My father has been diagnosed with end stage cancer and we have to get rid of our three cats because the smell is affecting him. My mom had packed all three of them into one small kennel and was planning to go leave them outside a shelter in the middle of the night while it is cold, windy, and raining hard. When I asked why not wait till morning and do it properly she argued it would take too much time/effort, despite the shelter being 10 minutes down the road. Luckily I stopped her and will be taking them in the morning to surrender them properly.
What I wanted to ask is if I am the asshole for getting upset with her for this? We are all in a shitty situation, but abandoning animals is already a bad enough thing to do, and life is about doing the right thing even when things are shitty. Why the hell would you not spend the measly 30 minutes it takes to do it properly at least so they have proper documentation/health records and a much higher chance of getting adopted. Not to mention not spending a night out in the rain/cold. On a side note my mom is the one who originally got them. I understand that they have to go and I'm not bitter about that at all, but I'm really pissed off at how my parents handle shit like this. Am I in the wrong here?
You should kill your mother.
Her inability to feel empathy toward animals means she will likely kill a person in her life. Maybe she already has.
If you could stop someone like Jeffrey Dahmer or BTK, wouldn't you?
I personally wouldn't because I think they were awesome, but you would, right?
Yeah I'm not naive, I don't think that really changes anything except the very optimistic case that the proper documentation actually helps find them a home.
I'm a full-time student transferring to a 4 year university in a few months. I don't have time or money for pets. On top of that, none of them are mine to begin with as I said in the OP.
Also I don't see that as a reason for them to spend the last day of their lives cold, wet, and alone in lieu of saving 30 minutes of my own life. They're not even mine and I don't really care for pets but damn I do have compassion for other living things regardless.
As pissed off as I am I wouldn't go that far. I'm pretty mad/disappointed at her and I don't know how long it will last but at the end of the day they are just cats.
The situation reminds me of way back when she would be home all day(no job) and refused to pick me up from school which would take her 20 minutes total, and instead I had to take a 1.5 hour bus route to get home. I still to this day don't understand why she did that. Regardless my transfer to uni couldn't come sooner.
I'm way too drunk to write a thoughtful response but please don't let her do this. It's cruel. It's unjustifiable. It's a completely unreasonable way to act. Being in a really shitty situation doesn't excuse treating animals who you agreed to take responsibility for so badly.
It feels kind of good to at least know I'm not in the wrong here, thanks. It's funny because she always talks about how I don't have compassion, but then when it comes down to it, look what happens.
I remember one time I put one of them outside because they were having a barfing fit and I couldn't even do that without feeling bad. I feel like I am at that point where I start realizing my parents aren't special perfect snowflakes to be looked up to and are just two random people who happened to fuck and I happened to pop out of.
>Being in a really shitty situation doesn't excuse treating animals who you agreed to take responsibility for so badly.
Exactly what I told her. And don't worry I stopped it and will take care of it in the morning like I said. What are you drinking tonight? I think I'm gonna have some myself.
I thought about this but reading into it it doesn't usually work out as happily as we'd like to think it would. Also if I let them go locally they would almost certainly find their way back and slip inside whenever the door opened, because they were in/out cats that slip in the second anyone opens the door.
>I thought about this but reading into it it doesn't usually work out as happily as we'd like to think it would.
Outside cats live pretty rough lives, generally. I have a few strays that I take care of--they had kittens, so I fixed them all, put the parents outside and keep the kittens in. They're still pretty happy and doing well, all things considered. Females will have an easier time than males though. I made mine an insulated shelter for less than $30 and it got them through the winter. Just one plastic tote inside another, with foam insulation and plastic bags in between.
Still better than being dead. They're always on the back porch, lazing in the sun.
Just find a a no-kill shelter/rescue to take them to. It will take a small amount of research but unless you're living in the third world or the boonies there should be one reasonably near you.
Must be something different where you live, but here they keep them until they find homes, and even foster them out of their own home.
but anyway even that is better than basically throwing them directly into the gas chamber.