got perfect gf.
>>560186380 Just telling it how it is. I got married at 29, after dating since about 24. First five years were awesome.
It's not all bad. If you have kids and aren't an asshole to them, they're usually fun to be around. If you have a good job, you can spend half of your week doing something you like. Once the kids start getting older (around age 4), you start gaining a lot more of your free time back. Most importantly, you naturally learn to tune the wife out when she's bitching about something. Sounds like a dick move, but the bitching happens a lot more after you have kids. It's just a symptom of her seeing you as a big stupid child and you not behaving according to her expectations. It's almost like a crossed wire in the brain somewhere, and it's not just local to my own wife, most of my coworkers that have children report the same thing.
In short, you learn to enjoy the good and ignore the bad.
this, freaking this me also buddy, me also... feels very good, don't it? next week we are going in vacation with the money we've saved and it'll be awesome, she's nice with me, doesn't look after me every second, and I cannot wait the moment my balls will be on the beach
>>560187108 The problem is she's got the only personality that I could ever really live with, she gets my humor, she's chill, only emotional when stupid family shit happens, loves anal. So she has that going for her.
She is genuinely disgusted with herself for gaining that much weight. Most of it was the pregnancy. She stopped smoking and took up fucking chocolate bars instead.
>>560187310 for me personally, she's extremely cute, I fucking love her face. I feel like if she lost weight I will have scored BIG time. It's really a shame, one part of me just wants to end it, the other wants to stick around and see if she loses weight because if she does lose weight and I break up with her before she does it, I feel like I would have lost a really hot gf.
>>560178239 I hear ya brother, mine put on weight, always wants to talk on the phone every god damn spare minute of my time, clingy and jelous of every fucking girl I talk/hangout with, gets pissy when I want to spend time with my best friend(guy), incredibly sensitive, if I dont respond to her within nanoseconds she thinks she did something wrong buuuut, she is loosing weights now, doing squats, has DD tits, is pretty smart, and quite submissivee in the bedroom so its a balance of things, it will never feels be perfect OP and if it does then its a lie.
If you are one of the 0.01% who get a gf that is truly one of the most caring and closest people in your lives, wholly compatible both physically and mentally, you achieve greatness. In short, having a real gf is having a best friend who you also fuck with passion, sans any awkwardness. It really is the simplest I can put in terms for you, anon.
>>560188416 That's the thing. You gotta question whether she loves you if she gains so much weight. That is very unhealthy and it is an indicator she doesn't really love herself. How can she love you if she doesn't even love herself? You know what I'm saying?
>>560190542 what about being black? its on their dna, is it their fucking fault? why being fat is wrong? because society made it that way, you know, everyone should be free to be fat or skinny or whatever, without judgement, that is the real freedom
>>560177771 I never had a girlfriend and probably never will I'm antisocial as fuck, i hate spending time with people. though people seem to like me. I had some ugly girls after me. but don't want them. Atm I don't want a GF unless she has my personality, So a girl with ADD Good luck finding one of those
>>560190885 >comparing the color you are born with to your weight being fat is wrong because it is unhealthy. look at the pictures of auschwitz. seeing any fat people there? no. because they didn't eat anything and were working all day.
after that it's routine. then when you move in together it's like chilling with your best friend but you also fuck. but you also don't want to spend all your free time with just one person so keep in touch with your friends.
>>560179937 a part of you wants a return to the "gf" but another does not. who wants that drama? women are different and lasting relationships take work.
sex and romance WILL NOT be the same forever and it's not supposed to. you develop a kind of love that transcends your boner. the person becomes your partner and you have their best interests in mind even when they're not around like they would do for you.
sex does go down and after you've tagged the same pussy 1000000 times you might want to try new things or see a relationship counselor if you're desperate and don't know how to keep things going for yourselves.
i'm in a 6 year relationship, the reason i dont seek any attention at other woman is because its gonna end up in the same shit. this girl does everything for me anyway, so there is no point in leaving her and starting all over. anyway, she's gonna leave me anytime soon because i never give in.
It is amazing op. It is like sex 24/7, and only good quality work stories. And you get to find out how clean women really are. So clean such an orderly bathroom and make up area. Turns out modern women are also phenomenal cooks. Brace yourself for some delicious oven baked tombstone pizza or a box of delicious mac and cheese. Such a joy life becomes so much joy.
Until she inevitably cheats on you because you didn't give her enough attention and then make it seem like your fault so she can guilt trip the shit out of you and take all your money and your life energy.
>>560192417 I hope this is sarcasm. >It gets boring >You start wanting for other women >You both let yourself get fat because there's no one to impress anymore >Women are slobs too >Women cook just as poorly as men >You have sex like once a week, and not even because 'she has a headache' or something. You just don't feel like putting in the effort.
Most relationships turn into suffering in silence you keep them around just because it's easier than faking your way into a new relationship if your relationship doesn't eventually turn into this then good on you but from what I've seen and read here almost everyone begins to get sick of them after a while and it turns into misery
>>560193675 There is a point when, yes, you will get tired of your current partner and want something new. It happens in every relationship. The trick is, gutting it out and finding something new to keep yourselves interested in one another. For my wife and I, about 5 yr mark, I introduced her to D&D. It was exciting for her, new, she got mad the first couple times her character died.. but hey.. it's how it goes. Point is, she and I have something fun we do once every couple weeks and it's brought us closer together.
>>560194161 That's a really good idea if you can find something that highly interests you both then all the better some people can't find that common interest though and it sucks for them I would imagine
Shit man, I introduced her to FPS's recently (Halo, Perfect Dark, GoldenEye) and she found the joy that is Sniping. She has gone online and rekt people with a rifle. I came home yesterday, she was taking this one guy and yelling into the mic "I'm comin for that ass.. I'mma make you my bitch.." ...God I love her.
>All but one of my prior gfs insisted on paying for themselves anytime we went out, but at the same time shot my scowls and frowns when I'd make some sort of major purchase.
fucking this...the only reason they do anything nice, like paying for themselves, is because they think it will give them a solid reason for demanding something else, in this case a say in how money is spent.
This is why I will never get married. Eventually nothing is ever fucking good enough, and they know that ending the relationship will be disastrous for you legally and financially, and they know this gives them carte blanche to do and say whatever the fuck they want.
$26,000 on her fucking car, but $350 for some Oculus shit is outrageous?
>>560177771 Navy fag here. You really want to know? >No money >"Free" pussy >Stress >Menstral Monster(Once a month if she's not on some fucked up super bleed shit) >Her family >Your family >Her friends(Mostly awful) >Your friends(If she's pretty never trust them) >Jody boy(Only technically applies to military)
Getting married is probably the fucking dumbest, most beta move you can make these days.
Of course I guess having kids isn't far behind. Women can choose to end a relationship at any time, against your will, and pretty much use the State to strong-arm you into paying exorbitant child support.
And they think fags and lesbos are what's destroying marriage...lol.
>>560177771 It was great, right up until she died. I suppose the best feeling in the world for me, was holding her hand while we drove around on pointless drives. Just to get out. You know the kind, shut the cellphones off, pick a direction, chase the sunset. It's a tough life living without her now, without those warm fingers intertwined with mine.
Having a girlfriend, fiancee, or wife, is simply the sensation of being completed. It's that 1% you always knew was missing. That last piece of the puzzle. Everything becomes clear at the sound of her giggle.
Ahh, I gotta go drink these feels away. Cheers, brother. I hope you wife her, and never take for granted every smile, giggle, or joyful sigh.
>>560196957 What I get from my wife far exceeds the lack of swallowing. She plays vidya, D&D, doesn't bitch when I get a new game, bought me a 40 inch statue of Darth Vader last Xmas.. I mean.. yeah. Wife is win.
Amazing, but sometimes you don't appreciate the time you have together enough. I didn't realize that until it was over. She was going to move to another city to study. We all knew that was coming. We had a great year, and wanted it to work out, but it was certain that either we would try out a long distance relationship, or we would break up. She was depressed and stressed out so much of the time because of her studies, but I stood up for her and helped her on her feet. Then when she finally got her A's and it was certain she was going to move, she came to me and told me she didn't have feelings for me anymore. >tfw I see pictures of her with her friends, she's having the time of her life fuck it man. This summer vacation has been my worst vacation ever. I'm coping with my feelings so bad I've become self destructive.
tl;dr amazing, but when it's over it's a fucking never-ending depression
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