Gf slept around while we were apart for a short while and I cant love her anymore even though shes been absolutely perfect since weve been back together. its not even that I cant. I dont want to.
Shes doing everything she can to prevent a breakup and Im just being a dick right now.
How do other people deal with this?
Find a way to make it appear that the person she slept with was related to you, like a fake family tree. Then tell her that because of this you can't imagine banging her cause its like banging your cousin or uncle. Break up with her. Bang cousin.
You get over yourself you selfish pig. Love is not quantified by how many people you fuck while not together. Be grateful that she's put up with your shit and talk to her about how you feel if you ever cared about her at all
She's going to act perfect until there's no doubt that you will break up with her or break up with her. Ignore her and find a new girl. Otherwise, when new opportunities to cheat arise, she'll convince herself its okay because you forgave her once already so she expects you to do it again.
I kinda want to go on a quick break and sleep around just to see how shed react. But I know that wouldnt change how I feel about what she did.
Thats just me wanting to be a dick some more to her. Ive never felt this spiteful to another person. I dont know how to react.
If OP doesn't want to fuck someone cause they slept around that doesn't make op a pig. If OP sees sex as something that is sacred, he needs to find someone else with that mentality. Because if he doesn't want to love her, then it will be a shitty relationship for both of them.
Ive talked to her a lot about it. I can quantify love with whatever I want. I dont have to accept you.
Thing is I have always loved her. Same cant be said for her I guess. Maybe thats why Im going out of my way to spite her.
Shes not the type of person to 'cheat.' She'll only do that if she can convince herself its not cheating which is what she did I guess already.
Shes always been a really good gf but since we've been back together theres nothing more I could want.
Her whore friends have been pushing her to do it apparently. Im not one for casual sex. And the feelings are there. I just dont want to give myself to them. Maybe Im being so spiteful because I still feel for her and want to crush those feelings.
I've seen this before, tell her what is bothering you and if that doesn't end your relationship just walk away. This will only fester and get worse anon, I think you already know this.
How long were you separated
She wasn't cheating on you man. I won't say it shouldn't bother you, because I've been in your position and it bothered me. I know how it feels. Does she know this is bothering you?
Btw, don't do this thinking it will save your relationship. Based on this here, you should just end it.
This too. Listen to this anon here. Just look at those trips.
Alrighty, bear with me.
I'm not saying this is how the situation went down and what her mindset was like, because I'm not her and I don't know her.
But let's say she loved OP, and then they broke up. She's heartbroken, doesn't know what to do, asks friends. When it comes to people giving advice for those who recently went through a breakup, one of the most common things you'll hear is "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else". Maybe it didn't feel totally right to her, maybe it didn't feel wrong whatsoever. But she tried something that others told her would help the pain.
Idk why it'd be 6 people though, just trying to give another perspective
so in the span of one to two months, she slept with 6 people
come on man
>Idk why it'd be 6 people though,
Guess I should add. Her story is that its 6 guys she saw during this time. Dates and hookups all together. Im not foolish enough to believe she only slept with one of them and the other 5 were just a movie. Nor do I believe it was really just 6. Probably 6 she counted as serious and the others might have just been a movie.
That's not a very long time. Just wait until you're in it for 10+ years, have kids, and own a house together. She'll try this shit again, because she has no qualms with hurting you.
>Her whore friends have been pushing her to do it apparently.
And it doesn't bother you that she's easily influenced by said whore friends? And that she's going to continue hanging around these people? Because it's only a matter of time before this happens again.
WHY did you two split in the first place? Who initiated it? I ask because I question whether or not she was heartbroken or playing the field, looking for better options. Someone that really gives a damn won't easily bounce to another person. That's a lot of damn people for such a short amount of time apart.
If it were longer Id only be angrier.
I literally cant talk to her without constantly taking jabs at her. Probably because I dont have a goal in mind when talking to her.
>I mean I have friends who give me bad advice all the time.
Right, but are you easily influenced? Do you just do what they say without thinking something through? It's one thing to take advice into consideration, it's another thing entirely if she's easily influenced and her friends pester her into doing bad shit. If she has slutty friends that sleep around, and are living it up as they hop from guy to guy, they're going to rub it in her face until she gives in.
Maybe she normally doesn't follow what they say, but the breakup left her in an emotionally vulnerable position where she was more likely to listen to what her friends say would help her feel better
Okay man, idk if you're still there but you need to break up with this girl. It is going to suck, but in no time at all you'll be asking yourself "what did I see in that bitch?" You'll be happier, trust me.
not for her but for you, the scar will never heal and you are wasting your time.
When I left her, se went straight to fuck a guy, then when realize I will not take her back she tried suicide (just drama,you know)
Cheating is a reproductive strategy employed by some individuals.
The majority of total relationship infidelity is committed by a small number of individuals cheating repeatedly over their entire life with multiple partners.
It's consistent and lasts as long as sexual activity.
Uh, break up with her. She's a whore. And you're a bitch for not realizing that.
Okay now please use descriptive words
Wait I'm talking to an adult. Sorry for being patronizing. I'm gonna leave and hopefully you will do something to get some sense back. Maybe you need some sleep. I sure as hell do. Life's ruff for most of us.
Yeah but we're all pretty unhappy for a variety of reasons, and I only read your OP. Suffice to say I'm not any closer to knowing what your problem is, other than the fact that "romance" can be very disappointing sometimes.
Alright well my advice was to find some way to chill out and get some rest. At this point, a $400 a session therapist would tell you that, just probably in a smarter and slightly manipulative way.
Bro, I'm sure if you can get over her fucking 6 guys.. I know I wouldn't be able to kiss her after that without feeling like the biggest lame ever. Fuck her for a few times then leave her, find someone you can be with without feeling like shit.
Yeah I dated one for a while. I know what it is like. It feels bad when you thought that your sexual relationship with the person was a really dope bonding experience with someone you really like, just to find out they are a turbo thot. Then the thought is, all of this must have been more important to me than them. What if they don't love me like I love them.
All in all, not a recommended experience.
I grow a pair of balls and dump her. If you decide you're done with a relationship, you're fucking done and should get out.
Deciding on wether or not to tell her the truth why you're breaking up is entirely up to you however
This here OP. She's trying to win you over and once she is sure she did, problems will start arising again.
Sad to say but I don't see this going anywhere good.. I wouldn't sleep around if I was apart form my GF for a while..
Wow...im in the same spot right now..probably only use her to fuck and dont get feelings for her again