>know girl since kindergarten
>shes my best friend/"girlfriend"
>switch schools halfway during first grade
>still hang out with her up until about 4th grade outside of school
>we're still really close
>always talking about how were gonna get married and what our kids will be named etc
>one time we hid in my moms closet for three hours so she wouldnt have to go home
>theyre some of the sweetest memories i have growing up
>anyways we lose contact for a while after that
>fast forward to a couple months ago
>my mom throws me a surprise party for my 18th birthday
>a lot of my friends from elementary/middle school are there
>guess who shows up
>she looks absolutely beautiful
>since i stopped talking to her i developed all this society anxiety/awkwardness when talking to people
>that plus the shock of the surprise stops me from talking to most of the people there aside from hellos
>the party goes on and everything goes fine aside from some small embarrassing things(unrelated)
>when her and her friend come to say goodbye she says that it was really nice to see me, but in a way that i could tell she really meant it
>add her on facebook
>have no idea what to do now
She's grown up to be a good well-adjusted member of society and I can barely get two sentences out. I feel like if the star would have aligned differently then maybe we would've been together. Is there anything I can do to get to know her again? I would ask her to dinner or something but I don't know if she would want that.
quit being a bitch what's the worst that could happen? you stop talking to a girl YOU HAVEN'T TALKED TO IN FOREVER?
beta virgin forever
Mine got away, bro. Don't let it happen to you.
It's too late bro.
I would say "go and make her your gf" but I think it's not possible anymore.
Years between 9 and 18 are the most important in the development of someone's feelings, attitude, interactions with the others and also are the most vivid memories someone has.
Most of the people just forget almost completely years between 4 and 9 (and obviously don't remember shit of what happened before).
She can't probably be with you anymore, but at this point, go talk to her. Approach them, break the ice and then tell them your problems.
She can help you being more normal and at the same time more like what she thinks you should be.
Get close to her. And who know, maybe one day...
Op, you have LITERALLY the perfect excuse to take her out gor a drink and dinner and shit here let me help you out "hi (insert name here), it was amazing to see you again and I was hoping we could catch up, say, a dinner and drinks?" If she says shit about drinking underage blah blah, just go with "that's cool, look at you all grown up and responsible" she doesn't remember who you were, you have a shot at being someone less... you.
Some additional story:
I waited half a year and did nothing with a girl. Well, I can't really say I did nothing, but I did the things too slowly, even the girl didn't get that I had feelings for her. And when finally I started serious moves, she friendzoned me and started going out with another guy. To make things worse, later I found out that in the beginning she also liked me, but despite her efforts, "nothing happened". So I can only say the sooner the better.
tl;dr GO BITCH GO
He's trying to reconnect, not fuck on the first date.
Try sus out the situation, hell for all you know she could be lined up for proposal and shit. Dont try sleep with her straight off the bat. Youll come off looking like a douchebag and desperate.
>>being this much of a fucking pussy.
Heartbreak goes away with time.
Regrets are for life.
I sent this like 10 minutes ago and she still hasn't responded. I don't know what to do. How do I mend this?
ok op listen up. girls are nothing to be afraid of. theyre like wild coyotes. theyre more scared of you than you are of them. be a fucking man. youre the master of your fuckign domain.
you walk right up to her and say how great it was to see her at that party and how it brought back alot of awesome feelings from childhood that have translated into adult feelings of romance. just say you want to go out with her and if she says she doesnt share these feelings just say youre offering her a chance to feel the same way. that she should at least be open minded. after that be a gentleman of course
remember. confidence. fake it if you need to.
>I mean not like a date unless you want it to be
>I have condoms
DEAR GOD WHAT THE FUCK AM I READING
It would be perfect without the last two sentences.
I don't have facebook account, so I don't know if you can delete it, but if yes, do it now.
>>558177956 was right. Now just wait. This last sentence was a huge mistake, anything more would be worse now. Sorry, dude, now you have a low chance. But not 0. Just wait for her reply. And don't forget to send it to us.
>she doesn't even remember
you don fucked up now
Say this: "Lol player how many birthday boys named sam did you mack it to in the last few months"
WAIT AT LEAST 20 MINUTES BEFORE REPLYING. Don't seem beta. You're on text so the game is easy.
You would be the same person with pretty much the same personality. Don't try and blame it on something else, it's YOUR fault you're an awkward fuck.
Make the best of it. Force yourself out of your shell. If you want, you can start with her, tho there's no guarantee that she'll be interested in any way. Find a hobby, find other people with the same hobby, meet up sometimes, have fun.
Let things pick up from that point and you'll be fine.
You fucked up lmao, just when I thought yall fags can't get anymore autistic
FUCKING PIECE OF SHIT OP CRAP YOU FUCKED EVERYTHING UP
HOW COULD YOU BE SO STUPID CHRIST YOU DONT ACTUALLY LISTEN TO /b/, 3/4 OF PEOPLE HERE DONT KNOW SHIT ABOUT LIFE
I'm outta here
>It's me Sam, you childhood best friend.
>Don't you remember me?
>The best memories of my life are from
> the time we spent together.
>I know we lost touch and we haven't seen
>each other for a while.
>I missed you. I missed you because I love you.
>When I saw you at my birthday party I was speechless
>You are so beautiful and intelligent.
>I should have told you this then but I didn't have the courage.
>I want to tell you that we should be together.
>I'm a very nice guy and I think I deserve you >after all these years.
>Please, I beg you. Will you go to dinner with me?
Whatever. I have nothing to lose now anyways.
First version: he's a troll, so pay no attention.
Second version: he isn't a troll, they're friends on facebook, and she thinks some other guy amused himself with this fucked up message. In this version, apologize and say someone fucked with you, and ask her out. Not for dinner, because "the other guy" said that.
Third version: he added her, but she hasn't confirmed yet. In this version, OP will have a hard time when she confirms.
So this is good right? I'm so pumped right now, I can't believe I pulled it off.
This is >>558179737 reporting. This isn't a beta text. It implies that she is the one chasing him. And the fact that she ignored his request for a date shows she's not ready to be that serious yet. By texting that, the pressure will be taken off her and she'll be more receptive to talk, since it's less serious. Add me op, I can't post here since I'm on my phone with no wifi
wait for it...
"You are a good friend"
Get into her room and dash for the panties, that's all you are ever going to get.
of course she's not ready to be serious they havent talked in fucking years, he shouldnt be starting out with arranging something at all, talking over facebook first then you arrange someting way too autist to be trying this hard
>"So this is good right"
The fuck do you think lol. It's great, I'm happy for you OP and I wish you all the best, please don't blow it, I've grown tired of seeing fails it's just depressing these days.
Okay you got the meet.
Now for the next stage.
Treat her like you would a buddy, or your bratty little sister.
Don't put her up on a pedestal.
The more you treat her like a buddy (think of the way your buddies make fun of each other) and tease her. The more she will want you.
Alright how do I seal this? What kind of restaurant do I suggest? Do I bring the condoms anyway? Do I tell her I'm bringing them? I want to be her friend but I also want her to know I'm willing to go beyond that.
you're talking in terms that if they go out on a date fast and she gets to know him she will like him, we've seen how shit he is at knowing what to say over facebook where you have hours to reply, in real life he is going to friendzone himself without a doubt
OP add my burner and I'll give you specifics to do on what to make her want you. In case you don't:
- take condoms but don't tell her you did
- give her a restaurant (choose one close to your house)
- go in the evening
- sit next to, not opposite her.
Too lazy to type out the rest here. Good luck.
About the condoms:
It would be good if you brought, but she mustn't know. Start it as a dinner between friends (but of course, anything can happen). Some men always have condoms with themselves everyday, so it isn't a problem. But don't say a fucking word about them (unless you need them right now).
Listen to >>558185140
Just act like she's any other person. Because she is. Suggest something you would like. You have blown her up in your mind and she might not be that person. Be cool, expect a friend and if something happens it happens.
Dear fucking god this girl is a darling.
About the dinner:
You meet her first after some years, so don't start it as a date, and don't be sad if it doesn't turn into a date. Organize the place and the time as a friendly meeting. So no fucking expensive restaurant, no elegant clothing, just some casual shit. But you had better say she's looking good in her clothes when you meet - she'll be glad to hear that.
I don't have money for the place she mentioned(one of the best places in town) and I dunno if she'd like coming over to my house. What's a good medium?
About the topics:
Casual. How is she going, what happened with her in these years while you lived separated, etc. Let yourself with the flow and relax. You can talk with her about a next meeting, but only in connection with something (e.g. you'll go to some program soon and you think she also would be interested in, then first talk about the program, DON'T MENTION the invitation first, and if she shows interest, you can invite her).
>>mfw OP is actually pulling this off
Nigga I'mma tell you this up front.. this girl is an adorable saint to have taken this in stride.
You already don't deserve her. Godspeed.
Nigger just act natural. If you and her where so close that attraction will return if you continue you be yourself. You spaghetti when you try hard. An realize that you sould not get attached she has her own feelings and it takes two to have a relationship. If she rejects you move on. More to gain than lose.
Okay. I thinking about doing something different. We used to go to Chuck-E-Cheese ALL the time as kids. If we went back there maybe it would be nostalgic? I know it's usually a kids place but they have some arcade machines too and those are fun. It's stupid I know I just want to remind her of our past together.
It's someone he already knows, not a random person from a dating site or off the street. Only problem would be his family if they are going to be intrusive; but they already know her also.
Why do I feel like the only one who can tell this shit is beyond fucking fake?
Seriously, creds to OP for baiting these fucking retards.
fucking get over her man. shes probably a completely different person and I strongly doubt you will automatically become alpha for a date. You're just going to embarrass yourself and be left with horrible memories which will further contribute to your anxiety.
My advice, hook up with other girls even if you have to start at ugly's till you have confidence and if your still obsessed with your fairytale then you can hit her up. either way goodluck
The problem isn't with her: I'm afraid OP could take an unfair advantage of his position (it's his place, and he can become too bold), although he isn't planning that, but somehow losts the control and gets carried away...
Do that. You can use the arcades as an excuse to touch her (if there is a time crisis machine you could help her aim). Then you could start talking about kindergarten and the stuff you caught on with her. Talk only about memories that include her. Good thinking. Nice one.
Damn my ID keeps changing. Screw this phone.
Hm, I don't know.
A nostalgic place would be a good idea. But for kids only...if you were two divorced parents and each have 1 kid from the previous marrige, it would be a perfect reunion.
Anyway, nice starting point.
Guess he could be like this guy earlier.........
I know. I realized how fucking stupid that sounded right after I posted it. Let me say the school we went to was a Catholic school so she might be kind of a prude. I'm not sure. If we see a movie first would it be easier to make a move then?
Well, you had something again.
Another possible line you can think about:
casual (non-date like) dinner -> accidentally talking about films -> how about watching something together?
this chick looks cool u lucky bastard! invite her to ur house since u dont deal well with allot of people and u can eat pizza watch a movie and just have a good time again! ;)
But if first watch something together, don't have it as the only program, because you'll meet because you would like to see each other.
(oh, as I become more tired, my English also becomes worse)
It isn't even a date...at least it doesn't start as a date...
But of course you're right. If they only watched something different from each other, and don't talk a word for more than an hour, then why would have they met?