So, my current gf confessed me last night she has been with a black guy before me. A black guy i also happen to know, he works as a pilot (so not exactly a trashy hood rat), 5 years older than she is, bald and a big guy. Can't believe i even met that guy during a masked party one month ago, and he seemed so cool and friendly, like he totally didn't bang my girlfriend just 6 months before
I mean, i know it shouldn't be a problem and whatnot, but i just can't wrap my mind about it, and i can't get why she hid such a thing to me. Ofc, we had a big argument about it, things got heated fast, told her to get out of my house, she stormed out and now we are in this sort of "not together" limbo. For now. No phone calls from her so far, no messages, nothing. Just her bald cousin calling me more or less one hr ago to tell me that i am a "Little racist white guy" and yelling various obscenities regarding penis size. I hung up on him after less than 15 seconds btw. I am literally paralyzed, i don't wanna lose her, but now it's obvious we have a trust issue. The whole thing is extremely painful for me since i always expect a lot of loyalty from my relationships.
>Tl;dr: Current gf dated a black guy before me. I love her so much but i don't know if i can keep her after what she has done. Wat do?
You don't deserve her. You are acting completely irrational. How does your GF's previous BF matter to you in any way? Even less, how does his race matter? Maybe you swallowed /pol/s retarded propaganda? Either way just leave her alone, she's much better off without you.
No, i don't go on /pol/ and i am not racist. I am just aware of the fact of the crime stats/incarceration rates/stds rates among black people. Which is why i am wary. No need to be hysterical here.
>I'm aware of crime statistics regarding black people
>he's a highly trained individual
You know hose crimes are 99% committed by the black people at the OTHER end of the social spectrum from this dude, right?
I'm like 99% sure this is bait. But, if it's not.
Who cares if her ex has a criminal record?
Get tested for STDs. That's it. It's a good habit to do it regularly, or at least every time you start having sex regularly with a new partner.
Being qualified and committing crimes are two different things. And i already told you this is not the point, it's about her hiding this from me. I have been completely honest about my past relationships. I am afraid that she might be still seeing him behind my back.
But i realize now this is not the time for fear.
Only protected sex so far, i'm not stupid. Why, do you get AIDS first, and get tested then? lmao
> The whole thing is extremely painful for me since i always expect a lot of loyalty from my relationships.
fucking kek that's an ironic statement, seeing as YOU betrayed HER
Why is it a problem if she didn't tell you about him?
I never talk about the other guys I dated with my boyfriend. It's not his business.
If he wants to tell me about their past experiences is fine, but my past is my past and I won't tell him about it.
>I am afraid that she might be still seeing him behind my back.
For what reason? Did she do something that made you think so?
What the hell, do you think real life relationships are like the ones in a movie? It's not about compatibility, because we obviously love each other, it's about trust. Cool down your head before posting
It doesn't matter who he is, what matters is our plans for the future. And trust plays a big part in this, since we both have steady jobs (i have a govt job that forces me to travel a lot) and we were already talking about something longer term. Was it a teenage story, i would have barely cared
I am sure you understand my position
I don't understand, I'm sorry.
Your plans for the future depend on who she fucked before you?
She did absolutely nothing wrong by not telling you who she dated before you. She didn't cheat, she didn't lie, she just didn't tell you about something which is PERFECTLY natural in every healthy relationship.
If you don't trust her, leave her. If she gave you some reason to think she isn't trustworthy or she was cheating on you, I'd be the first to say "don't trust her, you're right" but honestly you're just insane.
Please, come back when you are old enough to understand how real life interactions between adults wanting to settle down work.
Divorce rates are already high enough, i am not taking any chances. Especially when she has made no attempt to clarify her relationships with the lovely guy with the mask i had met one month before, despite being confronted with it
And i am not insane, she is free to return with the big guy whenever she wants. As long as she understands that our relationship would be incompatible with that event.
I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years, he still doesn't know who I dated before him and I don't know who he dated before me. All I care about is that he's with me, he's faithful and he's happy.
What should clarify? If she's in a relationship with you, it is given that she doesn't have sex with someone else, and you've been an asshole even just implying that.
>repeated big guy references
>now is not the time for fear
>wears a mask
>concerned that she might still be seeing him behind his back
was getting caught part of your plan?
Ask again, then. Calmer environmenr. Stop saying "this didn't work out because x," and figure out how to make the conversation happen rationally. Calm her down if she gets angry. Stop being a baby with a baby. Meet up with her in a public place, apologize (i dont care if you dont want to, its the smart decision), and express that you felt betrayed that she kept a specific partner from you. garner sympathy, do not demand answers.
Good for you. All the best with your future short lived marriage
No need to be rude friend
Sounds reasonable. But then again, the bald redhead cousin yelling racist obscenities against whites didn't help
Literal morons. If you need any help OP I'm going spelunking under the city with my friend Maimen. If you have any questions I'll be glad to help when I get back. Do you have any tips about darkness by the way? I only adopted it recently and was wondering if you have any experience with it?
Repeating memes is not helping your case friendo
Very rude, but yet again this is 4chan. And he isn't called Jamal
>being this mad
Maybe because i make 300k per year and the world is full of sluts who want to take them and crash my life
Nah, i'm more of a plane man, much like the big guy whose thread is about. The diffence being that i don't fly so good. Never been underground because of claustrophobia
But yes please, i would be very curious. And to get a little bit poetic, every man is born in the darkness and to some extent, is moulded by it.
>tfw making 30k and got chicks all over the city and this dude making ten times gets nothing
>inb4 b-but I want to settle down, kek, I did settle down, she just finds my sexual prowess with other women turns her on even more (she's bi anyways)
>back to le /pol/ xD
This is not reddit friendo, now leave
She dated a guy whose ethnicity is statistically associated with AIDS, crime, poverty and low IQ. Which is still cool, but she hid it from me while openly talking about her white ex
>he wants to get cucked
> lonely autist from /pol/
> accidentally gets a gf
> tells gf about his past gfs like a beta faggot
> expects gf to do the same
> gf just randomly mentions a white guy she used to date
> later our autist finds out his gf has a well educated, good earning and masculine black ex-bf
> /pol/ster = triggered
> gets mad at his gf for dating a Black guy
> gf dumps him bcs he is being a creepy weirdo
> autistic /pol/ster wondering what he did wrong
> justifies his insecure racist actions with stats to which the alpha black ex-bf doesn't belong
> while begging for advice on 4chan
Suicide pls OP, it's not too late.
>transparency in a relationship=OPPRESSHUN
I always think about the kind of mental gymnastic required to make your brain accept this shit.
>black guy is a well educated pilot
>black guy is not a hood rat
>he seemed "so cool and friendly"
>"I know it shouldnt be s problem and whatnot"
>gf did not cheat just happened not to tell op one of her exes was s sound black gentleman.
Why is anyone falling for op's autistic, verging on completely spasticated, mentally retarded bait?
Ah yes we are all SJWs on /adv/ for spotting an autistic /pol/ster troll who thinks his distorted views on reality are rational and acceptable within a relationship.
But she didn't pay the toll. In fact, from what I can tell, the black guy is a better man than OP.
OP knows he is inferior to a masculine, wealthy and intelligent BBC so he became insecure. Went whining about it against his gf. And got dumped.
If you kick a girl out because she slept with someone more attractive and successful than you, then you're basically driving her straight back into her arms. This was a dumb move OP.
>Wears a mask
>this is not the time for fear
>cool down your head
>crash my life
This whole post:
This shit is fucking gold. So many here are calling OP an autist and retard, but don't realise they're being played in the best way.
Thanks for the laugh, 10/10.
I agree on this one.
OP is jealous and white. The white race will be finally extinguished when the succesful, masculine, intelligent black man will finally fertilize every white womb and eliminate the scourge of the white race
Pic related, the inferior white OP
Op here, reporting for updates.
Disregard the temporary tumblr invasion of this therad by a bunch of hotheads.
So, she called me back a few minutes ago and told me she did a mistake. She said it would be extremely painful if our relationship crashed like this, and agreed to tell me everything about her connection with the big guy.
She asked me to meet her again at my place with a couple of friends and i agreed, but she doesn't get to bring friends. Don't know what to say.