How am I not supposed to feel insecure about having no girth? Having a needle dick?
Literally everywhere I look people just talk about how important girth is for sex.
Meanwhile I have just under 4.5" of girth and condoms just barely fit on.
Everyone then says "oh well size doesn't matter."
Well if size didn't fucking matter then why does everyone talk about how great girth is? The two fucking things don't add up.
I'm sorry bro.
You have to play the cards you were dealt. Maybe try pumps or wear a cocksleeve if its such a big issue for you? I've heard jelqing gives you more girth gains than length but honestly i think all jelqing claims are false.
Ok, well, I have a picture of myself with the x-small dialator the physical therapist gave me to have me practice loosening up to, but I can't post that here, so if you want to post contact info I can send that picture your way...
Anyway, my point is some people are so tight that your cock is going to be just perfect for them, and if it's not, there are other ways you have sex anyway.
>has average length
>above average girth
Get your shit together guys.
Learn how to get your girl off with your mouth and your hands, then you can do whatever you want when it comes to fucking her. If you can't please her with your dick (you probably still can though) at least you can enjoy yourself.
I didn't even know vulvadynia was a thing.
Jesus, that's harsh.
Like, your vulva hurts all the time?
At least your clit is all good right?
If you're afraid of sex, get a good vibrator.
At least open yourself to sexual pleasure aside from penetration.
OP here, why? Seriously? I'm sitting at 6.5" in length and I can never ever go balls deep with my GF. She always tell me "too far" when we have sex. I usually only get about 5 inches in.
Meanwhile I've never once given her an orgasm from my dick and I just know that sex would be so much better for her if I had girth.
And I have to try to pretend Im confident that I don't notice, like I buy all that "motion of the ocean" bs, when literally everywhere you look you see people talk up girth as the holy grail of sex.
I've met girls who will out loud at a party say that they will turn a guy down if he has a needle dick because if there isn't enough girth it just doesn't feel the same.
People talk about that "full feeling", or being able to go slow and still get a girl off.
I can jackhammer my girl for 5 minutes and not get her off because there just isn't enough friction caused by my pencil dick.
I have friends who have said all they really need to do is stick it in and its basically game over. Same friends I also know need XL condoms.
It's sexual contact specific, not constant, but I am on Noratryptaline, a tricyclic antidepressant used for chronic pain patients to help, and I'm also supposed to do physical therapy and I got a cream that's diazepan (anti-anxiety) and baclafan (muscle relaxer) specially compounded that I can apply as needed, especially before sex.
Sounds like it is psychosomatic, but I'm sure lots of people have told you that.
A big thing about woman sexuality is that it's often repressed in common culture.
Like, when you feel horny, there's no cultural expression of it, so we repress it.
Men always jack off. Like, bro, I jacked off last night. Brooooo.
Anyways, I doubt I'm saying anything new.
You've probably heard this all the time.
Feel comfortable. Maybe get a bit drunk.
Watch some sexy things.
See how you feel.
I know I was slow to come onto it.
Well, I'm pretty sure this was an issue for a very long time before I became sexually active.
But it probably didn't help that I was raped by my then-bf only 6 months after becoming sexually active
>But it probably didn't help that I was raped by my then-bf only 6 months after becoming sexually active
But, if I may arm chair analyze here, you must separate your sexual feelings from that of your rape.
You can have sex, you can enjoy it, without ever remembering that fucking cunt.
You can have sex and enjoy it.
You can have sexual pleasure.
If you can believe that, you're half on your way.
You can do it, girl
Different anon here just saw this as I was scrolling by. Only recently found out my GF was borderline sexually assaulted at a party before we met.
She was fooling around with some guy, and he started taking things too far and she wanted him to stop. But he ignored her and kept going and undressed her. She again tried to stop but he kept insisting, telling her she was being a tease and she'd like it. She was drunk and probably should have just left but I don't hold that against her. She was 19 and a virgin. So finally he tried to penetrate her but she was so uncomfortable it wouldn't happen and even trying it hurt so the only way out she could think of without risking him getting angry, also because she felt the whole situation was her fault was to give him a blow job. She had suppressed and hid this memory from me for years because she hated her self so much for it.
But now that I know it, it makes a lot of things make sense. She's never been able to reach orgasm and we frequently have issues where her body is disconnected from her mind, in that she wants to fuck me, but her vagina is just not letting us. Just dry and tight and nothing we do fixes it. She's been to a gyno and has a clean bill of health so I'm pretty sure she has some repressed trauma from this whole thing.
Only she's REALLY sensitive about it so I don't know how to approach the idea of her maybe seeing someone to talk about it.
Most women can't orgasm vaginally.
It's just how it is.
But the clit is open territory.
Get her a Hitachi.
If she is too afraid to use it on her own, make a whole day of it.
Act the boyfriend she wants.
All day long.
Then make her a delicious meal.
Pour some wine under candlelight.
Kiss her a shit ton.
Cuddle under some movie.
Move onto the bedroom with her knowing what will come.
Take it slowly and never make her have to do it.
But a really good vibrator will help if she can't have orgasms vaginally. That's more or less normal.
I've done all of that minus the vibrator. But I've been the perfect boyfriend all day, threw her a surprise party, romantic night afterwards, candles, watching a meteor shower. She told he she wanted to marry me one day.
We have sex, I eat her box like there's no tomorrow. What happens every time is this. She gets close, so incredibly close, legs shaking, starts to moan. And then RIGHT before she goes over the edge she she stops. Says everything gets too sensitive and suddenly its too much. So she never hits orgasm.
I think there's something mentally holding her back.
And this is of course on the good days, not the days where her body just straight up is like "yeah no sex tonight"
Plus sometimes she says she gets in these moods where she doesn't even want to be touched and the idea of intimacy makes her skin crawl. Sometimes she thinks she's broken and her libido is fucked.
I think she's holding onto something from that night. Plus she was raised Catholic, the guilt that she almost had a one night stand must have been extraordinary.
>. And then RIGHT before she goes over the edge she she stops. Says everything gets too sensitive and suddenly its too much.
Sounds like you should keep going.
It's painful right before orgasm.
If she's never gone over, she may not know what's on the other side
I try...trust me I try. She pushes me away. The one time I really tried she got real mad at not listening to her.
Again that was before I knew this thing. That might also explain the mad. having a guy just ignore her and keep doing something despite her protests.
Size matters, but so does everything else. Really though. It's like a hurdle system - is his dick good enough given that I like his face and he makes me feel good? Shit like that. Pass the hurdles and you're fine.
Also, it's time to just accept yourself. You don't have the biggest dick. OK, now what? You learn to use what you've got just like everyone else is doing.
You need to be honest with yourself about your limitations and then figure out how to overcome them. Most every girl I've been with needed clit stimulation to get off regardless of size. And I scientifically dissect women's sexual pasts. I don't give a shit and don't get jealous - I want the data.
And the data shows me that if you learn how to work the clit with your hands, mouth, and needle dick... women will be satisfied. Will she tell all of her friends how hung you are? Fuck no, but she will say, "He makes me cum every time." You don't need a big cock to do that.
Also learn how to work with the needle dick. You'll have to put some thought into it instead of humping away mindlessly. Work the dick around inside her pussy until you find the spots she likes and then rub your needle dick on those spots. You will have to work more to find those spots and hit them than hung dudes but so what? You afraid of a little hard work or something?
This is crude, but trust her pussy.
If it's red and wet, then her body wants it.
Sometimes you need to work around her protests.
I know that sounds like rape.
But there are occasions when people are habitually refusing something they may actually want
I get that. But I run the risk of her getting fucking pissed. So its an iffy situation. If I lose her trust in bed that I'm not just gonna force her that is not a good thing.
Like I said, last time, she got mad, actually mad.
Problem is its very VERY hard to keep her in the mood. And she's is the most pain avoidant person I have ever met. First time we had sex took ages and I couldn't finish because she needed me to stop. Once she feels pain its game over.
And if I ask her to trust me and to let me do something her response would be like "what the fuck you talking about" not anything sexy.
Dont let it get to you.
Im 7.5x5.5 and Im always complaining Im not 8x6.
You will always want more. Thats how society has trained us.You dick isnt big enough until it doesnt fit into a vagina.
>Learn how to get your girl off with your mouth and your hands, then you can do whatever you want when it comes to fucking her. If you can't please her with your dick (you probably still can though) at least you can enjoy yourself
Wisest thing said in this thread.
Or you can learn the pleasure of having a girl squirm and convulse on your dick. Those vaginal spasms are a really good reminder of why a vagina is better than your hand. If you cant make a girl experience that during sex why even have sex. You could each just masturbate.
>You could each just masturbate.
You've clearly never had sex before.
That skin on skin contact, the hormones, the smell of the other person, kissing, touching. All of that alone makes sex fun without orgasm.
Plus blow job>>>>>masturbation. I imagine the same can be said about getting your box ate.
I've slept with a guy who had a dick the size of my index finger. First, yes the condom size is really important, you need to get some online that are your size, seriously. It feels gross otherwise, like fucking an empty plastic bag. Second: the advice about learning to use tongue & fingers was on point. This guy gave the best head EVER. I haven't had anyone else use tongue, fingers and toys on me as much as this guy. He could do this all night. I'm a bit of a size queen, but he still rates in the top 3 best sex partners I've had, and let's just say I've had more than a few.
2/3 things you said.
He ate clit
That's normal for 21st century partner.
Second, Jesus, get that bitch to wear a proper condom
You better do Plan B after his limp dick showing.
I've had condoms break on me before.
That means they don't fit.
If it's too tight, they break
He is clearly too loose.
Gotta take precausions
Sucking dick is also pretty much a given, but not everyone is equally good at it. This guy was seriously amazing at eating clit. I'm sure it's something his wife appreciates nowadays.
Within a minute of trying the ill-fitting condom, we both said "uh yeah let's stop" at the same time. It was awkward as fuck, OP might wanna avoid going through that. I have had to use plan B due to condoms breaking though. Twice. Ugh.
>I can jackhammer my girl for 5 minutes and not get her off because there just isn't enough friction caused by my pencil dick.
Big cock here.
I've been with girls that came just from sliding it in.
I've been with girls that could come only from clit stimulation. That ocean motion.
I've never been with a girl who actually liked being jackhammered.
It's not all you make it out to be. Protip, quit watching porn. That shit will give anyone a dickferiority complex.