I'm in the process of being kicked out because I'm gay by my mother. I have a large apple snail and a hoplo (10cm long) in a 54 liter (14 gallon) tank. I'd hate to leave them behind because I'm sure she wouldn't take care of them and she'd let them die. My plans currently are to move in with my faternal aunt, but the tank is too heavy to move, obviously, even drained, and I'm not even sure she'll even take me, let alone me and a fucking aquarium. So yeah...
Anyway, what's the bare minimum a hoplo and an apple snail needs in order to survive? I can probably get a large bucket maybe a plastic basin, and I'll take the heater and internal filter with me, but i'm worried it's just not enough. Can anyone give me some advice? How long would they be able to survive in a place like that?
Why is a drained 14 gallon too heavy to move? I moved a 20 gal when I was a 100 lbs pregnant bitch. If I could do it, any healthy adult with working limbs can.
Her letting you take it is an issue, but c'mon, you can move that tank.
>Why is a drained 14 gallon too heavy to move?
this one is. I don't have a car or anything to move with anon. it's just me, one or two luggages, a backpack, and a laptop. She'll be home by 10-11AM, I will barely have time to pack my shit up and gtfo before then. And like I mentioned, I'm not even sure my aunt will take me. I'll just show up at her door tomorow unannounced, it's entirely possible she'll say she won't take me in.
>I have a large apple snail and a hoplo (10cm long) in a 54 liter (14 gallon) tank. I'd hate to leave them behind because I'm sure she wouldn't take care of them and she'd let them die. My plans currently are to move in with my faternal aunt, but the tank is too heavy to move, obviously, even drained,
>14 gallon tank
>too heavy to move while empty
Homeboy unless you're completely paralyzed or a double arm amputee you should be able to move a 14 gallon empty tank.
Well if I were you I would get a job ASAP before your possibly homeless without clean clothes. It'll will be a billion times harder to get a job if things turn for the worse, and hope you make it through alright. Sorry your moms an unaccepting cunt.
Can't you just lie for a while until you organized a new place and help? Tell them you're sorry and you'll try to change it or something.
To take the risk ending up under a bridge with a fishtank isn't wise.
>anyone would be much more likely to say no over the phone then turn their own flesh and blood away from the door
If they'd say no over the phone then they don't want you there and if you show up at the door unannounced because you know they'd say no if you asked over the phone, you're engaging in emotional blackmail, essentially.
I've been thinking a lot about that actually, whether to call first or not. I think I will, just to check whether my aunt is home and awake though, I won't ask the big question through it.
>turn their own flesh and blood away from the door
yeah, that's kinda my issue. I'm adopted. Technically I'm anything but my aunt's flesh and blood. I think that's why my mother is so eager to kick me out in part. She never loved me as much as my father.
While he was still alive, he told me I'd always have a place to call home. But he died last year, and she inherited the house. I knew that this day might come eventually, when I'll have to move, because he's no longer around. I just never expected it to be this...soon. Or for it to be this scary.
just how long do you plan to be staying with your aunt?
ill be pretty pissed if not only i had to house you for an indefinite amount of time, but youre lugging an aquarium with you as well.
I don't have any advice except what anons have said. Leave the pets behind and if you get a place go back for them.
they'll live longer in their tank than anything you can do. They may die. It's not your greatest concern at the moment.
Good luck, I'm sorry this is happening to you. I survived something similar, but I did end up being homeless for a few months. It'll work out.
Sorry to hear about your father, that blows man. I would still show up unannounced though, I wouldn't call beforehand if that's what your planning though, otherwise it seems more forced, as opposed to just showing up at their door. Are there no friends that you can stay with anywhere?
A couple of months maybe. Just until I get my degree from college. Hopefully I'll be able to find a job too. I speak English well, I think. That could be an asset.
>Are you a bear?
Sorry, nope. Also I kinda live in eastern europe, not the US.
Oh no, I couldn't possibly accept anything like that! I appreciate the offer, really, but I feel humiliated to ask for help from my own aunt, I just can't accept money from people I don't know, you understand.
> Are there no friends that you can stay with anywhere?
I have an ex-best friend with her own house. But she has a fiancé, so I'd feel out of place there. As a last resort I'll go there, but I'm hoping my aunt will take me.
Anyway, thanks for all the help guys, I'm heading to bed now. Hopefully tomorrow everything will turn out okay.
So "growing up" means that the animals you adopted were actually toys all along?
I'm glad I'm against petkeeping to be honest. The more I lurk this board the more I realize how shitty it is.
>no, it means making hard choices.
And that's why people shouldn't keep pets. Because sometimes the "hard choice" means abandoning the animal you took in.
I'll remember this next time a "pet person" brings up "responsible pet ownership". There's pretty much no such thing. Deep down, 99% of people see their pets are accessories or toys, and if you think otherwise, you're just a "widdle babby" who needs to "grow up".
This is why I don't support the pet industry.